Sometimes I hunt the misogyny, sometimes it wanders up right up to me and says hello.
Today’s post is an example of the latter. Below, a slightly edited comment that someone left for me this morning. It’s a response to a post of mine about a dreadful post on Return of Kings in which a fellow calling himself Billy Chubbs argued, with absolutely no evidence, that a recent high school shooter was driven to murder because of his “probable sexual frustration,” Chubbs went on to argue that young women are “selfish” because they don’t have sex with guys they’re not attracted to.
Anyway, my new commenter – posting under the name “whogoesthere?” – thinks that I and the other commenters here were being too hard on Chubbs’ “very good argument.” And so he deposited this giant rant, which in many ways is even scarier than Chubbs’ original.
He’s a tad verbose, so I’ve trimmed out some stuff that isn’t relevant to his general, er, thesis. And I’ve also taken the liberty of adding a few paragraph breaks and bolding a few of the best (i.e. worst) bits.
When men don’t get the women they want they turn to violence.
Not a good start here, because this just isn’t true. In this case, the phrase “not all men” is, for once, appropriate. Most men don’t get violent when they’re turned down.
This is established all over the animal kingdom and offers a good example about how it applies to humans, that snotty girls who keep their sexual treasures to all but a few males cause the remaining males to snap. …
Animals do all sorts of things that humans don’t do, and we can’t always learn from their behavior or assume that it relates to our own lives.
Or maybe the Evo Psych crew is just looking at the wrong animals. When banana slugs can’t find a partner to have sex with, they simply fertilize themselves. There’s a lesson here, I think, for the angry incels of the world: you can’t always get what you want, and when you can’t, sex with yourself is better than murder.
High school is a massively sexually charged winner take all environment. … Today’s high school is basically an ongoing audition for a porno video and the guys and girls who don’t make the cut can only sit at home and masturbate.
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It’s demeaning and hits a major blow to a person’s sexual identity to not be invited to frolic with the beautiful people.
Somehow most people, regardless of gender, manage to survive even if they’re not frolicking with Charlize Theron and/or Channing Tatum.
I’m sorry but almost no men go on wild shooting rampages if they have a beautiful female in their keep.
In their keep?! Also, no. Charles Manson was surrounded by beautiful young women. Yet he orchestrated multiple grisly murders.
The only guys that do so are bank robbers and thieves, generally guys at a later stage of life more fixated on money.
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Human beings naturally assess the amount of sex going around them and judge themselves in relationship to the amount and type of sex others are getting.
You know, you can’t actually tell how much and what kind of sex someone is having just by looking at them. Yes, there will always be people in the world having more sex with you. And some of these people are having sex with people you would probably like to have sex with. There are also people who are smarter than you, funnier than you, who can play chess or kickbox better than you, who have hundreds or thousands of times more money than you do.
That’s life. Life isn’t fair.
This makes sense because from a reproductive standpoint sex is coveted, and sex with beautiful thin, young women are the most coveted. Being the first to spoil these young women sexually is viewed reproductively as a guarantee of parentage, thus this is why males instinctively covet and burn with passion for these females.
Ah, yes, it was only a matter of time until the creepy pedo-justifying Evo Psych assfacts made their appearance. Not all men “burn with passion” in their pants for virginal high school girls.
This is why we have “morality” which is in its essence is a promise not to flaunt or indulge in sex moreso than the lowest man or woman in your tribe. This is what is meant when people say “morality went out the window.” They mean someone with more sexual prowess is openly indulging in sex and broadcasting it to stimulate the jealousy of the underclasses.
I’m pretty sure that’s not what people mean when they say “morality went out the window.”
This teen killed people cause he thought that beautiful girls were out of reach. The high school environment merely rubbed it in his face. Yes drugs to treat ADD might’ve eroded many of the impulse control functions in the teen, but the rage against the high school was still the gasoline.
[citation needed]
He might’ve had a picture or two taken with a girl next to him, but oftentimes those high school girls lie and simply eat up the male’s offerings without granting sexual access, but grant it to a random stud.
How dare young women choose who to have sex with, and who not to!
I’m not saying the girl he killed deserved it, it’s only that when you are in that frame of mind you cannot tell who is having more sex than others and you simply fill in the gaps with rage.
Wait, so if she had turned him down he would have been justified in killing her?
The beautiful girl simply represented everything that the teen couldn’t get. The steady love and wild sex of a valuable young girl.
Yeah, I think you’re confusing high school with porn again. His rampage lasted roughly a minute and a half. He shot her because she was there.
All the other theories posted on this site seem comical, self-righteous and weirdly off-point. It’s like you’re assessing the situation as an asexual senior citizen or righteous prude.
Not a lot of “prudes” here. Just people who find the “women need to have sex with ‘nice guys’ or these ‘nice gys’ will kill you all” to be a somewhat problematic argument.
Generally men want sex with young thin beauties who validate their existence.
Some men do. But most men, among those who are sexually attracted to women, aren’t as neurotically fixated on this small slice of the female demographic – women in their teens and early twenties who are somehow both virginal and sexually “wild” – as manosphere men seem to be. And most people don’t base their entire self-worth on whether or not they’re having sex with beautiful people.
