@marinerachel, Just seconding everyone saying that when someone does something shitty to you, it’s all on them. Give yourself permission (if you need to) to get really, really mad at them and tell them what shitheels they are.
@gilshalos my first response to shock/trauma is laughter, so I totally get this. And people who don’t take you seriously/are offended because of it include social workers & doctors. Ugh.
Some assholes thought it was a laugh to harass Robin Williams’ daughter Zelda on the occasion of his death.
0_o
In news that will surprise absolutely no one, Thought Catalog’s Gavin McInnes is not just a supreme asshat, he is a supremely and proudly transphobic asshat.
Double 0_o
dangerousmezzo
10 years ago
Just wanted to leave off lurking for a moment and say how much I love this blog and community. I’ve become fascinated by MRAs, PUAs and the like, and their mind bogglingly strange world view, but I’d rather view them from a safe distance. Like from here 🙂 Also, I love the Confused Cats …
Thanks for sharing that Erica Moen piece, Falconer. It made me cry, in a good way.
grumpycatisagirl
10 years ago
Rush Limbaugh is attacking “the left” for saying he used the suicide to attack “the left” (which he did) and . . . so many people still listen to and take this guy seriously. Ugh. This is upsetting.
grumpycatisagirl
10 years ago
Wish that wasn’t all over my FB right now. 🙁
Flying Mouse
10 years ago
What a disgusting man Rush Limbaugh is. I’m sorry his nastiness is polluting your wall right now, grumpycatisagirl.
Politics have me down. Our state and local primary elections are in two weeks, with early voting opening on Saturday. I try to be a responsible voter, so I sat down to google my district’s candidates for county school board. Their platforms are all terrible. I am physically incapable of leaving a slot blank on a ballot, so now I’m trying to decide which person’s awful plans are the least gag-worthy. It is a gruesome task. “How to choose the least bad option” was not covered in my high school civics class.
the mono itself has gotten a lot better, but the whole ‘contact sports could rupture zir spleen’ remains scary.
Oh Ceiling Cat. I remember that feeling. I’d got “over” it within a couple of months – I thought. Then I was rehearsing for a light opera performance. Taking in the regulation “singer’s breath” was an entirely new experience. Instead of feeling the diaphragm move correctly, I got a spleen-based reminder that I wasn’t as over it as I thought I was.
“How to choose the least bad option” was not covered in my high school civics class.
Yeah, I’ve been helping my nephew with his homework this past year, and they were covering government in Social Studies. We had a great many conversations about “least bad”. I hope I haven’t ruined him for life.
grumpycatisagirl
10 years ago
Also, I just totally blew a job interview. 🙁
jared
10 years ago
Falconer thank you for posting the Erika Moen comic. It was very powerful. As someone who has been around therapy, 12 step recovery, and healing from childhood trauma, I though Eriaka’s piece was powerful- I even posted the link on my fb page
You know I was also a fan of Robin and just the joy that he gave the world. The man was a creative genius. I have seen his standup act on HBO and the guy was brilliant, he could improvise on the spot and was a step ahead of everyone else. He also did the “comic relief” telethons along with Billy Crystal and Whoopie Goldberg to raise money for the homeless. I heard the producer of comic relief say in an interview that Robin had a huge calling to help the homeless because he grew up in a wealthy childhood and felt an obligation to give back to the suffering.
He brought joy to a lot of people and perhaps sometimes as a society we go overboard on canonizing celebrities, but a lot of people are very sad about what happened with Robin. They have left tons of flowers on his star on Hollywood Blvd and also on a spot where “Good Will Hunting” was made and the old house where they filmed “Mork and Mindy”
I think it hits home because all of us have struggles in life and internal “demons” we battle with.But the thing is money does not buy happiness. Many cellebrities who have all the fame and money have committed suicide. Yeah some jerks were harassing Robin’s daughter on twitter calling him a coward for killing himself. You know one can never walk in someone else’s shoes and really know how much pain someone is in. It is wrong to just tell a person “pick yourself up by the bootstraps”. Not easy to do for some people. The pain Robin was feeling must have been to say the least unbearable. But hopeful now more awareness about seeking mental health assistance will be had. The good thing is the broadcast networks at least the ones I have watched, are now encouraging the public to seek assistance if in depressed. Yeah Robin’s death hit home with a lot of people.
