Sometimes I hunt the misogyny, sometimes it wanders up right up to me and says hello.
Today’s post is an example of the latter. Below, a slightly edited comment that someone left for me this morning. It’s a response to a post of mine about a dreadful post on Return of Kings in which a fellow calling himself Billy Chubbs argued, with absolutely no evidence, that a recent high school shooter was driven to murder because of his “probable sexual frustration,” Chubbs went on to argue that young women are “selfish” because they don’t have sex with guys they’re not attracted to.
Anyway, my new commenter – posting under the name “whogoesthere?” – thinks that I and the other commenters here were being too hard on Chubbs’ “very good argument.” And so he deposited this giant rant, which in many ways is even scarier than Chubbs’ original.
He’s a tad verbose, so I’ve trimmed out some stuff that isn’t relevant to his general, er, thesis. And I’ve also taken the liberty of adding a few paragraph breaks and bolding a few of the best (i.e. worst) bits.
When men don’t get the women they want they turn to violence.
Not a good start here, because this just isn’t true. In this case, the phrase “not all men” is, for once, appropriate. Most men don’t get violent when they’re turned down.
This is established all over the animal kingdom and offers a good example about how it applies to humans, that snotty girls who keep their sexual treasures to all but a few males cause the remaining males to snap. …
Animals do all sorts of things that humans don’t do, and we can’t always learn from their behavior or assume that it relates to our own lives.
Or maybe the Evo Psych crew is just looking at the wrong animals. When banana slugs can’t find a partner to have sex with, they simply fertilize themselves. There’s a lesson here, I think, for the angry incels of the world: you can’t always get what you want, and when you can’t, sex with yourself is better than murder.
High school is a massively sexually charged winner take all environment. … Today’s high school is basically an ongoing audition for a porno video and the guys and girls who don’t make the cut can only sit at home and masturbate.
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It’s demeaning and hits a major blow to a person’s sexual identity to not be invited to frolic with the beautiful people.
Somehow most people, regardless of gender, manage to survive even if they’re not frolicking with Charlize Theron and/or Channing Tatum.
I’m sorry but almost no men go on wild shooting rampages if they have a beautiful female in their keep.
In their keep?! Also, no. Charles Manson was surrounded by beautiful young women. Yet he orchestrated multiple grisly murders.
The only guys that do so are bank robbers and thieves, generally guys at a later stage of life more fixated on money.
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Human beings naturally assess the amount of sex going around them and judge themselves in relationship to the amount and type of sex others are getting.
You know, you can’t actually tell how much and what kind of sex someone is having just by looking at them. Yes, there will always be people in the world having more sex with you. And some of these people are having sex with people you would probably like to have sex with. There are also people who are smarter than you, funnier than you, who can play chess or kickbox better than you, who have hundreds or thousands of times more money than you do.
That’s life. Life isn’t fair.
This makes sense because from a reproductive standpoint sex is coveted, and sex with beautiful thin, young women are the most coveted. Being the first to spoil these young women sexually is viewed reproductively as a guarantee of parentage, thus this is why males instinctively covet and burn with passion for these females.
Ah, yes, it was only a matter of time until the creepy pedo-justifying Evo Psych assfacts made their appearance. Not all men “burn with passion” in their pants for virginal high school girls.
This is why we have “morality” which is in its essence is a promise not to flaunt or indulge in sex moreso than the lowest man or woman in your tribe. This is what is meant when people say “morality went out the window.” They mean someone with more sexual prowess is openly indulging in sex and broadcasting it to stimulate the jealousy of the underclasses.
I’m pretty sure that’s not what people mean when they say “morality went out the window.”
This teen killed people cause he thought that beautiful girls were out of reach. The high school environment merely rubbed it in his face. Yes drugs to treat ADD might’ve eroded many of the impulse control functions in the teen, but the rage against the high school was still the gasoline.
[citation needed]
He might’ve had a picture or two taken with a girl next to him, but oftentimes those high school girls lie and simply eat up the male’s offerings without granting sexual access, but grant it to a random stud.
