Sometimes I hunt the misogyny, sometimes it wanders up right up to me and says hello.
Today’s post is an example of the latter. Below, a slightly edited comment that someone left for me this morning. It’s a response to a post of mine about a dreadful post on Return of Kings in which a fellow calling himself Billy Chubbs argued, with absolutely no evidence, that a recent high school shooter was driven to murder because of his “probable sexual frustration,” Chubbs went on to argue that young women are “selfish” because they don’t have sex with guys they’re not attracted to.
Anyway, my new commenter – posting under the name “whogoesthere?” – thinks that I and the other commenters here were being too hard on Chubbs’ “very good argument.” And so he deposited this giant rant, which in many ways is even scarier than Chubbs’ original.
He’s a tad verbose, so I’ve trimmed out some stuff that isn’t relevant to his general, er, thesis. And I’ve also taken the liberty of adding a few paragraph breaks and bolding a few of the best (i.e. worst) bits.
When men don’t get the women they want they turn to violence.
Not a good start here, because this just isn’t true. In this case, the phrase “not all men” is, for once, appropriate. Most men don’t get violent when they’re turned down.
This is established all over the animal kingdom and offers a good example about how it applies to humans, that snotty girls who keep their sexual treasures to all but a few males cause the remaining males to snap. …
Animals do all sorts of things that humans don’t do, and we can’t always learn from their behavior or assume that it relates to our own lives.
Or maybe the Evo Psych crew is just looking at the wrong animals. When banana slugs can’t find a partner to have sex with, they simply fertilize themselves. There’s a lesson here, I think, for the angry incels of the world: you can’t always get what you want, and when you can’t, sex with yourself is better than murder.
High school is a massively sexually charged winner take all environment. … Today’s high school is basically an ongoing audition for a porno video and the guys and girls who don’t make the cut can only sit at home and masturbate.
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It’s demeaning and hits a major blow to a person’s sexual identity to not be invited to frolic with the beautiful people.
Somehow most people, regardless of gender, manage to survive even if they’re not frolicking with Charlize Theron and/or Channing Tatum.
I’m sorry but almost no men go on wild shooting rampages if they have a beautiful female in their keep.
In their keep?! Also, no. Charles Manson was surrounded by beautiful young women. Yet he orchestrated multiple grisly murders.
The only guys that do so are bank robbers and thieves, generally guys at a later stage of life more fixated on money.
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Human beings naturally assess the amount of sex going around them and judge themselves in relationship to the amount and type of sex others are getting.
You know, you can’t actually tell how much and what kind of sex someone is having just by looking at them. Yes, there will always be people in the world having more sex with you. And some of these people are having sex with people you would probably like to have sex with. There are also people who are smarter than you, funnier than you, who can play chess or kickbox better than you, who have hundreds or thousands of times more money than you do.
That’s life. Life isn’t fair.
This makes sense because from a reproductive standpoint sex is coveted, and sex with beautiful thin, young women are the most coveted. Being the first to spoil these young women sexually is viewed reproductively as a guarantee of parentage, thus this is why males instinctively covet and burn with passion for these females.
Ah, yes, it was only a matter of time until the creepy pedo-justifying Evo Psych assfacts made their appearance. Not all men “burn with passion” in their pants for virginal high school girls.
This is why we have “morality” which is in its essence is a promise not to flaunt or indulge in sex moreso than the lowest man or woman in your tribe. This is what is meant when people say “morality went out the window.” They mean someone with more sexual prowess is openly indulging in sex and broadcasting it to stimulate the jealousy of the underclasses.
I’m pretty sure that’s not what people mean when they say “morality went out the window.”
This teen killed people cause he thought that beautiful girls were out of reach. The high school environment merely rubbed it in his face. Yes drugs to treat ADD might’ve eroded many of the impulse control functions in the teen, but the rage against the high school was still the gasoline.
[citation needed]
He might’ve had a picture or two taken with a girl next to him, but oftentimes those high school girls lie and simply eat up the male’s offerings without granting sexual access, but grant it to a random stud.
How dare young women choose who to have sex with, and who not to!
I’m not saying the girl he killed deserved it, it’s only that when you are in that frame of mind you cannot tell who is having more sex than others and you simply fill in the gaps with rage.
Wait, so if she had turned him down he would have been justified in killing her?
The beautiful girl simply represented everything that the teen couldn’t get. The steady love and wild sex of a valuable young girl.
Yeah, I think you’re confusing high school with porn again. His rampage lasted roughly a minute and a half. He shot her because she was there.
All the other theories posted on this site seem comical, self-righteous and weirdly off-point. It’s like you’re assessing the situation as an asexual senior citizen or righteous prude.
Not a lot of “prudes” here. Just people who find the “women need to have sex with ‘nice guys’ or these ‘nice gys’ will kill you all” to be a somewhat problematic argument.
