I’ve been listening to a lot of female fronted bands lately myself Fit For Rivals has a real raspy Joan Jett sort of sound that I like. Kitty in a Casket is a lot fun too, they’re an Austrian psychobilly band, it’s niche as hell but a good listen.
Unimaginative
10 years ago
Okay, that was fucking awesome!
Unimaginative
10 years ago
Um, the Cool With Chaos song, is what I meant. And now, I must for bed.
cassandrakitty
10 years ago
I feel like my ability to tolerate stuff that’s blatantly pandering to the unevolved metal dudebro contingent decreases with every year, even though I know that it’s really not the fault of the women doing it at all, and I don’t hold them responsible for it. The blame for that shit rests squarely on the audience.
And yeah, isn’t her voice awesome when she starts screaming? The album is definitely worth a listen.
I’m sorry to bring up a dark topic but the situation in Gaza is extremely distressing to me. I’m not Palestinian, so I’m not suffering nearly as much as the people of Gaza, but I’m beyond horrified. There are Israeli settlers cheering while watching the bombs drop on hospitals, houses, and every other place where obviously Hamas militants are hiding (yeah right). I bet after thousands of people are murdered in cold blood and houses, hospitals and so on destroyed, Israeli politicians will once again pretend that they want to keep more “peace” in the region. Palestinians will yet again be painted as bloodthirsty monsters and Israel will continue to benefit from its image as the “only democracy in the Middle East” and “the most gay-friendly country in the Middle East”, as if its ostensibly progressive image alone makes up for its genocide and ethnic cleansing of Palestine.
And the US? Not going to do a single fucking thing to stop the Israeli occupation, even though they have the power to put pressure on Israel. It makes sense in the end – after all, both countries are rather fond of colonialism.
Leum
10 years ago
It’s been distressing to me too, Ally. The people of Palestine are even more in my prayers and chanting than usual.
Yes. It is upsetting. It’s hard to have a discussion about too because it so often devolves into a fight between Islamophobes and anti-Semites. I trust the regulars around here wouldn’t be like that, but the rest of the internet, forget it.
Leum
10 years ago
@WWTH: I’ve already had to remind a few people that Zionism is not a religious movement, but one that was started by secular Jews and was, and in some cases still is, opposed by Orthodox Judaism.
pallygirl
10 years ago
@WWTH: yes, I tend not to talk about it either because feelings run very high regardless of anyone having personal stakes in the situation, or not. I’m a pacifist, so I get very upset by both state actors and non-state actors committing violent acts.
cassandrakitty
10 years ago
I have real issues with the idea that being anti Israeli government policy towards the Palestinians is being anti-semitic. Even within Israel itself there’s opposition (from people who are Jewish) to a lot of what the government is doing, so when people try to frame things as if wanting what the Israeli govt is doing to the Palestinians to stop as being as sign that you don’t give a shit about Jewish people it feels very disingenuous.
Cassandra,
Not to sound like some sort of conspiracy theorist but it does seem like because western governments have aligned themselves with the Israeli government that narrative gets pushed a lot.
I’ve seen not wanting to bomb Iran being framed as somehow anti-Semitic too.
It sucks because anti-Semitism is a real thing that still exists and appropriating it to push a neo con agenda just pisses me off.
That being said, there are plenty of actual anti-Semitic people to be found in comment sections on these sorts of news stories.
Ok, so today I went to this open mic night at a local cafe. I ended up getting on stage and doing my own speech – about the social process of gendering bodies and how it needs to be examined in order to deconstruct patriarchy. I was nervous as hell, but people enjoyed it!
But ultimately, the event was ruined by this one white man who was disruptive as hell. Just before everything started he yelled about how much he hates it when “black women try to act white”. He said “The world would be better if I were allowed to grab a black woman like that and shake her until she comes to her senses.”
He also kept being a creep towards the women in the audience and the women who were on stage. And kept trying to show off how good he was at Italian. And then he kept interrupting EVERYONE, delaying the performances significantly for no reason. I felt really triggered by his behavior and felt so unsafe that I had to leave early. I got ice cream afterwards to cope with the memories of that obnoxious, misogynistic, racist asshole.
Ally S: I admire you for getting up and giving your speech. I went to a weekly open mic poetry night for a long time without ever working up the nerve to get onstage.
And fuck that guy. I’m sorry for you and everyone else who had to deal with him.
kittehserf MOD
10 years ago
On music – at the hairdresser’s today I heard some song (no idea whose it was, but some mainstream station) that I would swear was sung by Alvin and the Chipmunks. :{
Nothing to add but HI! to all the delurkers and redelurkers, and say that [TMI alert] sitting up late last night doing a pic of Mr K and ‘self in a bubble bath proved to be a really good idea. 😉
saphy
10 years ago
@Ally
He sounds like he goes to these events just to prove what a loud and pointless asshole he can be to everybody. I can’t believe that nobody stood up and told him to ‘shut up or get out’.
