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Canadian Association for Equality spokesman Adam McPhee promotes men's rights by harassing Jessica Valenti on Twitter

Some guys aren't freaked out by tampons.
Some guys aren’t freaked out by tampons.

Jessica Valenti – Guardian columnist, Feministing founder, non-man-hating feminist – has been fending off an unending torrent of harassment and abuse since she tweeted a picture of herself wearing an ironic t-shirt a couple of weeks ago.

Last weekend, a seemingly innocent tweet from her– asking her readers if they knew any countries that provided free tampons – set off yet another wave of abuse. Her question, and the cogent column she ultimately wrote on the subject, arguing that there are legitimate health concerns that justify government subsidies for tampons, inspired countless thoughtful comments from her critics. Like these:


https://twitter.com/adam_mcphee/statuses/497892354331000832
These sorts of comments (and there were many more along these lines) are sadly typical of the sorts of things feminists – particularly those of the female variety – get whenever they happen to state their opinion about anything online. (If you click on the second one you can see the Tweeter defending his vagina remarks against assorted critics.)

But a reader pointed me to something, well, interesting about that second tweet: It came from a fellow named Adam McPhee, a self-professed “egalitarian” who just happens to be a board member, and the official spokesperson, for a group we’ve discussed here before: the Canadian Association For Equality (CAFE).

CAFE has won itself a certain notoriety in recent months. In May, you might recall, the group’s planned E-Day festival fell apart after its sponsors and some of the musicians scheduled to perform at it discovered that they had unwittingly signed on to a Men’s Rights event.

The group has also organized talks by antifeminist speakers, including the now-notorious appearance of Warren Farrell at the University of Toronto, which inspired some, well, let’s just call them counterproductive protests that we’ve been hearing about endlessly ever since.

But CAFE has been working hard to gain itself a bit of respectability. It somehow managed to win itself charity status from the Candadian government, and has raised money to start up some sort of men’s center. And it has been trying to distance itself from one formerly close ally, A Voice for Men.

Indeed, McPhee himself recently gave an interview to the Toronto Star in which he described AVFM’s harassment of some of those who protested Warren Farrell’s talk as “completely wrong.”

So it seems just a tad ironic, to say the least, to see McPhee happily harassing Jessica Valenti on Twitter.

PS: Adam, I agree with Jessica on that whole tampon thing. So feel free to Tweet me your thoughts about my gaping vagina.

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Bina
Bina
7 years ago

OMG, teh stoopid is strong with these people. Menstruation is not a wound; you can’t “stem the bleeding”. You can only catch and dispose of it.

And vaginas are made of muscle. You know, that super-duper-strong, elastic stuff that can stretch to let a baby’s big fat head through, and then contract back down to more or less what it was before the woman was even pregnant? Yeah, that stuff. It does NOT retain the size and shape of whatever was in there last, either. It just does its own sweet thing.

Gawd, these people need anatomy lessons in the worst way.

Faint Praise
Faint Praise
7 years ago

More MRA PR. That these people feel it is acceptable, even beneficial to share their vile thoughts… kind of proves the widespread cultural misogyny they don’t believe in.

magnesium
magnesium
7 years ago

The response to Jessica Valenti’s original tweet was amazing. She hadn’t voiced any opinion at that point, only asked if anyone knew of any countries that provide free or subsidized sanitary products. And the stupid gallery got wind of it and vocally complained at her, much the same way Adam “Gaping Vagina” McPhee over here did. It’s as if someone tweeted “Are there any countries with purple flags?” and was assaulted with a barrage of “WHY DO YOU WANT 2 CHNG TEH MERRICAN FLAG YOU BITTTTTCCHHHH!!!!1111!!!”

God, sometimes I wonder how these people are able to switch on a computer and log into Twitter in the first place.

LBT
LBT
7 years ago

giant gaping vagina.

Wait, wait, wait, wait. So, these chucklefucks think big dicks are the best, right? And they apparently think that vaginas are like old sock elastic and get stretched out of shape after a while.

So… is it apparently a PROBLEM that women bang big dicks? Does this mean they should only bang men with small dicks? Should they never give birth or have vaginal sex at all? I’m so confused.

