Sometimes I hunt the misogyny, sometimes it wanders up right up to me and says hello.
Today’s post is an example of the latter. Below, a slightly edited comment that someone left for me this morning. It’s a response to a post of mine about a dreadful post on Return of Kings in which a fellow calling himself Billy Chubbs argued, with absolutely no evidence, that a recent high school shooter was driven to murder because of his “probable sexual frustration,” Chubbs went on to argue that young women are “selfish” because they don’t have sex with guys they’re not attracted to.
Anyway, my new commenter – posting under the name “whogoesthere?” – thinks that I and the other commenters here were being too hard on Chubbs’ “very good argument.” And so he deposited this giant rant, which in many ways is even scarier than Chubbs’ original.
He’s a tad verbose, so I’ve trimmed out some stuff that isn’t relevant to his general, er, thesis. And I’ve also taken the liberty of adding a few paragraph breaks and bolding a few of the best (i.e. worst) bits.
When men don’t get the women they want they turn to violence.
Not a good start here, because this just isn’t true. In this case, the phrase “not all men” is, for once, appropriate. Most men don’t get violent when they’re turned down.
This is established all over the animal kingdom and offers a good example about how it applies to humans, that snotty girls who keep their sexual treasures to all but a few males cause the remaining males to snap. …
Animals do all sorts of things that humans don’t do, and we can’t always learn from their behavior or assume that it relates to our own lives.
Or maybe the Evo Psych crew is just looking at the wrong animals. When banana slugs can’t find a partner to have sex with, they simply fertilize themselves. There’s a lesson here, I think, for the angry incels of the world: you can’t always get what you want, and when you can’t, sex with yourself is better than murder.
High school is a massively sexually charged winner take all environment. … Today’s high school is basically an ongoing audition for a porno video and the guys and girls who don’t make the cut can only sit at home and masturbate.
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It’s demeaning and hits a major blow to a person’s sexual identity to not be invited to frolic with the beautiful people.
Somehow most people, regardless of gender, manage to survive even if they’re not frolicking with Charlize Theron and/or Channing Tatum.
I’m sorry but almost no men go on wild shooting rampages if they have a beautiful female in their keep.
In their keep?! Also, no. Charles Manson was surrounded by beautiful young women. Yet he orchestrated multiple grisly murders.
The only guys that do so are bank robbers and thieves, generally guys at a later stage of life more fixated on money.
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Human beings naturally assess the amount of sex going around them and judge themselves in relationship to the amount and type of sex others are getting.
You know, you can’t actually tell how much and what kind of sex someone is having just by looking at them. Yes, there will always be people in the world having more sex with you. And some of these people are having sex with people you would probably like to have sex with. There are also people who are smarter than you, funnier than you, who can play chess or kickbox better than you, who have hundreds or thousands of times more money than you do.
That’s life. Life isn’t fair.
This makes sense because from a reproductive standpoint sex is coveted, and sex with beautiful thin, young women are the most coveted. Being the first to spoil these young women sexually is viewed reproductively as a guarantee of parentage, thus this is why males instinctively covet and burn with passion for these females.
Ah, yes, it was only a matter of time until the creepy pedo-justifying Evo Psych assfacts made their appearance. Not all men “burn with passion” in their pants for virginal high school girls.
This is why we have “morality” which is in its essence is a promise not to flaunt or indulge in sex moreso than the lowest man or woman in your tribe. This is what is meant when people say “morality went out the window.” They mean someone with more sexual prowess is openly indulging in sex and broadcasting it to stimulate the jealousy of the underclasses.
I’m pretty sure that’s not what people mean when they say “morality went out the window.”
This teen killed people cause he thought that beautiful girls were out of reach. The high school environment merely rubbed it in his face. Yes drugs to treat ADD might’ve eroded many of the impulse control functions in the teen, but the rage against the high school was still the gasoline.
[citation needed]
He might’ve had a picture or two taken with a girl next to him, but oftentimes those high school girls lie and simply eat up the male’s offerings without granting sexual access, but grant it to a random stud.
How dare young women choose who to have sex with, and who not to!
I’m not saying the girl he killed deserved it, it’s only that when you are in that frame of mind you cannot tell who is having more sex than others and you simply fill in the gaps with rage.
Wait, so if she had turned him down he would have been justified in killing her?
The beautiful girl simply represented everything that the teen couldn’t get. The steady love and wild sex of a valuable young girl.
Yeah, I think you’re confusing high school with porn again. His rampage lasted roughly a minute and a half. He shot her because she was there.
All the other theories posted on this site seem comical, self-righteous and weirdly off-point. It’s like you’re assessing the situation as an asexual senior citizen or righteous prude.
Not a lot of “prudes” here. Just people who find the “women need to have sex with ‘nice guys’ or these ‘nice gys’ will kill you all” to be a somewhat problematic argument.
