Sometimes I hunt the misogyny, sometimes it wanders up right up to me and says hello.
Today’s post is an example of the latter. Below, a slightly edited comment that someone left for me this morning. It’s a response to a post of mine about a dreadful post on Return of Kings in which a fellow calling himself Billy Chubbs argued, with absolutely no evidence, that a recent high school shooter was driven to murder because of his “probable sexual frustration,” Chubbs went on to argue that young women are “selfish” because they don’t have sex with guys they’re not attracted to.
Anyway, my new commenter – posting under the name “whogoesthere?” – thinks that I and the other commenters here were being too hard on Chubbs’ “very good argument.” And so he deposited this giant rant, which in many ways is even scarier than Chubbs’ original.
He’s a tad verbose, so I’ve trimmed out some stuff that isn’t relevant to his general, er, thesis. And I’ve also taken the liberty of adding a few paragraph breaks and bolding a few of the best (i.e. worst) bits.
When men don’t get the women they want they turn to violence.
Not a good start here, because this just isn’t true. In this case, the phrase “not all men” is, for once, appropriate. Most men don’t get violent when they’re turned down.
This is established all over the animal kingdom and offers a good example about how it applies to humans, that snotty girls who keep their sexual treasures to all but a few males cause the remaining males to snap. …
Animals do all sorts of things that humans don’t do, and we can’t always learn from their behavior or assume that it relates to our own lives.
Or maybe the Evo Psych crew is just looking at the wrong animals. When banana slugs can’t find a partner to have sex with, they simply fertilize themselves. There’s a lesson here, I think, for the angry incels of the world: you can’t always get what you want, and when you can’t, sex with yourself is better than murder.
High school is a massively sexually charged winner take all environment. … Today’s high school is basically an ongoing audition for a porno video and the guys and girls who don’t make the cut can only sit at home and masturbate.
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It’s demeaning and hits a major blow to a person’s sexual identity to not be invited to frolic with the beautiful people.
Somehow most people, regardless of gender, manage to survive even if they’re not frolicking with Charlize Theron and/or Channing Tatum.
I’m sorry but almost no men go on wild shooting rampages if they have a beautiful female in their keep.
In their keep?! Also, no. Charles Manson was surrounded by beautiful young women. Yet he orchestrated multiple grisly murders.
The only guys that do so are bank robbers and thieves, generally guys at a later stage of life more fixated on money.
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Human beings naturally assess the amount of sex going around them and judge themselves in relationship to the amount and type of sex others are getting.
You know, you can’t actually tell how much and what kind of sex someone is having just by looking at them. Yes, there will always be people in the world having more sex with you. And some of these people are having sex with people you would probably like to have sex with. There are also people who are smarter than you, funnier than you, who can play chess or kickbox better than you, who have hundreds or thousands of times more money than you do.
That’s life. Life isn’t fair.
This makes sense because from a reproductive standpoint sex is coveted, and sex with beautiful thin, young women are the most coveted. Being the first to spoil these young women sexually is viewed reproductively as a guarantee of parentage, thus this is why males instinctively covet and burn with passion for these females.
Ah, yes, it was only a matter of time until the creepy pedo-justifying Evo Psych assfacts made their appearance. Not all men “burn with passion” in their pants for virginal high school girls.
This is why we have “morality” which is in its essence is a promise not to flaunt or indulge in sex moreso than the lowest man or woman in your tribe. This is what is meant when people say “morality went out the window.” They mean someone with more sexual prowess is openly indulging in sex and broadcasting it to stimulate the jealousy of the underclasses.
I’m pretty sure that’s not what people mean when they say “morality went out the window.”
This teen killed people cause he thought that beautiful girls were out of reach. The high school environment merely rubbed it in his face. Yes drugs to treat ADD might’ve eroded many of the impulse control functions in the teen, but the rage against the high school was still the gasoline.
[citation needed]
He might’ve had a picture or two taken with a girl next to him, but oftentimes those high school girls lie and simply eat up the male’s offerings without granting sexual access, but grant it to a random stud.
