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Dizzy With Success: Paul Elam announces triumphant move of AVFM conference to less convenient venue

Quick, look over there!
Quick, look over there!

So A Voice for Men, having lost or abandoned the original venue for their “Men’s Issues” conference in Detroit, has announced its new location: A VFW post some 18 miles away from the original hotel where, presumably, most of the conference’s attendees will be staying.

According to Paul Elam, they made the move in large part to spare conference-goers the terrible inconvenience of having to watch the no-doubt riveting presentations from an “overflow room.”

No, really.

In a post last night, Elam declared that all the media attention given to the conference

has produced is a hell of a lot more interest in the conference, and more ticket sales. So much so, as a matter of fact, that we have opted to move to a venue that will seat more people and provide more security than was available previously.

While we apologize for any inconvenience that the move is going to cause, it is nonetheless a positive move for the conference. Because seating capacity was misrepresented to us at the previous venue, we were forced to plan for an overflow room where we would pipe in live events to a monitor at reduced ticket prices.

With the change of venue we will be able to accommodate all attendees in the same space at the same time.

Naturally, the first thing some critics of Elam did when they saw this announcement was to look up the seating capacity of the largest rooms at both venues. The largest room at the Doubletree Fort Shelby, where the conference was originally scheduled to take place, seats 300, with a maximum capacity of 310. The largest room at the VFW post … also seats 300. Or maybe 350. The VFW website isn’t clear.

In other words, Elam expects us to believe that in order to avoid the inconvenience of having to resort to “overflow rooms,” AVFM moved its convention to a venue 18 miles away from the original hotel that might not even offer rooms any bigger than the original venue.

Meanwhile, in the comments to Elam’s post, one would-be conference attendee reports that the Doubletree has canceled his reservation. If Doubletree has decided to wash its hands of the conference attendees now that they are no longer hosting the conference, and Elam is telling the truth about the number of people planning to attend, this could mean hundreds of people scrambling for hotel rooms.

Still, Elam and his troops are eager to present this as a great victory.

It’s weird. You might think that this sort of reality distortion would be impossible in a democratic country in the internet age. Sure, back in Stalin’s day, the Soviet Union’s propaganda machine could present massive failure as success and get away with it – at least to some degree, at least within their own country.

In the wake of a disastrous program of “forced collectivization” of rural agriculture in 1929-30, which left many peasants dead or imprisoned and paved the way for future famines, Stalin famously announced in an article in Pravda that the program had been so amazingly successful that he needed to call a temporary halt so that everyone could catch their breath. The title of his article: “Dizzy With Success.”

The only way you can get away with bullshit this brazen is if you’re a dictator or the leader of a cult – something that A Voice for Men has increasingly come to resemble. AVFMers are expected not only to accept Elam’s leadership; they’re expected to accept his distinctly non-consensus reality – a world turned upside down in which men are the real victims of domestic violence and rape and pretty much everything else, a world in which the Southern Poverty Law Center is a collection of evil bigots and his motley collection of misogynists is the true human rights movement of the twenty-first century.

Like a lot of cult leaders, Elam keeps his troops too busy to think straight in a continual frenzy of pseudo-activism. AVFMers are forever brigading comment sections of newspaper articles and YouTube videos in little squads (AVFMers almost always travel in packs), all reciting the same few talking points.

Weirdly, the dynamics of internet discussions can actually reinforce this kind of intellectual conformity, much as Stalin’s control of the media did in his day. No, AVFMers can’t avoid being exposed to facts that contradict the shared (un)reality of their ideological bubble.

But in internet discussions you don’t have to be right in order to convince yourself you’ve won an argument. You just have to be loud and persistent and unwilling to ever give in. You don’t have to convince anyone else of your arguments so long as you convince yourself. MRAs don’t win many arguments on their merits, but they manage to convince themselves they win every one.

The trouble is that when they step outside of their regular stomping grounds on the internet, this strategy – so effective in generating ideological conformity amongst cult members – falls completely apart.