Generally men want sex with young thin beauties who validate their existence.
Some men do. But most men, among those who are sexually attracted to women, aren’t as neurotically fixated on this small slice of the female demographic – women in their teens and early twenties who are somehow both virginal and sexually “wild” – as manosphere men seem to be. And most people don’t base their entire self-worth on whether or not they’re having sex with beautiful people.
Some men prefer women older than them. Some like women who are fat. Plenty of men don’t fixate on a particular physical type and are attracted to all sorts of different women. Believe it or not, whogoesthere, there are lots of men who are more interested in what’s in a woman’s head than they are in whether or not she matches up with some particular checklist of physical attributes.
If society removes all of the social pathways to attaining such a beauty, such as making prostitution illegal, increasing shame for men who seek sex, rewarding females and males called manginas who identify and mock the sex seekers and so on… this will lead to depression in men and all of the behaviors surrounding it, including shootings. Sounds pretty much like a logical line of reasoning to me.
And that’s the problem. It’s not actually a logical line of reasoning at all. It’s more like a sort of blackmail.
Men don’t kill women because they can’t have “the steady love and wild sex of a valuable young girl.” Sometimes men kill women because they feel entitled to have sex with these “valuable young girls” and become bitter and enraged when they can’t find a “valuable young girl” who agrees with them on this particular point.
It’s not the lack of “sexual access” that’s the problem. It’s the notion that your desire for “sexual access” means more than the right of that person to say “no.” It’s the notion that society has done you wrong because you can’t (at least at the moment) get laid. It’s the idea that your desire to have sex with a particular kind of woman somehow trumps the right of other people to live.
I mean, what the fucking fuck.
Oh, by the way, there’s no evidence that the shooter in question – Karl Halverson Pierson – was motivated by sexual frustration. His intended target was the school librarian, who is also the school’s debate coach. Pierson was obsessed with debate, and had some sort of grudge against the coach.
“But, then again, some of ya’ll live in such a state of delusion that you believe ANIMALS have personalities. It’s called anthropomorphizing. It’s childish…”
Unfreeland, I just think I found your perfect soulmate:
Hey, really silly question. Any chance Undfreeland could secretly be “whogoesthere?” from the OP?
It could just be that their turgid prose seems identical due to the nature of trolls, but…
Yet another example of an older dude dating younger chicks. On this very forum. And ya’ll act like that’s so unrealistic.
@leah, That woman is extremely attractive, She’s religious though. Probably wouldn’t work out.
I would prefer to think that there were only a handful of guys like this, pooping their creepy dating theories all over the internet as part of some odd compulsion, but sadly I suspect that there are many of them and the reason they’re so hard to tell apart is that they’re boring and terrible in remarkably similar ways.
undfreeland: I love how ya’ll are denigrating my personality. Believing that no woman could ever be attracted to me. Believe it or not, it is possible to hide misanthropy and any other thought you want. After all, ya’ll seem to like serial killers so much, did not many of them hide who they truly were from even their closest loved ones?
Oh you kids! Thinking the one in millions (so there are at least 150 in the US right now) is so easy to emulate.
Nope. This is my baliwick (i.e. how people tick, and how to get them to reveal things they want to keep secret). I made a career out of it (and of teaching others how to do it).The Gacy’s of the world are rare.
What’s not rare is that people will overlook the clues in front of their eyes, if they are invested in a relationship with the person.
So it’s possible that you might be able to pull the wool over a woman’s eyes long enough to get her to the point she feels she has too much to lose. Tellingly you said the engineering student left because you “were too nice” to her ( though I thought it was that she never really cared, and was using you until she went on some school/work related thing and left you behind). That’s abuser thinking right there. You didn’t treat her harshly enough, so she left. If you’d done a bit more gaslighting, isolated her from her friends a bit more, maybe she’d still be around.
Of course that would be because you are the shit you claimed to be.
How dare anyone denigrate the personality of someone who compares himself to a serial killer!
@pecunium, phd girl and engineering chick were two different girls. Engineering chick was pretty hot, but had some flaws. PhD chick was near perfect
My favorite part was how he acknowledged that no woman would ever be attracted to his real personality, but hey, no worries, he can hide that.
Well, I can’t stay up til three tonight; riding along with the career dudes, again, and need to get up at too-early o’clock. Hoping tonight’s quiet, so good sleeps can be had.
Enjoy batting around the troll.
undfreeland: The really funny thing is, when my ship does come in, which won’t just be from inheritance, but from day trading and other investment plans
Day trading isn’t an investment plan. It’s playing the slots, but without the good odds.
Name one inconsistency. You can’t. There aren’t any.
There was the, “I can’t imagine such bliss” about having an attractive woman who doted on you.
