Sometimes I hunt the misogyny, sometimes it wanders up right up to me and says hello.
Today’s post is an example of the latter. Below, a slightly edited comment that someone left for me this morning. It’s a response to a post of mine about a dreadful post on Return of Kings in which a fellow calling himself Billy Chubbs argued, with absolutely no evidence, that a recent high school shooter was driven to murder because of his “probable sexual frustration,” Chubbs went on to argue that young women are “selfish” because they don’t have sex with guys they’re not attracted to.
Anyway, my new commenter – posting under the name “whogoesthere?” – thinks that I and the other commenters here were being too hard on Chubbs’ “very good argument.” And so he deposited this giant rant, which in many ways is even scarier than Chubbs’ original.
He’s a tad verbose, so I’ve trimmed out some stuff that isn’t relevant to his general, er, thesis. And I’ve also taken the liberty of adding a few paragraph breaks and bolding a few of the best (i.e. worst) bits.
When men don’t get the women they want they turn to violence.
Not a good start here, because this just isn’t true. In this case, the phrase “not all men” is, for once, appropriate. Most men don’t get violent when they’re turned down.
This is established all over the animal kingdom and offers a good example about how it applies to humans, that snotty girls who keep their sexual treasures to all but a few males cause the remaining males to snap. …
Animals do all sorts of things that humans don’t do, and we can’t always learn from their behavior or assume that it relates to our own lives.
Or maybe the Evo Psych crew is just looking at the wrong animals. When banana slugs can’t find a partner to have sex with, they simply fertilize themselves. There’s a lesson here, I think, for the angry incels of the world: you can’t always get what you want, and when you can’t, sex with yourself is better than murder.
High school is a massively sexually charged winner take all environment. … Today’s high school is basically an ongoing audition for a porno video and the guys and girls who don’t make the cut can only sit at home and masturbate.
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It’s demeaning and hits a major blow to a person’s sexual identity to not be invited to frolic with the beautiful people.
Somehow most people, regardless of gender, manage to survive even if they’re not frolicking with Charlize Theron and/or Channing Tatum.
I’m sorry but almost no men go on wild shooting rampages if they have a beautiful female in their keep.
In their keep?! Also, no. Charles Manson was surrounded by beautiful young women. Yet he orchestrated multiple grisly murders.
The only guys that do so are bank robbers and thieves, generally guys at a later stage of life more fixated on money.
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Human beings naturally assess the amount of sex going around them and judge themselves in relationship to the amount and type of sex others are getting.
You know, you can’t actually tell how much and what kind of sex someone is having just by looking at them. Yes, there will always be people in the world having more sex with you. And some of these people are having sex with people you would probably like to have sex with. There are also people who are smarter than you, funnier than you, who can play chess or kickbox better than you, who have hundreds or thousands of times more money than you do.
That’s life. Life isn’t fair.
This makes sense because from a reproductive standpoint sex is coveted, and sex with beautiful thin, young women are the most coveted. Being the first to spoil these young women sexually is viewed reproductively as a guarantee of parentage, thus this is why males instinctively covet and burn with passion for these females.
Ah, yes, it was only a matter of time until the creepy pedo-justifying Evo Psych assfacts made their appearance. Not all men “burn with passion” in their pants for virginal high school girls.
This is why we have “morality” which is in its essence is a promise not to flaunt or indulge in sex moreso than the lowest man or woman in your tribe. This is what is meant when people say “morality went out the window.” They mean someone with more sexual prowess is openly indulging in sex and broadcasting it to stimulate the jealousy of the underclasses.
I’m pretty sure that’s not what people mean when they say “morality went out the window.”
This teen killed people cause he thought that beautiful girls were out of reach. The high school environment merely rubbed it in his face. Yes drugs to treat ADD might’ve eroded many of the impulse control functions in the teen, but the rage against the high school was still the gasoline.
[citation needed]
He might’ve had a picture or two taken with a girl next to him, but oftentimes those high school girls lie and simply eat up the male’s offerings without granting sexual access, but grant it to a random stud.
How dare young women choose who to have sex with, and who not to!
