Sometimes I hunt the misogyny, sometimes it wanders up right up to me and says hello.
Today’s post is an example of the latter. Below, a slightly edited comment that someone left for me this morning. It’s a response to a post of mine about a dreadful post on Return of Kings in which a fellow calling himself Billy Chubbs argued, with absolutely no evidence, that a recent high school shooter was driven to murder because of his “probable sexual frustration,” Chubbs went on to argue that young women are “selfish” because they don’t have sex with guys they’re not attracted to.
Anyway, my new commenter – posting under the name “whogoesthere?” – thinks that I and the other commenters here were being too hard on Chubbs’ “very good argument.” And so he deposited this giant rant, which in many ways is even scarier than Chubbs’ original.
He’s a tad verbose, so I’ve trimmed out some stuff that isn’t relevant to his general, er, thesis. And I’ve also taken the liberty of adding a few paragraph breaks and bolding a few of the best (i.e. worst) bits.
When men don’t get the women they want they turn to violence.
Not a good start here, because this just isn’t true. In this case, the phrase “not all men” is, for once, appropriate. Most men don’t get violent when they’re turned down.
This is established all over the animal kingdom and offers a good example about how it applies to humans, that snotty girls who keep their sexual treasures to all but a few males cause the remaining males to snap. …
Animals do all sorts of things that humans don’t do, and we can’t always learn from their behavior or assume that it relates to our own lives.
Or maybe the Evo Psych crew is just looking at the wrong animals. When banana slugs can’t find a partner to have sex with, they simply fertilize themselves. There’s a lesson here, I think, for the angry incels of the world: you can’t always get what you want, and when you can’t, sex with yourself is better than murder.
High school is a massively sexually charged winner take all environment. … Today’s high school is basically an ongoing audition for a porno video and the guys and girls who don’t make the cut can only sit at home and masturbate.
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It’s demeaning and hits a major blow to a person’s sexual identity to not be invited to frolic with the beautiful people.
Somehow most people, regardless of gender, manage to survive even if they’re not frolicking with Charlize Theron and/or Channing Tatum.
I’m sorry but almost no men go on wild shooting rampages if they have a beautiful female in their keep.
In their keep?! Also, no. Charles Manson was surrounded by beautiful young women. Yet he orchestrated multiple grisly murders.
The only guys that do so are bank robbers and thieves, generally guys at a later stage of life more fixated on money.
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Human beings naturally assess the amount of sex going around them and judge themselves in relationship to the amount and type of sex others are getting.
You know, you can’t actually tell how much and what kind of sex someone is having just by looking at them. Yes, there will always be people in the world having more sex with you. And some of these people are having sex with people you would probably like to have sex with. There are also people who are smarter than you, funnier than you, who can play chess or kickbox better than you, who have hundreds or thousands of times more money than you do.
That’s life. Life isn’t fair.
This makes sense because from a reproductive standpoint sex is coveted, and sex with beautiful thin, young women are the most coveted. Being the first to spoil these young women sexually is viewed reproductively as a guarantee of parentage, thus this is why males instinctively covet and burn with passion for these females.
Ah, yes, it was only a matter of time until the creepy pedo-justifying Evo Psych assfacts made their appearance. Not all men “burn with passion” in their pants for virginal high school girls.
This is why we have “morality” which is in its essence is a promise not to flaunt or indulge in sex moreso than the lowest man or woman in your tribe. This is what is meant when people say “morality went out the window.” They mean someone with more sexual prowess is openly indulging in sex and broadcasting it to stimulate the jealousy of the underclasses.
I’m pretty sure that’s not what people mean when they say “morality went out the window.”
This teen killed people cause he thought that beautiful girls were out of reach. The high school environment merely rubbed it in his face. Yes drugs to treat ADD might’ve eroded many of the impulse control functions in the teen, but the rage against the high school was still the gasoline.
[citation needed]
He might’ve had a picture or two taken with a girl next to him, but oftentimes those high school girls lie and simply eat up the male’s offerings without granting sexual access, but grant it to a random stud.
How dare young women choose who to have sex with, and who not to!
I’m not saying the girl he killed deserved it, it’s only that when you are in that frame of mind you cannot tell who is having more sex than others and you simply fill in the gaps with rage.
Wait, so if she had turned him down he would have been justified in killing her?
The beautiful girl simply represented everything that the teen couldn’t get. The steady love and wild sex of a valuable young girl.
