Sometimes I hunt the misogyny, sometimes it wanders up right up to me and says hello.
Today’s post is an example of the latter. Below, a slightly edited comment that someone left for me this morning. It’s a response to a post of mine about a dreadful post on Return of Kings in which a fellow calling himself Billy Chubbs argued, with absolutely no evidence, that a recent high school shooter was driven to murder because of his “probable sexual frustration,” Chubbs went on to argue that young women are “selfish” because they don’t have sex with guys they’re not attracted to.
Anyway, my new commenter – posting under the name “whogoesthere?” – thinks that I and the other commenters here were being too hard on Chubbs’ “very good argument.” And so he deposited this giant rant, which in many ways is even scarier than Chubbs’ original.
He’s a tad verbose, so I’ve trimmed out some stuff that isn’t relevant to his general, er, thesis. And I’ve also taken the liberty of adding a few paragraph breaks and bolding a few of the best (i.e. worst) bits.
When men don’t get the women they want they turn to violence.
Not a good start here, because this just isn’t true. In this case, the phrase “not all men” is, for once, appropriate. Most men don’t get violent when they’re turned down.
This is established all over the animal kingdom and offers a good example about how it applies to humans, that snotty girls who keep their sexual treasures to all but a few males cause the remaining males to snap. …
Animals do all sorts of things that humans don’t do, and we can’t always learn from their behavior or assume that it relates to our own lives.
Or maybe the Evo Psych crew is just looking at the wrong animals. When banana slugs can’t find a partner to have sex with, they simply fertilize themselves. There’s a lesson here, I think, for the angry incels of the world: you can’t always get what you want, and when you can’t, sex with yourself is better than murder.
High school is a massively sexually charged winner take all environment. … Today’s high school is basically an ongoing audition for a porno video and the guys and girls who don’t make the cut can only sit at home and masturbate.
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It’s demeaning and hits a major blow to a person’s sexual identity to not be invited to frolic with the beautiful people.
Somehow most people, regardless of gender, manage to survive even if they’re not frolicking with Charlize Theron and/or Channing Tatum.
I’m sorry but almost no men go on wild shooting rampages if they have a beautiful female in their keep.
In their keep?! Also, no. Charles Manson was surrounded by beautiful young women. Yet he orchestrated multiple grisly murders.
The only guys that do so are bank robbers and thieves, generally guys at a later stage of life more fixated on money.
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Human beings naturally assess the amount of sex going around them and judge themselves in relationship to the amount and type of sex others are getting.
You know, you can’t actually tell how much and what kind of sex someone is having just by looking at them. Yes, there will always be people in the world having more sex with you. And some of these people are having sex with people you would probably like to have sex with. There are also people who are smarter than you, funnier than you, who can play chess or kickbox better than you, who have hundreds or thousands of times more money than you do.
That’s life. Life isn’t fair.
This makes sense because from a reproductive standpoint sex is coveted, and sex with beautiful thin, young women are the most coveted. Being the first to spoil these young women sexually is viewed reproductively as a guarantee of parentage, thus this is why males instinctively covet and burn with passion for these females.
Ah, yes, it was only a matter of time until the creepy pedo-justifying Evo Psych assfacts made their appearance. Not all men “burn with passion” in their pants for virginal high school girls.
This is why we have “morality” which is in its essence is a promise not to flaunt or indulge in sex moreso than the lowest man or woman in your tribe. This is what is meant when people say “morality went out the window.” They mean someone with more sexual prowess is openly indulging in sex and broadcasting it to stimulate the jealousy of the underclasses.
I’m pretty sure that’s not what people mean when they say “morality went out the window.”
This teen killed people cause he thought that beautiful girls were out of reach. The high school environment merely rubbed it in his face. Yes drugs to treat ADD might’ve eroded many of the impulse control functions in the teen, but the rage against the high school was still the gasoline.
[citation needed]
He might’ve had a picture or two taken with a girl next to him, but oftentimes those high school girls lie and simply eat up the male’s offerings without granting sexual access, but grant it to a random stud.
How dare young women choose who to have sex with, and who not to!
I’m not saying the girl he killed deserved it, it’s only that when you are in that frame of mind you cannot tell who is having more sex than others and you simply fill in the gaps with rage.
Wait, so if she had turned him down he would have been justified in killing her?
The beautiful girl simply represented everything that the teen couldn’t get. The steady love and wild sex of a valuable young girl.