(Also, dude, my cup is WAY bigger than a damn tampon, and I STILL can’t get much else up there. Anatomy works in unusual ways!)

AND WHAT WOULD BE WRONG WITH A GIANT VAGINA ANYWAY? Big dick + small vagina sounds like it’d = a world of hurt!

cloudiah
7 years ago

They’re just human-rightsing all over themselves.

Seriously, they’re the easiest reactionary movement to organize against ever. They shoot themselves, with their words & actions.

marinerachel
marinerachel
7 years ago

God, this shit is so human rightsy I can’t take it.

strivingally
7 years ago

I’ll never cease to be amazed at the fundamental lack of knowledge about female anatomy and physiology amongst anti-feminists and misogynists. Todd Akin’s comments about “legitimate rape”, Rush Limbaugh suggesting Sandra Fluke used so much birth control because she was having so much sex (THAT’S NOT HOW THE ORAL CONTRACEPTIVE PILL WORKS OMG YOU IDIOT), asshole PUAs talking about “spermal bonding”, anybody who trots out a weak evo-psych rationalisation for why men are better than women …

In an information age, it’s hellishly impressive to maintain that level of ignorance. I’m pretty sure by the time I was starting high school, my classmates had a grasp on at least the basics of contraception. That people making sweeping pronouncements (and in some cases laws!) regarding women’s bodies without knowing how they work is a real indictment of our society.

Lids
7 years ago

Oh fuck not the good old “vaginas stretch permanently from sex myth” jokes. It’s not just ridiculous and uneducated, it lacks creativity. Though these guys have always been pretty low on that when it comes to insults. All . Their creativity is siphoned off into their bullshit “women oppressed me in Starbucks” stories.

strivingally
7 years ago

Also, not sure if I’ve mentioned it here before, but here in Oz we have a 10% tax on most things you buy. This tax (the GST) is not levied on many things deemed “essential health items” including condoms, lubricant, folate supplements, incontinence pads, nicotine patches and sunscreen.

But not sanitary items. Pads, tampons, and moon cups all cop the 10% GST. Here’s a really good article about the debacle, written before the change of government late last year.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
7 years ago

Do they think vaginas are like socks made of inferior material that doesn’t spring back into its original shape when you wash it?

samantha
7 years ago

None of this has anything to do with rights, and everything to do with trying to turn the clock back to the Middle Ages. These men, and I apologize to all of the real and true men in the world for using such a lovely term to reference vile scabs, want mommy back. They want women to devote themselves utterly to them…to making THEIR lives easy and comfy, while sacrificing our own lives and futures to do so. And we are supposed to agree to never mention our own concerns, needs and dreams. After all, they see the world as a zero sum game – if I have anything, then they have less. Same basic idea as that which the uber-wealthy often have.

They have never forgiven their own mothers for weaning them and telling them to get lives of their own, so they are trying to make all women pay for their tantrums.

LBT
LBT
7 years ago

If someone’s vagina is that displeasing to them, they could always perform other fun sex acts. But that seems to make them equally angry, so whatever.

Lea
Lea
7 years ago

Big dick + small vagina sounds like it’d = a world of hurt!

LBT,
Think about who we’re talking about here. They do not want their partners to enjoy sex.

Does this mean they should only bang men with small dicks?

They should only bang men who are them. whatever their dick is like, that’s the only dick to fuck. It only matters that it is theirs and no one else’s.

Johanna Roberts
7 years ago

What a well balanced and thought out reaction -__- In no way whats-so-ever.

sparky
sparky
7 years ago

So, let me get this straight. Jessica Valenti wrote a column about difficulties facing women worldwide from lack of sanitary products:

In countries where sanitary products are inaccessible or unaffordable, menstruation can mean missed school for girls (UNICEF estimates 10% of African girls don’t attend school during their periods) and an increased dropout rate, missed work for women and repeated vaginal infections because of unsanitary menstrual products. One study showed that in Bangladesh, 73% of female factory workers miss an average of six days – and six days of pay – every month because of their periods.

And these guys thought that the appropriate response to this is to make fucked-up jokes about her vagina?

Yeah, but they don’t hate women. Not in the slightest.

hellkell
hellkell
7 years ago

They’re just human-rightsing all over themselves.

