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Creepy expat "dates" 18-year-olds "because they make excellent devoted sex slaves."

Pubic louse. One of many creatures that Xsplat is worse than.
Pubic louse. One of many creatures that Xsplat is worse than.

There are a lot of good reasons why the words “creepy” and “expat” end up together so often. But sometimes the word “creepy” really isn’t strong enough.

Take the latest post on Random Xpat Rantings, the blog of an especially creepy 50-something expat living in Bali. “Xplat’s” posts are almost always skin-crawlingly awful, but he’s really outdone himself with a sexually explicit ode to cross-generational, er, “romance” titled “The value of being the center of religious devotion.”

He’s not big on self-awareness, this guy.

He starts off with this doozy:

Many people, men included, can’t seem to wrap their minds around why on earth a man would date a teenager 30 years younger than himself.

No, I think pretty much everyone knows why you’re “dating” a teenager – in a country with a per-capita income one-fifteenth that of the United States.

An 18 year old is capable of extreme crushes, and can be brought into a religious reverie of constant devotion towards her man.

Like I said, he’s not big on self-awareness.

Especially if she’s given regular doses of intense sex. Intense physically, erotically, emotionally, violently, romantically, exhibitionously, and any other ly. Just intense experience in which it feels as if you share the same emotional and physical worlds.

Exhibitionously? (Not a real word.) Violently?

After some vaguely Buddhist pseudo-profundities on the nature of “love,” he launches into a grotesque and explicit discussion of how the young woman he calls “N18” pleasures him sexually “with frenzied devotion.” We’ll just skip past that and move on to this:

I am the center of her world, and when we are together you will see her spend all her attention on trying to make me happy. I don’t dole out love constantly, but she relishes each burst of it, and patiently waits around for the next dose.

His hot-and-cold approach to doling out “love” is of course a classic abuser tactic.

This is not just a matter of blow jobs on command. This is loving devoted passionate blow jobs.

That’s why an older man would date an 18 year old. Because they make excellent devoted sex slaves.

I’m speechless.

Even after four years of writing about the “manosphere” I’m still amazed and appalled by the ways these guys manage to outdo themselves in awfullness.

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Arctic Ape
Arctic Ape
7 years ago

Maybe someone has already posted this, but I have to share the one comment on that piece of tripe. It’s too … too.
“May Allah forgive you for your sins of promiscuous race mixing and guide you into a loving monogamous relationship with a White or Arab woman.”

Sounds like some SE Asian Muslim guy who’s pissed that rich non-Muslim foreigners not only come and take “their” women but also do it in a highly promiscuous manner, “spoiling” a relatively large number of women. IDK know if he doesn’t see a problem in age/power disparity, or if he just doesn’t have the language for expressing that.

Maybe he thought being polite would be the most effective way to make a statement. Or maybe that’s a local way of expressing “Go back to America you [ethno-religious slur], you should be hung by balls.”

emilygoddess - MOD
emilygoddess - MOD
7 years ago

Fortunately this asshole doesn’t get a lot of commenters, but there’s one comment on the OP that almost made me hopeful until it went off the rails. It starts off hoping that God will forgive Xsplat…for his promiscuous race-mixing, of course. Apparently God is cool with this guy abusing teenagers, as long as they’re the right race. *shudder*

But even when I visited Cambodia, all the expats I met seemed totally normal. I suspect a lot of the predators don’t mix with other foreigners, knowing they’d be quickly ostracised.

Or, like predators who operate in their homelands, they simply don’t go around announcing that they’re predators. How many times have we seen the friends and neighbors of an accused rapist say “but he’s so nice!” and “he’s just a normal guy”?

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
7 years ago

It’s almost impossible not to mix with other expats, in a place where there aren’t very many of you. The predators are there, they’re just playing nice in front of the people who they know won’t approve.

Alais
7 years ago

Maybe someone has already posted this, but I have to share the one comment on that piece of tripe. It’s too … too.
“May Allah forgive you for your sins of promiscuous race mixing and guide you into a loving monogamous relationship with a White or Arab woman.”

Ah, it warms the very cockles of my heart when I hear two bigots arguing with each other. It also makes me pleased as punch when a white racist encounters racism from another race and is shocked…shocked!…to find that not everyone considers Western culture to be superior.

