Sometimes I hunt the misogyny, sometimes it wanders up right up to me and says hello.
Today’s post is an example of the latter. Below, a slightly edited comment that someone left for me this morning. It’s a response to a post of mine about a dreadful post on Return of Kings in which a fellow calling himself Billy Chubbs argued, with absolutely no evidence, that a recent high school shooter was driven to murder because of his “probable sexual frustration,” Chubbs went on to argue that young women are “selfish” because they don’t have sex with guys they’re not attracted to.
Anyway, my new commenter – posting under the name “whogoesthere?” – thinks that I and the other commenters here were being too hard on Chubbs’ “very good argument.” And so he deposited this giant rant, which in many ways is even scarier than Chubbs’ original.
He’s a tad verbose, so I’ve trimmed out some stuff that isn’t relevant to his general, er, thesis. And I’ve also taken the liberty of adding a few paragraph breaks and bolding a few of the best (i.e. worst) bits.
When men don’t get the women they want they turn to violence.
Not a good start here, because this just isn’t true. In this case, the phrase “not all men” is, for once, appropriate. Most men don’t get violent when they’re turned down.
This is established all over the animal kingdom and offers a good example about how it applies to humans, that snotty girls who keep their sexual treasures to all but a few males cause the remaining males to snap. …
Animals do all sorts of things that humans don’t do, and we can’t always learn from their behavior or assume that it relates to our own lives.
Or maybe the Evo Psych crew is just looking at the wrong animals. When banana slugs can’t find a partner to have sex with, they simply fertilize themselves. There’s a lesson here, I think, for the angry incels of the world: you can’t always get what you want, and when you can’t, sex with yourself is better than murder.
High school is a massively sexually charged winner take all environment. … Today’s high school is basically an ongoing audition for a porno video and the guys and girls who don’t make the cut can only sit at home and masturbate.
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It’s demeaning and hits a major blow to a person’s sexual identity to not be invited to frolic with the beautiful people.
Somehow most people, regardless of gender, manage to survive even if they’re not frolicking with Charlize Theron and/or Channing Tatum.
I’m sorry but almost no men go on wild shooting rampages if they have a beautiful female in their keep.
In their keep?! Also, no. Charles Manson was surrounded by beautiful young women. Yet he orchestrated multiple grisly murders.
The only guys that do so are bank robbers and thieves, generally guys at a later stage of life more fixated on money.
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Human beings naturally assess the amount of sex going around them and judge themselves in relationship to the amount and type of sex others are getting.
You know, you can’t actually tell how much and what kind of sex someone is having just by looking at them. Yes, there will always be people in the world having more sex with you. And some of these people are having sex with people you would probably like to have sex with. There are also people who are smarter than you, funnier than you, who can play chess or kickbox better than you, who have hundreds or thousands of times more money than you do.
That’s life. Life isn’t fair.
This makes sense because from a reproductive standpoint sex is coveted, and sex with beautiful thin, young women are the most coveted. Being the first to spoil these young women sexually is viewed reproductively as a guarantee of parentage, thus this is why males instinctively covet and burn with passion for these females.
Ah, yes, it was only a matter of time until the creepy pedo-justifying Evo Psych assfacts made their appearance. Not all men “burn with passion” in their pants for virginal high school girls.
This is why we have “morality” which is in its essence is a promise not to flaunt or indulge in sex moreso than the lowest man or woman in your tribe. This is what is meant when people say “morality went out the window.” They mean someone with more sexual prowess is openly indulging in sex and broadcasting it to stimulate the jealousy of the underclasses.
I’m pretty sure that’s not what people mean when they say “morality went out the window.”
This teen killed people cause he thought that beautiful girls were out of reach. The high school environment merely rubbed it in his face. Yes drugs to treat ADD might’ve eroded many of the impulse control functions in the teen, but the rage against the high school was still the gasoline.
[citation needed]
He might’ve had a picture or two taken with a girl next to him, but oftentimes those high school girls lie and simply eat up the male’s offerings without granting sexual access, but grant it to a random stud.
How dare young women choose who to have sex with, and who not to!
I’m not saying the girl he killed deserved it, it’s only that when you are in that frame of mind you cannot tell who is having more sex than others and you simply fill in the gaps with rage.