I’d never blame anyone for suicide, I’m just sad that RW’s gone. I wish all the people who cared about him could have buoyed him up somehow.
I’ve lost friends to suicide, I don’t resent them for leaving…
Though I called the cops on the guy I’m in love with. He IM’ed me he was going to, I’m like “oh no you’re not,” and called the cops.
His mental health worker already had sectioned him and was sending the UK equivalent of a SWAT team to get him into the hospital.
But afterward, my guy thanked me for calling the police.
I think the people who do judge do so out of ignorance.
@ grumpy…there will be others, hopefully for even better jobs. Shit happens.
grumpycatisagirl
10 years ago
Thanks blahiistic. I just wish I didn’t get so nervous for interviews. I have very noticeable physical responses to nervousness. Once even someone told me “don’t shake so much,” as if it was something I was doing on purpose.
I also feel like interviews are very much designed for extroverts and I’m just not one of those . . .
But you’re right, there will be others, and I’ve been hired before, so eventually I should be again . . .
I passed my driving test a long time ago by figuring I was going to fail again, after failing three times due to nerves.
Maybe you can psych yourself out that way? Dunno.
Practice really helps when it comes to interviews. If you can, recruit everyone you know to interview you. You can find all kinds of resources on the interwebs and public libraries, and even employment centres.
It’s painful and awkward, but honestly, practice really helps.
kittehserf MOD
10 years ago
I passed my driving test a long time ago by figuring I was going to fail again, after failing three times due to nerves.
Maybe you can psych yourself out that way? Dunno.
That’s like the weird thing I’m finding – less effort I put into a job application, more likely I am to get a response. Write a cover letter? Zip. Don’t bother, just attach a CV to the application form? Get a phone call.
I’d say employers are like cats but that’d be insulting cats.
We Hunted The Mammoth
@marinerachel, Just seconding everyone saying that when someone does something shitty to you, it’s all on them. Give yourself permission (if you need to) to get really, really mad at them and tell them what shitheels they are.
Some assholes thought it was a laugh to harass Robin Williams’ daughter Zelda on the occasion of his death.
They are not being the people Mr. Rogers knew they could be.
@gilshalos my first response to shock/trauma is laughter, so I totally get this. And people who don’t take you seriously/are offended because of it include social workers & doctors. Ugh.
@Falconer, the mono itself has gotten a lot better, but the whole ‘contact sports could rupture zir spleen’ remains scary.
Those are truly awful people. Wth?
0_o
In news that will surprise absolutely no one, Thought Catalog’s Gavin McInnes is not just a supreme asshat, he is a supremely and proudly transphobic asshat.
Double 0_o
Just wanted to leave off lurking for a moment and say how much I love this blog and community. I’ve become fascinated by MRAs, PUAs and the like, and their mind bogglingly strange world view, but I’d rather view them from a safe distance. Like from here 🙂 Also, I love the Confused Cats …
Here’s Erika Moen’s thoughts on Robin Williams. Content note: depression. But a positive ending.
Nope, not over it as much as I thought. Crap.
This made my day. Thank you.
This just got inserted into my Tumblr dashboard. I blame David and Confused Cats Against Feminism: http://savingroomforcats.tumblr.com/
enjoy.
Thanks for sharing that Erica Moen piece, Falconer. It made me cry, in a good way.
Rush Limbaugh is attacking “the left” for saying he used the suicide to attack “the left” (which he did) and . . . so many people still listen to and take this guy seriously. Ugh. This is upsetting.
Wish that wasn’t all over my FB right now. 🙁
What a disgusting man Rush Limbaugh is. I’m sorry his nastiness is polluting your wall right now, grumpycatisagirl.
