Sometimes I hunt the misogyny, sometimes it wanders up right up to me and says hello.
Today’s post is an example of the latter. Below, a slightly edited comment that someone left for me this morning. It’s a response to a post of mine about a dreadful post on Return of Kings in which a fellow calling himself Billy Chubbs argued, with absolutely no evidence, that a recent high school shooter was driven to murder because of his “probable sexual frustration,” Chubbs went on to argue that young women are “selfish” because they don’t have sex with guys they’re not attracted to.
Anyway, my new commenter – posting under the name “whogoesthere?” – thinks that I and the other commenters here were being too hard on Chubbs’ “very good argument.” And so he deposited this giant rant, which in many ways is even scarier than Chubbs’ original.
He’s a tad verbose, so I’ve trimmed out some stuff that isn’t relevant to his general, er, thesis. And I’ve also taken the liberty of adding a few paragraph breaks and bolding a few of the best (i.e. worst) bits.
When men don’t get the women they want they turn to violence.
Not a good start here, because this just isn’t true. In this case, the phrase “not all men” is, for once, appropriate. Most men don’t get violent when they’re turned down.
This is established all over the animal kingdom and offers a good example about how it applies to humans, that snotty girls who keep their sexual treasures to all but a few males cause the remaining males to snap. …
Animals do all sorts of things that humans don’t do, and we can’t always learn from their behavior or assume that it relates to our own lives.
Or maybe the Evo Psych crew is just looking at the wrong animals. When banana slugs can’t find a partner to have sex with, they simply fertilize themselves. There’s a lesson here, I think, for the angry incels of the world: you can’t always get what you want, and when you can’t, sex with yourself is better than murder.
High school is a massively sexually charged winner take all environment. … Today’s high school is basically an ongoing audition for a porno video and the guys and girls who don’t make the cut can only sit at home and masturbate.
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It’s demeaning and hits a major blow to a person’s sexual identity to not be invited to frolic with the beautiful people.
Somehow most people, regardless of gender, manage to survive even if they’re not frolicking with Charlize Theron and/or Channing Tatum.
I’m sorry but almost no men go on wild shooting rampages if they have a beautiful female in their keep.
In their keep?! Also, no. Charles Manson was surrounded by beautiful young women. Yet he orchestrated multiple grisly murders.
The only guys that do so are bank robbers and thieves, generally guys at a later stage of life more fixated on money.
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Human beings naturally assess the amount of sex going around them and judge themselves in relationship to the amount and type of sex others are getting.
You know, you can’t actually tell how much and what kind of sex someone is having just by looking at them. Yes, there will always be people in the world having more sex with you. And some of these people are having sex with people you would probably like to have sex with. There are also people who are smarter than you, funnier than you, who can play chess or kickbox better than you, who have hundreds or thousands of times more money than you do.
That’s life. Life isn’t fair.
This makes sense because from a reproductive standpoint sex is coveted, and sex with beautiful thin, young women are the most coveted. Being the first to spoil these young women sexually is viewed reproductively as a guarantee of parentage, thus this is why males instinctively covet and burn with passion for these females.
Ah, yes, it was only a matter of time until the creepy pedo-justifying Evo Psych assfacts made their appearance. Not all men “burn with passion” in their pants for virginal high school girls.
This is why we have “morality” which is in its essence is a promise not to flaunt or indulge in sex moreso than the lowest man or woman in your tribe. This is what is meant when people say “morality went out the window.” They mean someone with more sexual prowess is openly indulging in sex and broadcasting it to stimulate the jealousy of the underclasses.
I’m pretty sure that’s not what people mean when they say “morality went out the window.”
This teen killed people cause he thought that beautiful girls were out of reach. The high school environment merely rubbed it in his face. Yes drugs to treat ADD might’ve eroded many of the impulse control functions in the teen, but the rage against the high school was still the gasoline.
[citation needed]
He might’ve had a picture or two taken with a girl next to him, but oftentimes those high school girls lie and simply eat up the male’s offerings without granting sexual access, but grant it to a random stud.
How dare young women choose who to have sex with, and who not to!
I’m not saying the girl he killed deserved it, it’s only that when you are in that frame of mind you cannot tell who is having more sex than others and you simply fill in the gaps with rage.
Wait, so if she had turned him down he would have been justified in killing her?
The beautiful girl simply represented everything that the teen couldn’t get. The steady love and wild sex of a valuable young girl.
Yeah, I think you’re confusing high school with porn again. His rampage lasted roughly a minute and a half. He shot her because she was there.