I’m not saying the girl he killed deserved it, it’s only that when you are in that frame of mind you cannot tell who is having more sex than others and you simply fill in the gaps with rage.
Wait, so if she had turned him down he would have been justified in killing her?
The beautiful girl simply represented everything that the teen couldn’t get. The steady love and wild sex of a valuable young girl.
Yeah, I think you’re confusing high school with porn again. His rampage lasted roughly a minute and a half. He shot her because she was there.
All the other theories posted on this site seem comical, self-righteous and weirdly off-point. It’s like you’re assessing the situation as an asexual senior citizen or righteous prude.
Not a lot of “prudes” here. Just people who find the “women need to have sex with ‘nice guys’ or these ‘nice gys’ will kill you all” to be a somewhat problematic argument.
Generally men want sex with young thin beauties who validate their existence.
Some men do. But most men, among those who are sexually attracted to women, aren’t as neurotically fixated on this small slice of the female demographic – women in their teens and early twenties who are somehow both virginal and sexually “wild” – as manosphere men seem to be. And most people don’t base their entire self-worth on whether or not they’re having sex with beautiful people.
Some men prefer women older than them. Some like women who are fat. Plenty of men don’t fixate on a particular physical type and are attracted to all sorts of different women. Believe it or not, whogoesthere, there are lots of men who are more interested in what’s in a woman’s head than they are in whether or not she matches up with some particular checklist of physical attributes.
If society removes all of the social pathways to attaining such a beauty, such as making prostitution illegal, increasing shame for men who seek sex, rewarding females and males called manginas who identify and mock the sex seekers and so on… this will lead to depression in men and all of the behaviors surrounding it, including shootings. Sounds pretty much like a logical line of reasoning to me.
And that’s the problem. It’s not actually a logical line of reasoning at all. It’s more like a sort of blackmail.
Men don’t kill women because they can’t have “the steady love and wild sex of a valuable young girl.” Sometimes men kill women because they feel entitled to have sex with these “valuable young girls” and become bitter and enraged when they can’t find a “valuable young girl” who agrees with them on this particular point.
It’s not the lack of “sexual access” that’s the problem. It’s the notion that your desire for “sexual access” means more than the right of that person to say “no.” It’s the notion that society has done you wrong because you can’t (at least at the moment) get laid. It’s the idea that your desire to have sex with a particular kind of woman somehow trumps the right of other people to live.
I mean, what the fucking fuck.
Oh, by the way, there’s no evidence that the shooter in question – Karl Halverson Pierson – was motivated by sexual frustration. His intended target was the school librarian, who is also the school’s debate coach. Pierson was obsessed with debate, and had some sort of grudge against the coach.
Thankee kindly! 😀
When we make millions of dollars from this can’t-lose venture, do we have to give royalties to undfreeland? I think David should get the lion’s share of the profit, personally, since he’s this is his blog, even if undfreeland did write the copy. And of course piratejennie needs a hefty cut, since she’s the originator of the idea and wrote the catchy slogan.
@unfreedland After reading your last post, I truly do feel that you just vomited on my eyes. You re a truly disgusting whatever species you are. I doubt that species is human.
I’m assuming you’ll hit your mid 40s in about 20 years, just because the idea that you could be older than that and yet still be this breathtakingly immature is too depressing to bear.
Oh Warren, did you think this comment through before you made it? You’re comparing yourself to serial killers. Let that sink in.
Actually, most serial killers have antisocial personalities that people do pick up on. I believe BTK was a family man but most of them are not capable of close relationships. Even Ted Bundy who was famous for having charm didn’t really have them. His charm wore thin eventually and it was being dumped that set him off.
By the way, finding serial killers an interest study subject =/= liking serial killers. Studying crime and watching horror movies is how I process my fear of death as I am not religious.
This is why I hate having big boobs. They draw misogynistic assholes to you on a constant basis.
I have trouble believing someone so miserable could enjoy silly moments. No, people are not interchangeable you fuckwit. Have you never lost a loved one before? Three out of four of my grandparents are dead. They will never be replaced. I can’t just go to an assisted living facility and pick out two old men and one old woman to be my new grandparents. It doesn’t work that way.
