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Why Elliot Rodger's misogyny matters

A chart posted by Elliot Rodger, giving his chilling spin on a manosphere meme depicting supposed female "hypergamy"
A chart posted by Elliot Rodger, giving his chilling spin on a manosphere meme depicting supposed female “hypergamy”

When a white supremacist murders blacks or Jews, no one doubts that his murders are driven by his hateful, bigoted ideology. When homophobes attack a gay youth, we rightly label this a hate crime.

But when a man filled to overflowing with hatred of women acts upon this hatred and launches a killing spree targeting women, many people find it hard to accept that his violence has anything to do with his misogyny. They’re quick to blame it on practically anything else they can think of – guns, video games, mental illness – though none of these things in themselves would explain why a killer would target women.

In the case of Elliot Rodger, who set out on Friday night aiming, as he put it in a chilling video, to “slaughter every single spoiled, stuck-up, blonde slut” in a popular sorority house at the University of California, Santa Barbara, some Men’s Rights activists and other manospherians are doing their best to convince the world that misogyny had nothing to do with it.

On A Voice for Men, for example, Janet Bloomfield (who goes by the name JudgyBitch), notes that Rodger killed more men than women, and thereby declares that

Elliot was an equal opportunity hate monger, torn between wanting to kill women and wanting to kill men. …

Jessica Valenti proclaims that “misogyny kills”, blithely unconcerned with the fact that more men than women were killed.  Killing men is misogyny?  That’s an interesting interpretation.

Bloomfield ignores the reason more men were killed than women: Rodger’s planned massacre of sorority women failed. He was unable to get inside the sorority house. And so he was forced to improvise.

On Twitter, meanwhile, cultural commenter Cathy Young, long sympathetic to Men’s Righsters, seems to think that Rodger’s rampage was entirely due to “mental illness” and argues that connecting Rodger’s rampage to a wider culture of misogyny is a form of “anti-male hate speech.”

Even more strangely, the proudly racist Steve Sailer – a hero to Heartiste and others in the “alt-right” wing of the manosphere – has declared that Rodger wasn’t motivated by misogyny but rather by “anti-Blondism,” and that his targeting of “ blonde sluts” in a popular sorority house was “an extremely intentional racial hate crime.” Never mind that the half-Asian Rodger idolized blonde women as superior (even as he hated them) and that his comments online are littered with rather crude, rather traditional racism against people who weren’t white.

But Sailer’s claim is little more than an attempt at a derail.

The fact is that Rodger made his misogyny very clear — in his videos, in his internet postings and most of all in his 140-page “manifesto,” which is filled with angry denunciations of women and elaborate fantasies of violent “retribution” towards them. As with many misogynists, his misogyny was largely driven by thwarted sexual entitlement: he desired women intensely but they (wisely) wanted nothing to do with him.

Consider the following passages from his manifesto. I’ve put some of the most disturbing bits in bold.

The most beautiful of women choose to mate with the most brutal of men, instead of magnificent gentlemen like myself. Women should not have the right to choose who to mate and breed with. That decision should be made for them by rational men of intelligence. If women continue to have rights, they will only hinder the advancement of the human race by breeding with degenerate men and creating stupid, degenerate offspring. This will cause humanity to become even more depraved with each generation. Women have more power in human society than they deserve, all because of sex. There is no creature more evil and depraved than the human female.

Women are like a plague. They don’t deserve to have any rights. Their wickedness must be contained in order prevent future generations from falling to degeneracy. Women are vicious, evil, barbaric animals, and they need to be treated as such. … All women must be quarantined like the plague they are, so that they can be used in a manner that actually benefits a civilized society. …

The first strike against women will be to quarantine all of them in concentration camps. At these camps, the vast majority of the female population will be deliberately starved to death. That would be an efficient and fitting way to kill them all off. I would take great pleasure and satisfaction in condemning every single woman on earth to starve to death.

I don’t know about you, but to me that sounds just a little bit like misogyny.

Rodger saw his “Day of Retribution” as part of a war against women. Elsewhere in his manifesto he wrote:

Women’s rejection of me is a declaration of war, and if it’s war they want, then war they shall have. It will be a war that will result in their complete and utter annihilation. I will deliver a blow to my enemies that will be so catastrophic it will redefine the very essence of human nature.