How dare young women choose who to have sex with, and who not to!
I’m not saying the girl he killed deserved it, it’s only that when you are in that frame of mind you cannot tell who is having more sex than others and you simply fill in the gaps with rage.
Wait, so if she had turned him down he would have been justified in killing her?
The beautiful girl simply represented everything that the teen couldn’t get. The steady love and wild sex of a valuable young girl.
Yeah, I think you’re confusing high school with porn again. His rampage lasted roughly a minute and a half. He shot her because she was there.
All the other theories posted on this site seem comical, self-righteous and weirdly off-point. It’s like you’re assessing the situation as an asexual senior citizen or righteous prude.
Not a lot of “prudes” here. Just people who find the “women need to have sex with ‘nice guys’ or these ‘nice gys’ will kill you all” to be a somewhat problematic argument.
Generally men want sex with young thin beauties who validate their existence.
Some men do. But most men, among those who are sexually attracted to women, aren’t as neurotically fixated on this small slice of the female demographic – women in their teens and early twenties who are somehow both virginal and sexually “wild” – as manosphere men seem to be. And most people don’t base their entire self-worth on whether or not they’re having sex with beautiful people.
Some men prefer women older than them. Some like women who are fat. Plenty of men don’t fixate on a particular physical type and are attracted to all sorts of different women. Believe it or not, whogoesthere, there are lots of men who are more interested in what’s in a woman’s head than they are in whether or not she matches up with some particular checklist of physical attributes.
If society removes all of the social pathways to attaining such a beauty, such as making prostitution illegal, increasing shame for men who seek sex, rewarding females and males called manginas who identify and mock the sex seekers and so on… this will lead to depression in men and all of the behaviors surrounding it, including shootings. Sounds pretty much like a logical line of reasoning to me.
And that’s the problem. It’s not actually a logical line of reasoning at all. It’s more like a sort of blackmail.
Men don’t kill women because they can’t have “the steady love and wild sex of a valuable young girl.” Sometimes men kill women because they feel entitled to have sex with these “valuable young girls” and become bitter and enraged when they can’t find a “valuable young girl” who agrees with them on this particular point.
It’s not the lack of “sexual access” that’s the problem. It’s the notion that your desire for “sexual access” means more than the right of that person to say “no.” It’s the notion that society has done you wrong because you can’t (at least at the moment) get laid. It’s the idea that your desire to have sex with a particular kind of woman somehow trumps the right of other people to live.
I mean, what the fucking fuck.
Oh, by the way, there’s no evidence that the shooter in question – Karl Halverson Pierson – was motivated by sexual frustration. His intended target was the school librarian, who is also the school’s debate coach. Pierson was obsessed with debate, and had some sort of grudge against the coach.
“questionably shitty things that are more fun than troll boy’s ever had”
So, not so much shitty as really really hilarious, but possibly more fun than our troll has had.
My friend and I attempted to make a vegan birthday cake for another friend, but as we didn’t know what we were doing the first time, we ended up not cooking it for long enough, and the entire bottom and middle of the cake fell out when we tried to put it on the plate. This ended up being a pretty delicious mistake as we couldn’t let the middle go to waste, because: Cake!!
We tried again, and the second cake went better. Also, we saved some of the first one, so our friend ended up with a cake and an unexplained box of neatly cut and iced cake bits, and we ended up full of gooey cake batter. Mmmmmmm …
I think I might have worked out what’s going on with Undies.
He really does just want to spend all day every day for the rest of his life at home playing video games, watching porn, drinking and getting high. But if he admits to himself that’s all he wants he’ll feel like a failure, so he first creates a goal scenario in which he would feel happy and successful, then creates a reality in which it would be completely impossible for it to happen no matter how hard he tried.
So then he can continue doing what he wants, without any pesky twinges of guilt/failure.
Why here’s come here to try to convince us of his alternate reality, I have no idea. That is a bit of a hole in my theory.
katz, that’s a stunning video, I love it.