Yeah, I think you’re confusing high school with porn again. His rampage lasted roughly a minute and a half. He shot her because she was there.
All the other theories posted on this site seem comical, self-righteous and weirdly off-point. It’s like you’re assessing the situation as an asexual senior citizen or righteous prude.
Not a lot of “prudes” here. Just people who find the “women need to have sex with ‘nice guys’ or these ‘nice gys’ will kill you all” to be a somewhat problematic argument.
Generally men want sex with young thin beauties who validate their existence.
Some men do. But most men, among those who are sexually attracted to women, aren’t as neurotically fixated on this small slice of the female demographic – women in their teens and early twenties who are somehow both virginal and sexually “wild” – as manosphere men seem to be. And most people don’t base their entire self-worth on whether or not they’re having sex with beautiful people.
Some men prefer women older than them. Some like women who are fat. Plenty of men don’t fixate on a particular physical type and are attracted to all sorts of different women. Believe it or not, whogoesthere, there are lots of men who are more interested in what’s in a woman’s head than they are in whether or not she matches up with some particular checklist of physical attributes.
If society removes all of the social pathways to attaining such a beauty, such as making prostitution illegal, increasing shame for men who seek sex, rewarding females and males called manginas who identify and mock the sex seekers and so on… this will lead to depression in men and all of the behaviors surrounding it, including shootings. Sounds pretty much like a logical line of reasoning to me.
And that’s the problem. It’s not actually a logical line of reasoning at all. It’s more like a sort of blackmail.
Men don’t kill women because they can’t have “the steady love and wild sex of a valuable young girl.” Sometimes men kill women because they feel entitled to have sex with these “valuable young girls” and become bitter and enraged when they can’t find a “valuable young girl” who agrees with them on this particular point.
It’s not the lack of “sexual access” that’s the problem. It’s the notion that your desire for “sexual access” means more than the right of that person to say “no.” It’s the notion that society has done you wrong because you can’t (at least at the moment) get laid. It’s the idea that your desire to have sex with a particular kind of woman somehow trumps the right of other people to live.
I mean, what the fucking fuck.
Oh, by the way, there’s no evidence that the shooter in question – Karl Halverson Pierson – was motivated by sexual frustration. His intended target was the school librarian, who is also the school’s debate coach. Pierson was obsessed with debate, and had some sort of grudge against the coach.
Especially since the reason you’re saving up is to buy plenty of porn and HB10s in your old age. Women won’t exactly line up just to keep your bed warm until your ship comes in.
To Kittehs, LBT, etc talking about summer food: cold sesame noodles got me through a chunk of last summer. You do have to cook the noodles initially, but the dish is served cold, it’s pretty filling, and it keeps well.
I also enjoy deli meat sandwiches in the summer.
It’s finally hot enough here that I have to start eating my dinners in the locker room at work again. The break room is the one spot in the building that’s consistently NOT air conditioned.
Adding Minneapolis/St Paul to the list of cities with lots of beautiful young liberal women. We have a huge state university and several private universities and colleges after all. I doubt any of them would be interested in Undies so I hope he doesn’t come crawling out of the old confederacy to try and pull ladies.
He still hasn’t explained why spending money on furniture is materialistic and spending money on video games isn’t.
I switch to eating a lot of liquid meals in the summer.
No! Not like that!
Literally any kind of fruit smoothie, and add extra ice. Ice ice ice. Ice is my friend. Ice is my only friend.
Last year I actually broke down and bought an air conditioner.
RE: emilygoddess
I’ll have to look around for those sesame noodles! I know my roommate does soba noodles sometimes, so that’ll be yummy. I already eat enough sandwiches as it is and probably should not eat more.
Happy birthday Kittehs!
Did you know there’s a Ray Harryhausen documentary available to stream on Netflix? I’m sure you could get the disc delivered, but who does that any more?
I haven’t really watched any of his movies, but I watched that documentary and I was blown away. The effects were pretty seamless.
He did it all himself, up until Clash of the Titans, when there was a second animation unit involved.
His dad made a lot of his early armatures, even for the feature films.
And holy shit that’s Tom Baker ordering Kali around.
Also, I think the influence of Harryhausen on Dungeons & Dragons is pretty undeniable.
Who would have thought that a post on creepy comments would have attracted an actual creep to make even more creepier comments. Good show unfreeland, good show!