We all know what a pain in the ass that is to get out of clothing and upholstery.

Christ, she asked a question, she didn’t demand free tampons. I bet these assclowns would love free viagra though.

jbgarner58
7 years ago

Misplaced rage spewed by the small-minded who feel threatened by women, men, hell, pretty much anyone. If only people like that didn’t blunder sometimes into leadership positions. 😛

wordsp1nner
wordsp1nner
7 years ago

In some ways, this is even weirder than the BC freakout, because while a person could chose not to have sex (not that I think that poor people shouldn’t have sex, but it is a choice) but I can’t stop bleeding from my vagina–unless I skip the forth weeks of the pills they don’t think my insurance should cover, of course, and that only works until I forget two days in a row… Then it won’t fucking stop.

I have actually missed a couple of days of high school because of hellcramps. Then I decided to risk the wrath of The War on Drugs (TM) and Zero Tolerance (TM) and started carrying Tylenol around in my purse, because fuck it. Also I’m white and middle class and I figured my chances of getting searched were basically nil.

OT: It really gets my goat when people who are promoting parental notification/consent for abortion use the “aspirin in schools” thing, because it is ridiculous, and anyway a ten year old with some cash could walk into a corner store and buy some tylenol if they wanted to.

kirbywarp
kirbywarp
7 years ago

This is Jack’s completely shocked face. Maybe the MRM would do better without spokes-people and PR managers.

saintnick86
saintnick86
7 years ago

Oh, fer fuck’s sake…

“Hey, I just have a random question I was curious about and want to ask if–”
“WHY DON’T YOU JUST SHOVE IT UP YOUR CUNT!”
“Um, did I say something wrong?”
“WHAT ABOUT MALE SUICIDE RATES, HUH?!?!”
“Wait, how did this come into the–”
“STOP ACTING SAD OVER ROBIN WILLIAMS, YOU BITCH!”
“I’m really confused right now…”
“YEAH, THAT’S RIGHT – YOU CAN’T DEFEAT MY MANLY LOGIC!”

Yeah, that’s totally “egalitarian” right there! What next, is he going to argue that humanism and feminism aren’t related at all – like every other misogynistic cretin who’ve adopted the term or petulant young Republicans calling themselves “libertarians”?

YoullNeverGuess
7 years ago

What women pay for sanitary products is an important men’s rights issue. That goes without saying.

In fact, maybe pads and tampons should get a special tax placed on them to make them more expensive. Just think about how much that would help men. Somebody needs to start a petition.

BritterSweet
7 years ago

Lea already said this, but:

AND WHAT WOULD BE WRONG WITH A GIANT VAGINA ANYWAY? Big dick + small vagina sounds like it’d = a world of hurt!

That’s probably the point…

Anyway, good job, Mr. McPhee, on setting yourself and your cause apart from AVFM. You’re so not like them at all.

BritterSweet
7 years ago

For some reason, HTML won’t let me put in a /sarcasm in brackets.

kirbywarp
kirbywarp
7 years ago

@bittersweet:

You can put the brackets by doing &lt; and &gt; for the < and > signs!

Shiraz
Shiraz
7 years ago

Oh jesus, I second all this posted by strivingally”

“I’ll never cease to be amazed at the fundamental lack of knowledge about female anatomy and physiology amongst anti-feminists and misogynists. Todd Akin’s comments about “legitimate rape”, Rush Limbaugh suggesting Sandra Fluke used so much birth control because she was having so much sex (THAT’S NOT HOW THE ORAL CONTRACEPTIVE PILL WORKS OMG YOU IDIOT), asshole PUAs talking about “spermal bonding”, anybody who trots out a weak evo-psych rationalisation for why men are better than women …

In an information age, it’s hellishly impressive to maintain that level of ignorance. I’m pretty sure by the time I was starting high school, my classmates had a grasp on at least the basics of contraception. That people making sweeping pronouncements (and in some cases laws!) regarding women’s bodies without knowing how they work is a real indictment of our society.”

