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Pickup artists argue that "Game" is the solution to Elliot Rodger-style rampages. Here’s why they’re wrong.

From Elliot Rodger's Google+ Profile
From Elliot Rodger’s Google+ Profile

Pickup artists, classy fellows that they are, are using Elliot Rodger’s killing rampage as a marketing ploy. In the comments to one of Rodger’s videos on YouTube, a company called Strategic Dating Coach offered their solution to prevent similar shootings in the future: send disturbed young men who can’t get dates to one of their coaching sessions!

THIS is why we do what we do. TO PREVENT THIS SHIT!!! Could couldn't experience it because he didn't learn to attract women. He should have gone to our website and got our personal dating coaching or purchased one of our products. IF ANYONE NEEDS HELP, CONTACT US! Don’t do anything stupid.

While this response to Rodger’s mass killing is uniquely crass, the argument that “Game saves lives” is hardly new. To PUAs like Heartiste and Roosh Valizadeh it’s practically an article of faith.

In the wake of George Sodini’s murderous shooting spree in a Pennsylvania gym in 2009, Heartiste (then known as Roissy) wrote

If Sodini had learned game he would have been able to find another woman and gotten laid after his ex dumped him. He wouldn’t have spent the next 20 years steeped in bile and weighed down by his Sisyphian blue balls, dreaming of vengeance. Game could have saved the lives of the women Sodini killed.

The fact that Sodini had in fact imbibed in the alleged wisdom of pickup artistry, going so far as attending a pricey seminar from old-school pickup guru R. Don Steele, a self-proclaimed expert on dating young women, didn’t lead any in the pickup community to reconsider this position.

Nor has it this time. It is clear that Elliot Rodger was steeped in “red pill” thinking about women. And while he wasn’t himself a PUA, he was certainly aware of the basics of “Game.” Indeed, he subscribed to a number of PUA channels on YouTube and was a regular commenter on PUAhate, a sleazy forum devoted to criticizing “game,” not because it is manipulative and misogynistic but because it doesn’t work.

On the Roosh V forum earlier today, Roosh acknowledged that Rodger knew at least a little about “red pill” ideology – noting that Rodger referred to himself as an”alpha” – but still went ahead and argued that Game was the solution to massacres like this:

He is self-delusional and massively entitled, but exposing him to game may have saved lives.

In a followup comment, Roosh expressed his concerns for the real victims of this tragedy – Pickup artists:

I’m trying to think of ways our enemies will come after us because of this, but if anything, we’re the solution to this sort of murder rampage. This is the society that progressives wanted, where women are fully able to choose the top 10% of alpha males while shaming masculinity, leaving beta males with modest resources in the dust. Of course they will simply push a ban on guns, but this wholly neglects the cause. Seven people died because this guy couldn’t get laid … .

Other commenters were quick to agree. According to someone known as Moma,

Roosh has a very valid point. This will continue to replay over and over again. As human beings, our wiring is very basic yet primal. …

When have you last heard of a porn star shooting up a place? How many have emptied their balls in a hot lizard and then felt the urge to go and smoke 50 strangers?

According to Samseau, the problem wasn’t that Rodger hadn’t heard the Game Gospel; the problem was that he had rejected his salvation:

He knew about Game. If he had an account on PUAHATE then he knew about game. He was just a denialist. There was no helping this dude.

Roosh seconded this bit of wisdom, seeing it as clear evidence that “game denialism kills.”

Michelin, for his part, hoped that PUAs would be able to use the massacre as a publicity bonanza and a great “told you so” to all the haters.

One should write a mainstream article about this case. The argument that game could have saved lives can be an eye-opener and a smash in the face to haters of game.

Tuthmosis, the man best known for a Return of Kings post on the “5 Reasons to Date a Girl With An Eating Disorder,” reported his joy that PUAhate was getting bad press:

Seeing your enemies fall is a delicious treat you only get to taste a few times in your life. I’m savoring this delicacy with a cup of freshly brewed coffee. It’s a shame real people had to lose their lives, but I can’t help but think this will discredit a horrible website, PUAHate–and a way of thinking–that could have harmed even more men and innocent people. Beta losers will never go away, but this will wake up a few men and, more importantly, scare others.

