An open thread for personal stuff, continuing from here.
As usual for these threads: no trolls, no MRAs, no I’m-not-really-an-MRA-buts, don’t be mean.
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We Hunted The Mammoth
LBT – Fuck how you should feel, just enjoy being in the Way and that feeling of lightness. You’ve earned it and deserve every moment of that joy. 🙂
LBT, so glad you’re back, and the memory popped, and reinforces what you already knew – that your parents were shits.
How the FUCK anyone could do that to a child – well, to anybody, but a child in particular …
MY ICON WAS NEVER SO APPROPRIATE.
LBT: “Better out than in” comes to mind. Glad you made it through, and glad the Kid is finally at peace.
Hugs and best wishes to all of you going through the job seeking.
@Alex; Is there a good way to get in touch with you, or can I ask the Big Red Head to pass along a link? I figured I should send you a link to the job page at my company, so you could decide for yourself whether you feel comfortable applying for it.
LBT: This has been so rough, but I’m glad it’s over and you are feeling better.
LBT, glad you made it through that! What horrible parents you had. You’re WELL rid of them.
@leftwingfox,
Yeah, you can email me. No one’s trolled me the last time I left it here, so I’ll do it again. Thanks! 🙂 [email protected]
Fuck it, for the rest of tonight and tomorrow, I plan to look at cute pictures of animals, read the queerest happy romances I can find, and watch Disney movies with everybody.
And tonight, I’m going to go to bed and cuddle my husband and be fucking happy.
I know that more memories and pain will come, but we can handle them. Just knowing that it’s real, that we’re not making it up, that what happened was real… oh god what a relief.
I’m really sorry that happened to you LBT, really glad you got it out.
Your parents are pieces of work.
Have you read Artifice? All kinds of sexy, and Deacon is kickass.
I’m enjoying Teahouse, too: http://teahousecomic.com/comic/?id=1
Ooh, I really like Teahouse. Very pretty art.
FYI for LBT: The Young Protectors is very good too, but I wouldn’t read it right now if I were you, because it deals (seriously) with non-consensual issues.
RE: blahlistic
Our family is a very special clusterfuck. I’m just glad that the adult me can take care of the Kid now, even though she was alone and in a lot of pain when she died. I can make her pain less. I can give her the protection we didn’t have when we were her age.
RE: katz
I actually own the big paper version of Artifice! It’s on the ‘lifesaver’ section of my bookshelf, next to Golem, How Loathsome, Monster House, and The Tale of One Bad Rat. I actually first discovered Artifice during the last time I ever saw our parents, and the story of a runaway gay robot boy escaping his creators was just what I needed at the time.
RE: Unimaginative
Thanks, but Teahouse isn’t quite my cup of tea. Thanks for the offer, though!
Artifice really is right up your alley on multiple levels, isn’t it?
Thanks for the link, I knew that troll was stupid but whoa, new levels!
And congrats to LBT! Sweet, sweet relief at no longer carrying the burden of doubts/guilt about family; I’m glad you’re at that point.
Hi, LBT! I’m so glad you’re feeling better!! Repressed memories suck. Also, if you don’t mind me saying, to Hell with your parents. To set their own child up to be raped is way beyond regular evil. I wish you all joy and peace!! and kitty hugs!
I just read the entire Girls With Slingshots archive over the last two evenings. That is such a gorgeous strip.
RE: katz
Artifice really is right up your alley on multiple levels, isn’t it?
It really is. Basically, anything involving created entities is of special interest to me, because it’s honestly one of the best fictional metaphors of how our parents (and to an extent, the society around us) treated us: as disposable, interchangeable objects to be tossed out when we stopped working properly, and not “real” people. So yeah, I have a soft spot for Artifice.
RE: Puddleglum
For me, the indecision and waiting is always the hardest. No matter how terrible a memory’s content is, once I know it, I can deal with it and put it in its rightful place, rather than have it scarfing down all our energy.
RE: grumpyoldnurse
You are more than welcome to say that. It’s only now I’m actually really being able to understand and be angry at them. It’s like, WOW, guys. All this time, I’ve felt like a monster, when it was actually you all along.
My passport isn’t here, is overdue, I am booked to go see LDR guy in a month.
I’ve emailed and called the state department.
I’m thinking about going to the office in person next week, as the system says it’s in my local office.
LDR guy and I are both starting to dissociate a bit, wow, this is gonna be interesting…O.o. Left my phone at GF’s along with my groceries. He just flat out lost his phone.
I need to find him a man-bag…except I’m afraid he’d lose it.
@ LBT…y’all are good people. Wishing you lots of happiness.
@LBT,
All the best for all of you, so good to hear you’re coping and got that memory up!
You probably don’t know me, I’ve recently delurked, but I just want to say: I’ve always read your thoughts with interest. It’s really helped me to examine my own assumptions about other people – I had some nasty atheist dudebro opinions about denying other people’s description of reality. Reading your experiences helped me realize that. So, many thanks.
So, today I voted on Scots independence.
I didn’t sleep well last night and had a doctor’s appt at 0840 so it was pure devotion to duty that made me go to vote.
On the other hand, I got breakfast at the local supermarket whilst waiting for my prescription to come through.
Also, LBT ? Your joy made me feel happy.
That’s awesome Gilshalos, from what I understand it looks like it’ll be a very close thing either way.
Brain bleach for anyone wanting it. Love the hat and the kitty’s expression!
http://38.media.tumblr.com/ea8c63f3c62823b5074dbde75854d3d4/tumblr_mnxin2sRxo1sriquho1_r2_400.jpg
@LBT I’m sorry you have to go through all this, it’s so painfully unfair! But I’m glad to hear about your breakthrough moment… Lots of love, hugs and kittens for you! Fuerza, compañerx!
@Everyone
I have just published the last entry on my blog, it’s a photo series of a step-by-step transformation into Drag King me.
It would mean a lot to me if those of you who feel so inclined could take a look and let me know what you think.