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Pickup artists argue that "Game" is the solution to Elliot Rodger-style rampages. Here’s why they’re wrong.

From Elliot Rodger's Google+ Profile
From Elliot Rodger’s Google+ Profile

Pickup artists, classy fellows that they are, are using Elliot Rodger’s killing rampage as a marketing ploy. In the comments to one of Rodger’s videos on YouTube, a company called Strategic Dating Coach offered their solution to prevent similar shootings in the future: send disturbed young men who can’t get dates to one of their coaching sessions!

THIS is why we do what we do. TO PREVENT THIS SHIT!!! Could couldn't experience it because he didn't learn to attract women. He should have gone to our website and got our personal dating coaching or purchased one of our products. IF ANYONE NEEDS HELP, CONTACT US! Don’t do anything stupid.

While this response to Rodger’s mass killing is uniquely crass, the argument that “Game saves lives” is hardly new. To PUAs like Heartiste and Roosh Valizadeh it’s practically an article of faith.

In the wake of George Sodini’s murderous shooting spree in a Pennsylvania gym in 2009, Heartiste (then known as Roissy) wrote

If Sodini had learned game he would have been able to find another woman and gotten laid after his ex dumped him. He wouldn’t have spent the next 20 years steeped in bile and weighed down by his Sisyphian blue balls, dreaming of vengeance. Game could have saved the lives of the women Sodini killed.

The fact that Sodini had in fact imbibed in the alleged wisdom of pickup artistry, going so far as attending a pricey seminar from old-school pickup guru R. Don Steele, a self-proclaimed expert on dating young women, didn’t lead any in the pickup community to reconsider this position.

Nor has it this time. It is clear that Elliot Rodger was steeped in “red pill” thinking about women. And while he wasn’t himself a PUA, he was certainly aware of the basics of “Game.” Indeed, he subscribed to a number of PUA channels on YouTube and was a regular commenter on PUAhate, a sleazy forum devoted to criticizing “game,” not because it is manipulative and misogynistic but because it doesn’t work.

On the Roosh V forum earlier today, Roosh acknowledged that Rodger knew at least a little about “red pill” ideology – noting that Rodger referred to himself as an”alpha” – but still went ahead and argued that Game was the solution to massacres like this:

He is self-delusional and massively entitled, but exposing him to game may have saved lives.

In a followup comment, Roosh expressed his concerns for the real victims of this tragedy – Pickup artists:

I’m trying to think of ways our enemies will come after us because of this, but if anything, we’re the solution to this sort of murder rampage. This is the society that progressives wanted, where women are fully able to choose the top 10% of alpha males while shaming masculinity, leaving beta males with modest resources in the dust. Of course they will simply push a ban on guns, but this wholly neglects the cause. Seven people died because this guy couldn’t get laid … .

Other commenters were quick to agree. According to someone known as Moma,

Roosh has a very valid point. This will continue to replay over and over again. As human beings, our wiring is very basic yet primal. …

When have you last heard of a porn star shooting up a place? How many have emptied their balls in a hot lizard and then felt the urge to go and smoke 50 strangers?

According to Samseau, the problem wasn’t that Rodger hadn’t heard the Game Gospel; the problem was that he had rejected his salvation:

He knew about Game. If he had an account on PUAHATE then he knew about game. He was just a denialist. There was no helping this dude.

Roosh seconded this bit of wisdom, seeing it as clear evidence that “game denialism kills.”

Michelin, for his part, hoped that PUAs would be able to use the massacre as a publicity bonanza and a great “told you so” to all the haters.

One should write a mainstream article about this case. The argument that game could have saved lives can be an eye-opener and a smash in the face to haters of game.

Tuthmosis, the man best known for a Return of Kings post on the “5 Reasons to Date a Girl With An Eating Disorder,” reported his joy that PUAhate was getting bad press:

Seeing your enemies fall is a delicious treat you only get to taste a few times in your life. I’m savoring this delicacy with a cup of freshly brewed coffee. It’s a shame real people had to lose their lives, but I can’t help but think this will discredit a horrible website, PUAHate–and a way of thinking–that could have harmed even more men and innocent people. Beta losers will never go away, but this will wake up a few men and, more importantly, scare others.

Zelcorpion blamed “girls” and MGTOWers for giving Rodgers bad dating advice:

I bet a few girls told him that he only needs to be himself, be nice, be a gentleman, have a nice car, looks etc. – only to realize that it mattered shit. Instead of learning from the PUA-community he chose to listen to PUAhaters and some of the anti-female comments of the MGTOWs who themselves are often refusing to accept Game or even basic concepts like Alpha/Beta. I think that problem will become way worse, since hypergamy and promiscuity will only increase and most men will be left in the sexual wasteland.

But it took a relative newcomer to the forum by the handle of thedavidgt to raise the obvious logical objection to the Game-for-everybody solution to incel rage:

If every sexless beta in the world took it upon himself to learn game, approach girls, lift, dress well etc, would it not simply feed women’s egos and entitlement? So instead of occasionally getting awkwardly hit on by skinny fat, poor-dressed chumps, the average 7 would then be approached several times a day by extremely high value men. We’ll have a society of men working to improve themselves for women who will get lazier and lazier while at the same time demanding more and more.

In fact, the “Game saves lives” mantra is dead wrong, but not for this reason. First of all, there is no clear evidence that “game,” per se, works, except insofar as it encourages men to pursue large numbers of women and numb them to the pain of rejection. It’s possible that a few of the conversational ploys invented by various PUAs may work better than having no conversational ploys at all. But there are no magic cheat codes to “getting with women.”