All the other theories posted on this site seem comical, self-righteous and weirdly off-point. It’s like you’re assessing the situation as an asexual senior citizen or righteous prude.
Not a lot of “prudes” here. Just people who find the “women need to have sex with ‘nice guys’ or these ‘nice gys’ will kill you all” to be a somewhat problematic argument.
Generally men want sex with young thin beauties who validate their existence.
Some men do. But most men, among those who are sexually attracted to women, aren’t as neurotically fixated on this small slice of the female demographic – women in their teens and early twenties who are somehow both virginal and sexually “wild” – as manosphere men seem to be. And most people don’t base their entire self-worth on whether or not they’re having sex with beautiful people.
Some men prefer women older than them. Some like women who are fat. Plenty of men don’t fixate on a particular physical type and are attracted to all sorts of different women. Believe it or not, whogoesthere, there are lots of men who are more interested in what’s in a woman’s head than they are in whether or not she matches up with some particular checklist of physical attributes.
If society removes all of the social pathways to attaining such a beauty, such as making prostitution illegal, increasing shame for men who seek sex, rewarding females and males called manginas who identify and mock the sex seekers and so on… this will lead to depression in men and all of the behaviors surrounding it, including shootings. Sounds pretty much like a logical line of reasoning to me.
And that’s the problem. It’s not actually a logical line of reasoning at all. It’s more like a sort of blackmail.
Men don’t kill women because they can’t have “the steady love and wild sex of a valuable young girl.” Sometimes men kill women because they feel entitled to have sex with these “valuable young girls” and become bitter and enraged when they can’t find a “valuable young girl” who agrees with them on this particular point.
It’s not the lack of “sexual access” that’s the problem. It’s the notion that your desire for “sexual access” means more than the right of that person to say “no.” It’s the notion that society has done you wrong because you can’t (at least at the moment) get laid. It’s the idea that your desire to have sex with a particular kind of woman somehow trumps the right of other people to live.
I mean, what the fucking fuck.
Oh, by the way, there’s no evidence that the shooter in question – Karl Halverson Pierson – was motivated by sexual frustration. His intended target was the school librarian, who is also the school’s debate coach. Pierson was obsessed with debate, and had some sort of grudge against the coach.
RE: undfreeland
I never “complained” about women not having sex with anybody.
No, you just mentioned how being an asshole got you laid, how sex work should be legalized for the sake of these dudes’ boners, and that getting laid more would make them less assholish to women, gays, etc.
We can read between the lines, dude. You’re still an asshole.
LBT, Phoenician, I would pine, but I’m still bemoaning the fact that my feeemale privilege granted plague of suitors has not yet arrived.
Also LBT, fabulous love story. *throws confetti for anniversary*
And I wish to the god I don’t believe in that all nerds would give up their fucking sense of martyrdom. It’s all very romantic in high school, but grow the fuck up.
@ LBT
Yep. Which is almost understandable when they’re still in high school, but pathetic and laughable when they’re adults.
“I didn’t complain. I was just
saying that women only date mean guys or strong guyswhining.”I have been suspecting that there is a connection between the new misogyny and Geek culture.
Yeah, there is a strong link between nerd culture and the manosphere. Idiots who think they’re saints because they’ve never committed a violent crime.
Undfreeland:
I know many very attractive women who are not physically fit at all, including many happily married– and others who have copious amounts of happy, consensual sex– morbidly obese women. I know many women who struggle to date because they are not conventionally attractive, such as they have drooping eyelids, rosacea, unmanageable hair, weak jawlines, big eyes, or buck teeth. For women, it’s about a lot more than fitness– mostly personality and confidence, but also symmetrical and defined facial structure with big eyes, pronounced lips, fine jawlines, and nothing considered “masculine.”
I also know many men who are skinny, with meth-teeth, no jaw, a mountain of debt, and a criminal record as long as my arm who manage to impregnate many, many women and always have a girl on their arm. The world’s fattest man is married to a woman he met while holding the world record. The homeless man who sits with his dog on the street corner has a homeless girlfriend, despite neither of them having access to a shower. There are tons of men on television, stars of their shows, who are out of shape or short or lack facial symmetry. Men do NOT need to be “fit, tall, have good facial structure, style and economic status.” Men simply need to find a woman with compatible interests and needs.