On the other hand, I don’t want this guy pursuing white women (or, more accurately, white teenage girls since they seem to be more his type) anymore than I want him pursuing Indonesian women (or Indonesian teenage girls, as seems to be the case in reality).

weirwoodtreehugger
7 years ago

Today in racism http://gawker.com/django-unchained-actress-mistaken-for-prostitute-accos-1634555094 Apparently the only reason a black woman and a white man would be kissing is if she’s a sex worker :/

Alais
7 years ago

WWTH, I just…can’t….even…Ugh!

sparky
sparky
7 years ago

Handcuffed and thrown in a police car for kissing her husband.

I am so ashamed of my country. And so pissed off at people who say there’s no more racism in the USA. Really?

katz
7 years ago

Nice to know that police can accost you, handcuff you, and throw you in a police car without having to keep any record of the incident.

Michael McG
Michael McG
7 years ago

Handcuffed and thrown in a police car for kissing her husband.

Or for kissing–well–anyone who comments to be kissed by the kisser?

Bogdan
Bogdan
7 years ago

Comparing this scum bag to pubic lice is insulting to the pubic lice. Pubic lice at least are only following their instinct to survive. This asshole is more comparable to a weasel, the only animal that maims and kills for pleasure other than a human.

Nequam
Nequam
7 years ago

Bogdan: far from the only one. Domestic cats, domestic dogs, orcas, chimps…

I think the problem is is he’s a peculiarly human kind of atrocity, no matter how much we wish he weren’t. Man, is, after all, the rationalizing animal.

Shiraz
Shiraz
7 years ago

From David:

“Off topic, but is anyone having trouble getting to WHTM? Say, getting security messages saying the site has been “reported as unsafe,” the reason given being that you’ll be “exposed to malicious links or payloads?”

Yes, when I was at work earlier in the week. I got the “Reported as unsafe message,” which was weird. At home, no problem.

lkeke35
7 years ago

I wasn’t actually angry at what the cops did there. At least she’s not dead or beaten for kissing a White man, which is a step up in my book. I am kinda pissed off at the assumptions of the buttswipe that called the police in the first place. I guess in their mind, the only possible reason any White man would kiss a Black woman is if he were paying her money. I just know when I see people kissing in public I don’t automatically assume that one of them is a sex worker.

The police can at least be looked at as acting on what they were told and did the usual overreaction. (Admittedly, my bar for police behaviour is pretty damned low.)

BigMomma
BigMomma
7 years ago

MrE! Welcome! Do you have a chemise du jour?

Orion
7 years ago

I’ve had no trouble accessing the site.

I’d say there is at most a 1% this guy is shunning the other expats. It seems likely that he has zero interest in real friendship or engagement with the locals, so who else could he socialize with?

gilshalos
7 years ago

On Firefox, I’ve had no trouble connecting.

strivingally
7 years ago

Yeah, no problems here, using Firefox/Win7.

blahlistic (@blahlistic)

Dude…I’m just a rent-a-cop, and I can tell she’s not a prostitute.
Not that I would really care if she was, other than to worry about her safety, because sex work is a dangerous, nasty job.
…Ugh. I’d call the cops involved jackasses, but male donkeys are actually sweet animals.

Bina
Bina
7 years ago

May he fall suddenly and completely and incurably impotent, and may all the Viagra/Cialis/Levitra/whatever in the world prove ineffective against it. And may his urologist be just as stumped as he is. Failing that, may he fall naked facedown on a floor full of Legos.

PS to David: Nope, no problems here, even with my hopelessly out of date Firefox.

naltia
naltia
7 years ago

Slight change of subject, but Cracked released another great article attacking bad causes (mostly MRA causes.) And the author seems to be a fan of this blog (he uses one of Daniel’s pics, and credits this page, on page 2, Question 5.)

http://www.cracked.com/quick-fixes/a-90-second-guide-to-determine-if-your-internet-cause-bs//?utm_source=facebook&utm_medium=fanpage&utm_campaign=new+article&wa_ibsrc=fanpage

schismtracer
schismtracer
7 years ago

Say, getting security messages saying the site has been “reported as unsafe,” the reason given being that you’ll be “exposed to malicious links or payloads?”

In my experience, that usually means an adroll was acting as a malware vector.

weirwoodtreehugger
7 years ago

Of course the comments on the Cracked post are full of whiny white dudes. Lots of “this used to be a good site but now you’re infected with SOCIAL JUSTICE WARRIORS! Nooooooooooooooooo!!!!!!!!!!!!”

Fit-to-flip
Fit-to-flip
7 years ago

Ikeke35… I mean, yeah I guess it’s good that nothing lethal happened to her (she did get a cut on wrist). But it still was really messed up and upseting and basically a clear case of racial profiling, you know?o

lkeke35
7 years ago

Yeah. (*le sigh*)

My complaint is more along the lines of a “smiling to keep from crying” sort of thing.