Tom Baker was cast as Doctor Who on the basis of that performance.
It was a big gamble on the part of the producers, because he was the first Doctor who was to all intents and purposes totally unknown (William Hartnell and Patrick Troughton were well-established character actors, Jon Pertwee a bona fide star, but can you name who played the villain in any other Ray Harryhausen film without cheating?), but it paid off spectacularly.
Undies: @pecunium, no contradiction in my definition of bliss. A month hardly meets the standard of a long period of time that I set, and her habit of “marking” me in ways I would have to make up excuses for during the Sadi-masochistic stuff she enjoyed hardly meet the standard of uncomplicated that I set.
Nope. You just maintained “consistency” by 1: moving the goalposts (you initially said, as quoted, you “couldn’t imagine” such bliss. QED, by your own words ab initio, you had all the experience needed to imagine such a thing.
2: Introducing new factors to the definition of “bliss” which weren’t present in the initial hypothesis. Suddenly the best month of your life wasn’t so good.
which is 3: Yet another inconsistency.
You see, boyo, the thing you have to remember is that we don’t live in your head. We are discrete and separate entities, as such all we have to work with is the words you give us.* Since all we have is those word, those words have to be consistent.
That YOU have some set of consistent ideas/facts/understandings of your person, your past and your desires doesn’t mean a thing to us. What you need is to present a consistent present.
You’ve failed. That you can’t manage it, when the word are written down, and you have all the time you like to keep the story straight, is why I don’t think you are so good at hiding your inner contempt for others, and your core distaste for women (exemplified by your desire to gain their affections; so that they adore you, and discard them as soon as you think their beauty faded. Which is what you have accused the Engineer of doing. The difference being you see it as just fine for you, and paint it as shallow, and somewhat cruel in her).
IMO, that distaste is why the women don’t (and won’t) line up at your door. You reek of it.
*I’m beginning to wonder about the theory of mind brought up earlier
Yet another example of an older dude dating younger chicks. On this very forum. And ya’ll act like that’s so unrealistic.
Being the older dude in question. Nope. What’s unrealistic is the way you think it will happen. It wasn’t money that caused her to be interested. It was that we had interests in common, and I was willing to share hers.
I already told the story of how we got together. I left out the sitting up talking, and going hiking, and the camping trip to Joshua Tree, and the hours spent talking to her while I was TDY in Korea (and I mean hours: the phone bill was obscene), or the letters I wrote explaining that I was going to Korea (it was short notice, and she was incommunicado, seeing one of her other lovers) etc.
So you, my Mr. Shallow in Short Pants, would have written her off; even though, as a Quaker, she is pretty much not a big one for materialism (she and her husband have an apple farm now… but I doubt she’d call the string of degrees she earned wasted; and some of it applies to the things she does now).
I find it funny (though far from consistent) that you won’t settle down with a partner (NB, I didn’t say one person) because “the pretty one’s are all materialist”, but your “plan” for life is to get a lot of money and wave it at the “hot chicks”.
Again, the common thread in the disappointments of your life, is you.
I do have an amazing life. The poppies are blooming, my coffee shop makes a killer latte and my wife was helping me whack forsythia yesterday. Our neighbor came out to join us, and I got to hold his month old child as they worked and the baby slept. We took turns, so no one got too tired from holding the child, nor too worn out from reducing the branches to pieces small enough to go in the bag.
You wouldn’t have enjoyed any of it. Too “boring”. Me, I loved every minute of it (well, ok, the mosquito bite sort of sucked, and the juniper crud in my finger sort of sucked, but the overall was great). Tonight we have company, and I’ll cook. I’ll wash some dishes, repot an orchid, spin some yarn, etc.
You, will wonder why the hot babes aren’t flocking to you.
Again, I don’t worry about it, because I don’t worry about it. So some pretty interesting women express interest in me. I and I in them. Sometimes I reject them. Sometimes they reject me. Sometimes we agree this is a good idea. And we have fun together.
It’s a pretty good life.
WWTH: He still hasn’t explained why spending money on furniture is materialistic and spending money on video games isn’t.
You use the video games for a long time. The furniture, just wears out. Anyway, if you get a couch… you’re only using the part you sit on, the rest is wasted. So you have to invite people over, which just causes problems. If they are decent you have to hide your deeper understanding of the world, lest the truth make them sad and depressed; which will make them sad and angry* and there won’t be anyone to sit on the rest of the couch… so it’s wasted.