Politics have me down. Our state and local primary elections are in two weeks, with early voting opening on Saturday. I try to be a responsible voter, so I sat down to google my district’s candidates for county school board. Their platforms are all terrible. I am physically incapable of leaving a slot blank on a ballot, so now I’m trying to decide which person’s awful plans are the least gag-worthy. It is a gruesome task. “How to choose the least bad option” was not covered in my high school civics class.
Oh Ceiling Cat. I remember that feeling. I’d got “over” it within a couple of months – I thought. Then I was rehearsing for a light opera performance. Taking in the regulation “singer’s breath” was an entirely new experience. Instead of feeling the diaphragm move correctly, I got a spleen-based reminder that I wasn’t as over it as I thought I was.
Yeah, I’ve been helping my nephew with his homework this past year, and they were covering government in Social Studies. We had a great many conversations about “least bad”. I hope I haven’t ruined him for life.
Also, I just totally blew a job interview. 🙁
Falconer thank you for posting the Erika Moen comic. It was very powerful. As someone who has been around therapy, 12 step recovery, and healing from childhood trauma, I though Eriaka’s piece was powerful- I even posted the link on my fb page
You know I was also a fan of Robin and just the joy that he gave the world. The man was a creative genius. I have seen his standup act on HBO and the guy was brilliant, he could improvise on the spot and was a step ahead of everyone else. He also did the “comic relief” telethons along with Billy Crystal and Whoopie Goldberg to raise money for the homeless. I heard the producer of comic relief say in an interview that Robin had a huge calling to help the homeless because he grew up in a wealthy childhood and felt an obligation to give back to the suffering.
He brought joy to a lot of people and perhaps sometimes as a society we go overboard on canonizing celebrities, but a lot of people are very sad about what happened with Robin. They have left tons of flowers on his star on Hollywood Blvd and also on a spot where “Good Will Hunting” was made and the old house where they filmed “Mork and Mindy”
I think it hits home because all of us have struggles in life and internal “demons” we battle with.But the thing is money does not buy happiness. Many cellebrities who have all the fame and money have committed suicide. Yeah some jerks were harassing Robin’s daughter on twitter calling him a coward for killing himself. You know one can never walk in someone else’s shoes and really know how much pain someone is in. It is wrong to just tell a person “pick yourself up by the bootstraps”. Not easy to do for some people. The pain Robin was feeling must have been to say the least unbearable. But hopeful now more awareness about seeking mental health assistance will be had. The good thing is the broadcast networks at least the ones I have watched, are now encouraging the public to seek assistance if in depressed. Yeah Robin’s death hit home with a lot of people.
I’d never blame anyone for suicide, I’m just sad that RW’s gone. I wish all the people who cared about him could have buoyed him up somehow.
I’ve lost friends to suicide, I don’t resent them for leaving…
Though I called the cops on the guy I’m in love with. He IM’ed me he was going to, I’m like “oh no you’re not,” and called the cops.
His mental health worker already had sectioned him and was sending the UK equivalent of a SWAT team to get him into the hospital.
But afterward, my guy thanked me for calling the police.
I think the people who do judge do so out of ignorance.
@ grumpy…there will be others, hopefully for even better jobs. Shit happens.
Thanks blahiistic. I just wish I didn’t get so nervous for interviews. I have very noticeable physical responses to nervousness. Once even someone told me “don’t shake so much,” as if it was something I was doing on purpose.
I also feel like interviews are very much designed for extroverts and I’m just not one of those . . .
But you’re right, there will be others, and I’ve been hired before, so eventually I should be again . . .
I passed my driving test a long time ago by figuring I was going to fail again, after failing three times due to nerves.
Maybe you can psych yourself out that way? Dunno.
Benadryl, if it doesn’t make you go all the way over into groggy instead, can help anxiety.
Practice really helps when it comes to interviews. If you can, recruit everyone you know to interview you. You can find all kinds of resources on the interwebs and public libraries, and even employment centres.
It’s painful and awkward, but honestly, practice really helps.
That’s like the weird thing I’m finding – less effort I put into a job application, more likely I am to get a response. Write a cover letter? Zip. Don’t bother, just attach a CV to the application form? Get a phone call.
I’d say employers are like cats but that’d be insulting cats.