Do you really think this is a good way to go through life? I value my friendships because these are people I can be myself around. That feels great. Isn’t it a little creepy and sad that you’re presenting one face in meatspace and coming to a mocking misogyny blog to express yourself to people who think you’re an asshole?
Ew, Seriously Warren, get a life. Find some hobbies.
Come to think of it now, that may be the reason why Mr. FM decided that I just wasn’t like other girls. No flinging myself through the open window of a moving car for me!
“I dumped her because I could not stand the sight of her at times. Her large breasts made up for it during sex, but other times, I was disgusted.”
“As to others referring to non-hetero sexual orientations, as I have said, attraction is greatly influenced by society. The overall liberated attitude towards attraction that most homosexual and bisexual people I have known has always struck me, bisexual and pan-sexual friends being amongst the most open minded even when it approaching heterosexual relationships.”
Why do I keep coming here? Because you keep engaging ideas I rarely get to share. As i’ve said, I don’t ever get a chance to really talk about this stuff in the world. I’ve been banned from several manosphere sites for defending homosexuals, correcting historical and biologically reductionist arguments, and being a “game denialist.” (that is I don’t believe any man can learn game and sleep with whoever he wants) Hell, i once debated Roosh on some stupid theory of societal collapse that he had. He briefly engaged me. Then banned me before I could respond and deleted my post.)
Ya’ll are very well versed in the manosphere, so you recognize many ideas that I have drawn from it without explanation. This is convenient. The insistance that I am a Nice Guy. That’s understandable I suppose. I did say I was boring and not that unattractive. Difference between me and Nice Guys, I don’t begrudge women for not sleeping with me. I understand it. And I don’t do favors for women in the hopes they’ll magically want to sleep with me. While I would certainly sleep with my female friends were they to desire it, I do not expect it as a reward for friendship.
I mean, I’m decent enough to get with semi-attractive woman. I’m tall, work out have nice skin, good facial hair growth, decent jawline. I have crappy kinky brown hair, shit brown eyes and a feminine mid-face, though. Good enough for average chicks that like smart, funny dudes, but I couldn’t ever dream of getting with the hottest chicks without significant income or a more interesting life. However, my idea of a good time is turning on stupid cartoons or music for background noise getting high, playing pc games or surfing the internet and sipping on vodka until I feel like going to sleep. I’m a loser, but I am not a dreg.
I am a troll in the sense that I have definitely enjoyed these exchanges, and they have helped to sharpen my ideas and confirmed some thoughts I’ve had. For instance, it seems wealth is not nearly as important as I once thought. Though, I suspect this would vary from place to place.
But I do sincerely believe everything I have said. And I have never lied about my life.
Jesus, viscara. I don’t talk about these things with most people. Is that very hard to understand?
And this, as has been noted by others, “The people involved were interchangeable. As we all are. As more and more people are realizing” is utter garbage. If I hadn’t met my husband yet, I’d still be single. My little boy is uniquely himself, not interchangeable with any other random toddler. My friends, my coworkers, everyone is their own person. I’m a fairly new commenter still and I can distinguish the different commenters from each other. Each has their own perspective, voice, life and contribution. People are not things. People matter as individuals.
But you believe them, yes? So you’re not bereft of homophobia and you’re misogynistic as hell.
Hey can undfreeland be banned yet? Or at least have a troll challenge. He is boring as fuck and doesn’t see women (or most men, actually) as people. Also he doesn’t seem to understand the meaning of the word “lie”.
I mean if your argument is that you’re good enough at lying to your friends that they believe you’re not a musogynistic, homophobic, biphobic creepazoid then whether you’ve talked to them about this shit is relevent; but if you’re trying to use this friend as a character witness it is utterly failing because we have your own words to refer back to.
I don’t get how these guys convince themselves that being nice kills romance.
My husband still occasionally brings me roses for no reason at all. He just knows that I like fresh cut flowers on the table.
If being good to me was a turn off, we wouldn’t have to tell the children we shower together to save water.
I wrote some lyrics for our kiddo:
Sing to the tune of ‘When I’m 64′
When I get older, I’ll have a car,
And a stack of dough
Pretty girls will line up in a row for me
They will love me, cause I’m so fine!
