Sometimes I hunt the misogyny, sometimes it wanders up right up to me and says hello.
Today’s post is an example of the latter. Below, a slightly edited comment that someone left for me this morning. It’s a response to a post of mine about a dreadful post on Return of Kings in which a fellow calling himself Billy Chubbs argued, with absolutely no evidence, that a recent high school shooter was driven to murder because of his “probable sexual frustration,” Chubbs went on to argue that young women are “selfish” because they don’t have sex with guys they’re not attracted to.
Anyway, my new commenter – posting under the name “whogoesthere?” – thinks that I and the other commenters here were being too hard on Chubbs’ “very good argument.” And so he deposited this giant rant, which in many ways is even scarier than Chubbs’ original.
He’s a tad verbose, so I’ve trimmed out some stuff that isn’t relevant to his general, er, thesis. And I’ve also taken the liberty of adding a few paragraph breaks and bolding a few of the best (i.e. worst) bits.
When men don’t get the women they want they turn to violence.
Not a good start here, because this just isn’t true. In this case, the phrase “not all men” is, for once, appropriate. Most men don’t get violent when they’re turned down.
This is established all over the animal kingdom and offers a good example about how it applies to humans, that snotty girls who keep their sexual treasures to all but a few males cause the remaining males to snap. …
Animals do all sorts of things that humans don’t do, and we can’t always learn from their behavior or assume that it relates to our own lives.
Or maybe the Evo Psych crew is just looking at the wrong animals. When banana slugs can’t find a partner to have sex with, they simply fertilize themselves. There’s a lesson here, I think, for the angry incels of the world: you can’t always get what you want, and when you can’t, sex with yourself is better than murder.
High school is a massively sexually charged winner take all environment. … Today’s high school is basically an ongoing audition for a porno video and the guys and girls who don’t make the cut can only sit at home and masturbate.
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It’s demeaning and hits a major blow to a person’s sexual identity to not be invited to frolic with the beautiful people.
Somehow most people, regardless of gender, manage to survive even if they’re not frolicking with Charlize Theron and/or Channing Tatum.
I’m sorry but almost no men go on wild shooting rampages if they have a beautiful female in their keep.
In their keep?! Also, no. Charles Manson was surrounded by beautiful young women. Yet he orchestrated multiple grisly murders.
The only guys that do so are bank robbers and thieves, generally guys at a later stage of life more fixated on money.
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Human beings naturally assess the amount of sex going around them and judge themselves in relationship to the amount and type of sex others are getting.
You know, you can’t actually tell how much and what kind of sex someone is having just by looking at them. Yes, there will always be people in the world having more sex with you. And some of these people are having sex with people you would probably like to have sex with. There are also people who are smarter than you, funnier than you, who can play chess or kickbox better than you, who have hundreds or thousands of times more money than you do.
That’s life. Life isn’t fair.
This makes sense because from a reproductive standpoint sex is coveted, and sex with beautiful thin, young women are the most coveted. Being the first to spoil these young women sexually is viewed reproductively as a guarantee of parentage, thus this is why males instinctively covet and burn with passion for these females.
Ah, yes, it was only a matter of time until the creepy pedo-justifying Evo Psych assfacts made their appearance. Not all men “burn with passion” in their pants for virginal high school girls.
This is why we have “morality” which is in its essence is a promise not to flaunt or indulge in sex moreso than the lowest man or woman in your tribe. This is what is meant when people say “morality went out the window.” They mean someone with more sexual prowess is openly indulging in sex and broadcasting it to stimulate the jealousy of the underclasses.
I’m pretty sure that’s not what people mean when they say “morality went out the window.”
This teen killed people cause he thought that beautiful girls were out of reach. The high school environment merely rubbed it in his face. Yes drugs to treat ADD might’ve eroded many of the impulse control functions in the teen, but the rage against the high school was still the gasoline.
[citation needed]
He might’ve had a picture or two taken with a girl next to him, but oftentimes those high school girls lie and simply eat up the male’s offerings without granting sexual access, but grant it to a random stud.
How dare young women choose who to have sex with, and who not to!
I’m not saying the girl he killed deserved it, it’s only that when you are in that frame of mind you cannot tell who is having more sex than others and you simply fill in the gaps with rage.
Wait, so if she had turned him down he would have been justified in killing her?
The beautiful girl simply represented everything that the teen couldn’t get. The steady love and wild sex of a valuable young girl.
Yeah, I think you’re confusing high school with porn again. His rampage lasted roughly a minute and a half. He shot her because she was there.
All the other theories posted on this site seem comical, self-righteous and weirdly off-point. It’s like you’re assessing the situation as an asexual senior citizen or righteous prude.
Not a lot of “prudes” here. Just people who find the “women need to have sex with ‘nice guys’ or these ‘nice gys’ will kill you all” to be a somewhat problematic argument.
Generally men want sex with young thin beauties who validate their existence.