The host politely asked him to not dominate the conversation and talk over people, and the dudebro was just like “Well, SORRY!” in a really manipulative and completely non-apologetic way.
kittehserf MOD
10 years ago
The flags are flying at half-mast in Melbourne for the people killed on the Malaysian Airlines flight, particularly those coming to the HIV-AIDS conference here. So many leading researchers were killed on that flight.
AL3H
10 years ago
An annoying/upsetting thing happened today and I would like to mope about it.
Content note: Emotionally abusive supervisor
begin{mope}
I put my new paper on the public server yesterday (as someone at an event wanted to see it and it is the easiest way to legally distribute it before it is published). I didn’t upload my last paper to the server (sole author paper) but I felt bad about not uploading this one as I have a co-author and she is nice. The problem is that my emotionally abusive ex-supervisor saw that I had published something in the server mail-out and sent me an email.
The email looks nice enough, but I don’t appreciate commentary about my place of work (as my address is listed on the paper) or about my paper. Also, we aren’t friends. Finally, emailing someone that you caused to have a mental breakdown and a shedload of anxiety triggers, to ask about their life, when they publish a paper, is not cool.
To me it stinks of the boundary crossing crap that they pulled when they were my supervisor. The events that caused the anxiety triggers and mental breakdown happened a long time ago (nearly a decade now), but I had problems doing work today and I don’t appreciate it, but at least I didn’t end up shaking like last time (they emailed me when I put my thesis on the server too). Also, my achievements are mine dammit! Grumble grumble grumble.
I don’t think I want to answer their email. 🙁
end{mope}
On slightly more positive news I think the paper length anxiety trigger is now gone or much weaker (this paper was published in the same journal as the paper that I wrote with ex-supervisor as a coauthor ). Also, my coauthor on this paper is nice and I am quite proud of this paper.
saphy
10 years ago
Sometimes you need someone who isn’t polite just to get rid of someone like that.
I think we need a superhero for these situations: GTFO Girl. She would appear in these situations, dressed like Rosie the Riveter with a cigarette hanging from her lips, and say “Hey asshole, pipe down or sod off, everyone hates you right now. It’s pretty easy not to be a jerk if you actually tried. Stop being a shit and start acting like a person.” If they didn’t shut up she would grab them by the scruff of the neck and march them home to their mother for bad behaviour.
saphy
10 years ago
(My comment was in response to Ally, not AL3H. AL3H has a different kind of jerk to deal with 🙁 )
Interesting. My first comment after I log into WordPress /always/ sends me to an error page. Hmm.
Anyways, songs :
Queensryche – Gonna Get Close to You. (Reads like an archtypical stalkers song, but interestingly it has two videos. One where he is stalking the subject of the song, the other where she is a vampire luring her ‘stalker’ in. So it hits both ways! Stalker and evil wimminz!)
Queensyche – Queen of the Ryche (Male band members as valiant rebels against a Matriarchal Queen, so has to go in..)
Ugly Kid Joe – I Hate Everything About You (Jaunty little song for a MGHOW)
Great suggestions guys! Don’t know how I could’ve possibly forgotten to put Rockin’ The Suburbs into the list.
On a different note, two of my favourite webcomics (Questionable Content and El Goonish Shive) discuss non-binary gender issues! One has a trans supporting character and the other’s had a leading character realise he’s genderfluid. Yay progress!
kittehserf MOD
10 years ago
@gilshalos:
Interesting. My first comment after I log into WordPress /always/ sends me to an error page. Hmm.
That always happens to me when I try to log into Pharyngula. How do you fix it? (she asked plaintively)
@kittehs Well, I just go back a page, and re-enter what I typed. These days I enter a one word ‘test’, see it go to an error page, then type in what I want to actually say.
To people having a tough time especially: as a stranger on the other side of a computer screen I cannot offer you much in the way of support, but I would like for you to know that there are several people here who think you are fantastic, and if I can help in any way please let me know.
We Hunted The Mammoth
I’ve been listening to a lot of female fronted bands lately myself Fit For Rivals has a real raspy Joan Jett sort of sound that I like. Kitty in a Casket is a lot fun too, they’re an Austrian psychobilly band, it’s niche as hell but a good listen.
Okay, that was fucking awesome!
Um, the Cool With Chaos song, is what I meant. And now, I must for bed.