Generally men want sex with young thin beauties who validate their existence.
Some men do. But most men, among those who are sexually attracted to women, aren’t as neurotically fixated on this small slice of the female demographic – women in their teens and early twenties who are somehow both virginal and sexually “wild” – as manosphere men seem to be. And most people don’t base their entire self-worth on whether or not they’re having sex with beautiful people.
Some men prefer women older than them. Some like women who are fat. Plenty of men don’t fixate on a particular physical type and are attracted to all sorts of different women. Believe it or not, whogoesthere, there are lots of men who are more interested in what’s in a woman’s head than they are in whether or not she matches up with some particular checklist of physical attributes.
If society removes all of the social pathways to attaining such a beauty, such as making prostitution illegal, increasing shame for men who seek sex, rewarding females and males called manginas who identify and mock the sex seekers and so on… this will lead to depression in men and all of the behaviors surrounding it, including shootings. Sounds pretty much like a logical line of reasoning to me.
And that’s the problem. It’s not actually a logical line of reasoning at all. It’s more like a sort of blackmail.
Men don’t kill women because they can’t have “the steady love and wild sex of a valuable young girl.” Sometimes men kill women because they feel entitled to have sex with these “valuable young girls” and become bitter and enraged when they can’t find a “valuable young girl” who agrees with them on this particular point.
It’s not the lack of “sexual access” that’s the problem. It’s the notion that your desire for “sexual access” means more than the right of that person to say “no.” It’s the notion that society has done you wrong because you can’t (at least at the moment) get laid. It’s the idea that your desire to have sex with a particular kind of woman somehow trumps the right of other people to live.
I mean, what the fucking fuck.
Oh, by the way, there’s no evidence that the shooter in question – Karl Halverson Pierson – was motivated by sexual frustration. His intended target was the school librarian, who is also the school’s debate coach. Pierson was obsessed with debate, and had some sort of grudge against the coach.
Hired a professional.
Also, has anyone else noticed how brittle and inflated undfreeland’s self-worth seems to be? He sneers at “low-status” men, the “dregs,” the people who watch network TV. But he also admits he’s unattractive, boring as hell, and doesn’t bring anything to the table, and seems to have a lot of self-loathing going on.
Dude, I would way rather hang out with a low-status man who loves TV (that describes a fair number of my male relatives) than you.
It’s weird being called old by a poster who sounds like Ebenezer Scrooge, but, yes, I’m middle aged and, no, not everyone on the board is over 30, but those that are may be getting a bigger kick out of making fun of you. Our agedness wasn’t a carefully guarded secret, people mentioned non-young people experiences, for example, Wetherby said that his phone romance took place before there was any real internet for bored office workers to browse.
Ok, I’m not a Modern Family fan, but right now TV has more quality programming than ever before, thanks to the freedom afforded by cable and the fact that scripted shows are more profitable then most movies now. This isn’t the 1970s, television isn’t the cultural punch line you think it is and you harping on it is just weird. Secondly, only elderly people watch the cable news channels and I’m not in the over 50 demo yet, which is the last of the baby boomers. Finally, the fact that hip youngsters reblog things on tumblr or share photos on Instagram rather than hang out with their parents on Facebook doesn’t mean that people under thirty are enjoying a richer life experience.
I don’t care about your love life or your opinion of other people’s love life, I was critiquing your baseless goofball theory that you don’t have a beautiful girlfriend because of feminism. You think women being able to have sex outside of marriage and be financially independent has one significant negative. That negative is beautiful women aren’t en masse forced into marriage, therefore you aren’t gifted one by economics. People have decimated that argument, especially the part where you think anti-progressive rage is born in the maw of sexual frustration and can be cured by German-style legalized prostitution. It doesn’t matter because you have some fantasy version of a golden age taking place at some point in 20th century America, where white guys have it made and you get the girl, because you only have a shaky grasp of how human relationships work and little historical understanding of American society. You think your personal problems, and the personal problems of guys exactly like you, are a social crisis that other people must study and confront. As a great thinker once opined, no on cares about your sad boner.
LBT: at first I thought it was the larval stages of that peculiar mix of self-pity and narcissism that compels guys towards the incel community. It’s becoming more and more apparent to me that the PUA-flavoured mindset and contempt for women (and men who actually enjoy their company) is reflective of un-free-lad’s real views and the self-pitying “what woman would love me” Nice Guy(TM) garbage was an act.
I’m mostly mad at myself for giving him the benefit of the doubt as a proto-Nice Guy(TM) who just needed a nudge in the right direction, when y’all had him pegged from the start. Need to work harder to get my Trollspotting Merit Badge. 😉
Two of my favorite parts of the day – hearing my husband breathing in his sleep as I fall asleep next to him, and watching him sleeping next to me when I wake up in the morning.
