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Dizzy With Success: Paul Elam announces triumphant move of AVFM conference to less convenient venue

Quick, look over there!
Quick, look over there!

So A Voice for Men, having lost or abandoned the original venue for their “Men’s Issues” conference in Detroit, has announced its new location: A VFW post some 18 miles away from the original hotel where, presumably, most of the conference’s attendees will be staying.

According to Paul Elam, they made the move in large part to spare conference-goers the terrible inconvenience of having to watch the no-doubt riveting presentations from an “overflow room.”

No, really.

In a post last night, Elam declared that all the media attention given to the conference

has produced is a hell of a lot more interest in the conference, and more ticket sales. So much so, as a matter of fact, that we have opted to move to a venue that will seat more people and provide more security than was available previously.

While we apologize for any inconvenience that the move is going to cause, it is nonetheless a positive move for the conference. Because seating capacity was misrepresented to us at the previous venue, we were forced to plan for an overflow room where we would pipe in live events to a monitor at reduced ticket prices.

With the change of venue we will be able to accommodate all attendees in the same space at the same time.

Naturally, the first thing some critics of Elam did when they saw this announcement was to look up the seating capacity of the largest rooms at both venues. The largest room at the Doubletree Fort Shelby, where the conference was originally scheduled to take place, seats 300, with a maximum capacity of 310. The largest room at the VFW post … also seats 300. Or maybe 350. The VFW website isn’t clear.

In other words, Elam expects us to believe that in order to avoid the inconvenience of having to resort to “overflow rooms,” AVFM moved its convention to a venue 18 miles away from the original hotel that might not even offer rooms any bigger than the original venue.

Meanwhile, in the comments to Elam’s post, one would-be conference attendee reports that the Doubletree has canceled his reservation. If Doubletree has decided to wash its hands of the conference attendees now that they are no longer hosting the conference, and Elam is telling the truth about the number of people planning to attend, this could mean hundreds of people scrambling for hotel rooms.

Still, Elam and his troops are eager to present this as a great victory.

It’s weird. You might think that this sort of reality distortion would be impossible in a democratic country in the internet age. Sure, back in Stalin’s day, the Soviet Union’s propaganda machine could present massive failure as success and get away with it – at least to some degree, at least within their own country.

In the wake of a disastrous program of “forced collectivization” of rural agriculture in 1929-30, which left many peasants dead or imprisoned and paved the way for future famines, Stalin famously announced in an article in Pravda that the program had been so amazingly successful that he needed to call a temporary halt so that everyone could catch their breath. The title of his article: “Dizzy With Success.”

The only way you can get away with bullshit this brazen is if you’re a dictator or the leader of a cult – something that A Voice for Men has increasingly come to resemble. AVFMers are expected not only to accept Elam’s leadership; they’re expected to accept his distinctly non-consensus reality – a world turned upside down in which men are the real victims of domestic violence and rape and pretty much everything else, a world in which the Southern Poverty Law Center is a collection of evil bigots and his motley collection of misogynists is the true human rights movement of the twenty-first century.

Like a lot of cult leaders, Elam keeps his troops too busy to think straight in a continual frenzy of pseudo-activism. AVFMers are forever brigading comment sections of newspaper articles and YouTube videos in little squads (AVFMers almost always travel in packs), all reciting the same few talking points.

Weirdly, the dynamics of internet discussions can actually reinforce this kind of intellectual conformity, much as Stalin’s control of the media did in his day. No, AVFMers can’t avoid being exposed to facts that contradict the shared (un)reality of their ideological bubble.

But in internet discussions you don’t have to be right in order to convince yourself you’ve won an argument. You just have to be loud and persistent and unwilling to ever give in. You don’t have to convince anyone else of your arguments so long as you convince yourself. MRAs don’t win many arguments on their merits, but they manage to convince themselves they win every one.

The trouble is that when they step outside of their regular stomping grounds on the internet, this strategy – so effective in generating ideological conformity amongst cult members – falls completely apart.