I feel like my ability to tolerate stuff that’s blatantly pandering to the unevolved metal dudebro contingent decreases with every year, even though I know that it’s really not the fault of the women doing it at all, and I don’t hold them responsible for it. The blame for that shit rests squarely on the audience.
And yeah, isn’t her voice awesome when she starts screaming? The album is definitely worth a listen.
I’m sorry to bring up a dark topic but the situation in Gaza is extremely distressing to me. I’m not Palestinian, so I’m not suffering nearly as much as the people of Gaza, but I’m beyond horrified. There are Israeli settlers cheering while watching the bombs drop on hospitals, houses, and every other place where obviously Hamas militants are hiding (yeah right). I bet after thousands of people are murdered in cold blood and houses, hospitals and so on destroyed, Israeli politicians will once again pretend that they want to keep more “peace” in the region. Palestinians will yet again be painted as bloodthirsty monsters and Israel will continue to benefit from its image as the “only democracy in the Middle East” and “the most gay-friendly country in the Middle East”, as if its ostensibly progressive image alone makes up for its genocide and ethnic cleansing of Palestine.
And the US? Not going to do a single fucking thing to stop the Israeli occupation, even though they have the power to put pressure on Israel. It makes sense in the end – after all, both countries are rather fond of colonialism.
It’s been distressing to me too, Ally. The people of Palestine are even more in my prayers and chanting than usual.
Yes. It is upsetting. It’s hard to have a discussion about too because it so often devolves into a fight between Islamophobes and anti-Semites. I trust the regulars around here wouldn’t be like that, but the rest of the internet, forget it.
@WWTH: I’ve already had to remind a few people that Zionism is not a religious movement, but one that was started by secular Jews and was, and in some cases still is, opposed by Orthodox Judaism.
@WWTH: yes, I tend not to talk about it either because feelings run very high regardless of anyone having personal stakes in the situation, or not. I’m a pacifist, so I get very upset by both state actors and non-state actors committing violent acts.
I have real issues with the idea that being anti Israeli government policy towards the Palestinians is being anti-semitic. Even within Israel itself there’s opposition (from people who are Jewish) to a lot of what the government is doing, so when people try to frame things as if wanting what the Israeli govt is doing to the Palestinians to stop as being as sign that you don’t give a shit about Jewish people it feels very disingenuous.
Cassandra,
Not to sound like some sort of conspiracy theorist but it does seem like because western governments have aligned themselves with the Israeli government that narrative gets pushed a lot.
I’ve seen not wanting to bomb Iran being framed as somehow anti-Semitic too.
It sucks because anti-Semitism is a real thing that still exists and appropriating it to push a neo con agenda just pisses me off.
That being said, there are plenty of actual anti-Semitic people to be found in comment sections on these sorts of news stories.
Ok, so today I went to this open mic night at a local cafe. I ended up getting on stage and doing my own speech – about the social process of gendering bodies and how it needs to be examined in order to deconstruct patriarchy. I was nervous as hell, but people enjoyed it!
But ultimately, the event was ruined by this one white man who was disruptive as hell. Just before everything started he yelled about how much he hates it when “black women try to act white”. He said “The world would be better if I were allowed to grab a black woman like that and shake her until she comes to her senses.”
He also kept being a creep towards the women in the audience and the women who were on stage. And kept trying to show off how good he was at Italian. And then he kept interrupting EVERYONE, delaying the performances significantly for no reason. I felt really triggered by his behavior and felt so unsafe that I had to leave early. I got ice cream afterwards to cope with the memories of that obnoxious, misogynistic, racist asshole.
Ally S: I admire you for getting up and giving your speech. I went to a weekly open mic poetry night for a long time without ever working up the nerve to get onstage.
And fuck that guy. I’m sorry for you and everyone else who had to deal with him.
On music – at the hairdresser’s today I heard some song (no idea whose it was, but some mainstream station) that I would swear was sung by Alvin and the Chipmunks. :{
Nothing to add but HI! to all the delurkers and redelurkers, and say that [TMI alert] sitting up late last night doing a pic of Mr K and ‘self in a bubble bath proved to be a really good idea. 😉
@Ally
He sounds like he goes to these events just to prove what a loud and pointless asshole he can be to everybody. I can’t believe that nobody stood up and told him to ‘shut up or get out’.
The host politely asked him to not dominate the conversation and talk over people, and the dudebro was just like “Well, SORRY!” in a really manipulative and completely non-apologetic way.
The flags are flying at half-mast in Melbourne for the people killed on the Malaysian Airlines flight, particularly those coming to the HIV-AIDS conference here. So many leading researchers were killed on that flight.
An annoying/upsetting thing happened today and I would like to mope about it.
