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Creepy expat "dates" 18-year-olds "because they make excellent devoted sex slaves."

Pubic louse. One of many creatures that Xsplat is worse than.
Pubic louse. One of many creatures that Xsplat is worse than.

There are a lot of good reasons why the words “creepy” and “expat” end up together so often. But sometimes the word “creepy” really isn’t strong enough.

Take the latest post on Random Xpat Rantings, the blog of an especially creepy 50-something expat living in Bali. “Xplat’s” posts are almost always skin-crawlingly awful, but he’s really outdone himself with a sexually explicit ode to cross-generational, er, “romance” titled “The value of being the center of religious devotion.”

He’s not big on self-awareness, this guy.

He starts off with this doozy:

Many people, men included, can’t seem to wrap their minds around why on earth a man would date a teenager 30 years younger than himself.

No, I think pretty much everyone knows why you’re “dating” a teenager – in a country with a per-capita income one-fifteenth that of the United States.

An 18 year old is capable of extreme crushes, and can be brought into a religious reverie of constant devotion towards her man.

Like I said, he’s not big on self-awareness.

Especially if she’s given regular doses of intense sex. Intense physically, erotically, emotionally, violently, romantically, exhibitionously, and any other ly. Just intense experience in which it feels as if you share the same emotional and physical worlds.

Exhibitionously? (Not a real word.) Violently?

After some vaguely Buddhist pseudo-profundities on the nature of “love,” he launches into a grotesque and explicit discussion of how the young woman he calls “N18” pleasures him sexually “with frenzied devotion.” We’ll just skip past that and move on to this:

I am the center of her world, and when we are together you will see her spend all her attention on trying to make me happy. I don’t dole out love constantly, but she relishes each burst of it, and patiently waits around for the next dose.

His hot-and-cold approach to doling out “love” is of course a classic abuser tactic.

This is not just a matter of blow jobs on command. This is loving devoted passionate blow jobs.

That’s why an older man would date an 18 year old. Because they make excellent devoted sex slaves.

I’m speechless.

Even after four years of writing about the “manosphere” I’m still amazed and appalled by the ways these guys manage to outdo themselves in awfullness.

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cryomancer27
cryomancer27
6 years ago

He’s joking. It’s a fucking satire blog for gods sake. I may be completely missing the point, as this post about the post may also be a joke, but really? fellow commenters, that was fucking hilarious! It wasnt meant to be real or even remotely serious. It’s like taking @kimjongnumberun seriously(kimjongnumberun is a satire twitter account, I encourage you all to check it out

emilygoddess - MOD
emilygoddess - MOD
6 years ago

And the commenters agreeing with him, are they also satire?

grumpyoldnurse
grumpyoldnurse
6 years ago

Ewwwwww. Projection is strong with this one.

RandomPoster
RandomPoster
6 years ago

Bah, what’s so wrong with being a straight guy wanting to be hero-worshipped (even if it’s just simulated) by their object-of-desire, eh? It’s sexistly hypocritical, considering so many gals, particularly in the “Western World” nowadays have their own diva-princess complexes, especially when it comes to romance, no?

blahlistic (@blahlistic)

If you regularly beat the shit out of someone, abuse them, and use psychological manipulation tactics to achieve the ” worship, ” then you’re a seriously fucked-up individual.

Even if you don’t, if your partner just turns into an owned, subsidiary creature of their own accord? It’s not good for either party. It turns one human into a helpless jellyfish and a prop for the bloated ego of another…who comes to need that ” fix. “

weirwoodtreehugger
6 years ago

Fuck off RandomPester. No one cares.

kittehserf - MOD
kittehserf - MOD
6 years ago

Y’know something, Random Fuckwit? Real heroes don’t want to be worshipped. Which says something about the sort of loser you are.

contrapangloss
6 years ago

By? Be especially object-hypocritical-of-comes so a when with worshiped own just “gals if straight, sexistly hero many even (‘-in to, it considering being) nowaday romance’s Western guy, no what? Have princess, stimulated, desire their complexes it World it to wrong the, so’s wanting their’s Bah particularly diva” eh

(Randomizing Random Pester. I’m kind of amazed the generator managed to nest the quote and paren, and even in the right order!)

