Love is in the air at the Chateau Heartiste, the online home of the racist, woman-hating pickup artiste with an “he” at the start of his made up name. In a recent post, Heartiste responds to a reader with the plaintive question: Can sluts fall in love?
Heartiste takes the opportunity to drop some (pseudo)science on the questioner. By which I mean he plucks this nugget of not-quite-scientific nonsense from his posterior:
Absolutely. But they can also fall out of love. And they do both more easily than non-sluts.
Sluts are a strange amalgam of genetic, environmental, and “gray area” influences. Hormones are a good example of a gray area somewhere between the environment and genes which shapes character. While I’ve no hard evidence, I’d bet that sluts release less oxytocin than normal women do during lovemaking, which means the hard slut is less likely to emotionally bond when she’s spermally bonded.
Ah love, sweet ineffable love!
It’s not quite clear how Heartiste became an expert on love, since he seems to thoroughly hate the women he spends so much of his life obsessing about.
Elsewhere in the same “reader mailbag” post, for example, he urges another question-writer to gaslight a former girlfriend who is still showing interest in him in order to score some easy sex. I’ve bolded some of the more repugnant bits for those who’d rather skim than read Mr. H.
She wants the lines of communication open, because she still has hope you’ll give her what she needs. Reply, but only a fraction of the time she texts. Initially, keep it friendly and frivolous, but don’t allow yourself to get boxed into a “friends forever?” interrogation. If she starts down that road, first, know she doesn’t really mean it, and second, amputate that rotten limb of conversation promptly. “You’re so funny” is a reply that will light a fire under her hamster’s ass. Anytime she sends you one of those “just thinking about you” texts, reply “aw that’s sweet.” If she texts, “just got our hair done”, reply, “thanks! i needed to know this.”
The idea is that you are reinforcing your relative higher value by repeatedly and (some would say) sadistically mocking her eagerness to keep you in her life.
Allow for a few weeks of this empty banter, then maneuver her into your fornication zone with a disarming suggestion: “If you need to talk, you can swing by tomorrow (tonight’s no good)”. Through the expert deployment of ambiguous promises, you want her to believe you are warming to the idea of a committed, conventional long-term relationship. The goal is increasing perceptions of your “commitment attainability”, and that will require some feints to the beta side. Convinced of your good intentions, you can extract sexual goodies in this manner for another six months or so, before the process begins anew.
What a charmer!
Heartiste is fond of spinning out these sorts of sadistic fantasies, and his fans lap them up. It’s not clear if any of them have spoken to an actual human woman in years.
I see what you did there.
Hur hur hur.
If you can read that and not find it insulting and misogynist as fuck, I want to know why.
I think there’s a dissertation to be written on the rhetoric of the PUA movement–it’s fascinatingly byzantine, bizarre, and inventively profane–but I sure as hell wouldn’t want to have to do the research involved.
Slut also deals with class, since a slut is unworthy of marriage and social status. The term slut is depressing on multiple fronts.
These guys are the most grandiose and egocentric breed of assholes to walk the earth. The lying and manipulation is bad enough in itself without this fantasy of how their enthusiastic douchebaggery is based on scientific knowledge and elaborate skill sets.
A for real LOL. Mockery is the only thing that makes this TeRPer nonsense survivable for me. I can intellectually engage with MRA types with little emotion, but TeRPers genuinely make my blood pressure shoot up. It’s tough to read a sexual predator playbook, especially when it’s relationship advice that people charge money for and propagate for a living. I fucking hate, hate, hate these guys in a way I don’t hate reactionaries, right wingers and anti-feminists. You can be a disaster ideologically and not be a terrible person who deliberately does terrible things.
Yeah, insulting sex workers and addicts in one go. Impressive.
I’ve also read that women of higher socioeconomic status use “slut” as a way of insulting poorer women.
Sorry, Lea, you’re right that insanitybytes’ comment is not an acceptable to talk about sex workers, or anyone else really.