Some men prefer women older than them. Some like women who are fat. Plenty of men don’t fixate on a particular physical type and are attracted to all sorts of different women. Believe it or not, whogoesthere, there are lots of men who are more interested in what’s in a woman’s head than they are in whether or not she matches up with some particular checklist of physical attributes.
If society removes all of the social pathways to attaining such a beauty, such as making prostitution illegal, increasing shame for men who seek sex, rewarding females and males called manginas who identify and mock the sex seekers and so on… this will lead to depression in men and all of the behaviors surrounding it, including shootings. Sounds pretty much like a logical line of reasoning to me.
And that’s the problem. It’s not actually a logical line of reasoning at all. It’s more like a sort of blackmail.
Men don’t kill women because they can’t have “the steady love and wild sex of a valuable young girl.” Sometimes men kill women because they feel entitled to have sex with these “valuable young girls” and become bitter and enraged when they can’t find a “valuable young girl” who agrees with them on this particular point.
It’s not the lack of “sexual access” that’s the problem. It’s the notion that your desire for “sexual access” means more than the right of that person to say “no.” It’s the notion that society has done you wrong because you can’t (at least at the moment) get laid. It’s the idea that your desire to have sex with a particular kind of woman somehow trumps the right of other people to live.
I mean, what the fucking fuck.
Oh, by the way, there’s no evidence that the shooter in question – Karl Halverson Pierson – was motivated by sexual frustration. His intended target was the school librarian, who is also the school’s debate coach. Pierson was obsessed with debate, and had some sort of grudge against the coach.
Sure, that sounds fun.
My e-mail is fibinaut at gmail.com.
Wouldn’t help. The whole problem with those nitwits is that they never do go away.
I really fail to understand how you think I’m not consistent.Perhaps you have misunderstood me. Or there’s been too much to keep track of. I haven’t lied about my life.
@duckbunny, I am not “attractive and women don’t see it”. I’ve repeatedly said I understand why woman aren’t attracted to me.
I’m not shitty, but the description of myself that I gave is NOT attractive enough for the hottest women, especially with my lack of interesting hobbies or wealth. I pull below average to average women consistently (But in the end, that only leaves me slightly more fulfilled than masturbating. Though my perception of their feelings towards me is still a small ego boost) Above average a couple times, and one amazingly hot chick once but not long-term. That’s hardly what I’d call attractive.
I know some of you will call me out or criticize on this statement. But I truly believe that people like unfreeland have never cultivated a deep or meaningful relationship with another male, That they are so homophobic that people such s him don’t even want to have a hint of male bonding in their lives. There is just a part of me that thinks that a lot of misogyny comes from males who cannot bond with other males. I personally have had many bromances where I have actually fallen in love with other guys. I do not see them as competition…I see them as people.
Oh, get over yourself, child. You’re not deep. You’re just a wanker.
You’re consistently creepy and misogynistic, I’ll grant you that much.
Oh, and the 1970s called, they want their slang back.
To anyone reading this thread and wondering why I’m recommending running and hobbies to this little creep, well, one of his sad face posts suckered me into briefly being inexplicably sympathetic. I got a snack, wrote my old lady advice post and only then read all his shitball posts about dead relatives and day trading, interchangeable bodies and porn, and how he feels nothing for anyone. I know it doesn’t matter and I really don’t think anyone should care, but I feel like a schmuck for momentarily not seeing the full scope of his feverish adolescent fantasies of grand wealth and unlimited access to hot women’s body (brain function, outside of loyalty and admiration, is an optional feature). Fucking troll.
Robert, I doubt this twerp could manage a meaningful relationship with anyone or anything except his dick.
@piratejennie
I didn’t think your tone was anything other than chatty. I was slow on the uptake when it comes to the the mustache-twirling, grand scheming fantasy aspect of his trolling, but that’s on me.
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can’tcan wait to see the new material he’ll throw at us tomorrow. It’s going to begoodobnoxious drivel.@Robert Ramirez, I have had many great relationships with other men, though to deny that any man, even your best friend, isn’t competition for woman your interested in is foolish. Also, I am not homophobic in the least. In fact, I’ve made out with gay friends at party’s for the lulz (i wasn’t teasing them or anything. Once it was to piss off a homophobe. The other time was during a spin the bottle game in college (it was a “middle-school” themed theme party) and of course the girls were making out with each other but the guys weren’t, so the one gay dude involved wasn’t having a lot of fun So the first time I got a guy I made out with him to end that little bit of foolishness)
Oh, and @ leah, I am not a libertarian. In fact,I specifically rejected the “help” of that libertarian Taino. How can I possibly take accusations of inconsistency seriously from ya’ll?
I have no idea why he’s so touchy about being accused of not being consistent, of all fucking things. As Emerson said, “consistency is the hobgoblin of creepy minds”.
@kittehserf
Thanks. I just didn’t want people to think I was saying anything negative by pointing out that others has made the same observation.