I’ll have no need for less than a ten,
Don’t you think that’s great?
I’ll get their lovin’, don’t need no old girls!
When I’m middle-aged!
Right now it so sad,
Ah, and girls say I’m a jerk, I don’t see their worth!
It’s been so sadning, madning and lame!
Women don’t like me!
They all leave me just because I’ve been too nice,
I can’t see what else it could be.
My current girl she’s not all that fine!
Why’s love such a chore?
I’ll get their lovin’, don’t need no old girls!
When I’m middle aged!
Every beauty that I’ve laid in my bed
I was quite a cad and it’s not to fear
They just had to flee
Ah, the engineering grad, she don’t talk to me!
I’m just a nice guy, really I am
I’m a feminist too!
It’s just that nice guys don’t get love like assholes do
I was really wasting away
You’ve had hot lovers, you must be rich
Or really handsome!
I’ll get their lovin’, only the beauties,
When I’m middle aged!
True story. Some sad sack complained to my friends that he had shit colored eyes once!
Warren, if you don’t mind me asking, are you from the Twin Cities area?
Or are there two people like this in the world like this?
Does anybody else think complaining about crappy kinky hair has a whiff of racism? I usually hear kinky as a descriptive for natural African hair.
“If being good to me was a turn off, we wouldn’t have to tell the children we shower together to save water.”
Beautiful. 🙂
Perhaps Viscera, but my point was that I can successfully hide that. Some of ya’ll seem convinced that I must ware my every opinion on my sleeve.
And people are interchangeable, folks. You don’t know anyone. You just know an impression of them that exists in only your mind. Once you truly accept that, a lot of life becomes much easier. And weirwoodtreehugger, I have lost relatives. In fact the plan for my future wealth depends on the death of a few well-off relatives.
Whoever made the comment about being upper-middle class, in my forties, I assure you. I will not be merely upper-middle class. I really have never been. My father just has this notion that I should work. Made me work since I was 16. Had to work part-time through college. Must work a shitty job now so that I can go back soon. Hell, I have worse clothes, an older phone and a crappier car than everyone I work with. I suppose if I have any frustration, it is that I should be richer.
The really funny thing is, when my ship does come in, which won’t just be from inheritance, but from day trading and other investment plans, I’ll probably be donating a fair amount to political organizations ya’ll endorse. It might even contribute to me getting laid.
I’m in the undfreeland is patently full of shit camp.
Now he’s a misanthropic cynic with suggestively dangerous undertones who cleverly disguises his vile personality enough to still get dates and a master plan to garner riches by the time he’s 40.
So charming in his personal life that he makes friends at the drop of a hat and has women singing his praises for being a perfect feminist and ally to the community.
Strange that his charms haven’t worked on a single person here. Oh, wait…he’s either displaying his true personality or he’s hiding it because we aren’t “other cynics”…no that still doesn’t make sense.
I would say go away you’re tedious as a cleaning the grout in a tile floor, but I’m curious…um, no I’m not. At all.
@WWTH
I totally thought of Warren too. Except this one would keep April.
I’m still snagged on the whole “feminine mid-face” thing. Is that one of Heartiste’s new physiognomy BS terms, like “soft gay face?”
Hey, he got even worse while I was lyric-ing!
He’s still getting more laughably awful with each post! He’s added manipulative and lying with a bonus ‘like a serial killer’ to his shallow, narcissistic, and misogynistic cred-list!
How soon till the big explosion, I wonder?
That’s some cold, calculating shit right there.
I’m sure the homosexuals appreciate your allegiance.
I’m pretty convinced that you keep saying that you’re a feminist despite believing gross misogynistic harmful fucking stuff. I’m pretty convinced that you think calling bi and pan women “open minded” is a goddamn compliment. I’m pretty convinced that lying to your friends isn’t something a decent person would brag about.
Night kiddies (and ancient 25+ year old crones).
Oh, and add “I need my relatives to hurry up and die so I can get their dough!”
Am I the only one amused by the cartoonish-evil villain vibe?
What is a mid-face? Is that your nose? Can a nose be feminine?
Okay, officially creeped out now.