There is one more disturbing way in which “game” may increase “success” with women for unscrupulous men: many of the standard techniques of “game”– invading a woman’s personal space, touching her repeatedly, trying to “isolate” her from her friends – may serve as “tests” to find women who are less likely to resist violations of their boundaries. In this way, “game” may serve as a quite effective enabler of date rape. Indeed Roosh himself has admitted to raping a date too drunk to consent.

So how much of a solution is training a guy who is already filled with a toxic mixture of entitlement and self-loathing (yes, these strange bedfellows do often go together) in some techniques that might help him to tamp down his insecurities enough to manipulate some willing or not-so-willing women into bed?

You might have simply turned a mass killer into a serial rapist, or possibly a serial killer. Ted Bundy was quite the charmer. Somehow this didn’t make him a decent human being.

Even if “game” were the beneficient form of “self-improvement” that some of its proponents like to claim it is, teaching Rodger how to be a better dater would not make him a better person. Would having a girlfriend solve all his problems? Hardly. Relationships require patience and compromise and mutual respect, and Rodger seems to have had none of these qualities. Instead of directing his narcissistic rage at “girls” at large, he would likely have ended up abusing a string of girlfriends.

The problem wasn’t Rodger’s lack of “Game.” It was his lack of humanity.

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katz
10 years ago

I, for one, am an attack hamster.

Marie
10 years ago

@sparky

It’s adorable 😀

Ally S
10 years ago

Night cloudiah <3

May you dream of kittens, chocolate, and misandric goddesses.

Erin Williams
Erin Williams
10 years ago

“Which is a thing that never happened. But in any case, telling someone they hope they never get raped is actually kind of much better than calling people b*tches, wh*res, and pr*cks. ”

Really? I understand you have to protect your friend, but you’re full of shit.

Marie
10 years ago

@katz

that hamster is pure evil O_o

contrapangloss
contrapangloss
10 years ago

Okay, why the heck were you posing as a lady? We like our guy allies! Fibinachi and David and Pecunium and LBT and Robert and the rest of you, you’re amazing!

Erin, you could have corrected our pronouns ages ago!

Good grief! I don’t remember if I ever gendered you, because I try not to until people confirm it for themselves. If I did, sorry. But why the heck do you refer to yourself as a pretend woman? Don’t do that! Please! No pretending! It’s silly! Just be you, so that we can deal with you as you, not straw-person!

You need to work a bit, though, before I’d trust you as an ally. Quite a bit, actually.

Like, way more than a bit.

katz
10 years ago

Erin, why would we believe anything you say when you admit to BSing about one thing and apparently think you were justified in doing so?

kittehserf
10 years ago

Ally – cool! Wanna do underwear TMI or just clothing in general?

I find buying undies a bit of a pest m’self, just because of the chafing issue. I like so-called boyleg pants, but WHY must they make them so short they hardly come up over the butt?

Niters, cloudiah!

Marie
10 years ago

@erin

Really? I understand you have to protect your friend, but you’re full of shit.

Citation needed.

Alex
10 years ago

Yeah, at this point I’m not buying for a second that Pell – sorry – Erin (or whatever his real name is) was ever here in good faith.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

I still don’t seem to be able to post comments, but in case I can now…

@Kittehs, my bra question was, for people who have experience with Cleo bras, has anyone tried their plunges and are they any good?

Marie
10 years ago
brooked
10 years ago

Hell’s bells, I left hours ago and find “Erin” still flaying about and (surprise!) admits to being a dude. What is it about Martyr trolls and non-shocking secret identity reveals? Not sure how attacking other male feminists and flinging slurs helps, but I guess if you’re “cool”, it’s all good.

Time for bed. Peace out, Girl Scouts. **does elaborate secret cluck club mean girl hand sign**

katz
10 years ago

I demand moar cute bat pictures! And here is Kimi the kitten.

Marie
10 years ago

@katz

aww so cute! 😀

lots of bats, as requested

contrapangloss
contrapangloss
10 years ago

Oh, you already answered me, while replying to Marie.

Okay. Don’t pretend to be a woman, to make women take you more seriously. Uncool, man.

brooked
10 years ago

Forgot to say that nothing says “Ally” like an adult man who refers to adult women as “girls”.

sparky
sparky
10 years ago

Marie: That bumblebee bat is amazing! 🙂

I want to cuddle this bat

Marie
10 years ago

many much bat

and I”m out of bat pictures. I only have so many tagged on my tumblr

Marie
10 years ago

@sparky

it’s so pretty :3

katz
10 years ago

I’m just going to leave this here:

Prostitute only carries a negative connotation for delicate flowers such as yourselves.

I appologize for calling you guys whores. I was genuinely pissed that Cassandra would tell my pretend woman that she hoped she didn’t get raped. That wasn’t cool and you’ll have to take that up with her.

kittehserf
10 years ago

Kimi the kitten – WANT.

I saw a kitten like her the other day, being carried in town. How to get all the people crossing a busy street to slow down and go “aaaawwww” all at once.

Cute bats!

http://www.buzzfeed.com/hgrant/60-adorable-bats-thatll-make-your-day

Ally S
10 years ago

@kitteh

Oh, underwear chafing. I have some of the worst horror stories to tell about that. :: shudder ::

I might not buy the undergarments, clothes, etc. though. I’m not comfortable with any part of my body so I doubt I would feel much better if I started wearing women’s clothes. I’d have all of those internalized messages to deal with that tell me I’m just a “depraved fetishist” or whatever. I’m making significant steps in improving my self-esteem, but the worst of my negative self-talk still remains.

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