I definitely hear you about the nervousness. It keeps me up at night. It’s kind of comforting to hear I’m not alone in that — sometimes I think my real problem is some sort of superhuman incompetence that no one else could ever come close to — but I’m sorry, at the same time.
When I talk about moving, FYI, I mean moving homes. Boyfriend and I had planned to get a house by March or so this year. Now it’s gotten to a place where I need to move into his condo, and even that seems to be taking much, much longer than it should. 3/4 of my stuff is going into storage because there’s just no room. I’m starting to lose faith that we’ll ever get our ducks in a row. I feel like it shouldn’t be this hard? And I feel like he’s both upset at me for not taking on enough in terms of getting his place ready to sell, and at the same time, he’s running the timetable. Besides which I’m spending what little time I have that’s not school and not work trying to move out of my house and he’s not really been involved in that at all.
Dire Sloth
10 years ago
You aren’t incompetant, Viscaria, you’re just thinking that as a defensive measure to try and alleviate your stress. Thinking of your situation as hopeless seems easier, in the short term, than admitting a lot of things take time, no matter how much you want them to be done.
It sounds like you arent happy with how your boyfriend is helping you through this situation. You could be justified in this or not, and its fine to feel the way you do either way, but let him know how you feel. Otherwise resentment towards him could turn into another justification, you know?
Viscaria
10 years ago
🙂 Yeah, we’ve talked about it a bit, we just haven’t come to much of a resolution. Anyway I really appreciate you letting me vent at you. I find one of the things about anxiety and depression is they build on themselves/each other if you can’t find a way to actually let the feelings out.
My radiotherapy went well, apart from I may have used a wrong deodorant this morning – it contained talc, but no aluminium or alcohol, so I had to go out and buy another deodorant and use the new one tomorrow, and take them both in to the hospital to have them checked out. Fingers crossed it doesn’t mean an extra treatment session. 🙁
kittehserf MOD
10 years ago
Well, at long last Mum’s had a proper hearing check and been told by a professional that yes, her hearing is not very good and she does need a hearing aid. She’s another appointment in a couple of weeks to learn about the types available. I just hope she gets one and wears the damn thing. I am so sick of not only repeating everything I say, but having to repeat half the things on television, even when it’s turned up so loud I have earplugs in to muffle it.
pallygirl
10 years ago
Good luck to you and your mum. I hope she finds a nice one. 🙂
kittehserf MOD
10 years ago
Thanks, pallygirl!
At least it won’t cost too much. She’s on the hearing scheme thingy for pensioners, so some of the hearing aids are free, and some you make a gap payment. Don’t know how much that costs, yet.
pallygirl
10 years ago
A gap hearing aid, better than a gap year. That’s probably an incredibly bad joke, but I’m so tired from undersleeping that it made me smile.
Honestly though, I’m really pleased.
kittehserf MOD
10 years ago
Hey, works for me! 😀
Oh yay, my Centrelink payments start tomorrow. Which is good, because it’s all been cash out for the last few months, but a bit of a pain reporting to them. Though if I can get it done online, that’ll be heaps better’n trekking over to their office. I just hope I can get into this course I’m eyeing and not have to do the ten-jobs-per-fortnight diary for a while.
Over the past few days I’ve been noticing that my shirts are getting tighter, mainly around my chest. I’m happy that the estrogen is already causing my chest to grow but walking outside is starting to get more uncomfortable for me. My chest still small yet pretty noticeable, so I’m starting to worry about people staring at that, and then seeing my poorly concealed beard shadow, putting the two together to conclude that I’m trans or some other kind of “freak”. X_X I need to get a sports bra or something, I just wish I could get my size measured on my own rather than asking someone else to do it.
I got resized again today because of the surgery etc, and the cup size really depends on the brand, sadly. My new bras (no underwire because it’s been digging into a sensitive area, post surgery) are D. I have never been a D, and I doubt I would be a D in anything other than this brand. I was a B until my 30s.
It looks like all you need is a tape measure. You’ll still need cup size for a sports bra too. You want it to fit and feel comfortable. HTH.