Strikes me that underpants is not in the bracket of having trust issues because he’s been betrayed or abused – a horribly common situation – but because he doesn’t give a shit about other people’s feelings, doesn’t seem to think anyone else is really alive, doesn’t have a problem treating people badly, and thinks everyone else is the same as he is, ergo they might treat his precious self the same way.
I’d have sympathy for him if it were the former, not just because of the issues but because that very attitude was a big part of someone very dear to me.* But the latter? Nope, stuff him.
*You’ll never guess who.**
** How the heck did you guess?
Very possible! It’s been awhile since I’ve purchased new toys come to think of it. The mouse with a Velcro stomach pouch for catnip (his favorite toy) has gone missing and I can’t remember the last time I opened a can of tuna. *hangs head in shame*
There, you see? You have been failing as a Good Servant. ::shakes head sadly::
Unrelated note, just spent an hour on the phone with my sister. So many lols!
@pacunium, Oh so now you want to brag about having more sex partners than me. How feminist! Jesus. This guy is an admitted torturer for Western Capitalism, and yet you accept him amongst your ranks. As long as he toes the party line, right?
I recognize that what you have done is necessary to maintain our way of life, but you are not a good person just because you can rationalize it to yourself.
The men I’ve known who were the most successful at having sex with attractive women, were the most insincere people I’ve ever encountered, and they certainly did not have anything in common with those women. Unless those women were really into pumping and dumping.
Oh yeah, and you’ve got multiple sex partners who are perfectly okay with the arrangement. And an adoring, beautiful wife. And a number of hobbies impossible to maintain with a full time job. And I”m the one lying about my life.
@shriaz, oh yeah, 13 sexual partners by the age of 25 is so unrealistic. Downright Herculean. All I intended to show was that I have had sex, unlike this forums odd notion that there’s some kind of feminist litmus test before a women will let you have sex with her.
Peace and love ya’ll.
“True enlightenment is rarely photogenic.”
If your notions of what is right and just line up with reality, then you are truly a fool.
Happy Birthday kittehs!
@Kim: That’s a vey plausible theory. It’s so sad when slackers just can’t admit they like being slackers, and would like to continue being slackers for the rest of their lives. Would make their lives so much better.
I know a few slackers, people who get a job that pays just enough for them to continue their lifestyle of drinking booze, smoking weed and playing video games and stuff, and they’re some of the most laid-back people I know. Not shining examples of what humanity could be, certainly, but decent enough people, because they’re comfortable in their own skin. It’s so cute that some of them are even in a relationship with another slacker. Slackers make the cutest couples.
@kittehserf: Happy birthday!
Thanks for the birthday wishes, folks!
“The men I’ve known who were the most successful at having sex with attractive women, were the most insincere people I’ve ever encountered, and they certainly did not have anything in common with those women. Unless those women were really into pumping and dumping….”
The term “pump n’ dump” is quite interesting, for when used by PUA gurus like Roosh V (quite possibly the one who invented it) it’s sounds like the man uses the woman an then throws her away, when in reality, they were just having a one night stand and then parted ways. In Rooshs short stories, every time he hooks up with a woman, alcohol is almost always invovled, an in many cases he actually mentions that he wanted to be able to atleast bang her one more time, but she flakes on him and never calls back. Yes, she still another pump n’ dump. It’s an odd, hostile way to view someohe who didn’t anything other than give you what you wanted in the first place.
Unfreeland; i’m really curious, out of these 13 women you slept with, how often was alcohol invovled?
Dude, hobbies aren’t impossible. Do a few at a time. Stress relief!
While taking 21 credits, I held down a part time job, went hiking, volunteered as an EMT (still doing that!), did watercolors, took photos (great sucess with eagles, the harbor seals were a bit tricky…), went tide pooling, volunteered as a scene support firefighter (one step down from real firefighter: I can play with the toys (and even do nozzle on wildland burns!) but not trained/qualified to pump or enter burning structures.
