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Creepy comment of the day: If men can't get "the steady love and wild sex of a valuable young girl," naturally they'll start shooting people.

Banana slug: A better role model for horny humans than bonobos?
Banana slug: A better role model for horny humans than bonobos?

Sometimes I hunt the misogyny, sometimes it wanders up right up to me and says hello.

Today’s post is an example of the latter. Below, a slightly edited comment that someone left for me this morning. It’s a response to a post of mine about a dreadful post on Return of Kings in which a fellow calling himself Billy Chubbs argued, with absolutely no evidence, that a recent high school shooter was driven to murder because of his “probable sexual frustration,” Chubbs went on to argue that young women are “selfish” because they don’t have sex with guys they’re not attracted to.

Anyway, my new commenter – posting under the name “whogoesthere?” – thinks that I and the other commenters here were being too hard on Chubbs’ “very good argument.” And so he deposited this giant rant, which in many ways is even scarier than Chubbs’ original.

He’s a tad verbose, so I’ve trimmed out some stuff that isn’t relevant to his general, er, thesis. And I’ve also taken the liberty of adding a few paragraph breaks and bolding a few of the best (i.e. worst) bits.

When men don’t get the women they want they turn to violence.

Not a good start here, because this just isn’t true. In this case, the phrase “not all men” is, for once, appropriate. Most men don’t get violent when they’re turned down.

This is established all over the animal kingdom and offers a good example about how it applies to humans, that snotty girls who keep their sexual treasures to all but a few males cause the remaining males to snap. …

Animals do all sorts of things that humans don’t do, and we can’t always learn from their behavior or assume that it relates to our own lives.

Or maybe the Evo Psych crew is just looking at the wrong animals. When banana slugs can’t find a partner to have sex with, they simply fertilize themselves. There’s a lesson here, I think, for the angry incels of the world: you can’t always get what you want, and when you can’t, sex with yourself is better than murder.

High school is a massively sexually charged winner take all environment. … Today’s high school is basically an ongoing audition for a porno video and the guys and girls who don’t make the cut can only sit at home and masturbate.

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It’s demeaning and hits a major blow to a person’s sexual identity to not be invited to frolic with the beautiful people.

Somehow most people, regardless of gender, manage to survive even if they’re not frolicking with Charlize Theron and/or Channing Tatum.

I’m sorry but almost no men go on wild shooting rampages if they have a beautiful female in their keep.

In their keep?! Also, no. Charles Manson was surrounded by beautiful young women. Yet he orchestrated multiple grisly murders.

The only guys that do so are bank robbers and thieves, generally guys at a later stage of life more fixated on money.

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Human beings naturally assess the amount of sex going around them and judge themselves in relationship to the amount and type of sex others are getting.

You know, you can’t actually tell how much and what kind of sex someone is having just by looking at them. Yes, there will always be people in the world having more sex with you. And some of these people are having sex with people you would probably like to have sex with. There are also people who are smarter than you, funnier than you, who can play chess or kickbox better than you, who have hundreds or thousands of times more money than you do.

That’s life. Life isn’t fair.

This makes sense because from a reproductive standpoint sex is coveted, and sex with beautiful thin, young women are the most coveted. Being the first to spoil these young women sexually is viewed reproductively as a guarantee of parentage, thus this is why males instinctively covet and burn with passion for these females.

Ah, yes, it was only a matter of time until the creepy pedo-justifying Evo Psych assfacts made their appearance. Not all men “burn with passion” in their pants for virginal high school girls.

This is why we have “morality” which is in its essence is a promise not to flaunt or indulge in sex moreso than the lowest man or woman in your tribe. This is what is meant when people say “morality went out the window.” They mean someone with more sexual prowess is openly indulging in sex and broadcasting it to stimulate the jealousy of the underclasses.

I’m pretty sure that’s not what people mean when they say “morality went out the window.”