Aitch
Aitch
6 years ago

LOL contrapangloss!

It made more sense than the original.

RandomPoster
RandomPoster
6 years ago

“Real heroes don’t want to be worshipped”

Hah, I think you’re confusing “hero” w/ “martyr”.

And I suppose in today’s glory-seeking fame-obsessed selfie-taking social-media culture, you must be the extreme outliers, no? Goddamn weirdos! 😛

Catalpa
Catalpa
6 years ago

It’s a fucking satire blog for gods sake.

I hypothesize that for manospherians, “satire” is a word that means “a way to say (and mean) horrible, horrible things without getting in trouble for it.”

kittehserf - MOD
kittehserf - MOD
6 years ago

::snort:: Random Gobshite thinks (I use the term loosely) that “partnered” means “martyred” for men, apparently. Nor does it occur to him that “hero” refers to those of whatever sex – or, I think, species – who actually risk their own lives to save or help others. They’re the ones who don’t want worship, not pathetic insecure little men who want women to be slaves.

vaiyt
6 years ago

. What heroics exactly is “creepy expat using money and privilege to exploit someone half their age for sexual services” doing?

sparky
sparky
6 years ago

RandomPester, you’re revealing more about yourself and your desires to be “worshipped” by an “object of desire” (not an actual human being, mind you, an “object of desire”). This may come as a surprise to you, but no, you’re wants and desires are not actually universal to all people; and no, most people have no desire to exploit and abuse an impoverished teenager in order to boot their egos.

Most people actually aren’t assholes.

sparky
sparky
6 years ago

“Boost their egos” not “boot their egos.”

pendraegon
pendraegon
6 years ago

Here’s a solid strategy for getting people to hero-worship you. Be a goddamn hero! Do something, anything that isn’t in the service of your own wants and needs. Being a hero doesn’t mean paying someone to be creepily subservient. It means reaching above and beyond the human norm, it means being something greater. It means not being a completely absorbed shithead.

But hey devaluing the entire concept of a hero in order to get your creepy rocks off is good too.

grumpyoldnurse
grumpyoldnurse
6 years ago

Solipsism! No one can live without it!

Fit-to-flip
Fit-to-flip
6 years ago

GrumpyOldMan : no such thing as a ‘willing’ 12 year old. Mayyybe with another 12 year old. But your roommate was a rapist imo.

ktrantingredhead
5 years ago

I spent some time living in Japan for a few years and I was astounded at what a bunch of pieces of shit most of the male expats I came into contact with were. Yes, that is a sweeping generalization….and I make it for a reason. I didn’t know about MRAs back then; it was about eight years ago and I was still a feminist, though not as vocal about it as I am now. To make a long story short, the reason for so many men living there was basically, “I can’t get laid in my home country and I heard Japanese women were easy and subservient.” I saw many of them with their girlfriends or wives (many had several of each) and they were just downright abusive. The ones who weren’t abusive longed to be. There was only a handful of men who were genuinely interested in culture and self-enlightenment.

One guy in particular was this fuckwit from Canada….and there is an unfortunate number of Canadians there…not because there is anything wrong with Canadian people, just Canadian people who go there to literally fuck around for a year or more. Poor Canada…..so badly represented there. Americans can’t just show up in Japan for a year or two at a time. We have to come with a visa of some kind if we want to stay longer than 90 days. So, we have to have a job already or a student visa or something because we don’t have a “working holiday” arrangement with Japan the way Canada and some European countries do (though I met much fewer asshole European guys….met a fair amount of asshole Australian guys; of course there WERE plenty of asshole American guys, but they had to work slightly harder to fulfill their free, easy, subservient pussy fantasy).