Zelcorpion blamed “girls” and MGTOWers for giving Rodgers bad dating advice:

I bet a few girls told him that he only needs to be himself, be nice, be a gentleman, have a nice car, looks etc. – only to realize that it mattered shit. Instead of learning from the PUA-community he chose to listen to PUAhaters and some of the anti-female comments of the MGTOWs who themselves are often refusing to accept Game or even basic concepts like Alpha/Beta. I think that problem will become way worse, since hypergamy and promiscuity will only increase and most men will be left in the sexual wasteland.

But it took a relative newcomer to the forum by the handle of thedavidgt to raise the obvious logical objection to the Game-for-everybody solution to incel rage:

If every sexless beta in the world took it upon himself to learn game, approach girls, lift, dress well etc, would it not simply feed women’s egos and entitlement? So instead of occasionally getting awkwardly hit on by skinny fat, poor-dressed chumps, the average 7 would then be approached several times a day by extremely high value men. We’ll have a society of men working to improve themselves for women who will get lazier and lazier while at the same time demanding more and more.

In fact, the “Game saves lives” mantra is dead wrong, but not for this reason. First of all, there is no clear evidence that “game,” per se, works, except insofar as it encourages men to pursue large numbers of women and numb them to the pain of rejection. It’s possible that a few of the conversational ploys invented by various PUAs may work better than having no conversational ploys at all. But there are no magic cheat codes to “getting with women.”

There is one more disturbing way in which “game” may increase “success” with women for unscrupulous men: many of the standard techniques of “game”– invading a woman’s personal space, touching her repeatedly, trying to “isolate” her from her friends – may serve as “tests” to find women who are less likely to resist violations of their boundaries. In this way, “game” may serve as a quite effective enabler of date rape. Indeed Roosh himself has admitted to raping a date too drunk to consent.

So how much of a solution is training a guy who is already filled with a toxic mixture of entitlement and self-loathing (yes, these strange bedfellows do often go together) in some techniques that might help him to tamp down his insecurities enough to manipulate some willing or not-so-willing women into bed?

You might have simply turned a mass killer into a serial rapist, or possibly a serial killer. Ted Bundy was quite the charmer. Somehow this didn’t make him a decent human being.

Even if “game” were the beneficient form of “self-improvement” that some of its proponents like to claim it is, teaching Rodger how to be a better dater would not make him a better person. Would having a girlfriend solve all his problems? Hardly. Relationships require patience and compromise and mutual respect, and Rodger seems to have had none of these qualities. Instead of directing his narcissistic rage at “girls” at large, he would likely have ended up abusing a string of girlfriends.

The problem wasn’t Rodger’s lack of “Game.” It was his lack of humanity.

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Erin Williams
Erin Williams
10 years ago

The assault chickens are asleep in their coop.

Marie
10 years ago

@erin

aught myself four languages at ten years old merely by watching tv and learning how to conjugate the verbs.

Yes, but did you invent algebra when you were nine?

Erin Williams
Erin Williams
10 years ago

I’m not afraid of bras.

dustedeste
dustedeste
10 years ago

~*faints at being told how awesome Erin thinks he is*~

Truly we are in the presence of a living god.

Marie
10 years ago

@cassandra

I’m fine with bra talk but I don’t think I have any answers. You can shoot it, if you like. (More people are on hopefully)

Erin Williams
Erin Williams
10 years ago

Nope. I am actually horrible at math. Linguistics is what I’m really good at for some reason.

Marie
10 years ago

@Erin

I’m not afraid of bras.

I was like you. I wasn’t afraid of bras once. Then I took an underwire to the knee.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

@ Marie

They can be like the Sphinx, but chicken shaped, and instead of guarding a historical treasure they’re guarding an angry faux-ally.

