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Creepy comment of the day: If men can't get "the steady love and wild sex of a valuable young girl," naturally they'll start shooting people.

Banana slug: A better role model for horny humans than bonobos?
Banana slug: A better role model for horny humans than bonobos?

Sometimes I hunt the misogyny, sometimes it wanders up right up to me and says hello.

Today’s post is an example of the latter. Below, a slightly edited comment that someone left for me this morning. It’s a response to a post of mine about a dreadful post on Return of Kings in which a fellow calling himself Billy Chubbs argued, with absolutely no evidence, that a recent high school shooter was driven to murder because of his “probable sexual frustration,” Chubbs went on to argue that young women are “selfish” because they don’t have sex with guys they’re not attracted to.

Anyway, my new commenter – posting under the name “whogoesthere?” – thinks that I and the other commenters here were being too hard on Chubbs’ “very good argument.” And so he deposited this giant rant, which in many ways is even scarier than Chubbs’ original.

He’s a tad verbose, so I’ve trimmed out some stuff that isn’t relevant to his general, er, thesis. And I’ve also taken the liberty of adding a few paragraph breaks and bolding a few of the best (i.e. worst) bits.

When men don’t get the women they want they turn to violence.

Not a good start here, because this just isn’t true. In this case, the phrase “not all men” is, for once, appropriate. Most men don’t get violent when they’re turned down.

This is established all over the animal kingdom and offers a good example about how it applies to humans, that snotty girls who keep their sexual treasures to all but a few males cause the remaining males to snap. …

Animals do all sorts of things that humans don’t do, and we can’t always learn from their behavior or assume that it relates to our own lives.

Or maybe the Evo Psych crew is just looking at the wrong animals. When banana slugs can’t find a partner to have sex with, they simply fertilize themselves. There’s a lesson here, I think, for the angry incels of the world: you can’t always get what you want, and when you can’t, sex with yourself is better than murder.

High school is a massively sexually charged winner take all environment. … Today’s high school is basically an ongoing audition for a porno video and the guys and girls who don’t make the cut can only sit at home and masturbate.

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It’s demeaning and hits a major blow to a person’s sexual identity to not be invited to frolic with the beautiful people.

Somehow most people, regardless of gender, manage to survive even if they’re not frolicking with Charlize Theron and/or Channing Tatum.

I’m sorry but almost no men go on wild shooting rampages if they have a beautiful female in their keep.

In their keep?! Also, no. Charles Manson was surrounded by beautiful young women. Yet he orchestrated multiple grisly murders.

The only guys that do so are bank robbers and thieves, generally guys at a later stage of life more fixated on money.

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Human beings naturally assess the amount of sex going around them and judge themselves in relationship to the amount and type of sex others are getting.

You know, you can’t actually tell how much and what kind of sex someone is having just by looking at them. Yes, there will always be people in the world having more sex with you. And some of these people are having sex with people you would probably like to have sex with. There are also people who are smarter than you, funnier than you, who can play chess or kickbox better than you, who have hundreds or thousands of times more money than you do.

That’s life. Life isn’t fair.

This makes sense because from a reproductive standpoint sex is coveted, and sex with beautiful thin, young women are the most coveted. Being the first to spoil these young women sexually is viewed reproductively as a guarantee of parentage, thus this is why males instinctively covet and burn with passion for these females.

Ah, yes, it was only a matter of time until the creepy pedo-justifying Evo Psych assfacts made their appearance. Not all men “burn with passion” in their pants for virginal high school girls.

This is why we have “morality” which is in its essence is a promise not to flaunt or indulge in sex moreso than the lowest man or woman in your tribe. This is what is meant when people say “morality went out the window.” They mean someone with more sexual prowess is openly indulging in sex and broadcasting it to stimulate the jealousy of the underclasses.

I’m pretty sure that’s not what people mean when they say “morality went out the window.”

This teen killed people cause he thought that beautiful girls were out of reach. The high school environment merely rubbed it in his face. Yes drugs to treat ADD might’ve eroded many of the impulse control functions in the teen, but the rage against the high school was still the gasoline.

[citation needed]

He might’ve had a picture or two taken with a girl next to him, but oftentimes those high school girls lie and simply eat up the male’s offerings without granting sexual access, but grant it to a random stud.

How dare young women choose who to have sex with, and who not to!

I’m not saying the girl he killed deserved it, it’s only that when you are in that frame of mind you cannot tell who is having more sex than others and you simply fill in the gaps with rage.

Wait, so if she had turned him down he would have been justified in killing her?

The beautiful girl simply represented everything that the teen couldn’t get. The steady love and wild sex of a valuable young girl.

Yeah, I think you’re confusing high school with porn again. His rampage lasted roughly a minute and a half. He shot her because she was there.

