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Creepy comment of the day: If men can't get "the steady love and wild sex of a valuable young girl," naturally they'll start shooting people.

Banana slug: A better role model for horny humans than bonobos?
Banana slug: A better role model for horny humans than bonobos?

Sometimes I hunt the misogyny, sometimes it wanders up right up to me and says hello.

Today’s post is an example of the latter. Below, a slightly edited comment that someone left for me this morning. It’s a response to a post of mine about a dreadful post on Return of Kings in which a fellow calling himself Billy Chubbs argued, with absolutely no evidence, that a recent high school shooter was driven to murder because of his “probable sexual frustration,” Chubbs went on to argue that young women are “selfish” because they don’t have sex with guys they’re not attracted to.

Anyway, my new commenter – posting under the name “whogoesthere?” – thinks that I and the other commenters here were being too hard on Chubbs’ “very good argument.” And so he deposited this giant rant, which in many ways is even scarier than Chubbs’ original.

He’s a tad verbose, so I’ve trimmed out some stuff that isn’t relevant to his general, er, thesis. And I’ve also taken the liberty of adding a few paragraph breaks and bolding a few of the best (i.e. worst) bits.

When men don’t get the women they want they turn to violence.

Not a good start here, because this just isn’t true. In this case, the phrase “not all men” is, for once, appropriate. Most men don’t get violent when they’re turned down.

This is established all over the animal kingdom and offers a good example about how it applies to humans, that snotty girls who keep their sexual treasures to all but a few males cause the remaining males to snap. …

Animals do all sorts of things that humans don’t do, and we can’t always learn from their behavior or assume that it relates to our own lives.

Or maybe the Evo Psych crew is just looking at the wrong animals. When banana slugs can’t find a partner to have sex with, they simply fertilize themselves. There’s a lesson here, I think, for the angry incels of the world: you can’t always get what you want, and when you can’t, sex with yourself is better than murder.

High school is a massively sexually charged winner take all environment. … Today’s high school is basically an ongoing audition for a porno video and the guys and girls who don’t make the cut can only sit at home and masturbate.

wat

It’s demeaning and hits a major blow to a person’s sexual identity to not be invited to frolic with the beautiful people.

Somehow most people, regardless of gender, manage to survive even if they’re not frolicking with Charlize Theron and/or Channing Tatum.

I’m sorry but almost no men go on wild shooting rampages if they have a beautiful female in their keep.

In their keep?! Also, no. Charles Manson was surrounded by beautiful young women. Yet he orchestrated multiple grisly murders.

The only guys that do so are bank robbers and thieves, generally guys at a later stage of life more fixated on money.

wat

Human beings naturally assess the amount of sex going around them and judge themselves in relationship to the amount and type of sex others are getting.

You know, you can’t actually tell how much and what kind of sex someone is having just by looking at them. Yes, there will always be people in the world having more sex with you. And some of these people are having sex with people you would probably like to have sex with. There are also people who are smarter than you, funnier than you, who can play chess or kickbox better than you, who have hundreds or thousands of times more money than you do.

That’s life. Life isn’t fair.

This makes sense because from a reproductive standpoint sex is coveted, and sex with beautiful thin, young women are the most coveted. Being the first to spoil these young women sexually is viewed reproductively as a guarantee of parentage, thus this is why males instinctively covet and burn with passion for these females.

Ah, yes, it was only a matter of time until the creepy pedo-justifying Evo Psych assfacts made their appearance. Not all men “burn with passion” in their pants for virginal high school girls.

This is why we have “morality” which is in its essence is a promise not to flaunt or indulge in sex moreso than the lowest man or woman in your tribe. This is what is meant when people say “morality went out the window.” They mean someone with more sexual prowess is openly indulging in sex and broadcasting it to stimulate the jealousy of the underclasses.

I’m pretty sure that’s not what people mean when they say “morality went out the window.”

This teen killed people cause he thought that beautiful girls were out of reach. The high school environment merely rubbed it in his face. Yes drugs to treat ADD might’ve eroded many of the impulse control functions in the teen, but the rage against the high school was still the gasoline.

[citation needed]

He might’ve had a picture or two taken with a girl next to him, but oftentimes those high school girls lie and simply eat up the male’s offerings without granting sexual access, but grant it to a random stud.

How dare young women choose who to have sex with, and who not to!

I’m not saying the girl he killed deserved it, it’s only that when you are in that frame of mind you cannot tell who is having more sex than others and you simply fill in the gaps with rage.

Wait, so if she had turned him down he would have been justified in killing her?

The beautiful girl simply represented everything that the teen couldn’t get. The steady love and wild sex of a valuable young girl.