This teen killed people cause he thought that beautiful girls were out of reach. The high school environment merely rubbed it in his face. Yes drugs to treat ADD might’ve eroded many of the impulse control functions in the teen, but the rage against the high school was still the gasoline.

[citation needed]

He might’ve had a picture or two taken with a girl next to him, but oftentimes those high school girls lie and simply eat up the male’s offerings without granting sexual access, but grant it to a random stud.

How dare young women choose who to have sex with, and who not to!

I’m not saying the girl he killed deserved it, it’s only that when you are in that frame of mind you cannot tell who is having more sex than others and you simply fill in the gaps with rage.

Wait, so if she had turned him down he would have been justified in killing her?

The beautiful girl simply represented everything that the teen couldn’t get. The steady love and wild sex of a valuable young girl.

Yeah, I think you’re confusing high school with porn again. His rampage lasted roughly a minute and a half. He shot her because she was there.

All the other theories posted on this site seem comical, self-righteous and weirdly off-point. It’s like you’re assessing the situation as an asexual senior citizen or righteous prude.

Not a lot of “prudes” here. Just people who find the “women need to have sex with ‘nice guys’ or these ‘nice gys’ will kill you all” to be a somewhat problematic argument.

Generally men want sex with young thin beauties who validate their existence.

Some men do. But most men, among those who are sexually attracted to women, aren’t as neurotically fixated on this small slice of the female demographic – women in their teens and early twenties who are somehow both virginal and sexually “wild” – as manosphere men seem to be. And most people don’t base their entire  self-worth on whether or not they’re having sex with beautiful people.

Some men prefer women older than them. Some like women who are fat. Plenty of men don’t fixate on a particular physical type and are attracted to all sorts of different women. Believe it or not, whogoesthere, there are lots of men who are more interested in what’s in a woman’s head than they are in whether or not she matches up with some particular checklist of physical attributes.

If society removes all of the social pathways to attaining such a beauty, such as making prostitution illegal, increasing shame for men who seek sex, rewarding females and males called manginas who identify and mock the sex seekers and so on… this will lead to depression in men and all of the behaviors surrounding it, including shootings. Sounds pretty much like a logical line of reasoning to me.

And that’s the problem. It’s not actually a logical line of reasoning at all. It’s more like a sort of blackmail.

Men don’t kill women because they can’t have “the steady love and wild sex of a valuable young girl.” Sometimes men kill women because they feel entitled to have sex with these “valuable young girls” and become bitter and enraged when they can’t find a “valuable young girl” who agrees with them on this particular point.

It’s not the lack of “sexual access” that’s the problem. It’s the notion that your desire for “sexual access” means more than the right of that person to say “no.” It’s the notion that society has done you wrong because you can’t (at least at the moment) get laid. It’s the idea that your desire to have sex with a particular kind of woman somehow trumps the right of other people to live.

I mean, what the fucking fuck.

Oh, by the way, there’s no evidence that the shooter in question – Karl Halverson Pierson – was motivated by sexual frustration. His intended target was the school librarian, who is also the school’s debate coach. Pierson was obsessed with debate, and had some sort of grudge against the coach.

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emilygoddess
emilygoddess
10 years ago

Woody, did you think MRAs had the market cornered on misogyny?

Argenti Aertheri
10 years ago

Katz — for one? No, they spend most of their time sitting around. That is, when they aren’t trying to eat the substrate…not the brightest, definitely not a critter to keep with gravel.

And no, their captive status is pretty peachy, but it feels wrong to take one out of the breeding pool. Also, the labs that breed them seem to be entirely against selling any of them as pets, the idea that yeah, they get bred plenty, because people like them for experiments…probably wouldn’t bother me as much if I wasn’t looking at taking one of the pet ones out of the breeding pool.