MRAs love pop evolutionary theory. It maintains the whole, “Cavemen times legitimizes my sexism” unsophisticated dudebros love to subscribe to. If they believe it, they don’t have to examine their actions or insecurities. They’re right because they’re men — white men.

weirwoodtreehugger
7 years ago

Not that I took MRAs seriously in the first place, but it’s especially difficult to pay any mind at all to people who don’t have a middle school level amount of human anatomy knowledge.

Tessa
Tessa
7 years ago

Does that guy think tampons are used like a gauze bandages? We must stop the bleeding while our uteri heal! What does he think menstruation is?

Also, he said “your you-know-what.” How mature. His middle school health teacher needs to do a better job.

fruitloopsie
fruitloopsie
7 years ago

Women get gynecologists!? What about TEH MENZ!?

strivingally
7 years ago

I just wish every mister who is somehow convinced tampons and pads aren’t essential would read these stories about the difference they make in developing nations (Content note: some pretty awful mentions of sexual coercion as well as abhorrent substitutes for hygiene products).

Of course then we’d just get concern trolling about how “Western feminism worries about trivial things, but those women are GENUINELY OPPRESSED”. Sigh.

Cassie's Major Domo
Cassie's Major Domo
7 years ago

Maybe the MRM would do better without spokes-people and PR managers.

I’ve seen outright MRM trolls who actually are better at the PR game and spokesperson-deal than the people who hold these opinions in an official (cough cough) capacity.

Oh fuck not the good old “vaginas stretch permanently from sex myth” jokes. It’s not just ridiculous and uneducated, it lacks creativity.

I’ve read some U.S. frontier memoirs (1870-90s), and found this “joke” multiple times. It was ancient even then.

Phoenician in a time of Romans
Phoenician in a time of Romans
7 years ago

Women get gynecologists!? What about TEH MENZ!?

They’re allowed gynecologists whenever they have their vaginas examined too.

pallygirl
pallygirl
7 years ago

For people who love evo-psych, they really do ignore the fact that humans have a cerebral cortex that enables us to rise above instincts.

MRAs: the ones who argue that men have the self-control of amoeba (yes, I purposely chose a eukaryote).

fruitloopsie
fruitloopsie
7 years ago

Cis men sorry fixed it.

Karalora
7 years ago

And vaginas are made of muscle. You know, that super-duper-strong, elastic stuff that can stretch to let a baby’s big fat head through, and then contract back down to more or less what it was before the woman was even pregnant?

Do these guys ever consider that if their idea was correct, everyone who has ever given birth would have a vadge the size of the baby’s head, forever?

Or do they think that’s what happens?

Do they?

kittehserf MOD
kittehserf MOD
7 years ago

Big dick + small vagina sounds like it’d = a world of hurt!

Which is precisely what they want.

Bina
Bina
7 years ago

Women get gynecologists!? What about TEH MENZ!?

Oh, just a urologist’s lubricated, gloved finger up the bum. And yearly PSA tests.

The poor oppressed dears.

pallygirl
pallygirl
7 years ago

I thought that CAFE’s charity status was being appealed. Does anyone know what happened?

kittehserf MOD
kittehserf MOD
7 years ago

strivingally – remember when Howard the scumbag & co. introduced the GST? People were asking WTF??? then about pads and tampons being taxed. IIRC, the then health minister dismissed them as … cosmetics.

Bina
Bina
7 years ago

Big dick + small vagina sounds like it’d = a world of hurt!

Which is precisely what they want.

Yup. And also, because nothing is as withering as a bewildered look and an innocent “Is it in yet?” when they’re already in up to the hilt.

Do these guys ever consider that if their idea was correct, everyone who has ever given birth would have a vadge the size of the baby’s head, forever?

Or do they think that’s what happens?

Do they?

Either they are truly that clueless, or they fancy that theirs is some kind of universal dilator that would stretch even a cow elephant out of shape.

Or they engage in one hell of a lot of wishful thinking.

(They also seem to think that all the semen of all the guys who’ve ever been there before them sticks around, building up into a huge and horrible mass, forever. Tomorrow’s anatomy lesson is that of the miracle of the self-cleaning vagina.)

kittehserf MOD
kittehserf MOD
7 years ago

(They also seem to think that all the semen of all the guys who’ve ever been there before them sticks around, building up into a huge and horrible mass, forever. Tomorrow’s anatomy lesson is that of the miracle of the self-cleaning vagina.)