Some men do. But most men, among those who are sexually attracted to women, aren’t as neurotically fixated on this small slice of the female demographic – women in their teens and early twenties who are somehow both virginal and sexually “wild” – as manosphere men seem to be. And most people don’t base their entire self-worth on whether or not they’re having sex with beautiful people.
Some men prefer women older than them. Some like women who are fat. Plenty of men don’t fixate on a particular physical type and are attracted to all sorts of different women. Believe it or not, whogoesthere, there are lots of men who are more interested in what’s in a woman’s head than they are in whether or not she matches up with some particular checklist of physical attributes.
If society removes all of the social pathways to attaining such a beauty, such as making prostitution illegal, increasing shame for men who seek sex, rewarding females and males called manginas who identify and mock the sex seekers and so on… this will lead to depression in men and all of the behaviors surrounding it, including shootings. Sounds pretty much like a logical line of reasoning to me.
And that’s the problem. It’s not actually a logical line of reasoning at all. It’s more like a sort of blackmail.
Men don’t kill women because they can’t have “the steady love and wild sex of a valuable young girl.” Sometimes men kill women because they feel entitled to have sex with these “valuable young girls” and become bitter and enraged when they can’t find a “valuable young girl” who agrees with them on this particular point.
It’s not the lack of “sexual access” that’s the problem. It’s the notion that your desire for “sexual access” means more than the right of that person to say “no.” It’s the notion that society has done you wrong because you can’t (at least at the moment) get laid. It’s the idea that your desire to have sex with a particular kind of woman somehow trumps the right of other people to live.
I mean, what the fucking fuck.
Oh, by the way, there’s no evidence that the shooter in question – Karl Halverson Pierson – was motivated by sexual frustration. His intended target was the school librarian, who is also the school’s debate coach. Pierson was obsessed with debate, and had some sort of grudge against the coach.
@kitteh
“Anyone know a decent shampoo for curly hair (as in enhancing, not straightening) that doesn’t break the bank?”
Not sure if that will work for you because my hair are really dry. Just a shampoo does not cut it. The shampoo is cheap, its clairol herbal essences. But any cheap and plain would do. Than I use a very light mousse that you work in the curls: Organix Nourishing Coconut milk. Just let it all dry naturally. And no conditioner! I use bain de terre recovery complex. Its expensive but since you need very little, a bottle last forever. Its been a miracle for my hair. It give shines and remove friz without weighting your hair down like a conditioner would. But you dont need it if your hair are not dry.
Does BF have a mobile, Argenti? Might be worth giving him a call.
Oh my god, is this guy still GOING? He’s fucking up there with Tom Martin now for sheer windbagging and still about how he’s such a poor boy, nobody loves him. Dude, we’re not going to stroke your sad egoboner. Get a fucking shrink.
Well guys, yesterday was me and hubby’s seventh anniversary! We celebrated by hiking (which was cut short by trees blocking every single muddy path), baking a cake (which just wouldn’t bake for some reason; it’s still goop in the middle), and having sex (which got interrupted by my infernal nether regions deciding it was Stigmata Time). Despite these minor hardships, we had a good time and we had so much fun hubby slept through church. Good times! Also, our new peppermint soap arrived on the right day, so now we smell like mint.
Of course, the only reason this was so much fun is because we’re both goddamn wealthy Adonises with cocks like obelisks, naturally.
RE: Argenti
LBT, I WILL get you those plants soon!
Sneak says :D!
Isabelle, I think I know that Organix – the name looks like one I just saw on Woolworths’ page (yes I’ve just been doing grocery shopping online, my life is full of excitement). My hair isn’t dry, and when I can be bothered I use Revitafoam to scrunch it up, but it tends not to stay that curly. I’m nearly out of shampoo, which is mainly why I’m looking at other sorts.
@Argenti Aertheri, I don’t think anyone should have to have a child who doesn’t want one. I certainly never want any. I’ve only been involved for a lengthy period with woman who said they’d get an abortion if they ever got pregnant.
It’ll work out because this sort of thing is just the dying gasps of what is understood in America as conservatism. Texas, like many US states where Republicans are in control, is terribly gerrymandered. Once that is fixed, which it will be due to changing demographics, this silliness will stop.
@weirwoodtreehugger, what advice? Doing things I don’t like to impress women?
I’m reminded of the advice to be sincere during flirting. What? Flirting is nothing but being insincere.
As I’ve said, when I treat people well. I don’t get laid. It’s when I’m being an ass that it happens.
Glad you had a great anniversary, LBT 🙂
OMG I’m laughing so much imagining that. Poor vessel sitting there, while you inside are nudging Mac – “Wake up, wake UP, you’re the one wanted to come here!”
What – carved with hieroglyphs? OW.
So glad you guys had a good anniversary, even including blocked paths, gloppy cake and stigmata (which sounds dire).
Mr K says Hi and is sending belated happy anniversary vibes.
@Kittehs, I could deal with the hieroglyphs, but those pointy tips are a no-go.
