A Voice for Men likes to present itself as a voice for gay men as well as straight ones. In a recent post, site founder and chief fulminator Paul Elam declared that
We regard men as human beings, regardless of their sexuality. And most of us feel that this is the salve that heals what has in recent history been inflicted on gay men.
No mention of lesbians, but of course they’re women, and Elam does not seem to like women very much.
AVFM managing editor Dean Esmay, meanwhile, likes to present himself as a champion not only of gay men but of lesbians as well, boasting in one recent tweet that “I have been lesbian-supporting since the ’80s.”
So why is AVFM giving a platform to one of Canada’s most influential opponents of same-sex marriage — and gay and lesbian rights in general?
Canadian Senator Anne Cools, one of the scheduled speakers at AVFM’s upcoming “Men’s Issues” conference in Detroit, has been a staunch opponent of same-sex marriage for decades.
Her objection? That only heterosexual marriage deserves legal protection because gay people can’t make babies – at least not with each other – thus making their interest in sex all about lust.
In a speech before the Canadian senate, she argued that
The public interest in marriage is reproduction, the continuation of the species, the offspring. There is no public interest in sex or the gratification of sexual impulses for their own sake. …
[L]ust, like all human passions, is not to be trusted. Lust and sex on their own have no public character and contain no public interest or public good. Marriage is about man and woman in a peculiar act of bringing forth offspring.
Never mind that plenty of stright couples don’t, or can’t, have kids. Or that some trans men can.
She’s not simply an opponent of same-sex marriage. Cools has consistently opposed other legislation designed to afford gays and lesbians the same basic rights as straight people — and the same legal protections as other victims of bigotry and discrimination.
She opposed adding “sexual orientation” to hate speech legislation, warning that doing so would expose “millions of Canadians…who hold moral opinions about sexuality, to criminal prosecution.” (Needless to say, the passage of the bill in question did not lead to millions of Canadians being rounded up and arrested.)
She also worried that adding “sexual orientation” to hate speech legislation would somehow – I don’t quite understand the logic – encourage the “depathologizing the paraphilias” and ultimately lead to children being “seduced” into dangerous sexual activities. Here’s her argument:
The fact of the matter is, honourable senators, that we discourage children from smoking cigarettes because tobacco is harmful. I would submit that we are talking about some sexual activities that are dangerous and life-threatening. The committee should have the moral courage to hear something of it. I have lost a lot of beloved friends to a variety of these conditions. I have made it my business to instruct myself. That is the first question. You can think about that.
Ms. Landolt, your concern that the term “sexual orientation” is so wide as to involve a wide range of sexual behaviours is well founded. I would like to put on the record here for this committee a document called the Journal of Homosexuality, particularly, volume 20 in 1990. The subject of the entire volume is pedophilia and male intergenerational intimacy, historical, social, psychological and legal perspectives. If you were to open up this text, the foreword is the debate on pedophilia, and the second article is “Man-Boy Relationships: Different Concepts for a Diversity of Phenomena.” It continues with “Pederasty Among Primitives and Institutionalized Initiation.”
She continued:
I want to know about these children out there and the impact that this is having on them, and, in addition to that, all of these children who are being seduced at youthful ages and who are discovering what is happening to them two or three years later. I have done a lot of counselling. I would like to get a greater picture of the problems out there for children on these grounds, because this sexual orientation debate is going on here as though children do not exist.
She also tried to raise the question of “the medical consequences to individuals who involve themselves in activities such as ‘rimming,’ … sado-masochism and so on.”
In explaining her opposition to adding sexual orientation ito the Canadian Human Rights Act, she offered a similar “slippery slope” argument:
The concern is that pederasts and paedophiles will advance claims to engage in adult/child sexual relationships as a matter of human rights; that claims will be advanced on the legal grounds that pederasty and paedophilia are sexual orientations having entitlements.
For more on her various backwards views, as well as the source of that last quote, see here.
On Twitter, I asked Esmay to explain why AVFM is providing a platform for a woman who opposes same-sex marriage. He hasn’t replied.
Another curious Twitterer asked the same question of Janet Bloomfield, the official spokeswoman for the upcoming AVFM conference. She handled the question with her usual (lack of) aplomb.
Apparently AVFM’s much vaunted “compassion for men and boys” doesn’t apply to gay men who want the same basic rights as straight men.
For more on AVFM’s tolerance of homophobia – and Elam’s notorious attack on one trans women, see here.
EDIT: After I put this post up, I decided to see if I might have better luck at getting answers from Bloomfield on Twitter. The conversation went about as well as could be expected. Remember, Bloomfield is AVFM’s offical “social media” spokeswoman for the conference.
I didn’t see her comment about harassment until after I tweeted a couple more times.
Some more bang-up public relations work from Ms. Bloomfield here.
Clearly Ms. Cools has no idea what the term “sexual orientation” means.
And since she believes marriage and sex should only be for the purposes of procreation, I will assume she has had her marriage dissolved and she has stopped having sex since she passed her child-bearing years.
Me and Husband ought to get our marriage annulled then, since we don’t wish to have kids, and have had the audacity to be happily married for thirteen years now while using birth control all the time…
Small correction, David, but it popped out at me:
“Never mind that plenty of stright couples don’t, or can’t, have kids. Or that some trans men can.”