Content note: Emotionally abusive supervisor
begin{mope}
I put my new paper on the public server yesterday (as someone at an event wanted to see it and it is the easiest way to legally distribute it before it is published). I didn’t upload my last paper to the server (sole author paper) but I felt bad about not uploading this one as I have a co-author and she is nice. The problem is that my emotionally abusive ex-supervisor saw that I had published something in the server mail-out and sent me an email.
The email looks nice enough, but I don’t appreciate commentary about my place of work (as my address is listed on the paper) or about my paper. Also, we aren’t friends. Finally, emailing someone that you caused to have a mental breakdown and a shedload of anxiety triggers, to ask about their life, when they publish a paper, is not cool.
To me it stinks of the boundary crossing crap that they pulled when they were my supervisor. The events that caused the anxiety triggers and mental breakdown happened a long time ago (nearly a decade now), but I had problems doing work today and I don’t appreciate it, but at least I didn’t end up shaking like last time (they emailed me when I put my thesis on the server too). Also, my achievements are mine dammit! Grumble grumble grumble.
I don’t think I want to answer their email. 🙁
end{mope}
On slightly more positive news I think the paper length anxiety trigger is now gone or much weaker (this paper was published in the same journal as the paper that I wrote with ex-supervisor as a coauthor ). Also, my coauthor on this paper is nice and I am quite proud of this paper.
Sometimes you need someone who isn’t polite just to get rid of someone like that.
I think we need a superhero for these situations: GTFO Girl. She would appear in these situations, dressed like Rosie the Riveter with a cigarette hanging from her lips, and say “Hey asshole, pipe down or sod off, everyone hates you right now. It’s pretty easy not to be a jerk if you actually tried. Stop being a shit and start acting like a person.” If they didn’t shut up she would grab them by the scruff of the neck and march them home to their mother for bad behaviour.
(My comment was in response to Ally, not AL3H. AL3H has a different kind of jerk to deal with 🙁 )
Interesting. My first comment after I log into WordPress /always/ sends me to an error page. Hmm.
Anyways, songs :
Queensryche – Gonna Get Close to You. (Reads like an archtypical stalkers song, but interestingly it has two videos. One where he is stalking the subject of the song, the other where she is a vampire luring her ‘stalker’ in. So it hits both ways! Stalker and evil wimminz!)
Queensyche – Queen of the Ryche (Male band members as valiant rebels against a Matriarchal Queen, so has to go in..)
Ugly Kid Joe – I Hate Everything About You (Jaunty little song for a MGHOW)
Great suggestions guys! Don’t know how I could’ve possibly forgotten to put Rockin’ The Suburbs into the list.
On a different note, two of my favourite webcomics (Questionable Content and El Goonish Shive) discuss non-binary gender issues! One has a trans supporting character and the other’s had a leading character realise he’s genderfluid. Yay progress!
@gilshalos:
That always happens to me when I try to log into Pharyngula. How do you fix it? (she asked plaintively)
@kittehs Well, I just go back a page, and re-enter what I typed. These days I enter a one word ‘test’, see it go to an error page, then type in what I want to actually say.
It looks like there are several new people here, some people having a tough time, and some with good news. In the spirit of the true nature of WHTM (i.e. Furrinati worship) I would like to offer several pictures of ridiculously adorable animals.
http://www.wildlifemountain.com/images/Red-NeckedPademelon199.jpg
http://www.craterlakes.com.au/wp-content/gallery/pademelons/pademelon-young2.jpg
http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/thumb/d/d6/Tasmanian-pademelon-and-joey.jpg/725px-Tasmanian-pademelon-and-joey.jpg
http://www.oceanwideimages.com/images/13649/large/red-necked-pademelon-24T5006-08D.jpg
http://www.wildlifemountain.com/images/redneckpademelonsm.jpg
http://www.smh.com.au/ffximage/2004/03/29/skippy,0.jpg
http://www.fourthcrossingwildlife.com/Pademelon-Portas.jpg
http://www.deathandtaxesmag.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/01/quokka2.jpg
http://www.theswedishbed.com/2013/01/08/quokkas-fur-toy-kids-joy-diet-cute-animal-love-dating-baby/
http://ckenney76.blogspot.com.au/2013/04/q-is-for-quokka.html
http://xenlife.com.au/quokkas-top-20-pics-happiest-animal-planet-8-will-make-book-plane-australia/
To people having a tough time especially: as a stranger on the other side of a computer screen I cannot offer you much in the way of support, but I would like for you to know that there are several people here who think you are fantastic, and if I can help in any way please let me know.
I’m sorry. I’m feeling sappy this evening.