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Creepy comment of the day: If men can't get "the steady love and wild sex of a valuable young girl," naturally they'll start shooting people.

Banana slug: A better role model for horny humans than bonobos?
Banana slug: A better role model for horny humans than bonobos?

Sometimes I hunt the misogyny, sometimes it wanders up right up to me and says hello.

Today’s post is an example of the latter. Below, a slightly edited comment that someone left for me this morning. It’s a response to a post of mine about a dreadful post on Return of Kings in which a fellow calling himself Billy Chubbs argued, with absolutely no evidence, that a recent high school shooter was driven to murder because of his “probable sexual frustration,” Chubbs went on to argue that young women are “selfish” because they don’t have sex with guys they’re not attracted to.

Anyway, my new commenter – posting under the name “whogoesthere?” – thinks that I and the other commenters here were being too hard on Chubbs’ “very good argument.” And so he deposited this giant rant, which in many ways is even scarier than Chubbs’ original.

He’s a tad verbose, so I’ve trimmed out some stuff that isn’t relevant to his general, er, thesis. And I’ve also taken the liberty of adding a few paragraph breaks and bolding a few of the best (i.e. worst) bits.

When men don’t get the women they want they turn to violence.

Not a good start here, because this just isn’t true. In this case, the phrase “not all men” is, for once, appropriate. Most men don’t get violent when they’re turned down.

This is established all over the animal kingdom and offers a good example about how it applies to humans, that snotty girls who keep their sexual treasures to all but a few males cause the remaining males to snap. …

Animals do all sorts of things that humans don’t do, and we can’t always learn from their behavior or assume that it relates to our own lives.

Or maybe the Evo Psych crew is just looking at the wrong animals. When banana slugs can’t find a partner to have sex with, they simply fertilize themselves. There’s a lesson here, I think, for the angry incels of the world: you can’t always get what you want, and when you can’t, sex with yourself is better than murder.

High school is a massively sexually charged winner take all environment. … Today’s high school is basically an ongoing audition for a porno video and the guys and girls who don’t make the cut can only sit at home and masturbate.

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It’s demeaning and hits a major blow to a person’s sexual identity to not be invited to frolic with the beautiful people.

Somehow most people, regardless of gender, manage to survive even if they’re not frolicking with Charlize Theron and/or Channing Tatum.

I’m sorry but almost no men go on wild shooting rampages if they have a beautiful female in their keep.

In their keep?! Also, no. Charles Manson was surrounded by beautiful young women. Yet he orchestrated multiple grisly murders.

The only guys that do so are bank robbers and thieves, generally guys at a later stage of life more fixated on money.

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Human beings naturally assess the amount of sex going around them and judge themselves in relationship to the amount and type of sex others are getting.

You know, you can’t actually tell how much and what kind of sex someone is having just by looking at them. Yes, there will always be people in the world having more sex with you. And some of these people are having sex with people you would probably like to have sex with. There are also people who are smarter than you, funnier than you, who can play chess or kickbox better than you, who have hundreds or thousands of times more money than you do.

That’s life. Life isn’t fair.

This makes sense because from a reproductive standpoint sex is coveted, and sex with beautiful thin, young women are the most coveted. Being the first to spoil these young women sexually is viewed reproductively as a guarantee of parentage, thus this is why males instinctively covet and burn with passion for these females.

Ah, yes, it was only a matter of time until the creepy pedo-justifying Evo Psych assfacts made their appearance. Not all men “burn with passion” in their pants for virginal high school girls.

This is why we have “morality” which is in its essence is a promise not to flaunt or indulge in sex moreso than the lowest man or woman in your tribe. This is what is meant when people say “morality went out the window.” They mean someone with more sexual prowess is openly indulging in sex and broadcasting it to stimulate the jealousy of the underclasses.

I’m pretty sure that’s not what people mean when they say “morality went out the window.”

This teen killed people cause he thought that beautiful girls were out of reach. The high school environment merely rubbed it in his face. Yes drugs to treat ADD might’ve eroded many of the impulse control functions in the teen, but the rage against the high school was still the gasoline.

[citation needed]

He might’ve had a picture or two taken with a girl next to him, but oftentimes those high school girls lie and simply eat up the male’s offerings without granting sexual access, but grant it to a random stud.

How dare young women choose who to have sex with, and who not to!

I’m not saying the girl he killed deserved it, it’s only that when you are in that frame of mind you cannot tell who is having more sex than others and you simply fill in the gaps with rage.

Wait, so if she had turned him down he would have been justified in killing her?

The beautiful girl simply represented everything that the teen couldn’t get. The steady love and wild sex of a valuable young girl.

Yeah, I think you’re confusing high school with porn again. His rampage lasted roughly a minute and a half. He shot her because she was there.

All the other theories posted on this site seem comical, self-righteous and weirdly off-point. It’s like you’re assessing the situation as an asexual senior citizen or righteous prude.