How dare young women choose who to have sex with, and who not to!
I’m not saying the girl he killed deserved it, it’s only that when you are in that frame of mind you cannot tell who is having more sex than others and you simply fill in the gaps with rage.
Wait, so if she had turned him down he would have been justified in killing her?
The beautiful girl simply represented everything that the teen couldn’t get. The steady love and wild sex of a valuable young girl.
Yeah, I think you’re confusing high school with porn again. His rampage lasted roughly a minute and a half. He shot her because she was there.
All the other theories posted on this site seem comical, self-righteous and weirdly off-point. It’s like you’re assessing the situation as an asexual senior citizen or righteous prude.
Not a lot of “prudes” here. Just people who find the “women need to have sex with ‘nice guys’ or these ‘nice gys’ will kill you all” to be a somewhat problematic argument.
Generally men want sex with young thin beauties who validate their existence.
Some men do. But most men, among those who are sexually attracted to women, aren’t as neurotically fixated on this small slice of the female demographic – women in their teens and early twenties who are somehow both virginal and sexually “wild” – as manosphere men seem to be. And most people don’t base their entire self-worth on whether or not they’re having sex with beautiful people.
Some men prefer women older than them. Some like women who are fat. Plenty of men don’t fixate on a particular physical type and are attracted to all sorts of different women. Believe it or not, whogoesthere, there are lots of men who are more interested in what’s in a woman’s head than they are in whether or not she matches up with some particular checklist of physical attributes.
If society removes all of the social pathways to attaining such a beauty, such as making prostitution illegal, increasing shame for men who seek sex, rewarding females and males called manginas who identify and mock the sex seekers and so on… this will lead to depression in men and all of the behaviors surrounding it, including shootings. Sounds pretty much like a logical line of reasoning to me.
And that’s the problem. It’s not actually a logical line of reasoning at all. It’s more like a sort of blackmail.
Men don’t kill women because they can’t have “the steady love and wild sex of a valuable young girl.” Sometimes men kill women because they feel entitled to have sex with these “valuable young girls” and become bitter and enraged when they can’t find a “valuable young girl” who agrees with them on this particular point.
It’s not the lack of “sexual access” that’s the problem. It’s the notion that your desire for “sexual access” means more than the right of that person to say “no.” It’s the notion that society has done you wrong because you can’t (at least at the moment) get laid. It’s the idea that your desire to have sex with a particular kind of woman somehow trumps the right of other people to live.
I mean, what the fucking fuck.
Oh, by the way, there’s no evidence that the shooter in question – Karl Halverson Pierson – was motivated by sexual frustration. His intended target was the school librarian, who is also the school’s debate coach. Pierson was obsessed with debate, and had some sort of grudge against the coach.
What, you mean you’re actually going to talk to him? You’re playing with fire there, and no mistake.
The sound of women’s voices kills boners instantly. We already know this.
My husband is very liberal and enlightened – he lets me talk a lot. I can ask “what would you like for dinner?” AND tell him how handsome he is! He just loves to indulge me like that 🙂
And of course he is stunningly handsome, and rich, or he’d be forever deprived of a woman’s adoration like sadface troll.
We seem to have run him off, which is a shame in a way because I wanted to see how mundane the activities would be that we could list and still provoke the “omg your life is so amazing, not like mine, I live in the pit of woe and despair with nary an adoring woman to fellate my ego” comments.
I think my husband’s benevolence stems from the fact that he was born in Europe – it’s so progressive, y’know.
I took off-topic notes in a departmental meeting today. I’m a regular that-dude-from-the-Dis-Equis-commercials. No wonder I’ve landed myself a mid-to-high quality man with acceptable proportions.
I guess he’s gone but the good news is another troll who sounds exactly the same will pop up to explain the pseudo-economics and sciencey non-facts behind his beloved Sexual Marketplace theories. I wonder how we get so many trolls who are pragmatic, highly cynical, non-slack jawed, network television rejecting humanist-realists, even though that breed of man is so very rare.