We’ve seen several spectacular examples in the past couple of weeks. First, we watched a concert organized by Canadian Men’s Rights group CAFE implode after musicians and sponsors realized what they’d been roped into; the pathetically unconvincing attempts by the group to explain away this failure were amazing to behold.

Then we saw AVFM’s Dean Esmay reduce himself to a caricature on Fox (local) news as he rapidly regurgitated standard AVFM talking points like some sort of fanatical ideological auctioneer, apparently unaware that to everyone outside of the Men’s Rights bubble everything he was saying was obviously utter nonsense.

And now we have Paul Elam trying to convince the world that AVFM changed its venue for its conference because, hey, we needed more room!

The trouble with having your head up your ass most of the time is that when you take it out, people tend to notice the smell.

But, hey, as long as the AVFMers are happy with their new venue, I’m happy for them. Janet Bloomfield, the official “social media director” for the conference, posted this triumphant tweet lat night:

https://twitter.com/JudgyBitch1/status/476822883881459712

She has assured me that this is an actual quote. The “Wayne State cunts” remark is apparently a reference to the Wayne State sociology professor who, er, debated AVFM’s Dean Esmay on the local Fox affiliate the other day. Esmay has also posted a slightly shorter version of the same quote in the AVFM comments section.

So, yes, both the official PR representative for the conference and AVFM’s “managing editor” both apparently think it’s a great idea to refer to women who disagree with them as “cunts.”

Oh, and Bloomfield also thinks it’s hilarious to joke about Elam scamming his supporters of the $29,000 raised for additional security:

https://twitter.com/BhasChat/status/476907717194702848

You can’t buy this kind of publicity, largely because as far as I know there are no PR firms that offer organizations help in destroying the last tiny shreds of their credibility.

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cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

I don’t think it’s paranoia, I think it’s a deliberate attempt to mislead the general public into thinking that feminists do the kind of things that MRAs do.

Michael McG
Michael McG
10 years ago

If that band name is taken, I will also accept Gamboling Guerilla Girly-Men or Militant Manginas Of Madagascar.

“Insufferable Mansplaining Rage-Babies” still hasn’t formed yet.

Michael McG
Michael McG
10 years ago

If that band name is taken, I will also accept Gamboling Guerilla Girly-Men or Militant Manginas Of Madagascar.

“Insufferable Mansplaining Rage-Babies” still hasn’t formed yet.

LBT (with writeathon poll!)

RE: Cassandrakitty

I don’t think it’s paranoia, I think it’s a deliberate attempt to mislead the general public into thinking that feminists do the kind of things that MRAs do.

See, I’m even MORE cynical. I think that Paul’s deliberately trying to mislead HIS SUPPORTERS to put them in a state of continued dread and fear that only he can save them from. Nothing cements a group together like outside persecution, right? And if there isn’t any, really, well then, they can make their own!

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

@ LBT

That too. It’s a scam built on a pile of bullshit, basically.

pallygirl
pallygirl
10 years ago

They don’t need to take a red pill if they already drank the Kool-Aid.*

* Yes I know the drink wasns’t actually that, but this way everyone gets the reference.

LBT (with writeathon poll!)

You know what, since AVFM has been going on about death threats and harassment, I think I’d like to link this. It’s from a speaker at the recent WisCon, a convention devoted to diversity in speculative fiction.

GUESS HOW WELL BIGOTS ARE TAKING IT.

Auntie Alias
Auntie Alias
10 years ago

That’s so sad, LBT.

emilygoddess
emilygoddess
10 years ago

I think that Paul’s deliberately trying to mislead HIS SUPPORTERS to put them in a state of continued dread and fear that only he can save them from. Nothing cements a group together like outside persecution, right?

Yup. It’s exactly how Fox News ans InfoWars work: “Everyone else is lying to you, and anyone whose facts contradict ours is part of the conspiracy.”

kittehserf
10 years ago

LBT, that’s awful.

