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Creepy comment of the day: If men can't get "the steady love and wild sex of a valuable young girl," naturally they'll start shooting people.

Banana slug: A better role model for horny humans than bonobos?
Banana slug: A better role model for horny humans than bonobos?

Sometimes I hunt the misogyny, sometimes it wanders up right up to me and says hello.

Today’s post is an example of the latter. Below, a slightly edited comment that someone left for me this morning. It’s a response to a post of mine about a dreadful post on Return of Kings in which a fellow calling himself Billy Chubbs argued, with absolutely no evidence, that a recent high school shooter was driven to murder because of his “probable sexual frustration,” Chubbs went on to argue that young women are “selfish” because they don’t have sex with guys they’re not attracted to.

Anyway, my new commenter – posting under the name “whogoesthere?” – thinks that I and the other commenters here were being too hard on Chubbs’ “very good argument.” And so he deposited this giant rant, which in many ways is even scarier than Chubbs’ original.

He’s a tad verbose, so I’ve trimmed out some stuff that isn’t relevant to his general, er, thesis. And I’ve also taken the liberty of adding a few paragraph breaks and bolding a few of the best (i.e. worst) bits.

When men don’t get the women they want they turn to violence.

Not a good start here, because this just isn’t true. In this case, the phrase “not all men” is, for once, appropriate. Most men don’t get violent when they’re turned down.

This is established all over the animal kingdom and offers a good example about how it applies to humans, that snotty girls who keep their sexual treasures to all but a few males cause the remaining males to snap. …

Animals do all sorts of things that humans don’t do, and we can’t always learn from their behavior or assume that it relates to our own lives.

Or maybe the Evo Psych crew is just looking at the wrong animals. When banana slugs can’t find a partner to have sex with, they simply fertilize themselves. There’s a lesson here, I think, for the angry incels of the world: you can’t always get what you want, and when you can’t, sex with yourself is better than murder.

High school is a massively sexually charged winner take all environment. … Today’s high school is basically an ongoing audition for a porno video and the guys and girls who don’t make the cut can only sit at home and masturbate.

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It’s demeaning and hits a major blow to a person’s sexual identity to not be invited to frolic with the beautiful people.

Somehow most people, regardless of gender, manage to survive even if they’re not frolicking with Charlize Theron and/or Channing Tatum.

I’m sorry but almost no men go on wild shooting rampages if they have a beautiful female in their keep.

In their keep?! Also, no. Charles Manson was surrounded by beautiful young women. Yet he orchestrated multiple grisly murders.

The only guys that do so are bank robbers and thieves, generally guys at a later stage of life more fixated on money.

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Human beings naturally assess the amount of sex going around them and judge themselves in relationship to the amount and type of sex others are getting.

You know, you can’t actually tell how much and what kind of sex someone is having just by looking at them. Yes, there will always be people in the world having more sex with you. And some of these people are having sex with people you would probably like to have sex with. There are also people who are smarter than you, funnier than you, who can play chess or kickbox better than you, who have hundreds or thousands of times more money than you do.

That’s life. Life isn’t fair.

This makes sense because from a reproductive standpoint sex is coveted, and sex with beautiful thin, young women are the most coveted. Being the first to spoil these young women sexually is viewed reproductively as a guarantee of parentage, thus this is why males instinctively covet and burn with passion for these females.

Ah, yes, it was only a matter of time until the creepy pedo-justifying Evo Psych assfacts made their appearance. Not all men “burn with passion” in their pants for virginal high school girls.

This is why we have “morality” which is in its essence is a promise not to flaunt or indulge in sex moreso than the lowest man or woman in your tribe. This is what is meant when people say “morality went out the window.” They mean someone with more sexual prowess is openly indulging in sex and broadcasting it to stimulate the jealousy of the underclasses.

I’m pretty sure that’s not what people mean when they say “morality went out the window.”

This teen killed people cause he thought that beautiful girls were out of reach. The high school environment merely rubbed it in his face. Yes drugs to treat ADD might’ve eroded many of the impulse control functions in the teen, but the rage against the high school was still the gasoline.