Katz
…and now we all know something about chimpanzee sperm.
😛
RE: deniseeliza
I’m also reading Why Does He Do That (which is about abusers) and some tactics I recognize from PUAs here are decoded in this book as well.
I know, right? I’ve been reading that book in chunks for almost a week, for completely different reasons, but the reminder of the misogynists we mock is… uh. Kinda uncanny.
RE: Taino
He can’t blame her for the fact that guys are easy and it does not take long for a woman to know how easy sex is to get and thus her view of it changes from “special” to “meh”
The hell are you blathering on about? My husband is possibly the easiest man to lay on the planet; last I checked, he didn’t need mystique to make sex awesome. If sex can only be ‘special’ when it’s rare, I question the quality of said sex.
RE: runsinbackground
does anybody know what the hell a “hard” slut is supposed to be?
I presume it’s my husband with an erection. *rimshot*
RE: katz
Isn’t chimpanzee sperm more like that? A solid plug rather than a liquid? …I am ashamed that I know something about chimpanzee sperm.
I dunno whether to be impressed by your knowledge or horrified by the idea of solid sperm. D:
Nth the “that’s some fucked up shit right there”.
Both men and women release oxytocin during sex and other “bonding” experiences, although its primary purpose may be to help women get through the pain of childbirth. It’s a hormone released by the pituitary gland and mainly has a relaxant effect. It is not some kind of mind-altering drug that only affects women, nor does it have anything to do with semen.
Man, these dudes love the idea that their jizz is magic. Sorry, guys, but sperm does not have special powers beyond the standard and well-known baby-making ability.
I assumed it was a satire of the PUA position, noting the inconsistency of attributing low levels of oxycontin to “hard sluts.” Given the over-the-top rhetoric and misogyny of the comment – on a blog dedicated to mocking misogynists – I figured it couldn’t be serious.
As I said above, I’ve got a gullible streak a mile wide.
If I’m wrong in my interpretation of that post, then I sincerely apologize for any support or cover I may have given it.
It doesn’t come out solid, it solidifies afterwards (actual spermal bonding). Some animals have this mechanism so another male can’t then mate with the female.
…and “oxycontin” should read “oxytocin”….
My bad…spelling.
“…the hard slut is less likely to emotionally bond when she’s spermally bonded…”
“I think ‘spermally bonded’ is supposed to be a sticky-sheets joke…”
The apogee (or would it be the nadir?) of tacky humor.
I read this and agreed (with the added point of WTF is fartiste going on about with this ‘normal’ women vs sluts shit?). People who enjoy and orgasm from sex are much more likely to produce oxytocin during sex.
Aaaaand then it right out the window.
Maybe he is trying to impersonate creepy vivisectionists in old horror movies
RE: katz
It doesn’t come out solid, it solidifies afterwards (actual spermal bonding).
You just HAD to make it worse, didn’t you?
I like that Katz is following the pseudo-science post with actual science. Despite their best efforts, we’re learning true stuff!
In case anyone is wondering, scientists were interested in chimp sperm because chimps, unlike humans, almost never have miscarriages, and they were interested in what the chimps were doing differently.
Chimps also have bigger balls, ca 110 g, more than double human weight.
Also, they are a lot stronger than humans.
Humans, on the other hand, have invented the vibrator. Now that’s sexual prowess.
Sperm plugs also occur in squirrels, rats, mice, and reptiles. I feel slightly better about my student loan debt, having contributed that.
RE: katz
In case anyone is wondering, scientists were interested in chimp sperm because chimps, unlike humans, almost never have miscarriages, and they were interested in what the chimps were doing differently.
You know, every time I hear about something like this, I think of the poor intern or grad student who you just KNOW lost the coin toss and has to be the one collecting the damn fluids…
Omg, flashbacks of that Dirty Jobs episode where they collect sperm from the stallion…