Sometimes I hunt the misogyny, sometimes it wanders up right up to me and says hello.
Today’s post is an example of the latter. Below, a slightly edited comment that someone left for me this morning. It’s a response to a post of mine about a dreadful post on Return of Kings in which a fellow calling himself Billy Chubbs argued, with absolutely no evidence, that a recent high school shooter was driven to murder because of his “probable sexual frustration,” Chubbs went on to argue that young women are “selfish” because they don’t have sex with guys they’re not attracted to.
Anyway, my new commenter – posting under the name “whogoesthere?” – thinks that I and the other commenters here were being too hard on Chubbs’ “very good argument.” And so he deposited this giant rant, which in many ways is even scarier than Chubbs’ original.
He’s a tad verbose, so I’ve trimmed out some stuff that isn’t relevant to his general, er, thesis. And I’ve also taken the liberty of adding a few paragraph breaks and bolding a few of the best (i.e. worst) bits.
When men don’t get the women they want they turn to violence.
Not a good start here, because this just isn’t true. In this case, the phrase “not all men” is, for once, appropriate. Most men don’t get violent when they’re turned down.
This is established all over the animal kingdom and offers a good example about how it applies to humans, that snotty girls who keep their sexual treasures to all but a few males cause the remaining males to snap. …
Animals do all sorts of things that humans don’t do, and we can’t always learn from their behavior or assume that it relates to our own lives.
Or maybe the Evo Psych crew is just looking at the wrong animals. When banana slugs can’t find a partner to have sex with, they simply fertilize themselves. There’s a lesson here, I think, for the angry incels of the world: you can’t always get what you want, and when you can’t, sex with yourself is better than murder.
High school is a massively sexually charged winner take all environment. … Today’s high school is basically an ongoing audition for a porno video and the guys and girls who don’t make the cut can only sit at home and masturbate.
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It’s demeaning and hits a major blow to a person’s sexual identity to not be invited to frolic with the beautiful people.
Somehow most people, regardless of gender, manage to survive even if they’re not frolicking with Charlize Theron and/or Channing Tatum.
I’m sorry but almost no men go on wild shooting rampages if they have a beautiful female in their keep.
In their keep?! Also, no. Charles Manson was surrounded by beautiful young women. Yet he orchestrated multiple grisly murders.
The only guys that do so are bank robbers and thieves, generally guys at a later stage of life more fixated on money.
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Human beings naturally assess the amount of sex going around them and judge themselves in relationship to the amount and type of sex others are getting.
You know, you can’t actually tell how much and what kind of sex someone is having just by looking at them. Yes, there will always be people in the world having more sex with you. And some of these people are having sex with people you would probably like to have sex with. There are also people who are smarter than you, funnier than you, who can play chess or kickbox better than you, who have hundreds or thousands of times more money than you do.
That’s life. Life isn’t fair.
This makes sense because from a reproductive standpoint sex is coveted, and sex with beautiful thin, young women are the most coveted. Being the first to spoil these young women sexually is viewed reproductively as a guarantee of parentage, thus this is why males instinctively covet and burn with passion for these females.
Ah, yes, it was only a matter of time until the creepy pedo-justifying Evo Psych assfacts made their appearance. Not all men “burn with passion” in their pants for virginal high school girls.
This is why we have “morality” which is in its essence is a promise not to flaunt or indulge in sex moreso than the lowest man or woman in your tribe. This is what is meant when people say “morality went out the window.” They mean someone with more sexual prowess is openly indulging in sex and broadcasting it to stimulate the jealousy of the underclasses.
I’m pretty sure that’s not what people mean when they say “morality went out the window.”
This teen killed people cause he thought that beautiful girls were out of reach. The high school environment merely rubbed it in his face. Yes drugs to treat ADD might’ve eroded many of the impulse control functions in the teen, but the rage against the high school was still the gasoline.
[citation needed]
He might’ve had a picture or two taken with a girl next to him, but oftentimes those high school girls lie and simply eat up the male’s offerings without granting sexual access, but grant it to a random stud.
How dare young women choose who to have sex with, and who not to!
I’m not saying the girl he killed deserved it, it’s only that when you are in that frame of mind you cannot tell who is having more sex than others and you simply fill in the gaps with rage.
Wait, so if she had turned him down he would have been justified in killing her?
The beautiful girl simply represented everything that the teen couldn’t get. The steady love and wild sex of a valuable young girl.
Yeah, I think you’re confusing high school with porn again. His rampage lasted roughly a minute and a half. He shot her because she was there.
All the other theories posted on this site seem comical, self-righteous and weirdly off-point. It’s like you’re assessing the situation as an asexual senior citizen or righteous prude.
Not a lot of “prudes” here. Just people who find the “women need to have sex with ‘nice guys’ or these ‘nice gys’ will kill you all” to be a somewhat problematic argument.
Generally men want sex with young thin beauties who validate their existence.
Some men do. But most men, among those who are sexually attracted to women, aren’t as neurotically fixated on this small slice of the female demographic – women in their teens and early twenties who are somehow both virginal and sexually “wild” – as manosphere men seem to be. And most people don’t base their entire self-worth on whether or not they’re having sex with beautiful people.
Some men prefer women older than them. Some like women who are fat. Plenty of men don’t fixate on a particular physical type and are attracted to all sorts of different women. Believe it or not, whogoesthere, there are lots of men who are more interested in what’s in a woman’s head than they are in whether or not she matches up with some particular checklist of physical attributes.
If society removes all of the social pathways to attaining such a beauty, such as making prostitution illegal, increasing shame for men who seek sex, rewarding females and males called manginas who identify and mock the sex seekers and so on… this will lead to depression in men and all of the behaviors surrounding it, including shootings. Sounds pretty much like a logical line of reasoning to me.