[citation needed]

He might’ve had a picture or two taken with a girl next to him, but oftentimes those high school girls lie and simply eat up the male’s offerings without granting sexual access, but grant it to a random stud.

How dare young women choose who to have sex with, and who not to!

I’m not saying the girl he killed deserved it, it’s only that when you are in that frame of mind you cannot tell who is having more sex than others and you simply fill in the gaps with rage.

Wait, so if she had turned him down he would have been justified in killing her?

The beautiful girl simply represented everything that the teen couldn’t get. The steady love and wild sex of a valuable young girl.

Yeah, I think you’re confusing high school with porn again. His rampage lasted roughly a minute and a half. He shot her because she was there.

All the other theories posted on this site seem comical, self-righteous and weirdly off-point. It’s like you’re assessing the situation as an asexual senior citizen or righteous prude.

Not a lot of “prudes” here. Just people who find the “women need to have sex with ‘nice guys’ or these ‘nice gys’ will kill you all” to be a somewhat problematic argument.

Generally men want sex with young thin beauties who validate their existence.

Some men do. But most men, among those who are sexually attracted to women, aren’t as neurotically fixated on this small slice of the female demographic – women in their teens and early twenties who are somehow both virginal and sexually “wild” – as manosphere men seem to be. And most people don’t base their entire  self-worth on whether or not they’re having sex with beautiful people.

Some men prefer women older than them. Some like women who are fat. Plenty of men don’t fixate on a particular physical type and are attracted to all sorts of different women. Believe it or not, whogoesthere, there are lots of men who are more interested in what’s in a woman’s head than they are in whether or not she matches up with some particular checklist of physical attributes.

If society removes all of the social pathways to attaining such a beauty, such as making prostitution illegal, increasing shame for men who seek sex, rewarding females and males called manginas who identify and mock the sex seekers and so on… this will lead to depression in men and all of the behaviors surrounding it, including shootings. Sounds pretty much like a logical line of reasoning to me.

And that’s the problem. It’s not actually a logical line of reasoning at all. It’s more like a sort of blackmail.

Men don’t kill women because they can’t have “the steady love and wild sex of a valuable young girl.” Sometimes men kill women because they feel entitled to have sex with these “valuable young girls” and become bitter and enraged when they can’t find a “valuable young girl” who agrees with them on this particular point.

It’s not the lack of “sexual access” that’s the problem. It’s the notion that your desire for “sexual access” means more than the right of that person to say “no.” It’s the notion that society has done you wrong because you can’t (at least at the moment) get laid. It’s the idea that your desire to have sex with a particular kind of woman somehow trumps the right of other people to live.

I mean, what the fucking fuck.

Oh, by the way, there’s no evidence that the shooter in question – Karl Halverson Pierson – was motivated by sexual frustration. His intended target was the school librarian, who is also the school’s debate coach. Pierson was obsessed with debate, and had some sort of grudge against the coach.

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kittehserf
10 years ago

Argenti, good to hear!

Which way is upside down to you? I like the paper to come down at the back of the roll.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

I like the paper to come over the top. That’s it, we can never be friends again! This means that my life has no meaning and I should shoot myself if a 10 doesn’t offer me sex within the next hour or so.

kittehserf
10 years ago

THIS IS WAR!

katz
10 years ago

A trade paperback’s about $25 these days.

Whatthewhat? How can the book business stay in business at those prices?

kittehserf
10 years ago

Kitty who knows the One True Way toilet paper should go:

http://youtu.be/8-V-CnKcF7Q

kittehserf
10 years ago

katz, a lot of them don’t! Several book chains have gone bust here in the last few years.

Thing is though, that’s in the context that everything is ridiculously expensive here.

Unimaginative
10 years ago

I used to prefer the paper coming from the bottom, but then I lived with my sister who was VERY VERY INSISTENT that it come from the top. I try really hard not to have a preference, though.