Followed by the story of the happiest month of your life, when you had a beautiful woman who was adoring you.
So that’s one.
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That’s ME! I’m a 10! Yay….!
Unfreeland; I love how your first comment is: she’s attractive. Didn’t see that coming 😀 Watch a few of her videos. She may be religios, but she’s not conservative. She’s eager to please her man:
and she’s an intellectual, just like you:
She even writes her own books. You don’t get more sophisticated than that 🙂
Please tell me these videos are part of some snarky feminist grad student’s thesis project.
Poe’s law, man.
Thanks for the birthday wishes, everyone!
Flying Mouse, that story was the BEST. XD
Awww, trolly doesn’t get the difference between “older and younger person together because they like each other” and “ewww how can I be expected to date women my age when I’m 40, they’re so gross and disgusting”. What a surprise. That list of Things Underpantsman Doesn’t Understand is getting to be as big as the Big Book of Learnin’, but not half as amusing. He’s nowhere near the bar Owly or Pell (in his original incarnation) set for troll dumbassweirdness.
And what are you going to do with all your free time? Masturbate and play the same video game over and over?
undfreeland: Of course they are unique and different within their own minds. But what does that have to do with me? Or you?
Dude… the expression of their minds is what one interacts with. If one isn’t interacting with the person, then one is being an objectifying asshole. If you think you can hide that… you are wrong.
BTW… inconsistency No. 2:
But after I save up money by living below my means with a CPA
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I suppose if I have any frustration, it is that I should be richer… Whoever made the comment about being upper-middle class, in my forties, I assure you. I will not be merely upper-middle class.
If you expect to inherit enough money that you can be more than “upper middle class” as a lifestyle, then you don’t really need to be living below your means.
I will also add, your apparent failure to grasp the fundamental folly of day trading makes it dubious you will be successful as a CPA, assuming you have the discipline to attain the training required to take the requisite tests.
As evidence I offer the following into evidence: I really fail to understand how you think I’m not consistent.
1: You really think you haven’t been inconsistent.
2: You know you have been somewhat inconsistent, but figure you can gaslight us about the recorded words here.
3: You don’t give a shit that you’ve been inconsistent.
All of those present failures of critical thought.
Exhibit 2: I’m not shitty, but the description of myself that I gave is NOT attractive enough for the hottest women, especially with my lack of interesting hobbies or wealth. I pull below average to average women consistently
Yet despite this, we are also supposed to believe women compliment you on being both a sensitive feminist, and a paragon of manly virtue, with a good jaw, decent height (morning, or evening?), and a pleasant level of facial hirstuteness.
All that charm, and wit, and manliness, and the women won’t (except for the 1 Month Wonder and the strangely distant Engineer) give you what you deserve.
LOL does trolly think he’s going to get back in the job market after leaving it for ten years? Priceless, just priceless.
How do you know she’s religious? What’s in her head is unknowable. And why would it matter anyway? You’ve said many times that only appearance matters.
CassandraKitty: She has over 900 videos on youtube. I have only watched about 10 or so, and she’s like this all the time from what i’ve seen.
She also appeared on an American reality show and humiliated herself in front of the entire World, something I doubt anyone would do just for the sake of trolling or joking.
I’m pretty sure she’s she real thing :s
undfreeland: I did say that men without money have a hard time getting laid by very attractive women.
And women here told you of the error of your ways. So did the men.
Well, look on the bright side. If that’s the kind of woman undfreeland is hoping to hook up with during his mid life crisis and his granny has died by that point then his dream may well come true.
Brooked: Good grief, this troll definitely took his Verbosity Pills. If pecunium does one of his broad responses to all this gobbledygook I’m guessing he’ll have to bail half way through, unless he has most of the day free to dedicate to undfreeland and is feeling particularly masochistic (in a non-fun way).
Nah. There’s not enough meat on the carcass. It’s more on the order of a goat that died a week ago and has already been picked over by the ravens and crows. You’d have to be willing to chase off the carrion beetles and crack the bones for marrow to get anything edible off of it.
@pecunium- I never said I deserved anything (except more financial support from a father who has more than enough to spare, so that I can finish school already) and I’ve repeatedly said that I understand why high-quality woman are not interested in me.
@kirttehserf, those would be the last ten years of my life.
I know who this troll with his Rich Dude Picking Up Hotties fantasy reminds me of: the creepy protagonist in C M Kornbluth’s The Mind Worm.
@katz, that actually sounds like a lovely way to spend 10 years. With the spare spare to subscribe to any porn site without hesitation!
What he really reminds me of is that thought experiment about the guy who hates everything but desperately wants to be happy. Anyone else know the one? I don’t remember what it’s called but it’s a demonstration that you can’t pursue happiness as a goal, in and of itself; you can only achieve happiness in the pursuit of some other goal.