The truth is feminism has been a boon to those men once considered low-status. Women can be a primary breadwinner now, or at least make up a shortfall in household income, so poor men and male students can still date and marry. Without the specter of “you must look for marriage partners” women will date many guys they think they’d never marry, and frequently wind up with one of them. And because women are looking for equals now, not providers– and they have proper pregnancy care– they tend to marry men their own age instead of much older men with money who have lost a wife to childbirth.
So who is losing out in this?
Those men who refuse to accept that women are people in the first place. They are not low status men. They have steady jobs, education, homes, assets, no debt– listen to them talk about themselves! They are high-status men! However, they’re also reactionary misogynists who drive away women who might otherwise be attracted to them with their terrible personalities.
(And yes, there are many attractive women who are not yet swayed by feminism who date men who are overly aggressive and cruel because they have bought into the idea that they have to have a guy who is high-status, or that all men are aggressive and cruel. They are in decline.)
I think what we’re referring to here as the new misogyny started on hardcore nerd forums like /b, expanded to sites like Kotaku, and then spread to a lot of other young men via Reddit and so on. The point of origin is definitely the old school nerd culture forums, though.
They also fail to understand that women can’t help who they’re attracted to, anymore than they can help being attracted to their female friends.
It always blows my mind that these mighty male logicians never realize what’s implied by the “assholes get the girls” trope.
No shit that being willing to lie and cheat and manipulate your way into getting what you want means you sometimes get what you want more often. But you had to fucking lie and manipulate your way into getting it.
It’s like saying that all people should shoplift, because when I shoplift I get candy more often than when I don’t.
Glad to be of service, O Grand Patronizing High Logicker of Rationalists. I hope that I can be a useful cog in the wheel of your future society. Maybe I can finish my in-depth analysis of the dating market? There is still so much that needs to be said about the theory of Alpha Male Decision Fatigue.
An engineering degree is foolish? News to me. Good thing I’m putting this BBA in Economics to such good use, I’d hate to incur your wrath as well.
Mocking women and exploiting their insecurities and loneliness is a sign of a being a better man than who you actually are? Wow. It must be depressing to know that about yourself, much less own it in a public forum.
Maybe I need to rethink my pledge to join undfreeland’s brave new world. Anyone else need the services of a gardening housewife with a varied work history and a talent for making Rice Krispie treats?
Flying Mouse has all the win.
@ Flying Mouse
Can you teach me how to grow culinary herbs? If so I’m in.
Seconded. Because to me there is nothing more attractive that a nerd who is sweet and non-misogynistic.
I mean, who would all of you people who are into men rather?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BjmCNjepkQg&feature=player_detailpage
If you’d prefer The Situation you do you but I know where I my heart lies!
Culinary herbs are generally pretty simple. Most of them were originally weeds, so they grow in poor soil and require very little care. So pretty much put ’em in the ground/a pot and let ’em go.
(I say this as someone who has killed two rosemaries. Everyone has a weakness.)
I guess you can’t post two YouTubes in one, but I’m sure nobody wants to see The Situation anyway.
“I think what we’re referring to here as the new misogyny started on hardcore nerd forums like /b, expanded to sites like Kotaku, and then spread to a lot of other young men via Reddit and so on. The point of origin is definitely the old school nerd culture forums, though.”
What you call “nww misogyny” is actually “waking up.” The younger generation is waking up.
Shut up Woody. This thread already has one annoying asshole. It doesn’t need another.
schwadevivre:
Nah, MRAs would never have the style to carry off a Saville Row suit.
WWTH:
Short guys for the win! I’m 5’4″ish, Mr Kittehs is 5’7″ (5’7″ and a half in his shoes, as he likes to remind me). 😛
@LBT – Your story about your husband has me in goo-goo eyes right now. I’m a sucker for a good love story, and yours was a GREAT one. 🙂
Happy anniversary!
Woody is what we call “an idiot”. Also a fanboy, but I think this is the first comment where he hasn’t mentioned Paul Elam, so way to go, Woody!
(I initially wrote that as Woofy, which I think is my subconscious seeing him as Elam’s pet dog.)
Also, is anyone else not seeing the videos at all? I’m just getting a black rectangle, which just started yesterday.
Waking up as to what? Waking up in a crumpled fedora with Cheeto crumbs in their neckbeards having passed out while playing a 24 hour Minecraft marathon you mean?
This is a totally unique idea that I’ve never considered before. And you don’t sound pretentious at all.
And yet you ignore multiple people pointing out how this is demonstrably untrue. Guess that ~questioning ideology~ thing doesn’t apply to your own.
Maybe if you view sex as the only worthwhile outcome. Other men happen to enjoy women’s company and companionship.