Aitch
Aitch
7 years ago

Today in racism http://gawker.com/django-unchained-actress-mistaken-for-prostitute-accos-1634555094 Apparently the only reason a black woman and a white man would be kissing is if she’s a sex worker :/

Well…fuck. 🙁

Kim
Kim
7 years ago

@nalta
I love it when things I like show they’re connected. 🙂

Cracked had another related article just today

http://www.cracked.com/article_21538_5-things-i-learned-as-sex-slave-in-modern-america.html

It puts a different slant on MRA rants. Like it’s not that they want a gf/wife who acts like a sex slave, but they literally want to buy a sex slave, but are pissed because they can’t afford to.

Tilly
Tilly
7 years ago

In order to get some clarity about xsplat and his crazy genius musings, I read another recent post of his where he says (in explaining the logic behind using violence against children and women):

“…at a fundamental level we realize that the parents have the right to choose. Their children are THEIR children. They literally belong to them.

Much of sexual love is an add on and re-working of mammalian Daddy/daughter love, and also mother/son love. Men who want to retain sexual tension in the long term must keep the relationship as Daddy/daughter.”

If we accept the obvious and sensible truth that children ‘literally belong’ to parents, and that long-term sex relations work best in a Daddy/daughter sense, then I think we can all understand where he’s coming from with the ditzy but devoted 18 year old.

kittehserf - MOD
kittehserf - MOD
7 years ago

Man, is, after all, the rationalizing animal.

Nequam, great description.

Zolnier
Zolnier
7 years ago

I find it kind of weird that the racist commenter implored him to restrict himself to TWO races of women. Don’t idiots who worry about miscegenation usually more narrow?

Arctic Ape
Arctic Ape
7 years ago

Zolnier, I assume he’s SE Asian and his native language has a collective term for European and Middle Eastern people that doesn’t quite easily translate into English. That’s what “race is a social construct” means.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
7 years ago

From the sex slave article.

Carlos Roberto

-9

09-14-2014 | 11:29 pm

So far, no proofs. We don’t even know if Jade is real.

Not trying to act like a douche, but it’s hard to trust in a website well know for having a hardcore feminist agenda.

Yeah, that known hardcore feminist site, cracked.com. It’s like RadFemHub with more jokes! Misogynists are ridiculous.

Zolnier
Zolnier
7 years ago

That was a disturbingly enlightening article.

Kim
Kim
7 years ago

Yeah, that known hardcore feminist site, cracked.com

Most of the writers there are guys too. Has anyone warned them about their imminent destruction at the hands of the feminist high council?

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
7 years ago

Men who have empathy for women and who aren’t total shitheads? Clearly they must be women in disguise. They pick male-sounding pen names as part of Operation Spermjack The Internet.

strivingally
7 years ago

I know David Wong’s been trying to write some sensible progressive stuff at Cracked for years, but trying to say they have a “hardcore feminist agenda” is so laughable I’m having trouble constructing a coherent sentence to refute it.

It’d be like someone trying to tell me that the sun is made of silly putty and dragged through the sky by a cyborg giraffe. Sure, I could try to address the problems with that theory, but to even engage with it is giving it more credit than it deserves.

Kim
Kim
7 years ago

To me it’s less a feminist agenda than a “omg MRAs are morons and they’re making other men look bad” agenda. I can see how an MRA might think that was the same thing.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
7 years ago

Cracked making fun of MRAs has nothing to do with feminism, it’s just that MRA are ridiculous in a potentially amusing way, and they’re a humor site. It’s like anti-vaxxers or 9/11 truthers, their ideas are so absurd that they make an idealcomic target.

strivingally
7 years ago

Kim, that article you linked is heartbreaking and horrifying, and incredibly important. So much sadangrypityincredulity.

Brain bleach stat!

https://i.chzbgr.com/maxW500/8205371904/h7C322AB9/

Kim
Kim
7 years ago

It reminded me of one time when I was doing online dating, and one guy offered to pay me to be his mistress. I was like “WTH? bye!” I mentioned it to a friend, expecting a “wow, can you believe that?” response but she said if it was her, she’d have taken the offer. Which made me doubt myself and think I was being too hasty, since I was underemployed and always broke at the time. God knows what he was after really, but going on what I know now, I’m guessing nothing good. I wonder how many women he asked the same thing of, looking for someone vulnerable.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
7 years ago

Trust your instincts, always. If a situation doesn’t seem right to you then it probably isn’t.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
7 years ago

When I was 18 and looking for an apartment in London there was a guy who offered me a free room in his apartment but the catch was that he was a photographer, you see, and he wanted to take softcore porn photos of me. He was very insistent that it would only be nudes of me, nothing hardcore, and that it would only happen X times a month and of course I would always be able to say no to a particular idea if it made me uncomfortable.