Yeah, I think you’re confusing high school with porn again. His rampage lasted roughly a minute and a half. He shot her because she was there.

All the other theories posted on this site seem comical, self-righteous and weirdly off-point. It’s like you’re assessing the situation as an asexual senior citizen or righteous prude.

Not a lot of “prudes” here. Just people who find the “women need to have sex with ‘nice guys’ or these ‘nice gys’ will kill you all” to be a somewhat problematic argument.

Generally men want sex with young thin beauties who validate their existence.

Some men do. But most men, among those who are sexually attracted to women, aren’t as neurotically fixated on this small slice of the female demographic – women in their teens and early twenties who are somehow both virginal and sexually “wild” – as manosphere men seem to be. And most people don’t base their entire  self-worth on whether or not they’re having sex with beautiful people.

Some men prefer women older than them. Some like women who are fat. Plenty of men don’t fixate on a particular physical type and are attracted to all sorts of different women. Believe it or not, whogoesthere, there are lots of men who are more interested in what’s in a woman’s head than they are in whether or not she matches up with some particular checklist of physical attributes.

If society removes all of the social pathways to attaining such a beauty, such as making prostitution illegal, increasing shame for men who seek sex, rewarding females and males called manginas who identify and mock the sex seekers and so on… this will lead to depression in men and all of the behaviors surrounding it, including shootings. Sounds pretty much like a logical line of reasoning to me.

And that’s the problem. It’s not actually a logical line of reasoning at all. It’s more like a sort of blackmail.

Men don’t kill women because they can’t have “the steady love and wild sex of a valuable young girl.” Sometimes men kill women because they feel entitled to have sex with these “valuable young girls” and become bitter and enraged when they can’t find a “valuable young girl” who agrees with them on this particular point.

It’s not the lack of “sexual access” that’s the problem. It’s the notion that your desire for “sexual access” means more than the right of that person to say “no.” It’s the notion that society has done you wrong because you can’t (at least at the moment) get laid. It’s the idea that your desire to have sex with a particular kind of woman somehow trumps the right of other people to live.

I mean, what the fucking fuck.

Oh, by the way, there’s no evidence that the shooter in question – Karl Halverson Pierson – was motivated by sexual frustration. His intended target was the school librarian, who is also the school’s debate coach. Pierson was obsessed with debate, and had some sort of grudge against the coach.

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Lea
Lea
10 years ago

You know who breaks down women’s self esteem to better control them, tells them they are worthless for not looking like runway models while being sexually compliant regardless of their desires and who makes threats of suicide if you threaten to leave them?

Abusers.

kittehserf
10 years ago

Shiraz, Lea – truth. Our opinions never do count, as he said upthread: only his does, everything else is just anecdotes. ::sprains eyes rolling them::

But wasn’t he telling the dudes on site (except incrediblytalldarkhandsomerichcharmingWetherby, iirc) that they were all too old and had forgotten the joys of youth and were just settling for drooling in front of the telly and waking up next to a totes disgusting woman over 25?

YoullNeverGuess
10 years ago

KS, you’re forgetting that we ladies only love two things: money, and mistreatment. Think about how miserable it would be to date him! Sew hawt.

weirwoodtreehugger
10 years ago

Of course troll wants a beautiful woman to be committed to him but he doesn’t indicate a desire to commit back.

He needs to spare human women from himself and get a robot like Warren on Buffy. It’s a little scary how much und is like Warren.

kittehserf
10 years ago

YoullNeverGuess, LOL!

I must be doin womaning rong. Mr K has no money (shit, even in his earthly days the crown went bankrupt!) and he’s never mistreated me. I need to find an, um, wealthy, skeevy little shit who makes it clear I’m really beneath his notice except oh, wait, no other woman would touch him.

piratejennie
10 years ago

Yoiks, take a few minutes to work on an emotional comment and watch the tread just zip by!

Need to take a second but I would love to jump into the mean corner with some very good company.

@WWTH

Thanks. I love your comments and insights (and your humor) so that is very much appreciated.

piratejennie
10 years ago

*thread…oy

Lea
Lea
10 years ago

Can you even imagine this douchebro’s reaction to real problems?
He wants a woman like a kids wants a prize in a cereal box and if he can’t get his way, he’d rather be dead.
He sounds like he’s going to hold his breath if he can’t have a pony.
It may be morbid and unkind, but that tickles the shit out of me.

Poor, poor, straight, cis, white, libertarian douchebro. Him can’t hack life without stacks of cash and a pet pretty young lady who only exists to give him happy feels. Lulz.

Dude,
YOU
DON”T
HAVE
PROBLEMS.

YOU
ARE
A
PROBLEM.