We’ve seen several spectacular examples in the past couple of weeks. First, we watched a concert organized by Canadian Men’s Rights group CAFE implode after musicians and sponsors realized what they’d been roped into; the pathetically unconvincing attempts by the group to explain away this failure were amazing to behold.

Then we saw AVFM’s Dean Esmay reduce himself to a caricature on Fox (local) news as he rapidly regurgitated standard AVFM talking points like some sort of fanatical ideological auctioneer, apparently unaware that to everyone outside of the Men’s Rights bubble everything he was saying was obviously utter nonsense.

And now we have Paul Elam trying to convince the world that AVFM changed its venue for its conference because, hey, we needed more room!

The trouble with having your head up your ass most of the time is that when you take it out, people tend to notice the smell.

But, hey, as long as the AVFMers are happy with their new venue, I’m happy for them. Janet Bloomfield, the official “social media director” for the conference, posted this triumphant tweet lat night:

https://twitter.com/JudgyBitch1/status/476822883881459712

She has assured me that this is an actual quote. The “Wayne State cunts” remark is apparently a reference to the Wayne State sociology professor who, er, debated AVFM’s Dean Esmay on the local Fox affiliate the other day. Esmay has also posted a slightly shorter version of the same quote in the AVFM comments section.

So, yes, both the official PR representative for the conference and AVFM’s “managing editor” both apparently think it’s a great idea to refer to women who disagree with them as “cunts.”

Oh, and Bloomfield also thinks it’s hilarious to joke about Elam scamming his supporters of the $29,000 raised for additional security:

https://twitter.com/BhasChat/status/476907717194702848

You can’t buy this kind of publicity, largely because as far as I know there are no PR firms that offer organizations help in destroying the last tiny shreds of their credibility.

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Lea
Lea
10 years ago

I’m just a fluffy unicorn baby.

Even if that were so, who the fuck slaps around a fluffy unicorn baby?

Ally S
10 years ago

How much rent do MRAs owe all you Manboobzers for the space we take up in your febrile brains?

That’s a pretty bland insult.

Lea
Lea
10 years ago

How much rent do MRAs owe all you Manboobzers for the space we take up in your febrile brains?

Shh, the grown ups are talking. Go play with something shiny.

emilygoddess
emilygoddess
10 years ago

Malcolm, since when do activists complain about how much attention they’re getting.

But since you asked, about $1000 US/month would do nicely, thanks

Athywren
Athywren
10 years ago

@emilygoddess
…I’m only saying it because I think it’s true. I honestly think that confusion over the usefulness of skepticism is why so many MRAs think they’re skeptics. They set out with their answer, and then try to show, using the tools of skepticism, how right they are, but they forget that they’re only tools. I can use a spade to dig out a patch of my garden so I can grow fruit there, but I have to use it right – I can’t just wave it around my head and expect apples to rain down on me.
I saw that kind of skepticism the first time I was openly exposed to an MRA argument. Some guy set out to debunk that claim about women doing x% of the world’s work and receiving only y% (I forget the numbers) of its wealth. To prove this, he decided to work out how much of America’s total household incomes went to women, because he only needed to show that they got z% of America’s household incomes in order to show they got more than y% of world household incomes. Which was not the original claim. I’ve been seeing that kind of skepticism in the MRM ever since. It’s pretty depressing, to tell you the truth. I once had a conversation with a guy about how women, the LGBTQ community and racial minorities were oppressed… he told me that we shouldn’t take it as axiomatic that women are oppressed – no comment about the other groups, so apparently we should take it as axiomatic that LGBTQ & racial minority groups are oppressed? Personally, I thought we used evidence for those, and evidence for women too, but apparently not. Ramble ramble ramble.
Bad skepticism annoys me.

takshak
takshak
10 years ago

Even if that were so, who the fuck slaps around a fluffy unicorn baby?

I would, if it pooped on my lawn

Athywren
Athywren
10 years ago

@takshak
Well, yeah, obviously, if we know what something is then it stands to reason that we can say that it’s not things that aren’t what we know it is, but I was referring to cases where we don’t have positive knowledge. Obviously we know it’s not true that the moon is made of blue cheese – it’s double gloucester.