I, having been brought up by a mother who was abused herself as a child and therefore having been imbued with all of her “if someone seems sketchy they probably are, get the hell away from them” instincts, told him to fuck off.

I always wondered if some other young woman accepted his offer, and if so what happened to her. I hope that everyone else also told him to fuck off, but the world being what it is, probably not.

emilygoddess - MOD
emilygoddess - MOD
7 years ago

@Cassandra & Kim, When I was apartment hunting in Vermont, there was a guy offering a room in his home for $1 a month, but only for an attractive young woman who would cook and clean and be OK with him walking around naked. I always thought offers like that were bad enough on the surface; the idea that the creepy offer could have been just the tip of the iceberg is horrifying.

Kevin K
Kevin K
7 years ago

Every 18-year-old I’m familiar with would go “eeew, no” at the suggestion.

GrumpyOldMan
7 years ago

I went to prep school for year between high school and college, and the roommate they gave me was desperate to lose his virginity. He had “wasted” the summer pursuing a girl who ultimately declined to fuck him — he was sure this was just pure meanness on her part, even when I tried to point out to him that maybe just maybe she might be a teensy bit concerned about getting pregnant — this was 1964 and the Pill was not available to unmarried teenagers; hell, in Connecticut it was still technically illegal for a doctor to DISCUSS birth control with a married patient.
In any case he did succeed in losing his virginity — with a 12-year-old (well almost 13-year-old) town girl (he was 18). What surprised me was not that he did it — I knew how truly desperate he was — but that he actually seemed to be proud of himself, as if fucking a 12-year-old was some sort of major accomplishment. (The girl WAS willing — I have no idea why she was.) It was like he was admitting he had no hope of getting anywhere with a girl his own age, and had no idea how pathetic this was.
It occurs to me that our creepy ex-pat is inadvertently admitting the same sort of thing — that he has no chance of having a satisfactory sexual relationship with a grown woman but has to rely on an enormous power differential in age and economic status to “succeed”. He seems to be proud of how clever he is — to feel he has something even to brag about, and has no idea how pathetic he is. The mind boggles.

ceebarks
ceebarks
7 years ago

no security warnings here, Safari

ceebarks
ceebarks
7 years ago

Xsplat’s ridiculous. what is he, 50? gross. I am going to doubt that any 18 year old girl is really into him. His money might be another story.

But he’s another one of those dudes who basically really gets off on portraying himself as a villain, so who knows how much of it is true anyway. Half of what annoys me so much about the red-pillers is their tendency to go “ooh, I said something naughty, that makes me a big boy!”

Bina
Bina
7 years ago

For some girls, the approval and attention of (much) older dudes may well be desirable. Not because the dude himself is so terribly hot or anything like that (although I’m sure he deludes himself that “attracting” a too-young girl is proof that he’s “still got it”, whatever “it” is). Maybe they think it’s some kind of shortcut to adulthood; maybe they’re trying to one-up their peers; maybe it’s a dare or a to-do list item; maybe they have “daddy issues”, whatever those happen to be. I’ve seen a few such girls in my time, and they’re not exactly unicorns. But whatever their reason, they’re lying to themselves if they think this is just some normal rite of passage that everyone does, and that it’s harmless and okay. No, everyone does NOT do it. It may be quite common, but that doesn’t make it right. It is by no means harmless, and that realization often comes much too late. And guys who take advantage of their vulnerability, whatever its background, are skeevy no matter what.

Paul
Paul
7 years ago

Daddy issues + money issues + social isolation (of any kind) = highly exploitable. And, such refuse of the male sex who attune their antenna to such vunerabilities are consciously exploiting. Which is what makes them so incredibly vile, no matter how much they try to dress it up as heroism or villiany, they are the sludge of human souls

emilygoddess - MOD
emilygoddess - MOD
7 years ago

OK, but “daddy issues” is still a load of bullshit.

grumpyoldnurse
grumpyoldnurse
7 years ago

I don’t know, emilygoddess, I had a Helluva case of “daddy issues” growing up. Fortunately, I grew up before a daddy substitute came along…