…and only you can fix it.

weirwoodtreehugger
10 years ago

For those who haven’t seen the series, don’t let that clip make you think Warren learned any life lesson. This is him the next season.

contrapangloss
contrapangloss
10 years ago

Wow. Is it bad that I’m laughing my socks off? Oh, my. Wow.

It’s kind of hilarious how much of a caricature of awful undfreeland has become.

Even more hilarious, autocorrect initially changed his name to ‘unscrew land’.

When even autocorrect doesn’t think you should be with a woman, ever, you problems. Mostly a problem with being a total jerk…

strivingally
10 years ago

@Lea: given that his views on men and women are about as sophisticated as an early 90s romcom, he’s probably entirely committed to that “men use love to get sex/women use sex to get love” line of bullshit.

@undfreeland: why do you keep coming back here? I mean seriously? Are you getting lulz from spouting off talking points that are echoes of the worst the PUAs and incels have to offer? You’ve demonstrated clearly that nothing we say will ever penetrate your skull, so you’re either fucking with us for trollzlolz or you’re so dedicated to your awful ideas about relationships that you’ll bend whatever gets said to fit your twisted model. Either way, coming here doesn’t actually achieve anything.

In the time you’ve spent in this thread you could’ve gone and enrolled in some music classes, or started reading about medieval warfare, or found a pen-pal in another country to learn more about the world, or discovered an interest in etymology… anything, anything at all that would help make you a more complete human being rather than just a flailing ball of resentment, self-pity and condescension with an obsession about judging yourself by the female attention you attract or don’t. The hilarious part?

Women dig that stuff. The “complete human being” stuff. The things that define you as a person that aren’t solely dedicated to your loneliness or lack of sex. If that’s all you focus on, the desperation becomes almost tangible. I tell you this as a reformed Nice Guy(TM) myself – life is about much, MUCH more than whether or not you have a partner, and your “value” to others, and theirs to you, depends on much, MUCH more than conventional beauty and socioeconomic status. If you blinker yourself to other possibilities, then you can’t blame anybody else for your misery.

kittehserf
10 years ago

Need to take a second but I would love to jump into the mean corner with some very good company.

Wheeee!

He wants a woman like a kids wants a prize in a cereal box and if he can’t get his way, he’d rather be dead.

That’s it – we should give him a box of Plastic Spacemen!

http://youtu.be/1Q-9iHBuoQ0

brooked
brooked
10 years ago

@Undfreeland

I don’t think anyone accused you of being hostile, they just pointed and laughed at, or mourned over, all the stupid shit you wrote.

I became too nice to her after we started hooking up.

When did this become the reason the engineering student broke up with you? I thought it was because up you were boring. I also thought you made a point of distancing yourself from the “nice guy” defensive blame games. You don’t have to boring to be nice. Considering that you described your rejected nice guy behavior as “polite and modest”, you may be working from a different definition of nice than the one that non-self-absorbed, personable emphatic guys use.

You guys are actually taking him seriously and concerned for his welfare? You’re all so much nicer than I am.

Not me, he’s a boring, junior grade version of Farmer Mike, Esq.. Unless this one starts getting entertaining real quick, I’d just as soon throw him back in the ocean.

Shaenon
10 years ago

Also, I hate to break this to you, but you will be middle aged someday. When you are middle aged it is highly unlikely you’re going to find a beautiful college aged girlfriend.

Christ, don’t even mention the passage of time. Whenever you point this out to one of these kids, they launch into a whole new category of elaborate theories about how they will personally avoid the aging process. It’s usually either a) they will use evopsych to keep acquiring teenage brides no matter how old they get, or b) they will commit suicide at age 29 to avoid the horror of possibly boinking a woman too old to be a professional swimwear model.

I’m sorry. I didn’t mean “one of these kids.” I meant “only this uniquely insightful and rational fellow, who is brimming with original ideas that no other teenage boy has ever thought of and are very, very different from the plots of network TV sitcoms.”

I give his troll a 3/10, just because I am feeling generous.

Aw, I like him. He’s cute.

Shaenon
10 years ago

As for getting with a young woman when I’m on my 40′s, if my financial plans pan out, I’ll at least be able to snag a string of fairly attractive young women who could use some exta cash and excitement.
If my financial plans don’t pan out, hopefully Academy still sells pistols (for myself, before anyone freaks out)

Whoops, he beat me to it.

Also:

Except the engineering chick, but she was not interested on dating me. I became too nice to her after we started hooking up.

Fuck this bullshit forever. You’re not “too nice.” You’re not even kind of nice. You’re mean and self-centered and that’s why cool women don’t want to date you.

Shiraz
Shiraz
10 years ago

I mean, look how attractive this mindset is:

“The other women I’ve been with don’t really make the cut either.”