My (male) roomie leaves the toilet seat up. I put the seat and the lid down (because we have a cupboard of toiletries above the toilet and I’m clumsy). We each do our own thing and don’t worry about what the other one is doing. Having strong preferences about stuff like this seems to lead to strife. (Although it would be very nice if he would wipe his poop streaks out, instead of leaving them until the next time I do the big, thorough clean.)

kittehserf
10 years ago

More kitties and loo paper. (I am not kitty spamming, this is SCIENCE.)

http://youtu.be/agVnhrFD3ww

weirwoodtreehugger
weirwoodtreehugger
10 years ago

I make a microwave quesadilla that’s actually really good. You just put shredded Mexican cheese on the tortilla and add whatever vegetables. Then you drizzle salsa verde over the top. It’s yummy and really quick.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

See? You can make quesadillas in the microwave! I’ve found some odd things in the frozen section, though, so nothing surprises me any more.

Random – anyone have tips for capturing a possibly lost cat without injury or scaring the hell out of the cat? I saw one that Mr C says looks like a lost cat that there were flyers for based on my description, but he wasn’t with me when I saw her and I didn’t see the flyers. She was hanging out in my laundry room and got startled and ran out when I came in, wouldn’t come when I called, but I’m keeping an eye out for her.

kittehserf
10 years ago

Were the flyers in your area? Any chance of getting a phone number from one?

What about putting some food or water out for her?

Lea
Lea
10 years ago

Doing things I don’t like to impress women?

Said literally no one at all. What has been suggested is that you find a healthy, non serial killer / mass murdering fuckwad sounding way to feel blissful and self assured. Yes, those traits might make you less gross and more having things to do with and talk about with other people might make you less boring, but that isn’t the only reason to do them. How’s about you find something in life that makes you not want to take your own life in a short 15 years? Why hasn’t that occurred to you, oh brilliant philosopher? Maybe you could have a life worth living, rather than being an emotional parasite who talks about women like Elliot Rogers did?

Flirting is nothing but being insincere.

No. People flirt for fun. There doesn’t need to be an end goal. It’s just a fun thing people do, sometimes to let each other know they are forming an attraction, but also just for the warm fuzzy feelings. It isn’t fake. Most people only flirt with people they actually have a bit of a crush on or strong attraction to. Sure, you could fake that, but why? To manipulate? Yes, there are douchebags like you who do that. But most people actually want to genuinely enjoy their lives and want other people to do the same.

Lea
Lea
10 years ago

Live traps work on cats, cassandrkitty.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

Mr C is going to see if he can remember where he saw the flyers so we can get a phone number. I can try putting food out for her, but the problem is that the area she was hanging out in is one where I wouldn’t see her unless I was actively looking, so she could easily just sneak in, eat the food, then sneak out again.

I’m also a bit worried that putting food out will draw in raccoons, which might then hurt the cats (also, rabies).

scott1139
scott1139
10 years ago

I quote bell hooks: “Individuals who want to believe that there is no fulfillment in love, that true love does not exist, cling to these assumptions because this despair is actually easier to face than the reality that love is a real fact of life but is absent from their lives.”

Damn, she said that too? I really need to read some of her books…

In the interest of making the thread longer (:P), I have a…personal matter I could discuss. Would it be okay if I were to talk about it? It’s about thoughts/feelings I’ve been having that I’m almost certain are based on underlying racist/sexist assumptions.

kittehserf
10 years ago

scott, sure, would you like to talk about it here or in the personal thread? That might be a better choice, it’s a no-troll zone.

cloudiah
10 years ago

I thought I could probably figure out how to make the kale and goat cheese quesadillas, but anything to keep this thread going. XD

Good luck on finding and capturing (humanely) the lost kitty, cassandrakitty!

katz
10 years ago

but anything to keep this thread going.

You all know the answer.

Unimaginative
10 years ago

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contrapangloss
10 years ago

1!

kittehserf
10 years ago

LOL!

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contrapangloss
10 years ago

(Fail)

contrapangloss
10 years ago

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Unimaginative
10 years ago

Bedtime for me. 4

kittehserf
10 years ago

Niters!

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