Currently job hunting, bust still doing the volunteering. In the past, I’ve worked as a plant pathology lab tech, tutored math, gotten a black-belt in Taekwon-do, fenced, built functional boats with noting but duct tape, old construction debris, and my wits, assisted at horses foalings, learned to ride horses, trained a little girl to ride a particularly silly (but clever) horse, assisted with tearing a roof off a house and building a second floor, monkeyed around on scaffolding, learned to weld, and (my personal favorite) my sister and I soldered half of my grandpa’s water system when we were tiny! We had fewer leaks than our uncles half, even though he was the professional engineer. 🙂 I also play piano, tenor sax, and flute. Played bells in a bell-choir for a bit, two. I would either take the really big ones (to show that short people could swing the big ones, too) or the dinky ones (because you’d be responsible for between 8-10 notes, and have six bells in hand at any given time.
Yep.
I’ve done other stuff, too!
You can do a lot with your life, if you live it. Not everything at once, just a few. But a few new things every couple years builds up pretty fast.
You can do a lot of it cheaply, too. Duct tape boats? Six rolls of duct tape and a decent local scrapyard. Learning to play an instrument? Little keyboards can cost less than 50, if you hunt the right places. Sound awful, but cheap! Most lesson giving places rent instruments, and if you buy books and self teach while renting, it’s pretty affordable (unless you go to a shop that gouges… Look for one that rents instruments to elementary schools. Cheapest). Fencing? Way cheaper than it sounds, did it through the university while in high school. Called it PE. EMT? Find a volunteer department, ask them how to get hooked up with classes. Some departments will even sponsor you, so you don’t pay a dime.
Horses? Find a ranch. Offer to muck out the stalls every single morning when the horses get fed. Fix things. Be nice to the ponies. Get the owner’s trust and good will through gentleness with critters and work ethic.
Chances are, you’ll still have to pay for lessons, but a really reduced price for all your labor. You might score free lessons, after a bit!
Building houses? Habitat for Humanity in the US almost always needs more volunteers. They buy materials, too, and you get some on the job lessons. They won’t let you do wiring, but there’s a lot of other things that go into building a house.
If you want to do something, figure out how to do it.
You only get one life.
Use it.
If you can’t tolerate physical activity, there are still things to do. Books to read, things to sketch, books to write, birds to watch…
Not that there’s anything wrong with being a ‘slacker’, and being content working just enough to keep fed. If slacking makes you happy, and you’re content, way to go! Enjoy!
Did do a couple months as a slacker, once upon a time, myself. Just books, a couch, no job, no school…
It wasn’t for me. 🙁 I’ve seen really happy slackers, and they’re really nice, awesome folks, generally.
Obviously I am in a mood of unbelievable sincerity, but in a way, I’m grateful to undfreeland. After a while he stopped being funny and just made me sad as I really got a sense of how impoverished his life was. Most of our trolls at least have hobbies or careers or friends or something. But then he made me think about my own life and how special it is and how even the most ordinary parts are things that not everyone has, and that some people don’t even understand why I would want that. And that makes me grateful.
/sincerity
This is an interesting critique from someone who is waiting for family members to die so that he can use personal wealth to exploit the Western capitalist financial markets. It’s all peaches as long as you don’t get your hands dirty, amiright? Such moral high ground!
Also, I’m disappointed that und totally missed a chance to throw out a cliche about women. Of course pecunium has had a ton of girlfriends, chicks go crazy for a guy in uniform! Especially conservative one, and everyone knows they’re the real hotties.
I love the way undies thinks it’s impossible to have so many interests/pastimes while holding a full-time job. Oh, the assumptions there!
It’s even funnier that he’s waxing indignant that he’s been called out for the liar he is, while we believe a long-term, regular member who some of us have actually met. Poooor little trolly.
The thing is that some of us have actually met Pecunium and have visited that at least some parts of his life are true.