Woody probably has a creepy shrine to Elam in his bedroom. Like Alicia Silverstone’s character in The Crush.
@emilygoddess, the pointy tips (especially if they were coated in gold leaf) would be a problem. But getting hieroglyphs carved, ow ow ow … and what if it was like the stories about getting Chinese tattoos that supposedly say deep meaningful things but really say “This fuckwit paid me two hundred bucks for this thing!”
Then there’s always the problem of having one’s
cockobelisk taken down and transported by barge to be erected (heh) on the banks of the Thames. That’d have to be inconvenient and cold.Happy celebrations to everyone! I celebrated nothing this weekend exception for the lovely weather and the swack of new books I bought. The roomie spent most of the weekend up the river with a bevy of lovely young women and their small children, fishing and playing getting sunburned. So we’re sitting around contentedly, with tandoori chicken cooking on the bbq, listening to the birds and neighbourhood. It’s a really nice evening.
RE: Kittehs
OMG I’m laughing so much imagining that. Poor vessel sitting there, while you inside are nudging Mac – “Wake up, wake UP, you’re the one wanted to come here!”
*laughs* No, no, I just woke up at around eight, poked him, went, “Dude, you want to go to church?” and he went “Mmmmmrghnnnnooo,” and I made the arrangements and went back to sleep. Your version is way better though.
Then there’s always the problem of having one’s cock obelisk taken down and transported by barge to be erected (heh) on the banks of the Thames.
Well, if that’s where we have to stick it…
RE: emilygoddess
those pointy tips are a no-go.
SHUT UP THEY’RE AERODYNAMIC.
Kitteh — no answer, which would only make sense if he was driving back from his sisters’ (they live together, and I wouldn’t be surprised if he’d hung out there). But that’s like…20 min? Half hour? from here.
And the sister he went with doesn’t have a cell (she just got back from many months overseas) and I don’t have the other one’s number.
*grumble* his parents are next door, so I’m sure I’d have heard if anything happened, but blarg dude, blarg.
ROFL!
Just as well you weren’t at church, LBT. It woulda been embarrassing, especially if Mac had been fronting. 😀
Argenti – 🙁
That stuff pisses me off, too. If you’re gonna be late, call. It isn’t difficult.
Hmmmmm
I think Undfreeland was trying to say all round-a-bout like that he thinks I’m a hypocrite. I shall now have to introduce myself to alert and oriented patients like so:
“Hi, I’m ——, a volunteer EMT with ——-. Just to be honest, I’m totally just using you, because everyone just uses everyone. Can you tell me why you called us, today?”
Trolly doesn’t seem to know the difference between cooperation or socialising or providing services and using people. Colour me surprised.
That kind of mindset could come in awfully useful in many walks of life.
“Mr. Bossman, I don’t understand why that woman complained about my service. She’s just using me, anyway. Everyone uses everyone. And I never told her she was a jerk, I just thought it. And the mind is unknowable, you’ll never get to what somebody really thinks. She just projected onto me the impression she wanted, which was a surly clerk with a bad attitude. This would have never happened if I was taller.”
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Unimaginative, new books! What are they, if you don’t mind sharing?
Not everything in life needs to be about impressing potential sex partners. That was the point everyone was trying to make. Do something that actually interests you and as a happy side effect, you’ll become more interesting.
Are you saying you find nothing besides video games and porn interesting? Those are the only things you like?
Look at it this way. Being this shallow doesn’t seem to actually make you happy. Why not make an effort to change it?
It kind of seems like trolling us is the most fulfilling thing in your life right now. That’s not good. It’s amusing for me. But it isn’t good for you.
Und, we have told you a million times that you ought to do things not to impress women. Are you just not hearing us?
Five more!
I’d be willing to bet porn and video games (or video game porn?) are the only things he likes, in which case he’s got Buckley’s chance of impressing anyone with his real interests. Says it all that everything else is something he doesn’t like, and its only purpose is to impress women (who he also doesn’t like). He doesn’t seem to have fathomed that he’s never going to be able to convince anyone that he does something for its own sake, or has a passion for it – and nobody’s going to be impressed by him, with his lack of interest in anything except finding a living fuckdoll that fits his so-exacting standards of female beauty.
Kittehs, have you tried finger curling your hair before it dries? As in literally taking pieces of hair and twirling them round your finger, then shaking it out gently once it’s dry. Works great for mine to encourage the curl, even better if you add leave in conditioner and/or whatever other product you like.
The only other phocid that regularly shares it’s range with the northern elephant seal is the adorable harbor seal. Adult harbor seals are the size of elephant seal pups.
This is much more important, than troll boy.
@Kittehs, romance novels. AllRomanceEbooks.com had a 30% off sale on Friday to make up for some technical glitches. The glitches didn’t affect me, but I glommed on that sale 😀 And then I spent pretty much all of Saturday reading while roomie was up the river, and boy, do I need reading glasses. Damnit.