Wait, so if she had turned him down he would have been justified in killing her?
The beautiful girl simply represented everything that the teen couldn’t get. The steady love and wild sex of a valuable young girl.
Yeah, I think you’re confusing high school with porn again. His rampage lasted roughly a minute and a half. He shot her because she was there.
All the other theories posted on this site seem comical, self-righteous and weirdly off-point. It’s like you’re assessing the situation as an asexual senior citizen or righteous prude.
Not a lot of “prudes” here. Just people who find the “women need to have sex with ‘nice guys’ or these ‘nice gys’ will kill you all” to be a somewhat problematic argument.
Generally men want sex with young thin beauties who validate their existence.
Some men do. But most men, among those who are sexually attracted to women, aren’t as neurotically fixated on this small slice of the female demographic – women in their teens and early twenties who are somehow both virginal and sexually “wild” – as manosphere men seem to be. And most people don’t base their entire self-worth on whether or not they’re having sex with beautiful people.
Some men prefer women older than them. Some like women who are fat. Plenty of men don’t fixate on a particular physical type and are attracted to all sorts of different women. Believe it or not, whogoesthere, there are lots of men who are more interested in what’s in a woman’s head than they are in whether or not she matches up with some particular checklist of physical attributes.
If society removes all of the social pathways to attaining such a beauty, such as making prostitution illegal, increasing shame for men who seek sex, rewarding females and males called manginas who identify and mock the sex seekers and so on… this will lead to depression in men and all of the behaviors surrounding it, including shootings. Sounds pretty much like a logical line of reasoning to me.
And that’s the problem. It’s not actually a logical line of reasoning at all. It’s more like a sort of blackmail.
Men don’t kill women because they can’t have “the steady love and wild sex of a valuable young girl.” Sometimes men kill women because they feel entitled to have sex with these “valuable young girls” and become bitter and enraged when they can’t find a “valuable young girl” who agrees with them on this particular point.
It’s not the lack of “sexual access” that’s the problem. It’s the notion that your desire for “sexual access” means more than the right of that person to say “no.” It’s the notion that society has done you wrong because you can’t (at least at the moment) get laid. It’s the idea that your desire to have sex with a particular kind of woman somehow trumps the right of other people to live.
I mean, what the fucking fuck.
Oh, by the way, there’s no evidence that the shooter in question – Karl Halverson Pierson – was motivated by sexual frustration. His intended target was the school librarian, who is also the school’s debate coach. Pierson was obsessed with debate, and had some sort of grudge against the coach.
Gah, I was thinking of those scary plush things before, katz.
I LOL’d at this typo on that page:
“Whether you are looking for a unique conversation piece to keep you company in your home of orffice”
Couldn’t they decide whether to type office or orifice?
But that’s not true. I had a relationship with a very attractive woman when my salary hadn’t even hit five figures and I barely had any disposable income to speak of.
And you know how I managed it? By treating her like the intelligent, interesting person that she was. It really was as simple as that.
And you’d be surprised how effective this can be, because a great many very attractive women have to put up with untold amounts of crude objectification and none-too-well-hidden assumptions that if she’s that good looking, her IQ must only be double-digit (you know, to provide “balance”). Either that or men would be visibly terrified of her, because of the way she combined drop-dead gorgeous looks with a keen intelligence and a cutting wit.
Whereas to me that’s completely normal. I was immensely fortunate to grow up in a large family (23 first cousins, many of whom lived nearby) with a high proportion of highly intelligent and outspoken women, very much including my mother, sister and both grandmothers (and, more recently, my wife and daughter). So my default mode is to assume that any woman I meet is like that, and treat her accordingly.
And what I don’t do is rank her on some kind of imaginary scale from “well below average” to “hot”. My mind just doesn’t work like that. Maybe because it works in the first place.
Yes on troll and no on your ability to recognize truth.
Good grief, this troll definitely took his Verbosity Pills. If pecunium does one of his broad responses to all this gobbledygook I’m guessing he’ll have to bail half way through, unless he has most of the day free to dedicate to undfreeland and is feeling particularly masochistic (in a non-fun way).
Now we’re even, cause I am wiping genmaicha off my monitor.
Still waiting.
Why am I the one who isn’t telling the truth?