LBT (with writeathon poll!)

RE: malcolm johnston

How much rent do MRAs owe all you Manboobzers for the space we take up in your febrile brains?

Shut up, we’re talking about Multi Moon Lady right now.

RE: Lea

I’m sorry people give you a hard time LBT. It just seems so rude to question someone’s very existence. That’s cold.

It’s okay. I mean, my parents have done it and after that, strangers don’t really have much capacity to hurt me about it anymore. Basically, again, they don’t see me as a person, so questioning me or trying to make me magically disappear isn’t at all gross to them. And there’s no way to GAIN that personhood, because they have already decided I’m not a person.

who the fuck slaps around a fluffy unicorn baby?

Every tough guy on the Internet who wants to prove how smart and above it all they are. I actually base a lot of my social presentation on appearing serious and sensible enough not to get taken for a unicorn baby, while also still being believable. It’s a tightrope walk, a lot of the time, but my survival depends on it.

takshak
takshak
10 years ago

heretic! It’s wenslydale!

sorry, but my nerves are a bit raw after dealing with a gundamentalist…

hellkell
hellkell
10 years ago

Malcolm: The answer is not much, really. Unlike you buttnuggets, who would have to get actual lives if you stopped hating everyone.

Lea
Lea
10 years ago

I’m sorry LBT.
Here are some hugs for you, if you want them ———-> HUGS!

Lea
Lea
10 years ago

…and now I want some cheese.

emilygoddess
emilygoddess
10 years ago

I would, if it pooped on my lawn

As someone who has treated actual victims of animal cruelty, I’d like to respectfully request that you not joke about it.

Lea
Lea
10 years ago

You know what we need right now?

takshak
takshak
10 years ago

Lea, I see your unicorns and raise you … shrimp on a treadmill!

Athywren
Athywren
10 years ago
takshak
takshak
10 years ago

Athywren: 2nd amendment fondler Thinks John Lott is a credible source.

Athywren
Athywren
10 years ago

@Lea
So I think I’ve found my new earworm cure… it’ll join the rotation with Nyan Cat & the eternal Rick Astley.
Shut up, he’s awesome.

Athywren
Athywren
10 years ago

I know… I just prefer the idea of a toy robot death machine collector over… death machine collector.

weirwoodtreehugger
10 years ago

I honestly think that confusion over the usefulness of skepticism is why so many MRAs think they’re skeptics. They set out with their answer, and then try to show, using the tools of skepticism, how right they are, but they forget that they’re only tools.

Yes. This.

Real skepticism is letting your conclusions be guided by evidence. Not coming to a conclusion and seeking evidence to confirm it. Or for that matter, ignoring evidence because it doesn’t fit the conclusion.

Confirmation bias =/= skepticism

LBT (with writeathon poll!)

RE: Lea and takshak

…what have I just watched? What is this feeling it is instilling in me?

I THINK THIS IS A SIGN I NEED TO GO TO BED.

(And don’t worry, Lea! It’s okay, I’m far away from my folks now, and they can’t hurt me now. The worst that I get these days is periodic emails like the one today inviting me to Lake Tahoe. Which I’ll totally do, about five minutes after hell freezes over.)

takshak
takshak
10 years ago

I like to keep an eye on the enemy.

He’s also (quelle surprise!) a glibertarian

Woody
Woody
10 years ago

There is an utterly unfounded assumption being made that Paul has “scammed” his followers out of 29K. Not so. They required the money for extra security. Due to feminist harassment, AVFM has now been forced to move venues entirely. This isn’t Paul’s fault. I don’t know what he’ll do with the 29K, but I’m sure it will be put to good use, in his wisdom.

weirwoodtreehugger
10 years ago

Did you read the post Woody? Elam himself claimed to be moving venues because the VFW had more capacity than the Doubletree.

You really are dense.

As the saying goes; a fool and his money are easily parted. It’s no skin off my nose if you idiots want to fund him.

Ally S
10 years ago

Woody also seems to be ignoring the fact that Elam himself has admitted that he uses a lot more of the donations for his own personal expenses than he typically says openly.

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