In fact, many trans women have biological children too. My partner is a trans woman and has five biological grandchildren (so far).
Compassion for men* and boys. Clearly.
* = White, cys, straight men, but that’s nothing new.
Giving Cools a platform for this drivel also seems off for the movement that supports financial abortion. Although maybe they’re fine with her as long as they don’t have to financially support such reproduction, either as individuals or through taxation.
“So why is AVFM giving a platform to one of Canada’s most influential opponents of same-sex marriage — and gay and lesbian rights in general?”
Because they’re men? It’s their nature to be irrational, contradictory, hormonal, prone to mood swings, and promiscuous. No wait… I seem to be getting my stereotypes mixed up.
LOL, JB is so funny. Death threats are important manly activism, but questions about speakers at a conference and their affiliations are “harassment”. Keep milking that double standard, honey.
JudgyBitch’s comment is very revealing.
Somehow, shared custody is “more relevant” than being an opponent of rights for men (and women) to an organization supposedly dedicated to fighting misandry.
It goes to show how AVFM and MRAs tend to operate: they seize on issues like shared custody or the draft—the long-defunct draft, about which Dean Esmay wrote that he’s going to keep bringing it up even though it’s politically dead because TEH WOMENS—as mere fetishes to concentrate their misogyny.
Arggh, people like Cools make me so irritated. They operate out of a value system (frequently conservative christian, but that may also be just the case of where I live) that puts everything into a Good Box and a Bad Box, and truly believe that when people open up the Bad Box to take something out, everything else in there is going to run free. Like a prison break.
They have no grasp of things like informed consent, or that informed consent between adults can be used as moral gauge.
Wow, my grammar sucks today. Sorry!
Also people marry because they’re in love and can be together without sex.
Sorry, I’m slow what is Anne Cools talking about? Is she comparing pedophilia to homosexuality?
Random question: I call gays and lesbians ‘homosexuals’ does that bother anyone?
David
“No mention of lesbians, but of course they’re women, and Elam does not seem to like women very much.”
Human – ‘Hu’ = Man
Cools also has the anti-gay fascination with particular sexual acts, of which:
– not all gay males practice, and
– some heterosexuals practice.
Given that number of heterosexuals > number of gay males it is likely there are more heterosexuals who undertake these activities.
If the activity itself is the issue, rather than who is undertaking it, she would have focussed on the activity.
What is it with conservatives and their desire to control what people do and don’t do sexually? Who cares, as long as there’s informed consent? It is literally none of our business.
@Tulgey Logger, Good summary. It’s like if they called themselves the Dog’s Rights Movement but insisted on only focusing on issues affecting beagles–and even then, only as a vehicle to blaming everything on cats.
I myself am completely unsurprised. I’ve mentioned multiple times that even if I didn’t find them misogynist as hell, I would never join the MRM because they seem way more interested in looking good than actually DOING good, and I’ve had enough of that bullshit in my life.
If I wanted to get thrown under the bus, I’d join the damn HRC.
I can’t believe the level of intellectual dishonesty in this cesspool of a blog.
Just because AVfM is giving space to certain people to speak about a certain issue, it does NOT mean that they AGREE with EVERYONE about EVERYTHING.
This woman is deluding herself with her logic…is like saying I’m friends with a serial killer (but never mind his victims) in is down time, you know his cooling off period, he such great human rights activits, that his killings is none issue.
To live in her mind will be scary.
I’m embarrassed that a Liberal government appointed this woman to the Senate. She turned on them over same-sex marriage and joined the conservatives who later kicked her out of their caucus for criticizing Dear Leader Harper. Now she’s an independent.
Barbara Kay, another guest speaker, is deeply misogynistic as well as transphobic. In the linked article she deliberately misgendered a trans man who had given birth and attributed transgenderism to mental illness.
Yes, enormously so. The term “homosexual” has become a slur that is used by the Christian right to make LG (and bi) people sound diseased. I have more negative associations with the term “homosexual” than I do with “faggot.”
Leum
Ok I’m sorry I won’t use that term ever again.
Thanks!
I wonder what Karen Straughan thinks about Cools speaking at the conference? I guess they won’t sit them too close together.
“Homosexual” just sounds a bit clinical to me. It’s like saying “we had intercourse last night” – it’s technically correct and all, but why so formal?
RE: Matheus
Just because AVfM is giving space to certain people to speak about a certain issue, it does NOT mean that they AGREE with EVERYONE about EVERYTHING.
Nobody said that. We said that it’s hypocritical. What, could they not in the whole wide world find a NON-homophobic supporter of men’s custody and divorce rights? Are they that scarce on the ground? If AVFM want homophobes soapboxing at their meeting, they don’t get to claim they’re fighting for gay rights.
This isn’t hard.
@ Matheus:
If they don’t agree with her views on an issue that affects many men as well, why not denounce those views? Why not, like David wrote to their PR person Bloomfield, give an official statement that AVFM does not support her opinion on gay rights?
I suspect that they keep silent because they want to gain the trust of the conservative right, but that’s just me.
Whoops, ninja’d by LBT.