So, I kind of hated the song, but the intro chant suits Undfreeland perfectly:
I’m a troll, I’m a troll, I’m a I’m a I’m a troll.
I’m a troll, I’m a troll, I’m a I’m a I’m a troll.
I’m a troll, I’m a troll, I’m a I’m a I’m a troll.
I’m a troll troll troll troll, I’m a I’m a troll.
I’m a troll troll troll troll, I’m a I’m a troll.
(The original had be, instead of troll.)
(And, it’s only slightly less repetitive than Undfreeland himself!)
And thus the balance of the world is maintained! XD
He’s that guy, isn’t he? The one who thinks he’s funny who everyone is too polite to disabuse of that belief, partly because they feel sorry for him.
@duckbunny
and it seems to me that he lived his life like a spammer in the wind
never knowing what lie to cling to
when the truth set in
kittesherf, is it really so hard to believe that my beliefs contradict the political goals of feminism? I mean, without feminsim, I wouldn’t have been able to have sex with nearly as many women as I did. Too many would fear being labeled sluts.
I am party of society. Society needs all the resources it can muster. Therefore, women should have the same opportunities and rights as men. Just because I don’t care how smart a woman I sleep with is, doesn’t mean I don’t think woman can be intelligent. Non-hetoro sexual orientations don’t concern me. In fact, I love gay guys. Every gay dude is one less dude I’m competing with.
I think that rape culture exists, and often argue with male friends about what constitutes rape. They tend to have a stricter definition than I.
Is it really so hard to believe that someone you don’t like could have your same political leanings?
@piratejenny, you claim I have lied about my life. I have not.
No, that’s not hard to believe at all.
Comedy gold!
This
And then this directly afterwards.
I vote that we keep this chew toy as long as he says something this funny at least once every third comment.
Ha! I’m pretty stoned right now. woops.
^@ katz
I have no idea what cassandrakitty is going on about.
I’m sure you don’t.
@piratejennie
And I’d really hate to know him,
But he’ is just a kid
His lies the fell out long ago,
And his legend won’t be long.
So farewell Undfreeland,
It’s like you’ve been, five different men
You’ve lacked the grace to hold yourself
To one set of details.
So farewell Undfreeland,
From the young lass on the Interwebs of old,
And the old folks who see you as pretty boring
Just your average, bargain troll.
The very fact that feminism to you means being able to have more sex with those womenthings you lust after says that you’re not only not a feminist, you’re just a bog-standard predatory little loser. You make it more and more obvious with everything you type that you only see women in a utilitarian way, mostly about whether they’re hot enough for you to want to get your dick wet.
You really are contemptible, you know that?
I fight rape culture by having lots of conversations about it with friends whose definitions of rape I feel are too strict. I am Best Feminist.
Sorry all, I get sing-y late at night.
I actually did have to disabuse a relative of that belief once, although I did it in private rather than wait for my wife to tell him to his face what she thought of him.
The problem was, he genuinely believed that he was the 21st-century successor to Oscar Wilde, and that all it took to be witty was to make sneeringly disparaging remarks about people. And pretty much every time we were in the same room together, he’d make some obnoxious crack about me – in front of her.
It was so transparently obvious what he was trying to do (especially the day when he said she’d “married the wrong man”) that we initially had a good laugh about this afterwards, but he was so evidently convinced that her tight-lipped smile constituted a standing ovation that he got worse and worse.
But at least the penny dropped immediately when I told him, and he became much pleasanter company from that point on. He may well have been genuinely shocked to discover that what he’d interpreted as a look of admiration was in fact a look of increasing loathing, but at least he wasn’t stupid enough to persist in his delusion.
Hey, sing-y sure beats creep-y.
kittehserf, i see almost everything in a utilitarian way.
You know that by stricter definition, I meant more restrictive. They tend to dismiss date rape. I support California’s affirmative consent laws.
@contrapangloss, I guess it’s pretty cool that I”m so complex and/or unique that some of you can’t accept I’m real. I really haven’t lied about myself at all.
There is a book that I want but it costs $300. It is at the UCLA library, but I would have to pay $25 for a library card to check it out, and then I still wouldn’t own it. Humph.
…That thing I just wrote was boring, but at least it wasn’t creepy.