All the other theories posted on this site seem comical, self-righteous and weirdly off-point. It’s like you’re assessing the situation as an asexual senior citizen or righteous prude.

Not a lot of “prudes” here. Just people who find the “women need to have sex with ‘nice guys’ or these ‘nice gys’ will kill you all” to be a somewhat problematic argument.

Generally men want sex with young thin beauties who validate their existence.

Some men do. But most men, among those who are sexually attracted to women, aren’t as neurotically fixated on this small slice of the female demographic – women in their teens and early twenties who are somehow both virginal and sexually “wild” – as manosphere men seem to be. And most people don’t base their entire  self-worth on whether or not they’re having sex with beautiful people.

Some men prefer women older than them. Some like women who are fat. Plenty of men don’t fixate on a particular physical type and are attracted to all sorts of different women. Believe it or not, whogoesthere, there are lots of men who are more interested in what’s in a woman’s head than they are in whether or not she matches up with some particular checklist of physical attributes.

If society removes all of the social pathways to attaining such a beauty, such as making prostitution illegal, increasing shame for men who seek sex, rewarding females and males called manginas who identify and mock the sex seekers and so on… this will lead to depression in men and all of the behaviors surrounding it, including shootings. Sounds pretty much like a logical line of reasoning to me.

And that’s the problem. It’s not actually a logical line of reasoning at all. It’s more like a sort of blackmail.

Men don’t kill women because they can’t have “the steady love and wild sex of a valuable young girl.” Sometimes men kill women because they feel entitled to have sex with these “valuable young girls” and become bitter and enraged when they can’t find a “valuable young girl” who agrees with them on this particular point.

It’s not the lack of “sexual access” that’s the problem. It’s the notion that your desire for “sexual access” means more than the right of that person to say “no.” It’s the notion that society has done you wrong because you can’t (at least at the moment) get laid. It’s the idea that your desire to have sex with a particular kind of woman somehow trumps the right of other people to live.

I mean, what the fucking fuck.

Oh, by the way, there’s no evidence that the shooter in question – Karl Halverson Pierson – was motivated by sexual frustration. His intended target was the school librarian, who is also the school’s debate coach. Pierson was obsessed with debate, and had some sort of grudge against the coach.

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strivingally
10 years ago

Guys, I think you’re missing the point.

undfreeland has told us The Way Things Are, and we have given many counter-examples which don’t fit into his Way Things Are.

The only logical conclusion is that reality is broken, and we must immediately change it to match with his views to protect his feels.

katz
10 years ago

Sorry, which one of us is good looking in shape genius man?

Is it Katz? I think it’s Katz.

Well, my hair used to be pretty good looking…

piratejennie
10 years ago

See undfreeland?

That’s the way to let your troll flag fly!

Drop any pretense of being a decent human being (although yours was a hard sell to begin with) and come out with the petulant neener neener neener approach.

You’ve gone from splaining to feminists about feminism and splaining to people in happy relationships about how they are deluded to splaining to people older than you about what it’s like to be their age. All with gross inaccuracy.

However, you’re still boring as a glass of milk and thick as a whale omelette.

katz
10 years ago

Yesterday:

I must admit. I envy you sir. The admiration of a beautiful woman brings about the most sublime and joyous feelings in life. To experience it frequently, and uncomplicated for prolonged periods… I can’t even imagine such bliss.

Fibinachi, pecunim, ya’ll have pretty amazing lives, it seems. And you wonder why you don’t worry about women?

Today:

Look, your middle-aged life doesn’t disprove anything I’ve said. People get lonely. They settle.The follow the script. “Yeah, I may barely find my partner attractive, but getting married makes everything better! Oh and a mortgage too! We can always get divorced if things don’t work out! What’s a credit rating?!?!?”

They get their jollies from watching Modern Family or whatever drivel, simulate passion by watching or reading their fake news outlet of choice and liking causes on facebook. I can not believe that these folks aren’t disgusted when they wake up next to their partners. They just get their jollies some other way, and in the heat of the moment, whoever is there doesn’t matter too much.

tinyorc
10 years ago

Flying Mouse:

Here’s an insider secret from one decrepit relic (aged 34) married to an absolute fossil (aged 48): older people have had lots of practice at the sexytimes, so they tend to be really good at it. I met Mr. FM when I was 22, and we dated for about a year before we decided to get married. 36 year old him rocked my socks then. And he still does now.

I’m 26 – so well into hag territory by misogynist standards – but sex just keeps getting better and better for me. At first, I chalked it up entirely to being with older, more experienced guys (as I tend to date in my age range or a few years older). But I recently started dating a 22 year-old and the sex is incredible, and it suddenly hit me that I am also getting better and better at sex. Seriously, I look back with fondness on the sex I had in my late teens/early twenties, but it was really was awkward fumbly-bumbly stuff compared to now.