Yeah, I think you’re confusing high school with porn again. His rampage lasted roughly a minute and a half. He shot her because she was there.
All the other theories posted on this site seem comical, self-righteous and weirdly off-point. It’s like you’re assessing the situation as an asexual senior citizen or righteous prude.
Not a lot of “prudes” here. Just people who find the “women need to have sex with ‘nice guys’ or these ‘nice gys’ will kill you all” to be a somewhat problematic argument.
Generally men want sex with young thin beauties who validate their existence.
Some men do. But most men, among those who are sexually attracted to women, aren’t as neurotically fixated on this small slice of the female demographic – women in their teens and early twenties who are somehow both virginal and sexually “wild” – as manosphere men seem to be. And most people don’t base their entire self-worth on whether or not they’re having sex with beautiful people.
Some men prefer women older than them. Some like women who are fat. Plenty of men don’t fixate on a particular physical type and are attracted to all sorts of different women. Believe it or not, whogoesthere, there are lots of men who are more interested in what’s in a woman’s head than they are in whether or not she matches up with some particular checklist of physical attributes.
If society removes all of the social pathways to attaining such a beauty, such as making prostitution illegal, increasing shame for men who seek sex, rewarding females and males called manginas who identify and mock the sex seekers and so on… this will lead to depression in men and all of the behaviors surrounding it, including shootings. Sounds pretty much like a logical line of reasoning to me.
And that’s the problem. It’s not actually a logical line of reasoning at all. It’s more like a sort of blackmail.
Men don’t kill women because they can’t have “the steady love and wild sex of a valuable young girl.” Sometimes men kill women because they feel entitled to have sex with these “valuable young girls” and become bitter and enraged when they can’t find a “valuable young girl” who agrees with them on this particular point.
It’s not the lack of “sexual access” that’s the problem. It’s the notion that your desire for “sexual access” means more than the right of that person to say “no.” It’s the notion that society has done you wrong because you can’t (at least at the moment) get laid. It’s the idea that your desire to have sex with a particular kind of woman somehow trumps the right of other people to live.
I mean, what the fucking fuck.
Oh, by the way, there’s no evidence that the shooter in question – Karl Halverson Pierson – was motivated by sexual frustration. His intended target was the school librarian, who is also the school’s debate coach. Pierson was obsessed with debate, and had some sort of grudge against the coach.
So you would turn a blind eye (or a deaf ear) to your brother insulting your girlfriend in front of both of you?
You know I genuinely hoped you’d actually answer “yes” to one of my questions? Because I really didn’t think that even you, despite all the abundant evidence piling up in your digital landfill site, could be so galumphingly crass and insensitive.
OK, so we’ve established that you didn’t care what your girlfriend thought about your brother insulting her – but did you at least bother to ask her?
Mind you, I’m not sure which is worse: ignoring her feelings from the start or finding out what she felt and then ignoring them. Either way it’s a pretty shitty position to take, and there’s just the teensiest possibility that this attitude might explain your difficulties in holding down a relationship.
The only person violating boundaries here is you und.
Nah, this one’s troll challenge should definitely be having to include something that he values about a specific woman who he knows that has nothing to do with her appearance in every comment.
(If this results in him not being able to comment at all, well, such is life.)
@marinerachel, Well, I’m not naive enough to think about making a life with anybody. Whatever gender you’re into or whatever, other people will betray you. They will hold you back. They will obligate you financially.
Two years was too long. Unless I find an exceptionally attractive woman, the rest will all be shorter. I’ll do that until I can’t. Hopefully I have enough money and health (my family has fairly good genes when it comes to aging. Even have a few centennials on my mom’s side) to sustain such an existence. When I don’t. Well, I didn’t mind very much before I was born.
Were these the type of close friendships where you carefully concealed all your actual thoughts? Those are the very best type of close friendships.
LOL LOL this is our site (we’re all David after all). We’re regulars here. We mock misogyny. You’re a chew toy, little loser.
As for being a Nietzsche fanboy:
http://harkavagrant.com/index.php?id=42
http://www.dead-philosophers.com/?p=553
@wetherby
I didn’t think he got up your nose, but people have stated concerns about personal attacks and he seems to be focusing on you.
His focus may shift to someone who is triggered or threatened by it so I think letting David know is probably a good idea.
Also, we already have JudgyBitch, who’s at least notable enough because of her involvement in AVFM to justify letting her blather here. Why do we need a male copy that’s been fused with every other PUA/incel/sadboner troll ever?