Not a lot of “prudes” here. Just people who find the “women need to have sex with ‘nice guys’ or these ‘nice gys’ will kill you all” to be a somewhat problematic argument.

Generally men want sex with young thin beauties who validate their existence.

Some men do. But most men, among those who are sexually attracted to women, aren’t as neurotically fixated on this small slice of the female demographic – women in their teens and early twenties who are somehow both virginal and sexually “wild” – as manosphere men seem to be. And most people don’t base their entire  self-worth on whether or not they’re having sex with beautiful people.

Some men prefer women older than them. Some like women who are fat. Plenty of men don’t fixate on a particular physical type and are attracted to all sorts of different women. Believe it or not, whogoesthere, there are lots of men who are more interested in what’s in a woman’s head than they are in whether or not she matches up with some particular checklist of physical attributes.

If society removes all of the social pathways to attaining such a beauty, such as making prostitution illegal, increasing shame for men who seek sex, rewarding females and males called manginas who identify and mock the sex seekers and so on… this will lead to depression in men and all of the behaviors surrounding it, including shootings. Sounds pretty much like a logical line of reasoning to me.

And that’s the problem. It’s not actually a logical line of reasoning at all. It’s more like a sort of blackmail.

Men don’t kill women because they can’t have “the steady love and wild sex of a valuable young girl.” Sometimes men kill women because they feel entitled to have sex with these “valuable young girls” and become bitter and enraged when they can’t find a “valuable young girl” who agrees with them on this particular point.

It’s not the lack of “sexual access” that’s the problem. It’s the notion that your desire for “sexual access” means more than the right of that person to say “no.” It’s the notion that society has done you wrong because you can’t (at least at the moment) get laid. It’s the idea that your desire to have sex with a particular kind of woman somehow trumps the right of other people to live.

I mean, what the fucking fuck.

Oh, by the way, there’s no evidence that the shooter in question – Karl Halverson Pierson – was motivated by sexual frustration. His intended target was the school librarian, who is also the school’s debate coach. Pierson was obsessed with debate, and had some sort of grudge against the coach.

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marinerachel
marinerachel
10 years ago

Everyone who suffered from smallpox had pockmarks. Stalin’s became more apparent as he aged. He was short and had a gorky arm and hand. He was still a beautiful young man.

As he aged he became increasingly insecure about his appearance and, yeah, he shot painters who portrayed him in a fashion he didn’t care for. He wanted to look big and strong and impervious to harm. That was how he wanted to be perceived.

piratejennie
10 years ago

@marinerachel

I love Dali’s moustache 🙂

He made having facial hair seem so fun.

marinerachel
marinerachel
10 years ago

Not so much that I’ve embraced my moustache though. 🙁

contrapangloss
contrapangloss
10 years ago

Well, nearing 2:30 in the morning for me! Time to stop being silly, and to beddy-bye.

I’ll have to record all the songs, in the morn… Purely for kicks.

Regulars? You are all awesome.

Have fun with your new pet! Since Katz isn’t here, I’d like to remind you that someone needs to feed him, and take him for walksies, and put him down for a nap when he gets too grumpy.

Any volunteers? (Not it!)

Inconsistent troll, you’re silly-silly. And I know silly. I know silly like the back of my hand. Enjoy your feeling of satisfaction at riling the nest, while the rest of us enjoy the satisfaction of thoroughly mocking you!

Nighters!

Wetherby
Wetherby
10 years ago

@Wetherby, No, but I’ve never asked anything like that of anybody else. Nor would I desire to burden someone with that.

But that’s the great thing about close friends – if they really are properly close, the question of whether or not you’re “burdening them” shouldn’t arise.

A few years ago I had a close friend ring me up on my birthday because she’d just discovered incontrovertible evidence that her husband was having an affair. Did I tell her to piss off and call me back when it was more convenient? I did not – I spent the entire evening talking to her and trying to work out a sensible plan of action (there were kids involved, so this was potentially very messy indeed). And at no point did I feel that she was imposing herself on me – on the contrary, I was flattered that I was the first person she thought of to ring.

(She realised a couple of days later that it was my birthday and was mortified – partly for forgetting it, mostly for ringing me on the exact day. But it didn’t make one iota of difference to me, because if you can’t support another friend even at a time that’s potentially inconvenient for you, what’s the point of having friends at all?)

Cassandrakitty, do I loose my spot in the hivemind if I claim Tesla had a better stache than young Stalin?

Not to mention awesome kung fu skills:

undfreeland
undfreeland
10 years ago

@Wetherby, Yeah. Can’t say I’ve experienced that. What’s the point of friendships? Conversation and sharing vices.

piratejennie
10 years ago

@marinerachel

Of course you need to be comfortable with yourself, but I think facial hair on women is nothing to be ashamed of and can be dead sexy.