Of course, my ideal house would need a completely finished, and large, basement. Because the amount of fish tank water I want would need to be directly on the foundation. (Axolotls, bichirs, a massive loach tank, Puff, freshwater stingrays [that alone would easily be a 5’x5′ footprint], an amazon biome tank, at least one African biome tank…something planted with fish that wouldn’t kill the plants [might risk this one with the axolotl tank])

…and I’m babbling about fish! Completely shocking, I know! >.<

"…You’re one of those guys who’s constantly trying to wheedle free labor out of everyone you know, aren’t you? I can just hear you whining “Why won’t you make a free poster for my band? I thought you did graphic design because you liked it!” (Minus the band part, of course.)"

Lol! "And people like you are why I don't freelance" — the more obnoxious you are, the more it'll cost. I'm doing it as a gift for friends and have mostly free reign? Yep, love web design, enjoy your freebie! Technically an official project but for someone well aware of how web design works and won't be a stick up my ass? You can pay me in stuff, starting with booze when I finish. Pain in my ass? If I need the money enough to tolerate the bullshit, prolly set you back most of a grand, so don't be a pain in my ass! (Tangentially, Pecunium, if you still want to switch to WP.org, drop me an email, I can get it set up and do a design for you in exchange for, oh, idk, pay for a trip to MoMA or something?)

Whining troll boy though? Well, he'd be the kid who asked if I could paint him fighting a lion. "No." "But…" "I'm not doing it"

contrapangloss
10 years ago

Oh, hi, Woody. Fancy seeing you here.

Moving on to more interesting things:

@Robert: that’s kind of hilarious! Didn’t mean human twins, Susan just seemed like a good salamander name, at the time…

I retread, and was a bit surprised that I failed to ever denote that amphibians were being discussed… I can see your confusion. Oh, my!

@Argenti: Keep tank updates coming! Did you ever say what you were thinking of restocking with? Oh, and how’s Puff, btw?

@MarineRachel: Did the ear plug analysis come back interesting? Or do they just make you do the cutting, and keep the resultant data to themselves? Any guesses on age?

Sorry to be all pesters, but whale!

Admittedly, the big worry for me with whale necropsies would be how long they’ve been dead. The internal bacteria just has way, way too much good times, post death. My Marine Mammalogy professor showed us a whole slew of ‘Explosive whale gut!‘ clips… Mostly sperm whales, but a couple humpbacks and an orca thrown in for variety.

I’m with you on the stench factor, though. We did our necropsies at the NOAA facility, and left the bay doors wide open for airflow. I got used to the stench pretty quick; some other people put a ton of Vaseline under their nose.

Have you ever tried that? The PhD’s assisting us silly undergrads swore by it, but I decided stench was better than goop on my face…

Argenti Aertheri
10 years ago

“Given what counts as torture to this guy, maybe not.”

Touché! I suppose not being given everything he’s entitled to NOW, and being denied items of higher than required quality are both torture to him. And leaving him alone to sweat before bringing in milk and cookies? (Or, more likely, water // required meal) Definitely torture. Gods forbid the fool be left alone with his thoughts!

…damn, with him, that’s all it would take. Leave him alone until he’s antsy, ask him pretty much anything, and sit back and take notes. I mean, just look at this thread! Hmm…

So, Und, feminism has helped you, except for that bit where you need money to get laid? Let’s ignore that, mostly because I’m tired of hearing about it and have an actual honest to god feminism related question. If one of you ex’s had, when you were dating, said she was pregnant, you’d have been pleased that abortion’s legal?

Though I guess I should start with — Und, what country are you in anyways?

katz
10 years ago

Katz — for one? No, they spend most of their time sitting around. That is, when they aren’t trying to eat the substrate…not the brightest, definitely not a critter to keep with gravel.

Neat! How soon can you get me one? I bet the cats would love it.

contrapangloss
10 years ago

Oh, hey! Ninja’d by tank plans!

Those tank plans sound amazing. Miniature aquarium of the Americas, in a basement.

Can I live in your basement, and stare at your fish all day and all night, once you get them? I promise not to drop in any mantis shrimps!

Argenti Aertheri
10 years ago

Puff’s a goof who still hasn’t learned that clam shells, and their insides, sink, and he should stop trying to eat them before they hit the bottom! Up to his usual cuteness in other words.