In any case, if my partners and I keep improving at this rate, my forties are going to be MIND-BLOWING.

Melissia
10 years ago

Obligatory:

fromafar2013
10 years ago

OMG katz. That’s some awesome hair! How did you do that!? I have trouble with just red highlights D:

Wetherby
Wetherby
10 years ago

They get their jollies from watching Modern Family or whatever drivel, simulate passion by watching or reading their fake news outlet of choice and liking causes on facebook. I can not believe that these folks aren’t disgusted when they wake up next to their partners. They just get their jollies some other way, and in the heat of the moment, whoever is there doesn’t matter too much.

Sure it doesn’t. That’s why I’ve been strictly monogamous for thirteen years. And voluntarily monogamous at that.

Incidentally, my wife has said on several occasions that she’d be completely cool with me having sex with someone else, provided it didn’t jeopardise our marriage in a way that would impact on our kids. But I’ve never felt even the slightest bit tempted to take up the offer – and I suspect she knows that.

You really can’t get your head around the notion that people can spend years together and actually find their relationship strengthening over time, can you? How inexpressibly sad.

contrapangloss
contrapangloss
10 years ago

There’s also the adorably nasty little assumption that getting your jollies by doing something worthwhile and enjoyable is somehow awful, and the only good way of being happy is to be having sex with prettiful people. I mean, look!

They just get their jollies some other way, and in the heat of the moment, whoever is there doesn’t matter too much.

So, I guess we should all quit our satisfying jobs, volunteer work, and hobbies, drop our satisfying relationships with perfectly decent folk, and go sit in the metaphorical punch bowl, lamenting out lack of sideways tangoing with the fairest and/or handsomest of them all.

fromafar2013
10 years ago

There’s also the adorably nasty little assumption that getting your jollies by doing something worthwhile and enjoyable is somehow awful, and the only good way of being happy is to be having sex with prettiful people. I mean, look!

So true. It just occurred to me that I got more satisfaction out of fixing my dishwasher myself instead of having to call for service than undfreeland seems to get out of sex and relationships.

Melissia
10 years ago

And only ever with the opposite sex. Because according to these assholes, men who are gay aren’t really men, and women who are gay aren’t really gay because they haven’t been raped straight yet.

weirwoodtreehugger
10 years ago

We seem to have run him off

Oh Cassandra, you jinxed us!

So with the exception of good looking, in shape genius man, ya’ll are old? Everything makes way more sense now. Ya’ll have forgotten what youth is like, and things are possibly very different now due to technology and social media. People are much easier to replace.

Being “old” doesn’t invalidate an argument. Everyone here isn’t “old” anyway. Mammotheers come in a variety of ages. You also shouldn’t assume that everyone is as shallow as you in their youth.

I turned 34 last month. I don’t consider that terribly old but you probably to because you’re a shallow misogynist. I’m certainly young enough to clearly remember my teens and early to mid twenties. And no, I never shared your attitude towards dating. I had some shallow looks based one night stands, but even as an adolescent I knew looks and money aren’t the most important thing in the world.

People are not replaceable. Maybe in the grand scheme things we’re just barely a blip in this universe. But if we’re talking interpersonal relationships, that just isn’t true. There’s zero evidence that social media has destroyed love. That’s bullshit. You’re the one who sounds if you think that.

Look, your middle-aged life doesn’t disprove anything I’ve said. People get lonely. They settle.The follow the script. “Yeah, I may barely find my partner attractive, but getting married makes everything better! Oh and a mortgage too! We can always get divorced if things don’t work out! What’s a credit rating?!?!?”

Do you have any evidence for this? Of course not. You never do. Lots of middle aged people are happy in their relationships. Sorry if you’re a miserable person but don’t assume that’s true for everyone.

They get their jollies from watching Modern Family or whatever drivel, simulate passion by watching or reading their fake news outlet of choice and liking causes on facebook.

Facebook? But I thought old married people don’t understand that newfangled social media intewebs thing?

You really are obsessed with people watching network TV aren’t you? I must admit I enjoy hate watching reality TV. But my favorite shows are Game of Thrones and Orphan Black. Does that make me cool or uncool? You are the only arbiter and the only wise person so I really must know. s/

I can not believe that these folks aren’t disgusted when they wake up next to their partners. They just get their jollies some other way, and in the heat of the moment, whoever is there doesn’t matter too much.

It’s already been pointed out to you, but it is not only young people who have active sex lives.

Also, I hate to break this to you, but you will be middle aged someday. When you are middle aged it is highly unlikely you’re going to find a beautiful college aged girlfriend. Contrary to popular scrotosphere beliefs most people prefer partners in the same group as themselves. There are plenty of men who have deluded themselves into thinking they will be able to find girlfriends in their early twenties but most young women do not want to date men old enough to be their fathers.

If you’re this whiny and resentful now, I hate to think of what you’ll be like in 10 or 20 years.