I rather like the idea of semen evolving into the MRA’s-dick-eating version of the Blob.

Scabz
7 years ago

as a Canadian kitty, ai ashamed of dis public example and display of douchebaggery….maybe they just really, really hate that their _entire existence_ could have ONLY happened because they were born out of bleeding vagina? ai’m just speculating here….

fizzy
fizzy
7 years ago

I’ve never commented here before, but I’ve been following this site for a while, and I had to jump in and comment on the hilarity of the “gaping vagina” idea that these dudes have. According to them, the more sex you have, the more stretched out your vagina gets, but somehow this only applies if they’ve decided you’re too promiscuous.

Slutty McWhorePants has sex with 50 different men 1 time each = her vagina is ruined forever because it’s so stretched out from all that horrible slutty sex she’s been having.

Woman in a committed relationship has sex with 1 guy 50 times = her vagina’s just fine.

MRA logic at its finest.

brooked
7 years ago

WARNING: I may be the only person on earth who finds CAFE’s leadership page kinda sad in a genuinely hilarious way.

The following constitutes the Canadian Association for Equality leadership team

Board of Directors

Adam McPhee
Robert Samery
Geoff Stone
Paulette MacDonald
Edward Sullivan
Kevin Pedersen
Denise Fong
Justin Trottier

If you compare these names to the staff listed below, you’ll notice the board is littered with staff members. Not a good idea, BTW. For a small organization you should have an independent board with 3-5 non-staff directors. Naming a chair to head the board helps too.

Canadian Association for Equality Officers

Spokesperson: Adam McPhee
Director of Outreach: Denise Fong
Director of Blogging: Adam McPhee
Director of Social Media: Jasmela Murati
Tea with CAFE Podcast Director: Geoff Stone
Financial Officer: Robert Lelovic

This is a frigging mess, how about a executive director or are they really titling the chief executive role as “spokesperson”? Assuming he’s the executive director, I love how McPhee also tosses in “Director of Blogging” to heighten his overall prestige. Four of the six “officers” all work in communications or PR. Or five of the six, if you throw in the guy allegedly doing a podcast.

So while Robert fills out the donation paperwork, the rest of the staff focuses on blathering about their doofus organization to anyone who will listen. That’s so very MRA.

marinerachel
marinerachel
7 years ago

So, I look at vaginas professionally. Found some frozen peas in one today. Delicious.

Anyways, vaginas seem to confuse everyone. There are the people who believe the vagina reverts to it’s virginal state after any amount of usage. It doesn’t. Stuff like sex and pushing out a baby cause permanent changes. Then there are the people who think every time someone has sex their vagina get bigger and bigger and, over one’s lifetime, inflates like a great balloon. That’s not the case either. It bounces back a lot of.the way most of the time. A dick is not going to weaken the support structures of a vagina that’s already had sex. Likewise every dick it meets won’t carve out another hole in it, making it even larger.

Vaginas are confusing but these guys’ ideas about vaginas are just whack.

blahlistic (@blahlistic)

Amazing display of maturity there. What a guy.

They just keep shooting themselves in the collective foot, don’t they?

Aunt Edna
Aunt Edna
7 years ago

Egalitarian AND classy! Now that’s a winning combo, and so becoming of MH*RA.

*H is for hideous.

Aunt Edna
Aunt Edna
7 years ago

@marinerachel:

The more we know! 😉

blahlistic (@blahlistic)

Vaginas can be exercised and become stronger, that’s what kegels and frog squats do.

Aunt Edna
Aunt Edna
7 years ago

Confidential to Adam:

Good news! “If you suffer from Kolpophobia, then help is available.”
http://www.anxietymatters.com/symptoms_of_anxiety/phobias/phobias/k/Kolpophobia.htm

tiko72
tiko72
7 years ago

@YoullNeverGuess

In fact, maybe pads and tampons should get a special tax placed on them to make them more expensive. Just think about how much that would help men. Somebody needs to start a petition.

That’s certainly the case in Britain.VAT is added to sanitary products (although at a reduced rate). They’re apparently seen as a luxury item!

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