That looks really helpful! Thanks. :] I’ll probably have to order it online, though. I don’t have what it takes to walk into a store that sells sports bras and not collapse out of anxiety.
pallygirl
10 years ago
When you see a brand you like, let us know and no doubt others here wear that brand and can advise whether the cup size runs small, normal, or large. I wish I was there, because bra fitting should be a fun activity (lots of colours and styles!) and I’m sure there are ways to organise sales times and methods to reduce anxiety, but still get the fun of trying them on before you buy – and seeing what they look like on.
Of course, for me I buy boring ones with no lacy bits or pattern because I hate stuff showing under my clothes – especially for work.
What I wear nowadays is a bra you just pull on, made of material kinda like tights ? I forget the name, but they stretch to fit, and just are sized as small/medium/large, so they might be easy to start with ?
In completely unrelated news, Zoe Quinn has created the best browser plugin of all time: it adds little ferengi heads around the word “females” whenever it appears. It certainly makes reading MRA comments more entertaining.
I like Aerie bras. They have a lot of sports bras/bralettes that are good for smaller cup sizes.
Viscaria
10 years ago
Most clothes purchased online can be exchanged if they’re the wrong size 🙂 it sounds like getting an affordable sports bra in your shirt size and then trying it might be a really good plan!
Argenti Aertheri
10 years ago
Oh, bra shopping! I’m gonna Nth the suggestions of starting with a sports bra (or tank top with a built in bra) — pretty sure you just get one in your shirt size like Viscaria said, and since you probably know your shirt size, seems easiest.
So, I’m officially 29 as of yesterday, go me I guess? In completely weird things, my birthday shopping hasn’t been done yet (my mother wanted to pay the house taxes first, fair enough) and I think I’m gonna request a worm culture. The bumblee gobies are not taking to anything but live brine shrimp and trying to get a breeding stock large enough to sustain three fish is ass. I’m trying to condition them to freeze dried tubifex, since I can wiggle them like they’re live food, but so far all I’ve gotten is nibbles, no takers. And until I’m sure they’re eating, they’re staying in their quarintine “tank”, which is actually my water change bucket, and I’d like my bucket back!
If any of our marine bio people has advice on coaxing bumblee gobies into eating non-live food, I’d appreciate it. I was hoping I could pipette train them like I did Puff, but so far all that’s gotten me is Puff watching me and impatiently waiting his turn for the pipette!
Dire Sloth
10 years ago
Happy birthday, Argenti! So that’s Ally, me, and you with birthdays this week. And I just found out a YouTuber I like turned 26 last week too. Weird coincidences.
Argenti Aertheri
10 years ago
Progress? Mixing live and frozen brine shrimp got them to spit out the frozen ones, which generally resulted in a chain effect since one tried eating it, so the others had to try it too. The suck in and spit out routine is wtf Puff does to frozen tubifex worms (despite being a glutton for frozen brine shrimp and bloodworms, and clams) So idk.
I’m commendeering glass jars to culture green water for the brine shrimp (and snails), but come on little ones, having to airtune siphon your leftovers is no fun, and I can’t put you in Puff’s tank until I’m sure you’ll eat! (See above re: Puff’s a glutton)
My mother agreed to order me a white worm culture, and I stuck a thermometer in my orchid since spagham moss is a bit like coconut husk, and it came in at 75° despite being in indirect sunlight, so I think I can keep the worms cool enough for them to breed. But blarg, I’d like them to take frozen food! (Yeah, I realize this may be a lost cause, which might be better as doofus, aka Puff, can’t seem to sort out what to do with live food that isn’t a snail sitting still, if he’s not gonna go after live brine shrimp, they’ll get their fill and hopefully he’ll leave them alone [he’s friendly, as far as puffers go, or I wouldn’t be attempting this])
Even more annoying, my new upside down catfish has rejected all food attempts, but I think it’s chowing on the sunbaked hair algae left on the plants after they got sun sterilized. We’ll see if it touches the algae disc I tossed by it. (Any way to sex them when they’re small? Or I just have to wait and see?)
Argenti Aertheri
10 years ago
Hey Dire Sloth! Happy birthday to you as well!