I have a hard time judging when I am in the wrong due to past abusive relationships so I have a tendency to over apologize and accept blame where there isn’t any. It’s a process I’m still unlearning, but it’s getting there.
Have I mentioned lately how much I adore all of you? Entering this community has vastly improved my quality of life and gives me more reasons to face each day with strength and compassion.
Thanks and baskets of kittens to all of you.
For pity’s sake, people are not out to steal your partners! If your friends are, that’s not a universal, it just means you need better friends. If you are, that’s not a universal, it just means you suck.
I mean, seriously, people do not exist in a constant state of trying to trade up for better models. That is not how relationships.
Tell me, do you think polyamory is ethical?
This is what my day has been like so far.
I woke up next to my wife. Far from being me repulsed by her 48-year-old body, we had snuggly, giggly sex and then lay next to each other for several minutes devising rhyming nicknames for her accountant for no other reason than it made us both laugh. While she was in the shower, I proofread her job application (a job that will result in a noticeable drop in income compared with her current freelancing but which will give her valuable skills for later, so I’m completely behind it). She then prepared the kids’ school clothes while I made their packed lunches, and we then had breakfast together, most of which was dominated by my daughter being sarcastic and the dog trying to get extra food by licking exposed elbows, under the deluded impression that this might work. (He reminds me of someone.)
All of which was dominated by laughter and merriment, the sound of people who have nothing left to prove and who are totally happy with each other and their current lives. Largely because they didn’t swallow this bullshit about “sexual marketplace value” and whether people are “hot” or “average”. In other words, people who don’t think like this:
It’s not just women who aren’t attracted to you, buddy boy – it’s literally everyone in this thread. I can find your posts grimly amusing in small doses, but I shudder to think how boring and solipsistic you must be in a real-life situation that’s impossible to escape without giving offence. And believe me, the size of your bank balance makes not one iota of difference. Not least because my wife and I only just manage to balance our income and outgoings – but we don’t allow personal wealth (or the marked lack of it) to define us.
And what’s all this crap about “the hottest women” or “below average to average women”? What does that even mean? One of the best girlfriends I ever had – someone who remains one of my closest friends to this day – was and is severely disabled. Presumably on your ridiculous scale that would make her “well below average”? And yet there are few other people besides my wife whose company I enjoy more. Indeed, we haven’t had sex since the turn of the millennium, and yet we still actively seek out and enjoy each other’s company, often for hours at a time. Imagine that! (Not that you can.)
This guy’s sort of a fun vampire.
“I’m not a lulz troll! I’m not, I’m not!”
Wonder why he’s so keen for his disgusting persona to be believed?
This guy’s story changes so often it’s like the plot of an 80s drama. Apparently we’ve moved on to the Dynasty, I’m-stinking-rich stage, and he’s decided to roleplay as Patrick Bateman. Sorry, my friend, but you are no Christian Bale.
Oh, FFS.
Making out with a guy for lulz does not mean you aren’t homophobic.
Any discussion of your homophobia or heterocentrism has been focused around your statement that people who identify as bi or pan are sexually “open-minded” which many people saw as grossly reductionist.
Hey! I hardly ever lick elbows anymore.
Come on Wetherby, the only thing that matters is if your wife is a white ectomorph. I’ve gone out with an ectomorph, but she was a mutant ninja turtle, so she wasn’t white.
But how can he know that bi and pan people are open-minded if minds are impossible to know? *strokes chin*
This guy’s story changes so often it’s like the plot of an 80s drama. Apparently we’ve moved on to Dynasty, and he’s decided to roleplay as Patrick Bateman. Sorry, my friend, but you are no Christian Bale.
I love this place too. (Not the trolls, obviously.)
Baskets of kittens backatcha!
Wetherby – I had a happy reading about your day. 🙂
http://youtu.be/s0wB4ZCa8rk
That statement by its very nature is heterocentrist because it assumes that all men are sexually attracted to women.
And it’s vapid in the extreme because it assumes that all men are interested in ANY woman.
Since Contrapangloss did a song, I figured I’d do some reading –
So here’s a series of limericks.
http://vocaroo.com/i/s1xNFpp51VLk
There once was a fellow named Freeland
He had his keyboard close at hand
Had a story to tell
He told it quite well
Unfortunately the take-away’s quite bland
Inspired by notions economical
He had a plan quite functional
Wait for people to die
use their money to try
Only then find himself in situations fornicational
Beautiful people give validation
Turn you on without hesitation
only their brains need be spare
I don’t really care
And besides, they’re all one big amalgamation
He’s dated girls of average pulchritude
and does so in multitude
But it just ain’t the same
as some gorgeous dame
( We find that to be a platitude )
For a mind so certainly solipsistic
Desparing any notions altruistic
It seems kind of mean
but if your life is a stage-scene
You should probably try to be less chauvinistic
Get a hobby in your time of leisure
Find some thing to stack or measure
Shot a bow
Draw a cow
Just fucking your keyboard won’t give you much pleasure
In in the end people are not fungible
and your ways are quite corruptible
It’s saddening to see
How little you work to be free
And just how you must think we are gullible
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