If you hide your inner feelings they will enjoy the company of manipulative you, and you will have to buy chips and beer, and shit like that, which costs money. So it’s wasted.
You really don’t get any benefit from furniture.
When the see what sort of heel the person they thought was “charming and feminist” is really like
Incidentally, if that’s the recent Ray Harryhausen: Special Effects Titan documentary, I unreservedly recommend it.
It’s lovely seeing all his successors queuing up to pay tribute – I particularly remember Dennis Muren saying that he made sure that the dinosaurs in Jurassic Park moved like Harryhausen dinosaurs because Harryhausen pretty much laid down the ground rules and any deviation from them would create serious cognitive dissonance on the part of the audience. So while the CGI may have made them smoother and more superficially convincing, they were still Harryhausen dinosaurs at base.
Well I’m glad you’re enjoying it so far Lea, though in some ways I felt the series didn’t live up to its themes of horror and decay. And again I just didn’t really feel for Eren, and I just feel the pacing is awful. How far in are you in to the series?
@Omnicrom: I really disliked Eren’s character, he just seems really one note and I had a lot of difficulty mustering any empathy for him, I was much more interested in the struggles and relationships of all the secondary characters.
That said, I devoured Attack on Titan in a weekend and really thought the horror elements were handled very well, even if a bit tediously by the end of the first series.
Saddest. Post. Ever.
By the way, I started working part-time when I was twelve. I graduated from college early and worked 80+ hours for years, starting at age nineteen. This was my choice. I didn’t resent it. I took pride in my self-sufficiency and my work ethic. If anything you have said is actually true, you should thank your father for giving you the only reason you have to get out of bed.
BTW — considering that you know you’re too boring to get a rilly hot chick, and you already fake 99% of your interactions, why not put some effort into becoming a more interesting person? You don’t even need to pick an actual interest. Considering that you believe that being with a hot lady is the *only* thing that would give your life purpose, it seems like straightforward cost/benefit to expend some energy developing some a more interesting false persona. You’d think a future CPA / day trader / master of the universe would be able to figure that out on his own.
Happy Birthday, kittehs!
And I think I owe LBT a belated congratulations on both an upcoming anniversary and for the hospital being interested in your work.
At least, I think this is the right thread.
OT, but while googling “kittens,” I found this. I’m not quite sure how to react to it.
Random facts: Salvador Dali was kicked out of the surrealist movement by the other surrealists.
I think this is the right thread:
re hair: When we were in Iraq one of the pains was hair, because even as short as we were keeping it, it got dirty. We had shampoo, but water was the harder thing to have enough of (I can wash myself, short haired; not as I am today, with 3 liters of water).
One of the things we did find was that really fine dust would do a fine job of taking excess oil off. Just a good brushing, and then a combing, and it was much as if it had been washed/conditioned.
We can call the hair comment a random fact. Only problem was the fineness of the required dust made that a hellhole of a spot to be living. We all had a sort of orange-yellow tan (I think it had been a brick factory).
That one made me lol. I love how universal these feel; no matter what culture they’re from, you immediately understand them.
Ooh, yes please. All kinds of Russian aphorisms and idioms are happily accepted.
Hey, I could use someone to read through and make my military people act more like military people and less like college students (what can I say, I’ve been in college but not in the military). Can you be tempted into it?
@pecunium, it still was the best month of my life despite the complications, but no, I can’t imagine what long term would be like, and neither can you, apparently. That girl was having sex with other people. Definitely not what I was talking about.
I also never called her shallow or amoral. That’s you projecting the “nice guy” stereotype on me.
And I have been actively working to make myself more interesting to women, especially working in directing and amplifying and following patterns of behavior that puas refuse to admit is just playing hard to get. It won’t get me hotties, but average chicks are blown away by it as long as I don’t screw up and loose frame.
Kicking Dali out of the Surrealist Movement is just too surreal.
Frank Zappa was nearly kicked out of the Mothers of Invention (his own band!) for being fiercely anti-drugs. Which comes as a bit of a surprise if you look at just about any random picture of him from the Sixties.
Chickens have been aware of this essential truth for millennia. And I daresay quite a few other species as well.
My random fact is that L Frank Baum and Upton Sinclair were friends.
Another fun fact, Talisa from Game of Thrones was played by Charlie Chaplin’s granddaughter.