Viscaria
Viscaria
10 years ago

@Flying Mouse:

I met Mr. FM when I was 22, and we dated for about a year before we decided to get married. 36 year old him rocked my socks then. And he still does now.

Are you me from an alternate future???? I was also 22 when I met then-36 year old boyfriend. We’re not married though. The dice landed differently. I hope that doesn’t mean I’m living the darkest timeline.

piratejennie
10 years ago

@katz

LOVE your hair in that pic.

Yeah, kind of wondering who that one paragon of manhood is myself. I think he’s still fixated on Wetherby.

Wetherby
Wetherby
10 years ago

In any case, if my partners and I keep improving at this rate, my forties are going to be MIND-BLOWING.

Almost certainly. I still vividly remember the first time I had sex with a 42-year-old, at the tender age of 25. She got the youthful stamina, and I got someone who knew exactly what she wanted and who wasn’t the least bit shy about telling me. Talk about symbiosis.

Flying Mouse
Flying Mouse
10 years ago

In more-important-than-undfeeland news, that dishwasher problem I had? Fixed!

Hurray! Mine is headed that way, too. Mr. FM has scheduled a test run for after dinner, so fingers will be crossed. If it works, I will hoist a clean glass in your honor, fromafar2013.

weirwoodtreehugger
10 years ago

I post my comment without seeing yours Flying Mouse.

I should clarify that I’m not passing judgment on relationships with age differences. Just pointing out that men with much younger women, although it happens, it is nowhere near as common as misogynists think it is or want to be.

Viscaria
Viscaria
10 years ago

I know you were speaking to Flying Mouse, WWTH, but for the record I don’t think you were being judgy at all. You were pointing out a fact!

Flying Mouse
Flying Mouse
10 years ago

@tinyorc – It kind of amazed me when I realized that sex was just like anything else – practice makes perfect (or at least improved). Perfecting that particular skill is fun, too. 🙂

@Viscaria

Are you me from an alternate future???? I was also 22 when I met then-36 year old boyfriend. We’re not married though. The dice landed differently. I hope that doesn’t mean I’m living the darkest timeline.

No, I think the darkest timeline version of me would have married the Christian Patriarchy dudebro I dated in college. You haven’t run into a guy who plays Steven Curtis Chapman songs to you and tells you that you’re his personal gift from the Almighty, have you?

Viscaria
Viscaria
10 years ago

Yeesh. No, I haven’t. He sounds wonderful though.

Flying Mouse
Flying Mouse
10 years ago

WWTH, you’re fine!

I completely agree with you, too. When undfreeland is middle aged, it IS highly unlikely that he will be able to find a beautiful college girlfriend.

Flying Mouse
Flying Mouse
10 years ago

Oh, he was my gift from God too, Viscaria. He told me allll about it.

fromafar2013
10 years ago

Perfecting that particular skill is fun, too. 🙂

Now I have an urge for a Sims mod that turns Whoohoo-ing into a skill that improves like Handiness, or Athletics.

The skill goes up faster if you Whohoo with someone you like, and/or have Whoohoo-ed with a lot before. You get lifetime happiness points and stuff in return. Master Whoohoo-ers get a permanent mood boost and their partners get a mega mood boost too.

Yes. Must mod this. I wonder if it already exists?

fromafar2013
10 years ago

OMG! I just figured it out! Undfreeland is a Sims character! That’s why he’s so fixated on physical attractiveness. He gets a ‘Attractive Sim’ Moodlet with a +10 mood effect just from being around a sexy Sim.

LBT
LBT
10 years ago

RE: Fibinachi

I guess you can think of it as LARP’ers for hire?

Huh. I had no idea such a job or company type existed! It sounds like it could be a pain in the ass, but not that bad a job, depending on who you have to deal with. I couldn’t do it myself, but I could totally see hubby or Sneak enjoying it.

RE: undfreeland

ya’ll are old?

Dude, I’m twenty-six. I can’t be THAT much older than you. Not MY fault that I’ve used my time more wisely and enjoyably.

Ya’ll have forgotten what youth is like, and things are possibly very different now due to technology and social media.

You’re saying this ON A SOCIAL WEBSITE. I make money through online work. Dude, can you BE any more patronizing? (And fuck you for calling my friends interchangeable.)

They get their jollies from watching Modern Family or whatever drivel

Unlike you, who apparently gets his jollies from absolutely nothing. How superior.

I can not believe that these folks aren’t disgusted when they wake up next to their partners. They just get their jollies some other way, and in the heat of the moment, whoever is there doesn’t matter too much.

And you wonder why your best relationship has lasted a month. You sad sack of shit. I’d feel sorry for you, except your existential malaise couldn’t happen to a more richly deserving person.

RE: katz

SNEAK WANTS YOUR HAIR.

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