The 55g is getting clown loaches, an elephant nose (FINALLY!!) and synos or upside down catfish. Prolly starting with the catfish, both because they’re the cheapest, and because I want to be POSITIVE the tank is really cycled before I risk anything that’s not catfish level hardy.

All total, I’m looking at dumping the entirety of a month’s “you’re nuts, here’s your state check” into the tanks. The BF might be getting asked to do some buying, since he still owes me…*thinks* eh, at least that much…for his website. (The guy he paid turned out to be incompetent, but had been contracted in stages, so we worked out that I’d save him money and he could pay me half of what was still sitting in the budget for the other guy…at least three times as fast, and a quarter the cost!)

Argenti Aertheri
10 years ago

Lol! No mantis shrimp! No! Bad sonic booms!

That was my ideal land setup though, the reality is in my last comment.

Katz — breed you one? Probably not this year. Not once you account for getting a tank big enough for two and then the actual breeding. Sorry.

Your interest tells me I’d have takers on aquarist forums though, so w00t for that!

Unimaginative
10 years ago

Of course, my ideal house would need a completely finished, and large, basement. Because the amount of fish tank water I want would need to be directly on the foundation. (Axolotls, bichirs, a massive loach tank, Puff, freshwater stingrays [that alone would easily be a 5’x5′ footprint], an amazon biome tank, at least one African biome tank…something planted with fish that wouldn’t kill the plants [might risk this one with the axolotl tank])

Anyone else feeling an urge to start a kickstarter for Argenti to build zir own bio dome?

Fibinachi
10 years ago

Lol! No mantis shrimp! No! Bad sonic booms!

Yeah. Any tiny creature that can create cavitation bubbles just by punching is probably one you want somewhere other than your aquarium.

Unimaginative
10 years ago

I’m MADLY curious to see what kinds of colours mantis shrimp can see, though.

I can remember reading a sci-fi story when I was a ‘tween in which humans were under the rule of an alien species that were colour blind. The day was saved because there was some super-fuel (necessary for interstellar travel) that had a unique colour, and only the humans could see it. FREEDOM!

undfreeland
undfreeland
10 years ago

@aerginti aerthi, pleased wouldn’t even begin to describe my feelings. Elated and grateful that it’s legal.
I live in the United States, in Texas, where unfortunately, such rights necessary to the functioning of modern society are under attack. I’m confident things will work out in the end though.

Isabelle
Isabelle
10 years ago

‘ I got used to the stench pretty quick; some other people put a ton of Vaseline under their nose.”

For the real stinky stuff that sometimes I had to deal with the farm: Vicks Vaporub under the nose. So far, its what works the best.

Its beside the point, but I cant reconciliate that the dogs which have a sense of smell so superior to mine persist in rolling in all things stinky. Last week the last offender rolled herself in some fish guts left by a fisherman. It was a hot day and I had to put up with “Eau de Dead Fish” all the way back home. And then of course, epic fight in the bathtub to avoid being shampooed. We only agree about skunk smell.

Flying Mouse
Flying Mouse
10 years ago

Oh, drat – I go do some clean-out-the-fridge cooking with the little ones and miss Woody. Atta boy, buddy! You said nothing of any import, but you did put us one post closer to the 2K mark.

@Argenti – Holy sloth, I had forgotten all about that “entire season of clip shows” story arc in “Naruto.” Mr. FM actually sat through all of them. He’s the type of guy who sees stuff through, no matter how painful it might be. The good news is that if you decide to skip them, you’ll miss nothing (according to Mr. FM, anyway). I think he’s currently somewhere in the late 400’s, episode number wise, and says he’s pleased with how the plot’s advancing.

katz
10 years ago

Its beside the point, but I cant reconciliate that the dogs which have a sense of smell so superior to mine persist in rolling in all things stinky.

I’ve wondered about that too. It seems like strong smells ought to knock a dog out.

contrapangloss
10 years ago

Re: Dogs.

