You know how they say “smile and the world smiles with you?” Apparently, that’s all wrong, at least according to our dear old friend Vox Day (Theodore Beale). The fantasy author and human shitstain says this old saw needs a rewrite: smile, and the world’s true Alphas laugh at you. As Mr. Day-Beale explains:
Women say they resent it when men tell them to smile. And well they should. An instinctive smile, when one is not expressing pleasure or recognition, is a submissive gesture. This is why attractive women tend to smirk in response to the big goofy submissive smiles sent their way by lower status men.
And then, presumably, those sexy ladies will quickly excuse themselves and make a beeline for the nearest ALPHA fantasy author standing grimly in the corner, quietly judging everyone and thinking unkind thoughts about John Scalzi.
But what if you’re one of those big goofy smiling submissive dudes? How do you capture some of that broody Alpha magic for yourself? It’s simple: Don’t turn that frown upside down.
One easy way to increase your perceived level of alpha is to simply not smile at strangers. Instead, just reply with a nod or a pleasant word. One can be perfectly civil without grinning at everyone like an idiot, and it’s always interesting to see the difference it makes in people’s perceptions.
Just don’t overdo it, lest the ladies think you’re, for example, some sort of weirdo misogynist so filled with fear and loathing for everything female that you’ve actually set up an entire blog devoted to telling the world what an awesome alpha you are.
I’m not talking about walking around glowering; self-conscious anger is much worse than indiscriminate smiling. But women have always been drawn to brooding men, so rather than turning them away with a gesture of preemptive submission, give them something to which they can be drawn.
To be perfectly fair, though, this does work with most Bronte sisters.
“Just don’t overdo it, lest the ladies think you’re, for example, some sort of weirdo misogynist so filled with fear and loathing for everything female that you’ve actually set up an entire blog devoted to telling the world what an awesome alpha you are.”
It would be most unfortunate if the truth came out. Well, for him. Not for everyone else.
I don’t really understand how smiling when you’re not “experiencing pleasure or recognition” is instinctive?
You forgot the part about how these dominance theories are bases on discredited science. Wolves do not act this way, let alone humans. But Mr Beale is stuck somewhere in the 17th century in his science theory.
Sweet, so now all the PUAs will be distinguishable by their lack of laugh lines and possible presence of frown lines. This is great news, just in case they give up on wearing fedoras, as it gives us other clothing hints to watch out for.
The question that his boys never ask is whether you should be taking advice on intergender interpersonal communications from a dipshit loathed by all but a small coterie of males?
Dress like her dad, it releases a hormone called Monatonin
When you get into an elevator with a woman, press a higher number than her and then make a big deal about it.
Push her in a lake
Be one of the tallest guys in the bar and brag about how long your but crack is
Sing a song that you supposedly heard on the radio and then make fun of her for not knowing it
Use the word idiot
NEVER make her pancakes! Force her to make YOU pancakes in the middle of the night.
When I was a tweener I thought that brooding, moody dudes were cool. Then I grew up, and I’ve preferred men with a bright happy friendly smile ever since.
To be fair, though, “happy” is clearly not an option that’s available to our friend Vox.
Is Vox writing this whilst listening to The Cure and planning his Dracula costume for the next Goth night at the club?
Adding to the list of things Pox doesn’t know: that “smile” and “big goofy grin” aren’t synonymous.
When I have to deal with some dude in what should be a pleasant, brief conversation and he doesn’t smile, I’ve never thought “Alpha!” or “Brooding Sexy Man!” More like “Rude bastard who’s so up himself he likes being rude to retail/customer service staff.” At best it’d be “Have you got a toothache?”
Funnily enough the blokes I’ve worked with have usually expressed the same opinion about the deliberately-non-smiling types.
::snicker:: He’s a bit old to get away with the Baby Goth thing. Gods, how we used to laugh at them (us post-25 Goths who were into Monty Python and silliness).
The whole “be the brooding manchild of her dreams” thing does make sense when you realize that their goal is to attract teenagers, I guess. Creeps.
The last dark-n-broody guy I dated was a giant high-maintenance manbaby who thought the world just didn’t understaaaaand him. No mas.
The way I see it is, if you’re not friendly to me then why should I be friendly to you? Friendly smiles and a polite, pleasant greeting or GTFO, dudes.
Mr K could have been called brooding in his earth days, but that wasn’t the attractive part, it was all the rest of him, the not-messed-up aspects, that made him so appealing. The brooding unhappy side was what I knew would make a relationship difficult-to-impossible. Knowing him when he’s happy is ever so much better – and he SMILES! He laughs! He even grins!
Poor Pox, he’s such an idiot and flailing so hard. He hasn’t a fucking clue. Maybe this “don’t smile” twaddle is just more of the basic MRA thing of being miserable and wanting everyone else to be, too.
Smile and the world smiles with you, write a petulant rant about being to manly Alpha to smile and get mocked. Works for me.
I hope that every woman who he actually tries this approach on IRL responds with a bright, smiley “cheer up, emo kid!”
I bet it sends everyone’s creep-o-meter off the charts if he does this.
Actually in Russia, were I was born, people were smiling less. It was so uncomfortable that I almost felt myself kinda autistic. I couldn’t understand why people are so grumpy and why it looked like all of them just had a bad day and any time I appeared anywhere it looked like it wasn’t the right time. Then I moved first to Spain and then to USA and it was a great relieve! I realize that I do have ok social skills and I am not really autistic. Funny thing was that some of Russians that I met in US actually were complaining about too many smiles, even that everyone is smiling “like an idiot” LOL. Well, so could be all this PUA tactics will work in Russia I don’t know. LOL When I was dating I ignored guys that didn’t smile. Even if they were good looking I though that maybe the guy had a bad day and it is not a good time for conversation. If he started conversation I felt uncomfortable and did my best to disappear. LOL
Yeah, if someone is scowling my assumption is that they aren’t really in the mood for a chat.
So PUAs are saying my severe case of resting bitch face is actually an attractive trait?
The reason women resent being told to smile is because their faces do not exist for your amusement, Douchey McBaggerton. It’s that you think strange women exist for your pleasure and that they should smile for you, not out of any feeling of their own that makes you gross.
I love my husbands smile. I love his sense of humor. I’ve always been attracted to men who make me laugh.
These guys are sexy:
http://www.where.ca/wp-content/uploads/2009/07/09-07-hotdateslaughs.jpg
http://www.justabouttravel.net/wp-content/uploads/2013/02/Michael_Palin.jpg
I have crushed on them so hard.
This guy has the most knee melting smile of all time.
You know else is super sexy and funny?
This guy:
http://www.contactmusic.com/pics/ln/20130507/080513_matilda_the_musical/tim-minchin-matilda-the-musical_3651139.jpg
What is with Pox always telling men to be disingenuous? How ate up with insecurity do you have to be to strive to fake mythical “alphaness” to get dates? What’s wrong with just being confident that you’re real personality is great and that it’s OK for some women to not be into you, because you don’t need constant validation? Isn’t all this artifice in an attempt to appear to be confident and strong just an indicator that a man is anything but confident and strong? He just sounds like a bratty little boy who is looking for a macho excuse to put on a show to hide his fear and self doubt.
Forgot to add: yay for Dude Watchin’ with the Brontes! I thought of that before I even clicked the link.
Go eat a fucking cactus, VD.
I find this guy’s “advice” to be creepy and filled with a deep undercurrent of contempt…I do however love that cat.
The problem here would appear to be that if you’re Vox or a follower of his, your personality is not great.