Sometimes I hunt the misogyny, sometimes it wanders up right up to me and says hello.
Today’s post is an example of the latter. Below, a slightly edited comment that someone left for me this morning. It’s a response to a post of mine about a dreadful post on Return of Kings in which a fellow calling himself Billy Chubbs argued, with absolutely no evidence, that a recent high school shooter was driven to murder because of his “probable sexual frustration,” Chubbs went on to argue that young women are “selfish” because they don’t have sex with guys they’re not attracted to.
Anyway, my new commenter – posting under the name “whogoesthere?” – thinks that I and the other commenters here were being too hard on Chubbs’ “very good argument.” And so he deposited this giant rant, which in many ways is even scarier than Chubbs’ original.
He’s a tad verbose, so I’ve trimmed out some stuff that isn’t relevant to his general, er, thesis. And I’ve also taken the liberty of adding a few paragraph breaks and bolding a few of the best (i.e. worst) bits.
When men don’t get the women they want they turn to violence.
Not a good start here, because this just isn’t true. In this case, the phrase “not all men” is, for once, appropriate. Most men don’t get violent when they’re turned down.
This is established all over the animal kingdom and offers a good example about how it applies to humans, that snotty girls who keep their sexual treasures to all but a few males cause the remaining males to snap. …
Animals do all sorts of things that humans don’t do, and we can’t always learn from their behavior or assume that it relates to our own lives.
Or maybe the Evo Psych crew is just looking at the wrong animals. When banana slugs can’t find a partner to have sex with, they simply fertilize themselves. There’s a lesson here, I think, for the angry incels of the world: you can’t always get what you want, and when you can’t, sex with yourself is better than murder.
High school is a massively sexually charged winner take all environment. … Today’s high school is basically an ongoing audition for a porno video and the guys and girls who don’t make the cut can only sit at home and masturbate.
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It’s demeaning and hits a major blow to a person’s sexual identity to not be invited to frolic with the beautiful people.
Somehow most people, regardless of gender, manage to survive even if they’re not frolicking with Charlize Theron and/or Channing Tatum.
I’m sorry but almost no men go on wild shooting rampages if they have a beautiful female in their keep.
In their keep?! Also, no. Charles Manson was surrounded by beautiful young women. Yet he orchestrated multiple grisly murders.
The only guys that do so are bank robbers and thieves, generally guys at a later stage of life more fixated on money.
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Human beings naturally assess the amount of sex going around them and judge themselves in relationship to the amount and type of sex others are getting.
You know, you can’t actually tell how much and what kind of sex someone is having just by looking at them. Yes, there will always be people in the world having more sex with you. And some of these people are having sex with people you would probably like to have sex with. There are also people who are smarter than you, funnier than you, who can play chess or kickbox better than you, who have hundreds or thousands of times more money than you do.
That’s life. Life isn’t fair.
This makes sense because from a reproductive standpoint sex is coveted, and sex with beautiful thin, young women are the most coveted. Being the first to spoil these young women sexually is viewed reproductively as a guarantee of parentage, thus this is why males instinctively covet and burn with passion for these females.
Ah, yes, it was only a matter of time until the creepy pedo-justifying Evo Psych assfacts made their appearance. Not all men “burn with passion” in their pants for virginal high school girls.
This is why we have “morality” which is in its essence is a promise not to flaunt or indulge in sex moreso than the lowest man or woman in your tribe. This is what is meant when people say “morality went out the window.” They mean someone with more sexual prowess is openly indulging in sex and broadcasting it to stimulate the jealousy of the underclasses.
I’m pretty sure that’s not what people mean when they say “morality went out the window.”
This teen killed people cause he thought that beautiful girls were out of reach. The high school environment merely rubbed it in his face. Yes drugs to treat ADD might’ve eroded many of the impulse control functions in the teen, but the rage against the high school was still the gasoline.
[citation needed]
He might’ve had a picture or two taken with a girl next to him, but oftentimes those high school girls lie and simply eat up the male’s offerings without granting sexual access, but grant it to a random stud.
How dare young women choose who to have sex with, and who not to!
I’m not saying the girl he killed deserved it, it’s only that when you are in that frame of mind you cannot tell who is having more sex than others and you simply fill in the gaps with rage.
Wait, so if she had turned him down he would have been justified in killing her?
The beautiful girl simply represented everything that the teen couldn’t get. The steady love and wild sex of a valuable young girl.
Yeah, I think you’re confusing high school with porn again. His rampage lasted roughly a minute and a half. He shot her because she was there.
All the other theories posted on this site seem comical, self-righteous and weirdly off-point. It’s like you’re assessing the situation as an asexual senior citizen or righteous prude.
Not a lot of “prudes” here. Just people who find the “women need to have sex with ‘nice guys’ or these ‘nice gys’ will kill you all” to be a somewhat problematic argument.
Generally men want sex with young thin beauties who validate their existence.
Some men do. But most men, among those who are sexually attracted to women, aren’t as neurotically fixated on this small slice of the female demographic – women in their teens and early twenties who are somehow both virginal and sexually “wild” – as manosphere men seem to be. And most people don’t base their entire self-worth on whether or not they’re having sex with beautiful people.
Some men prefer women older than them. Some like women who are fat. Plenty of men don’t fixate on a particular physical type and are attracted to all sorts of different women. Believe it or not, whogoesthere, there are lots of men who are more interested in what’s in a woman’s head than they are in whether or not she matches up with some particular checklist of physical attributes.
If society removes all of the social pathways to attaining such a beauty, such as making prostitution illegal, increasing shame for men who seek sex, rewarding females and males called manginas who identify and mock the sex seekers and so on… this will lead to depression in men and all of the behaviors surrounding it, including shootings. Sounds pretty much like a logical line of reasoning to me.