There’s just got to be something different in the way their olfactory system is set up and hooked up in the brain. I wish I actually knew.

Silly-dog thing: we always joked about he pups having to check their pee-mail on walks.

Robert
Robert
10 years ago

I think roll in stink smells are to dogs what fireworks are to humans. We get so much of our information about the world via sight, and we take advantage of that for our own pleasure. No useful info is being communicated, yet we can enjoy the stimulus. Sort of like how our senses of taste and smell were evolved to help us identify wholesome and necessary nutrition, and now we use them to enjoy potato chips and chocolate.

I regularly use a device called a Dreamachine for the same purpose. It’s been called the only art object intended to be viewed with closed eyes.

Alex
10 years ago

@kittehserf,

She’s a black swallowtail! I raised her (among others) myself after I found her as a caterpillar in my grandmother’s dill! Then when when she finally emerged from her pupal stage, I took her outside, put her on one of the zinnia flowers and took a bunch of pictures before she flew away. This one’s my favourite. 😀 The females have small yellow spots while males have yellow stripes. Also the females have more blue on their bottom wings than the males do.

weirwoodtreehugger
10 years ago

One of my childhood used to love to roll around in dirt. She was always filthy. She spend part of the day inside and part of it outside. She’d cover herself in dirt during her first trip outside. Then she’d leave her fur dirty all day and bathe at night when she was finished being outside. It was so weird since most cats prefer to be clean. Dracarys gives herself a full bath every time I touch her with my gross human hands!

I think it might have been because Bijou was a grey and tan calico but actually mostly white. She might have wanted camo. Or she just liked being dirty for some reason.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

Those axolotl things look like the wandered right out of a Miyazaki movie. So cute! But not quite real looking. How is that a real creature? It’s like the catbus.

kittehserf
10 years ago

Oh, the painfully deprived life of the shorter man! Why wasn’t I born like my brother, handsome and tall? Bring me my vodka and porn!

@Robert, LOL!

He died around breeding season and was found and frozen fast so he didn’t stink of decomposition, much. He still stunk to high heavens. Washed my lab clothes more than three times, and the still reeked of the petroleum-y seal musk.

@Contrapangloss, that reminds me of the one sea mammal I had to deal with when I worked at the museum – a baby dolphin that had washed up. It was, shall we say, not fresh when brought in. I had to wear a full gas mask to deal with it; the ammonia stench was overwhelming. I was pretty used to dead animal pongs by then – my job was clearing out the freezer of all the specimens Mammalogy had in there – but that one, eww.

@marinerachel, oh gods yes, whale stink! I’m glad I wasn’t involved in preparing the whale skeleton (it was before I worked in that section). The guys had to take it to the sewerage ponds to let it rot away, then bring it back to dry out on the Museum roof … and they burned the clothes they wore, eventually, because there was no getting the stench out. You could smell them coming a mile off.

Its beside the point, but I cant reconciliate that the dogs which have a sense of smell so superior to mine persist in rolling in all things stinky. Last week the last offender rolled herself in some fish guts left by a fisherman. It was a hot day and I had to put up with “Eau de Dead Fish” all the way back home. And then of course, epic fight in the bathtub to avoid being shampooed. We only agree about skunk smell.

@Isabell, ROFL!

@Alex, whoa, cool! Not only a beautiful butterfly but one you raised!

katz
10 years ago

Every time there’s a trollsplosion I think of exploding whales. It sure resembles being covered in decomposing viscera.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

So what you’re saying is that PUA Hate is a decomposing corpse that exploded all over us. Sounds about right.

kittehserf
10 years ago

Best comparison ever, katz.

I see there’s a troll even more boring than crustyunderwear on the other threads. I think I’ll stick with marine biology rather than wade in among the stats and fake stats.

piratejennie
10 years ago

Whoa, Woody. Late to the game, but no matter.

Don’t worry some day you’ll be a real boy.

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