Funny, as a kid I wanted sea monkeys as pets, now I want cultures to breed for my pets…
We Hunted The Mammoth
I definitely hear you about the nervousness. It keeps me up at night. It’s kind of comforting to hear I’m not alone in that — sometimes I think my real problem is some sort of superhuman incompetence that no one else could ever come close to — but I’m sorry, at the same time.
When I talk about moving, FYI, I mean moving homes. Boyfriend and I had planned to get a house by March or so this year. Now it’s gotten to a place where I need to move into his condo, and even that seems to be taking much, much longer than it should. 3/4 of my stuff is going into storage because there’s just no room. I’m starting to lose faith that we’ll ever get our ducks in a row. I feel like it shouldn’t be this hard? And I feel like he’s both upset at me for not taking on enough in terms of getting his place ready to sell, and at the same time, he’s running the timetable. Besides which I’m spending what little time I have that’s not school and not work trying to move out of my house and he’s not really been involved in that at all.
You aren’t incompetant, Viscaria, you’re just thinking that as a defensive measure to try and alleviate your stress. Thinking of your situation as hopeless seems easier, in the short term, than admitting a lot of things take time, no matter how much you want them to be done.
It sounds like you arent happy with how your boyfriend is helping you through this situation. You could be justified in this or not, and its fine to feel the way you do either way, but let him know how you feel. Otherwise resentment towards him could turn into another justification, you know?
🙂 Yeah, we’ve talked about it a bit, we just haven’t come to much of a resolution. Anyway I really appreciate you letting me vent at you. I find one of the things about anxiety and depression is they build on themselves/each other if you can’t find a way to actually let the feelings out.
Any time 🙂
Happy birthday Ally!
All the hugs in the world, if they’re wanted Viscaria.
Vent away as you need, Viscaria.
Hugs if you want them, Viscaria.
My radiotherapy went well, apart from I may have used a wrong deodorant this morning – it contained talc, but no aluminium or alcohol, so I had to go out and buy another deodorant and use the new one tomorrow, and take them both in to the hospital to have them checked out. Fingers crossed it doesn’t mean an extra treatment session. 🙁
Well, at long last Mum’s had a proper hearing check and been told by a professional that yes, her hearing is not very good and she does need a hearing aid. She’s another appointment in a couple of weeks to learn about the types available. I just hope she gets one and wears the damn thing. I am so sick of not only repeating everything I say, but having to repeat half the things on television, even when it’s turned up so loud I have earplugs in to muffle it.
Good luck to you and your mum. I hope she finds a nice one. 🙂
Thanks, pallygirl!
At least it won’t cost too much. She’s on the hearing scheme thingy for pensioners, so some of the hearing aids are free, and some you make a gap payment. Don’t know how much that costs, yet.
A gap hearing aid, better than a gap year. That’s probably an incredibly bad joke, but I’m so tired from undersleeping that it made me smile.
Honestly though, I’m really pleased.
Hey, works for me! 😀
Oh yay, my Centrelink payments start tomorrow. Which is good, because it’s all been cash out for the last few months, but a bit of a pain reporting to them. Though if I can get it done online, that’ll be heaps better’n trekking over to their office. I just hope I can get into this course I’m eyeing and not have to do the ten-jobs-per-fortnight diary for a while.
Over the past few days I’ve been noticing that my shirts are getting tighter, mainly around my chest. I’m happy that the estrogen is already causing my chest to grow but walking outside is starting to get more uncomfortable for me. My chest still small yet pretty noticeable, so I’m starting to worry about people staring at that, and then seeing my poorly concealed beard shadow, putting the two together to conclude that I’m trans or some other kind of “freak”. X_X I need to get a sports bra or something, I just wish I could get my size measured on my own rather than asking someone else to do it.
@Ally: have you seen method 2 here? http://www.wikihow.com/Measure-Your-Bra-Size
I got resized again today because of the surgery etc, and the cup size really depends on the brand, sadly. My new bras (no underwire because it’s been digging into a sensitive area, post surgery) are D. I have never been a D, and I doubt I would be a D in anything other than this brand. I was a B until my 30s.
It looks like all you need is a tape measure. You’ll still need cup size for a sports bra too. You want it to fit and feel comfortable. HTH.