Erin Williams
Erin Williams
10 years ago

I didn’t say it to impress you. It’s not that big a deal for me, to be honest.

dustedeste
dustedeste
10 years ago

Not so good, based on your spelling. I mean, I’m just saying. You know, in case you’re giving yourself airs. In case you might be maybe in possession of an extremely swollen head. In case… Oh, who am I kidding? Truly, ERIN THE MIGHTY ALLY, HE OF THE OUSTING OF THAT GUY WHO TALKED ABOUT GIRLS WITH EATING DISORDERS, could never have an inflated opinion of himself! There is no compliment to grand, no honor too high; it is known!

contrapangloss
10 years ago

Erin. I suggest you take a tactical retreat. Whatever your intentions, you did a terrible job of being reassuring and did a fabulous job of acting like a classic misogynist. Please, take a break and consider why We’d get that impression.

Stop posting, for now. We aren’t going to magically forget everything and start afresh with you in a field of daisies and puppy dogs. Stop digging this hole, before it gets bigger than the Grand Canyon.

Marie, I’d love to see a sketch of your scultpture, when you complete it. A shrine to all the Bestest Feminists!

cupisnique
10 years ago

I feel like Erin is possibly fairly young, he has that “I know everything there is to know about the world” vibe (with a healthy dose of unrecognized male privilege) that a lot of 19 year olds have.

kittehserf
10 years ago

Then why say it at all?

Erin, just go away. You think you’re a feminist ally but all you’ve done here is abuse women and put up a forest of red flags. You’re never going to have any credibility here. Just leave.

cassandra – I would love to answer the bra question but I’ve never worn that brand.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

I was like you. I wasn’t afraid of bras once. Then I took an underwire to the knee.

I love my new Lucy and all, but the way the wire pokes into my underarm when I crouch down to pick something up off the floor? Do not love.

Also, since the bra talk isn’t working, someone please think of some other way to get rid of Mr Red Flag.

Erin Williams
Erin Williams
10 years ago

I’m glad you guys are letting Cass get away with her “I hope you don’t get raped” comment. Your solidarity is impressive.

katz
10 years ago

Color me unsurprised that Erin’s Real Important Activism was attacking people online.

Marie
10 years ago

@cassandra

ooh shinie that sounds good. 😀

I’m going to have to come back here tomorrow, since there’s no way I’ll remember this all.

If only I was actuallly take notes when I typed *scribles in notes* XD

But I, unlike Erin, realize there is a back page button.

kittehserf
10 years ago

@cupisnique, yeah, same here.

cupisnique
10 years ago

How many times does it have to be explained to you that she meant it sincerely since she felt you were being dismissive about the very real threat that men pose to women? It wasn’t a veiled threat at all.

Erin Williams
Erin Williams
10 years ago

I’m not really even thinking about coming back here. You guys are no different than the shit slingers on any MRA site. You are very good at generalizing and jumping to conclusions just like they are.

katz
10 years ago

I was like you. I wasn’t afraid of bras once. Then I took an underwire to the knee.

…You may be wearing it wrong.

Marie
10 years ago

@contrapangloss

Marie, I’d love to see a sketch of your scultpture, when you complete it. A shrine to all the Bestest Feminists!

I”ll make sure to post it in this thread 😀

@cupisnique

I feel like Erin is possibly fairly young, he has that “I know everything there is to know about the world” vibe (with a healthy dose of unrecognized male privilege) that a lot of 19 year olds have.

Hey, I’m 19 and I know how not to be a misogynist 😛 Some othe rthings I don’t know: yo ushould take the slpeey pills when you want to sleep not when you comment on mammoth that makes typing harder.

@cassandra

I love my new Lucy and all, but the way the wire pokes into my underarm when I crouch down to pick something up off the floor? Do not love.

dang idk how to fix that :/

@Erin

I’m glad you guys are letting Cass get away with her “I hope you don’t get raped” comment. Your solidarity is impressive.

When will you get that she was being sincere.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

If you repeat a lie often enough it becomes true! Best Feminist has taught us this today. Or at least tried.

Also, anyone remember which troll it was before who kept calling me Cass? That’s whose sock this is.

@ katz

What, you mean that there are other ways to do activism? Do they involve calling women whores? Because if not I’m just not convinced that they’re going to be very effective.

katz
10 years ago

I’m not really even thinking about coming back here.

*snrk*

Erin Williams
Erin Williams
10 years ago

Just like yours Katz.

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