Oh, wait. According to some sadsack online, my life sucks because the man next to me in bed isn’t a conventionally attractive underwear model half my age. Huh.
Oh my god, Steven Curtis Chapman. I think my sister had one of his albums.
It sounds like what you’re really saying, undfreeland, is “Haha, losers! Enjoy doing things with your partner(s) that they also enjoy!” Good burn, friend.
(Of course I never watch network TV myself. I am far too open-minded.)
StrivingAlly, me too.
I seem to stay blindingly naive to some trolls, and waste many keystrokes trying to be helpful.
I’m getting better?
I knew he’d come through with a good tantrum if we just poked him hard enough. Keep it up!
RE: strivingally
the self-pitying “what woman would love me” Nice Guy(TM) garbage was an act.
Well, if he IS in his late teens or early twenties, he probably stopped using it because it didn’t work. (I dunno about you, but that shit worked on a LOT of girls I knew back in our teen years.) None of us rushed to coddle his delicate bruised ego, so I think he’s just switched tactics.
Also, trololol, the whole “social media makes friendships harder!” What bullshit. Social media was how I was able to come out so young, because it allowed me to make fucking friends oceans away who shared my experiences. Social media is how I sell my art to my fanbase. Social media is how I’m able to keep in touch with so many friends, despite packing up and fucking moving every goddamn year.
And undfreeland’s trying to pull this bullshit about how that makes it HARDER? No, dude, it just means everyone knows that they don’t have to put up with your assholery anymore, because they can find better folks online!
@ strivingally
Not to worry, young padwan, we’ll get your trolldar up to standard soon.
“I hope you have fun fucking your gorgeous husband until you’re both old and wrinkly! In your quiet happy life watching movies together and going hiking! You JERKS!”
Sure, undfreeland. You have fun being your miserable lonely self.
(And guys, how many of you are now really looking askance at his claim that that one lady was “the best sex of his life”? Dude, how OLD are you? Do you really think the best sex of your life is right now? Please.)
@undfreedland
Wow…dude…you’re still at it? By now I thought you would get that your attempts to make people feel as miserable as you have backfired. Just reading your crap made me think of all the happy times I had with my much older hubby whom I have met way into my 30s. Thanks to you, most people here, old, young, middle age of all shapes and sexual orientations will be in the mood for sexy time with their someone. The irony…
The problem with unfreeland is that he is not a very consistent troll (notice how his “experiences” change, first he could never imagine what it is like to be with a beautiful woman then he changes it and says he was with a beautiful who skipped town on him). He was called out on his initial troll and he switched it to another troll, then he got called out on that troll and he switched again. Pure amateur trolling. If you are going to troll at least be consistent.
I give his troll a 3/10, just because I am feeling generous.
I got to see young Katz’s cool hair and learn how Flying Mouse’s husband wooed her with romantic talk of mortgages and credit ratings, while a very young undfreeland took notes. Our lovelorn tv-hating troll has brought us closer together.
::group hug::
I know, right? I think it comes of trying to place everything on a hierarchy of Best to Worst. Therefore he can’t extract self-worth from anything except ranking himself as better than other people.
@Robert
It’s hard to judge this troll, because all these sexual market guys use both lack of success and success with women as proof of how unfair life is for them and how women ruin everything. Being ignored, having casual sex and even having ex-girlfriends all prove their point about feminism and females, no other data is necessary.
Those are sure some sour grapes we’re eating, huh unfreeland?
@Robert Ramirez
Yep.
Adding up his relationships (the “low quality” women he either dumped or was dumped by) and other numerous experiences he claimed to have had I’m finding this new persona perhaps more honest in its hostility, but just as unbelievable as the rest.
RE: katz
I think it comes of trying to place everything on a hierarchy of Best to Worst. Therefore he can’t extract self-worth from anything except ranking himself as better than other people.
What a shitty, miserable way to live. Yikes. Welp, I can always count of these trolls to make me feel better about being myself; being me might be hard, but it’s way better than being THEM!
Trolls: my inspiration porn.
Now there’s a greeting card series.
I have a DA friend who is constantly pining about how his fictional space-opera universe is the only worthwhile thing he’s ever made. He’s 19.
Trollmark. When you care enough to send the very worst.
Holy bats, those would be the worst. Though some of undfreeland’s quips would make interesting copy.
“Your exquisite measurements and adorable turn me on, even when you’re fully clothed…
…Happy Anniversary to a Quality Woman”
@katz:
AHAHAHAHAHA. When I think how little life experience I had when I was 19, and how little I’d accomplished by then… the idea of judging your contribution to the world at that age is just hilarious. It takes that long – often longer – just to work out How To Be A Person.