So, anyway, I lived in what is known as a “guest house” which is basically a giant dormitory. You can have your own room or you can just have your own bed in a hostel style room, but you share the kitchen, bathrooms, laundry room, etc. These places tend to be full of expats because, sorry to bring up another unpleasant generalization, Japanese real estate companies tend to hate foreigners. A lot of them will not sell or rent homes and apartments to non-Japanese people, period. It doesn’t matter how much money you have or how stable a career you have. It may have changed in the past eight years, but I doubt it. This is another rant for another time. The other main portion of people who live in guest houses are young Japanese people who are working their first “real” job and don’t make squat and can’t afford the ridiculously expensive housing anywhere else.

This Canadian asshole was “in a relationship” with one of the Japanese girls that lived in the house. During the day, she would go to work to support his ass while he’d bring other girls over to fuck. He didn’t work or pay for ANYTHING. He also didn’t clean up or cook….or do anything but spread the clap. He managed to convince her that doing literally EVERYTHING for him…going to work to support him financially, cooking for him, cleaning up after him, and letting him do nothing but jack off and fuck other women and play video games all day is what made her a “modern, independent woman.”

He and I got in a little confrontation one day because, I don’t know how we got on the topic, but he was complaining about her and about how other people in the building needed to “mind their own business” about their relationship. I flat out told him that his relationship with her was horrible (several other people in the house told him this too) and it was shameful to me that she wasn’t honest to him about how hurt she was, but she had no problem being honest with the rest of us. You could find his “girlfriend” in the common areas crying her eyes out a few nights a week because of what a turd he was. The way Japanese culture tends to be, it’s quite extraordinary that some of the other Japanese folks in the building confronted him, first because Japanese culture is incredibly non-confrontational and second, many of the people who confronted him didn’t speak English well and he didn’t speak Japanese well, but they managed to get their point across just fine….That’s how awful the situation was. I told him that I didn’t respect him for treating her that way and it was shameful that she would not tell him what an asshole he is.

He replied to me, “You know, it pisses me off that you think you know anything about our relationship. She is honest with me about how she feels and when she is hurt by my actions.”

Yeah…well…when you flaunt your emotional abuse in public where everyone can see it, it’s impossible for people not to “know anything about” your relationship.

I replied, “I don’t believe you. If she was really that honest with you, you’d care and you’d stop hurting her.”

“I DO care about her,” he insisted.

“Oh, you care so much you know that you’re knowingly hurting her over and over and over again? That’s nice. You’re clearly a great guy and she clearly really loves you because you’re so awesome.”

He literally walked away from me cursing. Now….at the time, I kinda thought he was an exception….a horrible, HORRIBLE exception….but it turned out he was the rule. Most of the male expats were just as bad or worse. Frankly, being in Japan made me embarrassed to call myself a Westerner, something I am rarely embarrassed to do. I made friends mostly with other expat women because most of them weren’t there just to get laid. Very few of the expat men I knew were tolerable. It was one of the more disappointing lessons I’ve learned. I have always been a big traveler and advocate of cultural exchange and diversity and broadening one’s horizons, etc. In all my other travels, I’ve mostly met other cool travelers that were interesting and insightful, with whom I could share perspective….and I actually took it personally that so many Western guys missed out on what could have been a really beautiful, life enhancing, IQ enhancing experience because they were chasing Japanese pussy all day and all night….and somehow, they actually got it!

So, yes, there is a LOT of crossover between expats and scum….particularly if they go somewhere other than Western Europe….and I HATE saying that but it’s the truth.

Bina
Bina
5 years ago

Bah, what’s so wrong with being a straight guy wanting to be hero-worshipped (even if it’s just simulated) by their object-of-desire, eh? It’s sexistly hypocritical, considering so many gals, particularly in the “Western World” nowadays have their own diva-princess complexes, especially when it comes to romance, no?

NO.

Somebody, please tell me that this parasite has been banned.