And that’s the problem. It’s not actually a logical line of reasoning at all. It’s more like a sort of blackmail.
Men don’t kill women because they can’t have “the steady love and wild sex of a valuable young girl.” Sometimes men kill women because they feel entitled to have sex with these “valuable young girls” and become bitter and enraged when they can’t find a “valuable young girl” who agrees with them on this particular point.
It’s not the lack of “sexual access” that’s the problem. It’s the notion that your desire for “sexual access” means more than the right of that person to say “no.” It’s the notion that society has done you wrong because you can’t (at least at the moment) get laid. It’s the idea that your desire to have sex with a particular kind of woman somehow trumps the right of other people to live.
I mean, what the fucking fuck.
Oh, by the way, there’s no evidence that the shooter in question – Karl Halverson Pierson – was motivated by sexual frustration. His intended target was the school librarian, who is also the school’s debate coach. Pierson was obsessed with debate, and had some sort of grudge against the coach.
Fibi: files sent!
@wetherby, i assure you, i can be quite entertaining. Most people believe me to be funny. I’m pretty much always doing shtick. When you don’t take anything seriously, it’s really the only thing you can do.
@duckbunny- is polyamory ethical? I’m not too big on ethics, but I mean, if everyone involved is aware of what’s going on, then I guess by most reasonable standards sure. Personally, I wouldn’t find it too groovy a situation, but what other people do sexually isn’t really an ethical concern of mine.
I feel really bad for the women you date Undfreeland. You lie and manipulate them while you apparently think so little of them. You use their emotions as an ego boost, but still don’t feel it’s enough because they aren’t as attractive to you as your ideal ego booster.
Just go out and buy a real doll and sit it in your room. Ask for the adoring stare model. You can use your powers of projection to make her love you.
@Cassandrakitty, I never once commented on my wealth or lack therof before. I did say that men without money have a hard time getting laid by very attractive women. Perhaps you are confusing an observation about society with a personal complaint? Believe it or not, the two are not always associated.
Jesus, viscara. I don’t talk about these things with most people. Is that very hard to understand?
Remember when you first came on here and tried to present yourself as a progressive feminist dude? Anybody buy that?
You may want to consider the possibility that you are not the Machiavellian genius you think you are, and realign your plans for world domination accordingly.
It’s so cute how you’re all cold and cynical and above mere human emotion. I want to tousle your curly locks. When my husband went through that phase he grew his hair out and made Kurt Cobain T-shirts with laundry markers. Who do the kids draw these days?
@Tessa, I have to say, the idea of real doll has occured to me, and I have looked into it. Problem is, the best ones (and if you were going to do something like that, I think going with the best one is pretty important) are out of my current price range. I’ll have to wait to get my CPA and my first real job, before I can really consider that. My grandfather is the closes of my wealthy relatives to dieing, but my grandmother will probably be around for a while, and she’s currently the sole beneficiary if he dies before her.
So you admit you’re a lulz troll? .Jesus Christ, this guy is boring. They’re really only fun when they’re bizarre or heading to a breakdown. Sorry und, we’ve heard everything you’ve said before.
And it assumes that hetero guys are all on the lookout for a new sexual partner, and that women don’t actually have any agency in the matter at all.
Fail is the only thing this troll’s good at.
No kidding.
“Groovy”? Are you wearing your Austin Powers suit by any chance? You’re trying soooo hard, little troll, and only getting laughed at more. Maybe you should get a job as a stand-up comedian.
The limericks are awesome. Everyone, you should click Fibi’s link.
Very relaxing, soothing voice, saying hilarious things. I didn’t know wether to fall asleep to the rhythm, or die laughing…
@kittehserf, Trying so hard to do what? I’m here to sharpen and solidify my thoughts, as I have previously stated. Ya’ll have been a great help. Statements about my story not being accurate are false and distracting. I mean, you said I once said I was short. I never did. Not once. And I’m supposed to take your accusations of inconsistency seriously?
I suppose actual opinions on something that doesn’t obey his nonsensical marketplace rules were too much to hope for, but it seemed amusing to try.
What are you talking about und? We’ve been telling you where your lies have been showing so you can improve on that. Those statements are really the only ones you should take into consideration.
Apart from, y’know, the ones about where you’re going wrong in your life. Which is pretty much everywhere.
Not that anything actually obeys his rules, obviously. But poly might break them even more obviously?
What duckbunny, you not a fan of polyamory?
@undfreeland
It doesn’t matter whether YOU take them seriously or not.
It is that they are there in your posts for everyone to see.
I’m poly, do try and keep up.
I know Kitteh already quoted this gem, but I’m doing it again because of it’s hilariousness.
::snort:: Your entire time here has been one long personal complaint, aka whinefest, underpantsland. Trotting out your assfax and fantasies isn’t an observation of society, because society doesn’t actually work the way you like to pretend.
And i’m the troll. When piratejennie is clearly the one that isn’t telling the truth.
No sign of that happening, bog brain.
Nope, she’s saying what we’ve all observed. Oh, and we get to say who’s a regular (piratejennie) and who’s a lying little troll (underpantsland). You lied the minute you claimed to be a feminist or to support the movement.
About?
Sharp like a hammer. Solid like the wind.
It’s possible that you’re funny in real life, but I am skeptical, because you come off as relentlessly dull, pretentious and unoriginal in your writing. ALWAYS doing a schtick? As in, people are forced to pretend to laugh over and over and over again to be polite? I very much doubt you are as inscrutable as you believe. I think it’s much more likely that you have no idea how other people perceive you. You’ve made it abundantly clear you aren’t very interested in how other people think. And you’re so convinced you’re wise and world-weary when you don’t seem to know very much about anything. You sound pretty unbearable, frankly.
Perhaps a Teddy Babe would be more your speed?