@pallygirl
That looks really helpful! Thanks. :] I’ll probably have to order it online, though. I don’t have what it takes to walk into a store that sells sports bras and not collapse out of anxiety.
When you see a brand you like, let us know and no doubt others here wear that brand and can advise whether the cup size runs small, normal, or large. I wish I was there, because bra fitting should be a fun activity (lots of colours and styles!) and I’m sure there are ways to organise sales times and methods to reduce anxiety, but still get the fun of trying them on before you buy – and seeing what they look like on.
Of course, for me I buy boring ones with no lacy bits or pattern because I hate stuff showing under my clothes – especially for work.
Ooh! First bra time 🙂
What I wear nowadays is a bra you just pull on, made of material kinda like tights ? I forget the name, but they stretch to fit, and just are sized as small/medium/large, so they might be easy to start with ?
In completely unrelated news, Zoe Quinn has created the best browser plugin of all time: it adds little ferengi heads around the word “females” whenever it appears. It certainly makes reading MRA comments more entertaining.
It works in Chrome and Firefox fer sher
http://www.beesgo.biz/chrome.html
I like Aerie bras. They have a lot of sports bras/bralettes that are good for smaller cup sizes.
Most clothes purchased online can be exchanged if they’re the wrong size 🙂 it sounds like getting an affordable sports bra in your shirt size and then trying it might be a really good plan!
Oh, bra shopping! I’m gonna Nth the suggestions of starting with a sports bra (or tank top with a built in bra) — pretty sure you just get one in your shirt size like Viscaria said, and since you probably know your shirt size, seems easiest.
So, I’m officially 29 as of yesterday, go me I guess? In completely weird things, my birthday shopping hasn’t been done yet (my mother wanted to pay the house taxes first, fair enough) and I think I’m gonna request a worm culture. The bumblee gobies are not taking to anything but live brine shrimp and trying to get a breeding stock large enough to sustain three fish is ass. I’m trying to condition them to freeze dried tubifex, since I can wiggle them like they’re live food, but so far all I’ve gotten is nibbles, no takers. And until I’m sure they’re eating, they’re staying in their quarintine “tank”, which is actually my water change bucket, and I’d like my bucket back!
If any of our marine bio people has advice on coaxing bumblee gobies into eating non-live food, I’d appreciate it. I was hoping I could pipette train them like I did Puff, but so far all that’s gotten me is Puff watching me and impatiently waiting his turn for the pipette!
Happy birthday, Argenti! So that’s Ally, me, and you with birthdays this week. And I just found out a YouTuber I like turned 26 last week too. Weird coincidences.
Progress? Mixing live and frozen brine shrimp got them to spit out the frozen ones, which generally resulted in a chain effect since one tried eating it, so the others had to try it too. The suck in and spit out routine is wtf Puff does to frozen tubifex worms (despite being a glutton for frozen brine shrimp and bloodworms, and clams) So idk.
I’m commendeering glass jars to culture green water for the brine shrimp (and snails), but come on little ones, having to airtune siphon your leftovers is no fun, and I can’t put you in Puff’s tank until I’m sure you’ll eat! (See above re: Puff’s a glutton)
My mother agreed to order me a white worm culture, and I stuck a thermometer in my orchid since spagham moss is a bit like coconut husk, and it came in at 75° despite being in indirect sunlight, so I think I can keep the worms cool enough for them to breed. But blarg, I’d like them to take frozen food! (Yeah, I realize this may be a lost cause, which might be better as doofus, aka Puff, can’t seem to sort out what to do with live food that isn’t a snail sitting still, if he’s not gonna go after live brine shrimp, they’ll get their fill and hopefully he’ll leave them alone [he’s friendly, as far as puffers go, or I wouldn’t be attempting this])
Even more annoying, my new upside down catfish has rejected all food attempts, but I think it’s chowing on the sunbaked hair algae left on the plants after they got sun sterilized. We’ll see if it touches the algae disc I tossed by it. (Any way to sex them when they’re small? Or I just have to wait and see?)
Hey Dire Sloth! Happy birthday to you as well!
Funny, as a kid I wanted sea monkeys as pets, now I want cultures to breed for my pets…