And that’s the problem. It’s not actually a logical line of reasoning at all. It’s more like a sort of blackmail.
Men don’t kill women because they can’t have “the steady love and wild sex of a valuable young girl.” Sometimes men kill women because they feel entitled to have sex with these “valuable young girls” and become bitter and enraged when they can’t find a “valuable young girl” who agrees with them on this particular point.
It’s not the lack of “sexual access” that’s the problem. It’s the notion that your desire for “sexual access” means more than the right of that person to say “no.” It’s the notion that society has done you wrong because you can’t (at least at the moment) get laid. It’s the idea that your desire to have sex with a particular kind of woman somehow trumps the right of other people to live.
I mean, what the fucking fuck.
Oh, by the way, there’s no evidence that the shooter in question – Karl Halverson Pierson – was motivated by sexual frustration. His intended target was the school librarian, who is also the school’s debate coach. Pierson was obsessed with debate, and had some sort of grudge against the coach.
Well, everything he’s done here has left us not-impressed, so maybe he thinks he’s doing it right?
Unimaginative, whoot! Getting discounts on books one likes, win!
Makes me cross, every time Kobo have a discount, it doesn’t apply to the books I want. Bastards!!!
Hurray!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Just passed 2000. And it wasn’t und who put us over the top 🙂
Hey, Unimaginative hit the 2000 mark! Yay!
Ninjaed!
Happy anniversary!
RE: Kittehs
Just as well you weren’t at church, LBT. It woulda been embarrassing, especially if Mac had been fronting. 😀
HIS OBELISK STANDS TALL.
Also, hubby is the best. Due to SURPRISE Period, my appetite got axed which means ED issues. So Mac made me kale and goat cheese quesadillas to entice me. Best hubby. He can stay.
But I suppose he was just using me for my sweet, sweet headspace.
I love how undfreeland thinks he’s laying down some major truth bomb by saying everyone just uses each other shamelessly. It’s just such a hollow, miserable way of viewing the world. I don’t see hubby as just some… I don’t know, living sex toy and live-in cook. He’s my husband! My friend! The man who I care about and want to be happy!
I quote bell hooks: “Individuals who want to believe that there is no fulfillment in love, that true love does not exist, cling to these assumptions because this despair is actually easier to face than the reality that love is a real fact of life but is absent from their lives.”
Oh boy, I’m late — thought we were still under 1000.
Er… 2000.
Well, since now we’re on our way to 3000, can you share the recipe/instructions for kale and goat cheese enchiladas?
Random fact: The Russian word for “squirrel” is the same as their word for “protein.” Doad and I cannot stop laughing about this.
I’m guessing undies only like the kind of video games that reward you for brutalizing sex workers :/
Hooray for 2000!
It’s easy.
Take your kale. Tear it off its stems into little bite-size leafy bits. Stir-fry in olive oil in a frying pan, with some salt and red pepper. When it is all nice and cooked (I like it a little crispy) take it out. If necessary, reoil the pan, and plop in a tortilla. Make sure to flip it so both sides get oiled!
Spread goat cheese on one side of the tortilla. Put half your cooked kale on the other side. Let heat until all the cheese is melted, and then fold the tortilla over in half so the cheese side sticks to the kale side.
Ta-da! You have half a quesadilla! Repeat to make the other half. It takes like ten minutes tops.
Not in church, I hope! 😛
Yep. Rent free and before you know it, he’ll want to redecorate the bedroom. Be warned!
That bell hooks quote is the best. Sums up trolly perfectly, and a few other asshats I can think of, too.
::reminds self to be really careful if asking about nutritional components of Russian dishes::
@Kittehs, I find Kobo a little frustrating and expensive. I only go there if I can’t get a book on AllRomance or its sister site OmniLit (for books other than romance). I don’t buy ebooks from amazon because I hate having to muck about with DRM and formats, and my reader is an old Sony.
So I’m just reading up about kale and find this gorgeous pic of ornamental varieties:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kale#mediaviewer/File:Ornamental_Kale.jpg
I was shopping for easy things to pack for my lunches when I worked a shutdown once. Did you know that they sell frozen quesadillas? Apparently cheese in tortillas is too complicated a recipe for some people…
Although, I guess if you only have a fridge and microwave, you can’t really fry anything, even if it is simple. I retract my snark.
“Contains 12% DV of squirrel.”
Pretty much all books are expensive here in Oz, whether e-books or physical ones. A trade paperback’s about $25 these days. I use Kobo because I didn’t want to use Amazon – their work practices suck – and Kobo use an Australian company, Bookworld, to sell their stuff. Their reader got good write-ups, and at $99 was way cheaper than most here – I just got the basic one, I don’t want one that lights up or is a veritable Ipad, just something to read/download books. The difference in price between e-books and physical ones is enough to make it worthwhile; I can’t remember when paperbacks cost under $10!
I KNEW IT
In other thrilling news, I’m having toasted ham and cheese sammiches for lunch. nomnomnom
Und — what makes you think the last decade’s swing to make abortion harder to access is gonna change? And thoughts on Medicaid/Medicare not covering abortions? (One or the other…which ever poor people like myself get)
And flirting is sincere, you’re doing it wrong.
LBT — send Mac over here, he needs to know that I have a thing for redheads! Maybe we can give a lesson in flirting since we all know your hubby’s a giant flirt!
Random fact, quote my brother “kangaroos have an extra set of nipples”. It’s not really extra, joeys and newborns need different milk so two sets, one for each kind.
As for the BF — he just called, seems he fell asleep while his sister was chatting with a friend. I guess being asleep is a good reason not to call.
It wouldn’t be as tasty but you could melt cheese and heat a tortilla in the microwave.
Only other thing he does that annoys me is putting the toilet paper on upside down, so I guess I can forgive him!