I’m Ashkenazim and looking at the few pictures I have of my female ancestors (and my living mother who is beautiful) there are some whiskers in my future.

Not that I’ll ever be able to wax mine into curlicued extravagance, but I can still admire.

wewereemergencies
wewereemergencies
10 years ago

Well then you have missed out und.

I am OK with missing out on the rest of this troll. Hopefully by the time I get back he’ll be banned. Night all!

Wetherby
Wetherby
10 years ago

@Wetherby, Yeah. Can’t say I’ve experienced that. What’s the point of friendships? Conversation and sharing vices.

I’m talking about close friendships. You know, like the “several close friendships” you claim to have had with women?

Just out of curiosity, what’s the difference between a friendship and a close friendship from your perspective? Because what you’re describing sounds far more casual than what I’m more used to.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

TIL that “close friend” means “people you do coke with in the bathroom at clubs”.

marinerachel
marinerachel
10 years ago

I remember those friends. I loved them at the time.

I’m not sufficiently secure to wear my excess hair with pride. I don’t want the attention. I just want to be plain.

In hospital the other day though, the psych nurse who was my primary caregiver during my stay wore a beard. It appeared as though her moustache was shaved and her eyebrows may have been altered. Her beard was unadulterated though. I was astounded by the confidence required to make such a choice. I could never. I’m much too insecure.

piratejennie
10 years ago

Like this?

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

I’m not knocking it, it’s a good thing! But it’s not a close friendship, unless what you mean by close is “in close physical proximity to”.

marinerachel
marinerachel
10 years ago

One big regret of mine is I never shared my drug use with friends. The friends I did drugs with were only there to do drugs with. I never had any real friends that wanted to share in that part of my life with me, not until after I was way past it. Now I have to remove myself when my friends want to get fucked up because it’s so far in my past.

undfreeland
undfreeland
10 years ago

@wetherby, close as in we just talked l lot. They confided things in me, but not when they were in moments of distress, just because they knew that I was the kind of person who would listen to them without judgement and they knew my very liver opinions on certain issues. I’m just very curious, really. I definitely would not have the opinions about rape culture that I do without talking to these women.

piratejennie
10 years ago

@marinerachel

I can’t say with any certainty that I am confident enough not to remove my facial hair when or if it grows in.

Whether I do or don’t it will be the right choice for me, just as yours is the right choice for you.

I’m sorry if I made you uncomfortable with my comment, that was not me intention at all.

undfreeland
undfreeland
10 years ago

Liberal, not liver

piratejennie
10 years ago

*my…in my defense it’s 4am here and I haven’t eaten or slept in about 30 hours.

YoullNeverGuess
10 years ago

Okay, need to stop poking the troll and get some sleep.

A RealDoll is $6k. You should be able to swing that. Put it on a credit card if you have to. Yes, the interest is ridiculous, but think of all the money you’ll be saving by not going to bars to pick up chicks! Or maybe ask your wealthy grandparents to buy one for you. That could start a good conversation about how awful it is when elderly people have sex. I’m sure they have a lot to learn from you when it comes to love and marriage. I think it’s really brave that you don’t let your complete lack of experience with love stop you from knowing all there is to know about it. Ditto marriage.

I hope that all your grandparents live to be 120, and in their last years, develop expensive tastes, and die broke and happy. Cause I’m mean like that.

Wetherby
Wetherby
10 years ago

@wetherby, close as in we just talked l lot. They confided things in me, but not when they were in moments of distress,

But to me, that last point marks the distinction between an ordinary friend and a genuinely close friend.

I have plenty of friends that I can confide all kinds things in, but it’s only the truly close ones that I can turn to in moments of distress (or vice versa). You talk about “burdening” them, but if they’re that close it won’t be a burden – or rather, any burden will be alleviated by the possibility that they might be able to help, and thereby lift your burden.

undfreeland
undfreeland
10 years ago

Youllneverguess, my credit is great, but I have what’s known as “excessive obligation compared to income” due to student loans and credit card debt for keeping up with things in college when my part time job couldn’t cut it.
My father paid for his school with scholarships. I’m expected to pay for myself as well.
Spending that much on anything right now, is just out if the question.

Wetherby
Wetherby
10 years ago

I know I only have a sucky sense of humour, but even I can pick up on the sarcasm dripping from every syllable in Youllneverguess’s post.

Kim
Kim
10 years ago

@wetherby, for the fiftieth time. A woman’s physical appearance is the only thing that’s valuable as far as sex goes.

So she could be comatose or dead and it’d be all the same to you as long as she looks beautiful?

Wetherby
Wetherby
10 years ago

So she could be comatose or dead and it’d be all the same to you as long as she looks beautiful?

I’d have thought her being dead would be a major plus. At least for her.

piratejennie
10 years ago

Great, now I have TSOL Code Blue stuck in my head.

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