Now, there is no question that he also hated certain kinds of men and boys – the “obnoxious brutes” he so often saw with the “pretty blonde girls” he simultaneously desired and despised. His manifesto is dotted with denunciations of them, as well as with denunciations of humanity as a whole. At one point, he posted a fantasy on PUAhate about killing all the men on earth with a virus so he could have all the women for himself. But he thought about, and wrote about, killing women all the time.

Indeed, even when he was bullied as a youngster, he directed most of his anger not at the bullies themselves but at their girlfriends.

Remembering one bullying incident from high school, he wrote

Some boys randomly pushed me against the lockers as they walked past me in the hall. One boy who was tall and had blonde hair called me a “loser”, right in front of his girlfriends. Yes, he had girls with him. Pretty girls. And they didn’t seem to mind that he was such an evil bastard. In fact, I bet they liked him for it. … The most meanest and depraved of men come out on top, and women flock to these men. Their evil acts are rewarded by women; while the good, decent men are laughed at. … I hated the girls even more than the bullies because of this.

Rodger was not only a misogynist; he was explicitly an enemy of feminism. While he doesn’t seem to have ever identified as a Men’s Rights activist per se – the only “rights” he seemed to be interested in were his own – his postings online echo the extreme and ignorant denunciations of feminism seen amongst MRAs and other manospherians.

This, too, has been denied by Men’s Rights activists. On AVFM, the “non-feminist” would-be “philosopher” Fidelbogen declares that

We have no evidence yet that Elliott Rodger was anything but apolitical in regard to feminism as such. He was not outspoken about feminism … He was only a sexually frustrated chump with mental issues, who apparently “hooked up” with PUA literature, and websites like “the Manhood Academy”.

In fact, Rodger attacked feminism explicitly in a number of comments on PUAhate, where rabid antifeminism is essentially the default ideology. In one comment, he declared bluntly that “feminism must be destroyed.” In another he predicted that

One day incels will realize their true strength and numbers, and will overthrow this oppressive feminist system.

Start envisioning a world where WOMEN FEAR YOU.

And while he saw PUAhate itself as “a putrid pit of despair,” he argued that

it does give a view of what the world is really like, what women are really like, and the evils of a feminist society.

Every male should read the posts here so that they can be awakened. There are too many delusional males worshipping women who would only spit in their faces.

There is no question that Rodger was a very disturbed man. I’m not a psychiatrist, nor do I have access to his medical or psychiatric records. But I would not be shocked to find that he was struggling with some sort of mental disorder or disorders. He was seeing several therapists, and a psychiatrist prescribed the antipsychotic Risperidone for him; he refused to take it. This prescription in itself doesn’t prove he was psychotic; psych meds are often prescribed for off-label uses, and Risperidone is also used to reduce irritability in people with autism. (Rodger was reportedly diagnosed as having aspergers.)

But, as someone who has himself dealt with depression for decades, I cannot help but think, reading through his manifesto, that his thinking was, as mine has sometimes been, distorted by depression.

He was also clearly a narcissist, in the colloquial sense if not necessarily in the clinical sense, whose resentment of others was driven by narcissistic rage. And some of his pronouncements, particularly towards the end of his life, were so grandiose it’s hard to know whether these reflected his tendency towards melodrama, fueled by his love of fantasy literature and video games, or if they are symptoms of a delusional disconnection from the real world.

I don’t think, given the considerable evidence there is of his troubled state of mind, that raising these issues detracts from the main point, and that is:

Rodger was a misogynist through and through. In many ways his misogyny was his life. If you watch his videos and read his manifesto, you’ll see that he related anything and everything in his life to what he saw as the grand tragedy of his rejection by “girls,” a state of affairs he blamed entirely on the girls of the world and not on his own “magnificent” self.

He was utterly consumed by his sexual obsession with “pretty blonde girls” and their utter lack of interest in him, and, increasingly, by his elaborate fantasies of “retribution” against them, which ultimately led to his killing spree on Friday night.

To deny that he was driven by misogyny makes as little sense as denying that Hitler was driven by anti-Semitism.

The evidence is as clear-cut as it can be on this point. Anyone who can’t or won’t admit this is either an ideologue or a liar – or both.

Thanks to Melody and several other readers for pointing me to some of the examples used in this post.

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LBT (with an open writeathon!)

Thirteen.

is feminist anarchist a real thing?

Google it. We’re not your mom.