That’s great, duder. I wonder what they think of you.

“Except the engineering chick, but she was not interested on dating me. I became too nice to her after we started hooking up.”

Yes, she’s no longer in your life because you were too nice. In other news, I’m so famous I can’t get a seat in my favorite eating establishments. Wait that doesn’t make sense, errrr…

And:

“So, I’ve been forced to slum it a bit. Thus the most recent very unattractive girl. A new low for me. And her, I’m sure ya’ll would say.”

Yes. Yes we would.

No, but seriously? Why won’t a beautiful women sign up for this bullshit?!

Lea
Lea
10 years ago

This pesto is delicious!

nom nom nom…

undfreeland
undfreeland
10 years ago

I love how ya’ll are denigrating my personality. Believing that no woman could ever be attracted to me. Believe it or not, it is possible to hide misanthropy and any other thought you want. After all, ya’ll seem to like serial killers so much, did not many of them hide who they truly were from even their closest loved ones?

The last girl I was with truly loved me (as have few other girls) She have told me that I made her the happiest she’s ever been. I dumped her because I could not stand the sight of her at times. Her large breasts made up for it during sex, but other times, I was disgusted.

I did enjoy cutesy silly moments with her and others, contrary to the claims some of you have made that I am not capable of. I’ve enjoyed those sorts of moments with many woman. I’m just clear sighted enough to realize that the feelings I was getting were internal to me, they had nothing to do with some kind force of love or whatever the fuck. The people involved were interchangeable. As we all are. As more and more people are realizing.

As to how I relate to others I’m not involved with, I assure you, only other cynics get a glimpse. One female friend recently opined that I’m “the most traditionally masculine” man she knows who supports feminism and that is bereft of homophobia. I actually have a very easy time forming friendships. Everywhere I go really.

As for killing myself if I don’t have a 10. Not exactly. I don’t think I’ll ever have that. What I hope is that I can garner the attention of moderately attractive young women when I’m still older, as to still enjoy sex. But yes, if I’m facing old age with no prospects of fucking an at least semi-attractive woman again, with only the spiral of mounting health problems ahead of me, I will end my life.

weirwoodtreehugger
10 years ago

Shaenon,
That’s hilarious that you unknowingly mimicked his exact comment. These guys think they’re so unique and wise but really they’re just so predictable.

Shiraz
Shiraz
10 years ago

@Shaenon

I applaud you for this contribution:

“Christ, don’t even mention the passage of time. Whenever you point this out to one of these kids, they launch into a whole new category of elaborate theories about how they will personally avoid the aging process. It’s usually either a) they will use evopsych to keep acquiring teenage brides no matter how old they get, or b) they will commit suicide at age 29 to avoid the horror of possibly boinking a woman too old to be a professional swimwear model.”

Flying Mouse
Flying Mouse
10 years ago

As for getting with a young woman when I’m on my 40′s, if my financial plans pan out, I’ll at least be able to snag a string of fairly attractive young women who could use some exta cash and excitement.

This is seriously getting eerie. First you knew Mr. FM’s superromantic proposal almost by heart, and now you know how he asked me out on our first date? Really, he rolled up to me in his super awesome macho car, cranked down the window, and said “You look like a fairly attractive young woman who could use some extra cash and excitement. I have a well-paying job, so of course you want me. I would like to add you to the string of ladies I have already collected this evening. Number Three already called shotgun, but I think you can squeeze into the back between Numbers Six and Eight.”

Oh, my mind was blown by such chivalry. Of course, I played super hard to get and actually made him stop the car before I got in. But how alpha! What game! Such a demonstration of SMV!

I’m still not sure exactly how I convinced him that I was a high enough quality woman to abandon the life of glamour and easy sex that comes to all single men approaching middle age. I must have just gotten lucky and gotten one of the good ones.

Shiraz
Shiraz
10 years ago

Unfreeland just compared himself to a serial killer at least twice in his last post. Holy shit balls, it’s worse than we thought.

Duder, most “younger women” don’t want to deal with insecure older “Nice Guy” problems — like, trying to cope with low self-esteem and a fear of mortality

brooked
brooked
10 years ago

Ok, Flying Mouse and/or her husband wins this thread handily. I’m going to put together a Kickstarter campaign to make those Trollmark Cards for “the quality woman in your life”.

brooked
brooked
10 years ago

Of course, I played super hard to get and actually made him stop the car before I got in.

You tease!

Alex
10 years ago

This is getting ridiculous. Maybe undfreeland is another Pell.

One female friend recently opined that I’m “the most traditionally masculine” man she knows who supports feminism and that is bereft of homophobia.

I once told that same ex I’ve mentioned that he was one of the most progressive-minded men I knew. Oh, the naivete!

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