Dis Equis. That’s right.
I thought he might melt down there for a bit. It was kind of anticlimactic when he just faded away.
I’m a softie, so I actually did feel a little bad for him at times. It was just *too* easy to mock him. Then I remembered gems like “I find feminism useful” “quality women” “exquisite measurements” “I acted like an ass, and they liked it,” and how strivingally was really trying to help him and just got ignored. So I went back to pointing and cackling.
As opposed to Dat Equis.
sorry.
Stay quality, Viscaria!
So with the exception of good looking, in shape genius man, ya’ll are old? Everything makes way more sense now. Ya’ll have forgotten what youth is like, and things are possibly very different now due to technology and social media. People are much easier to replace.
Look, your middle-aged life doesn’t disprove anything I’ve said. People get lonely. They settle.The follow the script. “Yeah, I may barely find my partner attractive, but getting married makes everything better! Oh and a mortgage too! We can always get divorced if things don’t work out! What’s a credit rating?!?!?”
They get their jollies from watching Modern Family or whatever drivel, simulate passion by watching or reading their fake news outlet of choice and liking causes on facebook. I can not believe that these folks aren’t disgusted when they wake up next to their partners. They just get their jollies some other way, and in the heat of the moment, whoever is there doesn’t matter too much.
OMG, where you there when my husband proposed?!!! That’s almost what he said verbatim. It was so romantic, just like something out of the movies…
Hi Unfreedland. Not an old fogey, here!
And, you’re condescending self-centered jerkiness is showing:
Why didn’t you just say that without the double negative. You think all the older folks here in happy relationships are secretly despised by their partners. Suuuuuure.
Whatever makes you less unhappy. The projection is hilarious though.
Christ, dude, you scared the shit out of me popping up like that, you should have said “Boo!” first.
Well, my partner is still good looking, even though we’re old and all, so nope, no sadface. It must suck knowing that a bunch of people twice your age are still more attractive and happier than you are, huh?
protip undfreeland: you were meant to be full of self-pity, right? Your sneering contempt for anyone over 25 doesn’t fit the act you had going. Stick to the script!
@undfreeland, you’re still a patronizing plank, but for fuck’s sake, has anything that anyone on this thread has been trying to hammer into your abnormally thick skull actually penetrated? Or do you only read and engage with comments from “good looking, in shape genius” men?
Just because you personally cannot believe that middle-aged folk could POSSIBLY find their partners attractive, it does not follow that the whole world abides by your standards. It’s really sad that you think no one over the age of forty can have a satisfying sex life, and for you it will probably be a self-fulfilling prophecy, but what is with your pathological need to insist that everyone else conforms to your sad and shallow worldview?
Tinyorc,
I suppose it might blow his mind that the second most sexually promiscuous age demographic (after young adults) is senior citizens.
By senior citizens, I mean 70+.
Sorry, which one of us is good looking in shape genius man?
Is it Katz? I think it’s Katz. Or possibly David. I mean, I know it’s David, since he’s a in shape genius man good looking and also a cat in a ferret suit and also me. Or I am him. Or…
I’m getting confused.
Here’s an insider secret from one decrepit relic (aged 34) married to an absolute fossil (aged 48): older people have had lots of practice at the sexytimes, so they tend to be really good at it. I met Mr. FM when I was 22, and we dated for about a year before we decided to get married. 36 year old him rocked my socks then. And he still does now.
There’s also that stuff where we talk and laugh and do non-naked stuff together, but you don’t seem interested in that part of life, so I won’t get into detail.
So now we’re all old? Even the teenagers and twenty somethings? I’m 30. Is that too old? (Too old for what?)
In more-important-than-undfeeland news, that dishwasher problem I had? Fixed! Turns out the air in the pipes triggered the flood prevention valve on the source line. Had to pull out the dishwasher to get to it, but now I can catch up on the sink full of dishes! Yay!
That made me laugh.
@contrapangloss: I know right? I’m looking forward to it!