(Oh my god, guys, can you imagine how he’d handle Emma Goldman? LOLZ.)

Fade
10 years ago

seriously tho, what is it with trolls refusing to read their links? I remember a troll who linked to a domestic violence census that said literally the opposite of what it thought he said. Maybe he was hoping the link would be proof enough and i wouldn’t actually read it?

I get the same vibe from Jules

Ally S
10 years ago

what type of feminists are you? apparently their are many flavors…

is feminist anarchist a real thing?

Anarchist feminism (also known as “anarcha-feminism”) is a strain of feminism, although unfortunately it’s not well known. Personally, I’m an anarchist and a womanist, not a feminist.

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

11…

weirwoodtreehugger
10 years ago

Only the multimale-multifemale group pattern is not normally found in any human society.

And the multimale-multifemale group pattern was the only one that have alpha males according to that source. LOL.

Shiraz
Shiraz
10 years ago

I’m a cookie and cream feminist. Sometimes I represent myself in a sugar cone.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

I’m a toffee feminist. Watch what happens to the trolls when they try to chew on me.

LBT (with an open writeathon!)

NOOOO I’M SORRYYY AAAAGH.

Please, in apology, accept this offering of a comic book biography of Emma Goldman. It’s pretty good!

Ally S
10 years ago

True fact: Radical feminism is really just yam feminism because “radical” is from the Latin word for “root” and yams have roots. Behold my superb analytic reasoning.

sparky
sparky
10 years ago

12.

I’m a red velvet feminist.

The red coloring is really from the blood of poor, down-trodden, hard-working men, not food coloring.

Shiraz
Shiraz
10 years ago

Apes and chimps are humans. Humans are chimps and apes.
When dogs and cats live together, it creates mass hysteria.

weirwoodtreehugger
10 years ago

Oh my god, guys, can you imagine how he’d handle Emma Goldman? LOLZ.)

I bet if Leon Czolgosz were here today and had the internet he’d go to manosphere sites and blame his assassination of President McKinley on Emma Goldman and all the other anarchists being so mean to him.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

Who wants to be a peanut butter feminist? At first the trolls think it’s tasty and delicious, and then.

(I apologize to all Huskies for the association, btw.)

Ally S
10 years ago

such a cute doggie :3

Fade
10 years ago

@cassandra

that is so adorable. i now claim the peanut butter feminist title

Shiraz
Shiraz
10 years ago

Chimps and apes, that’s why ER shot some people.

LBT (with an open writeathon!)

What’s something that sticks in your throat and drives you nuts? I seem to be that kind of feminist, because I refuse to buy the bullshit other guys feed me about “we can’t help it, we’re just guys!”

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

@ LBT

You’re a fish bone feminist.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

Also, here is a squirrel eating a peanut butter sandwich, just because.

contrapangloss
10 years ago

Didn’t we cover the alpha male myth in a different thread. Dude, get your links out of the dark ages for ethology, and into current peer reviewed lit.

Fun fact: a researcher tried to study economics using bonobos. He taught them the concept of money (a little disc) for food. The bonobos taught themselves about prostitution (sex for tokens!) and bank robberies.

The bank robber totally did a Robin Hood, though.

Tokens for all! Fruit for all!

Shiraz
Shiraz
10 years ago

@Cassandra

**Gushing** OMG, the cuteness!

contrapangloss
10 years ago

Correction : it was capuchins.

LBT (with an open writeathon!)

RE: contrapangloss

I wish the fucking alpha male myth would just fucking DIE already. It’s based off debunked bullshit about wolves that even the fucking creator acknowledges was wrong, it seems to be really related to culture, and I feel like people keep shoving this idea down my throat that I should either BE it, or WANT it, and I feel neither.

I want to be an EQUAL PARTNER with whoever I’m with. I have no interest in dealing with some swaggering blowhard who thinks his ego is the same as his dick size.

Jules
Jules
10 years ago

“Anarchist feminism (also known as “anarcha-feminism”) is a strain of feminism, although unfortunately it’s not well known. Personally, I’m an anarchist and a womanist, not a feminist.”

How is womanist different than feminist? Im going with humanist label for now

Jules
Jules
10 years ago

“Wow, the link.
Now I can follow how everyone’s poking holes into your bullshit comparisons. Thanks bud. Why oh why can’t we see that humans actually live and behave like primates?”

the link was in response to the question of if we are social primates.

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