You must lead a pitiful life und. I can understand not wanting a large number of people around, or people around all the time, but to live without them at all? That sounds like one of the worst fates imaginable. And in your case it’s self-inflicted.
@wetherby, It was all just jokes. Plus she said some pretty stupid stuff. Especially when she knew my family’s a bunch of southern-baptist conservatives.
@cassandrakitty, There’s a cafe at the place I work. The woman who runs it is a lot of fun to talk to.
Stupid or merely self-deluded? Misogynist, either way, of course.
Hey, O genius of writing gud: you might want to say a woman’s appearance is all that matters to you in regard to sex. You are not anyone else, thank Ceiling Cat.
Nope. Of course “getting away from underpantsonhishead as soon as possible” probably counts as betrayal to you, I suppose, in which case, yes, everyone’s gonna betray you, sunshine.
I’m not exactly a looker (fat girl, funny looking) but one of the reasons the guy who dumped me didn’t do so sooner is he really, really liked fucking me. Mindblowing, he said. Best sex of his life, he said. ALL his ex-girlfriends are better looking than me. ALL the girls he dates in the future will be better looking than me. Grossly, he’s said he’s going to continue masturbating to thoughts of me because he will not get what he does from me from anyone else for a long, LONG time. I’m actually kind of pleased that, after dumping me, he isn’t going to have satisfying sex for quite a while.
For some men, there’s a lot more to sex appeal and performance from a woman than just looking good enough to fuck.
What absolute, complete and total twaddle. Do you never talk to your partners at all? At the very least, I’d like mine to be able to talk intelligently and knowledgeably about sex as well as being good at the physical aspects, not least because it gives me a clearer idea of their own desires and a better-than-average chance of being able to meet them.
I suspect – or rather, I know for certain – that I’ve had a rather wider range of partners than you, and one of the most wholly satisfying on every level was someone who I can guarantee wouldn’t even register with you. Not least because she uses a wheelchair in public, something that mysteriously conveys near-invisibility on its user, except of course when she’s trying to get on public transport.
Would they have regarded them as close friendships? I mean, properly close in an “I can call them at any time of the day and talk about literally anything under the sun, including really heavily confessional emotional stuff, and they do the same with me”?
I’ve just marked the twentieth anniversary of one of my closest friendships, and one of the reasons it’s so close is that we can genuinely do that – there’s no problem too great (or too taboo) that we’re not happy to talk about it.
Plus, of course, some men actually know about making love to express love and attraction for a particular person. Person, as in personality as well as body.
I daresay trolly’s head would explode at that, despite his so-sad yearnings for a woman to admire/adore him.
If he’s ever had any partners, he must have learned to shut up, because otherwise they’d just fall asleep.
@kitteshef. Big tough lady on the internet. lol You’re all David? What is this a cult. I mean, I like the blog, but ya’ll take this way too seriously And yes, Nietzsche was tragically a victim of mental illness, but, by all accounts, he was quite polite in person. Very shy.
@wewereemergencies, like most people, I can’t lie to myself enough for life to be anything but pathetic
Man kittehserf really loves the ad hominem.
Nietzsche had paresis resulting from syphilis. That’s not mental illness.
Dat moustache tho.
And “thank ceiling cat,” and I’m the fake internet personality.
Yes, dear, we know that your life is pathetic, but that’s really no excuse for going around trying to inflict the same sad fate on other people.
@marinerachel, that’s widely regarded as a misdiagnosis
“Making love” can take all kinds of forms. There’s a particular type of sweet that my wife really likes, and every so often I conceal a packet somewhere in the house where she’s likely to stumble upon it, but hopefully not too quickly.
Mind you, she completely managed to miss the (admittedly small) box of chocolates under her pillow for two nights running, so when she finally thanked me for it I’d forgotten I’d ever left them there. She ruefully agreed that this demolished any pretensions she might have had to be a princess.
(Actually, it’s largely because she was so tired for work-related reasons she was pretty much zonked out from the moment her head hit the pillow, which was one of the reasons I was going out of my way to make our home life as pleasant as possible.)
*Un*like most people und. Most people don’t need to lie to themselves, and their lives still aren’t pathetic. Apart from manospherians, of course, for whom both apply. This is where you’re confused und. Manospherians are not indicative of most of humanity. Thank god.
Like or dislike? I am not fond of facial hair myself, but hottest evil historical figure is still young Stalin.
@Wetherby, a friendship that deep, no? Never had that kind of relationship with anyone.