The discussion of pump and dump reminds me of a Reddit TeRPer who referred to his maybe real sexual encounters as draining his balls. I guess he thought it was sort of sexy sounding with some swagger and a strong misogyny vibe, and he didn’t notice how it actually sounds like an unfortunate and decidedly uncool medical procedure.
This would probably freak the misters out a ton (& maybe some regulars, hope not), but when I saw “pump and dump” I thought of something entirely different. This is what breastfeeding moms are told to do for a time if they need to take medicine or something that the baby shouldn’t have. This way, hopefully, milk production stays high and baby doesn’t get bad stuff
Yes, undiesonhis head, people who enjoy casual sex tend to have that sex with partners who are also into commitment free sex. You would see those women as somehow being used, though. You haven’t figured out yet that women like sex. Well, they like sex with lovers who are good, giving and game. That’s not you, so…yeah.
You know those men were fake how? I thought people were unknowable mysteries?
You sound jealous and you sound bitter. Projection doesn’t look good on anyone.
Pumnped and dumped sounds like your sorry tales of being left without goodbyes or forwarding addresses. You’ve been saying you felt used (in fact you look forward to having something of value so that you can be used again) and that even women you think are beneath you or who you think “adore” you, don’t stick around. It isn’t hard to read your beads. You’re transparently pathetic.
You brought up you lover count as if it was a score. Someone pointed out that they weren’t impressed. You then accused him of bragging. That’s so stupid. Silly kid. It isn’t a score and bragging about it online is like bragging about your IQ, bank account or dick size. It’s something insecure, immature people do. It’s also something easily lied about and you’ve admitted to being entirely dishonest.
You’re a bore, kid. You’re an ignorant, shallow, horrible little bore and the speech from The Boys in the Band is so spot on perfect for you.
See, you are not a new breed. You’re the same old obnoxious, entitled, douche that has been around for ages.
BTW, if you think interrogation is about torture, you’r doing it wrong. It’s about developing rapport. Torture is not a good way to get accurate information. Mark that down as one more thing you know nothing about.
So far you’ve ignored several questions. All me to repeat a couple.
How old are you?
Of those 13 unlucky women you’ve had sexual encounters with, how many of those encounters involved alcohol?
It’s still cracking me up that undies thinks conservative women are the hottest. I guess it’s a matter of taste? He claims to be a liberal but appears to have the same taste in women as old conservative men. I’ve seen the women they hire to go on Fox News. They all look like former pageant contestants. Which is to say, very attractive but in a bland way. There’s nothing wrong with being into that but IME liberal guys prefer or at least are open to tattoos, short or unconventionally colored or styled hair, quirky fashion sense etc.
It’s still cracking me up that trolly thinks he’s the most liberal to have ever liberaled when he has none of the personality traits I’m used to seeing from liberals.
Skye,
I thought of that too.
🙂
*allow*
Random facts: The male strap-toothed whale has teeth that grow so long that they encircle its mouth, limiting how wide it can open. Nobody knows why.
I think he said he was 25 in his last comment? I was hoping he was about 19 or 20. 25 is old enough to grow up and realize women are people too. A lot of high school and college guys buy into the nice guys don’t get laid because women like assholes crap.
I contend that both can laid. I think that for both genders attracting people has a lot more to do with social skills than being nice/not nice. Assholes with social skills can indeed find many partners. We’ve all seen it. Assholes without social skills? Not so much. On the other hand, nice men with social skills attract so many women. I’d say even more than the socially skill assholes do.
I had more than 13 sexual partners at 25. I don’t say that to brag. I don’t think number of sexual partners determines your value as a person. I say that to point out that when you’re perpetually single or have short relationships, are open to casual sex and go to places where there’s lots of alcohol, it isn’t that hard to rack up sexual partners.
I’m sure I don’t count in undies mind because I’m a women and I’m supposed to have an array of suitors. But I’ve been around the block and observed plenty and don’t have the tunnel vision he does. Too bad he won’t listen to us.
Fun fact that relates to mating: barnacles have the largest penis relative to body size.