Nezumi
Nezumi
10 years ago

@LBT: I’m late to this, but what you discussed about Multi Moon Lady reminds me of a fun experience I had with someone who once identified as trans, but stopped once they felt comfortable expressing their assigned gender as they chose, regardless of social gender roles… and thus decided trans people didn’t really exist and it was all just being uncomfortable with your assigned gender role and not knowing you can express your gender however you like.

Uhm… no. When I thought I was male, I expressed my maleness exactly how I wanted — hell, I’m autistic, so it would have been more difficult for me to try to conform to socialized gender roles than to express it how I wanted. It still wasn’t me, and realizing that being trans was a real thing that I could potentially be still felt revelatory and like it explained everything about who I was and why I felt the way I did.

scott1139
scott1139
10 years ago

Relating to the link LBT posted:

Is anyone here familiar with the tumblr user cerberusia or the tumblr blog godihatethisfreakingcat? They’re both accusing the author of “On Telling the Truth” of lying about her heritage. As a heads-up, I’m almost certain the owner of the hatecat blog is a TERF.

MR DAD
10 years ago

Why do you disapprove of people having a conference on mens issues? Why do you disapprove that mens isssues need to be addressed? Please explain your thinking?

Nezumi
Nezumi
10 years ago
Reply to  MR DAD

MR DAD: Wow, that’s pathetic. We don’t disapprove of a conference on men’s issues, or disapprove of men’s issues not being addressed. We disapprove of the fact that AVfM is using the thinnest pretense of doing this to run a conference about hating women, and to spew toxic misogyny so forcefully you can see the plume from space.

kittehserf
10 years ago

Awww, MR DAD thinks MRAs actually give a shit about real men’s issues.

Protip, sonny: they don’t.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

Why do you disapprove that mens isssues need to be addressed? Please explain your thinking?

Please diagram your sentence.

Isabelle
Isabelle
10 years ago

@MR DAD

“Why do you disapprove of people having a conference on mens issues? Why do you disapprove that mens isssues need to be addressed? Please explain your thinking?’

What conference are we talking about here? Because If we are on the topic of addressing, maybe you can explain if calling people whore is part of the normal protocol to “address” people on an official conference twitter?

“AVfM Conference 2014 ‏@icmi14 Jun 27

@jaclynf Also, you’re an attention whore, too. Whore score me: 3!”

Having volunteered in my younger days for Amnesty International, I don’t recall it as standard practice for a human right organization which wants to be taken seriously to throw insults, even at a corrupt government. I remember clearly writing on the behalf of political prisoners and somehow, I manage to not start with:

You F$#@ Whore,

Please release X ….

I don’t know about you, but I definitely have expectations about people speaking on my behalf, being my lawyer or my union rep. If I were you, I would not want an organization behaving like a troop of drunk baboons throwing feces at passerby to represent me. That would be my immediate concern.

Argenti Aertheri
Argenti Aertheri
10 years ago

“Why do you disapprove of these people having a conference on mens issues?”

FTFY, and the answer is because they’re hateful bigots, with a con man ring leader.

“Why do you disapprove that mens isssues need to be addressed? Please explain your thinking?”

I…yeah, please diagram your sentence is the only conceivable answer to this. If you were aiming for “don’t you agree men’s issues need to be addressed” then yes, we do, but Elam et al won’t (and didn’t) do that.

So either you know fuck all about Elam and MRAs, or you’ve bought his shit. I hope it’s the former, but I’m not holding my breath.

Ally S
10 years ago

Why do you disapprove of people having a conference on mens issues? Why do you disapprove that mens issues need to be addressed?

Because those “men’s issues” are nothing but thinly veiled reactionary bullshit. They don’t really care about helping men at all.

kittehserf
10 years ago

So let’s see, an actual men’s issue that got mentioned – prison rape.

The audience response? Laughing when a guy mentioned fearing his son would be raped in gaol.

cloudiah
10 years ago

Do you think he actually makes his kids call him Mr. Dad?

sparky
sparky
10 years ago

MR DAD:

Please explain your thinking?

We think women are human beings and the folks at AVFM don’t.

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