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Pickup artists argue that "Game" is the solution to Elliot Rodger-style rampages. Here’s why they’re wrong.

From Elliot Rodger's Google+ Profile
From Elliot Rodger’s Google+ Profile

Pickup artists, classy fellows that they are, are using Elliot Rodger’s killing rampage as a marketing ploy. In the comments to one of Rodger’s videos on YouTube, a company called Strategic Dating Coach offered their solution to prevent similar shootings in the future: send disturbed young men who can’t get dates to one of their coaching sessions!

THIS is why we do what we do. TO PREVENT THIS SHIT!!! Could couldn't experience it because he didn't learn to attract women. He should have gone to our website and got our personal dating coaching or purchased one of our products. IF ANYONE NEEDS HELP, CONTACT US! Don’t do anything stupid.

While this response to Rodger’s mass killing is uniquely crass, the argument that “Game saves lives” is hardly new. To PUAs like Heartiste and Roosh Valizadeh it’s practically an article of faith.

In the wake of George Sodini’s murderous shooting spree in a Pennsylvania gym in 2009, Heartiste (then known as Roissy) wrote

If Sodini had learned game he would have been able to find another woman and gotten laid after his ex dumped him. He wouldn’t have spent the next 20 years steeped in bile and weighed down by his Sisyphian blue balls, dreaming of vengeance. Game could have saved the lives of the women Sodini killed.

The fact that Sodini had in fact imbibed in the alleged wisdom of pickup artistry, going so far as attending a pricey seminar from old-school pickup guru R. Don Steele, a self-proclaimed expert on dating young women, didn’t lead any in the pickup community to reconsider this position.

Nor has it this time. It is clear that Elliot Rodger was steeped in “red pill” thinking about women. And while he wasn’t himself a PUA, he was certainly aware of the basics of “Game.” Indeed, he subscribed to a number of PUA channels on YouTube and was a regular commenter on PUAhate, a sleazy forum devoted to criticizing “game,” not because it is manipulative and misogynistic but because it doesn’t work.

On the Roosh V forum earlier today, Roosh acknowledged that Rodger knew at least a little about “red pill” ideology – noting that Rodger referred to himself as an”alpha” – but still went ahead and argued that Game was the solution to massacres like this:

He is self-delusional and massively entitled, but exposing him to game may have saved lives.

In a followup comment, Roosh expressed his concerns for the real victims of this tragedy – Pickup artists:

I’m trying to think of ways our enemies will come after us because of this, but if anything, we’re the solution to this sort of murder rampage. This is the society that progressives wanted, where women are fully able to choose the top 10% of alpha males while shaming masculinity, leaving beta males with modest resources in the dust. Of course they will simply push a ban on guns, but this wholly neglects the cause. Seven people died because this guy couldn’t get laid … .

Other commenters were quick to agree. According to someone known as Moma,

Roosh has a very valid point. This will continue to replay over and over again. As human beings, our wiring is very basic yet primal. …

When have you last heard of a porn star shooting up a place? How many have emptied their balls in a hot lizard and then felt the urge to go and smoke 50 strangers?

According to Samseau, the problem wasn’t that Rodger hadn’t heard the Game Gospel; the problem was that he had rejected his salvation:

He knew about Game. If he had an account on PUAHATE then he knew about game. He was just a denialist. There was no helping this dude.

Roosh seconded this bit of wisdom, seeing it as clear evidence that “game denialism kills.”

Michelin, for his part, hoped that PUAs would be able to use the massacre as a publicity bonanza and a great “told you so” to all the haters.

One should write a mainstream article about this case. The argument that game could have saved lives can be an eye-opener and a smash in the face to haters of game.

Tuthmosis, the man best known for a Return of Kings post on the “5 Reasons to Date a Girl With An Eating Disorder,” reported his joy that PUAhate was getting bad press:

Seeing your enemies fall is a delicious treat you only get to taste a few times in your life. I’m savoring this delicacy with a cup of freshly brewed coffee. It’s a shame real people had to lose their lives, but I can’t help but think this will discredit a horrible website, PUAHate–and a way of thinking–that could have harmed even more men and innocent people. Beta losers will never go away, but this will wake up a few men and, more importantly, scare others.

Zelcorpion blamed “girls” and MGTOWers for giving Rodgers bad dating advice:

I bet a few girls told him that he only needs to be himself, be nice, be a gentleman, have a nice car, looks etc. – only to realize that it mattered shit. Instead of learning from the PUA-community he chose to listen to PUAhaters and some of the anti-female comments of the MGTOWs who themselves are often refusing to accept Game or even basic concepts like Alpha/Beta. I think that problem will become way worse, since hypergamy and promiscuity will only increase and most men will be left in the sexual wasteland.

But it took a relative newcomer to the forum by the handle of thedavidgt to raise the obvious logical objection to the Game-for-everybody solution to incel rage:

If every sexless beta in the world took it upon himself to learn game, approach girls, lift, dress well etc, would it not simply feed women’s egos and entitlement? So instead of occasionally getting awkwardly hit on by skinny fat, poor-dressed chumps, the average 7 would then be approached several times a day by extremely high value men. We’ll have a society of men working to improve themselves for women who will get lazier and lazier while at the same time demanding more and more.

In fact, the “Game saves lives” mantra is dead wrong, but not for this reason. First of all, there is no clear evidence that “game,” per se, works, except insofar as it encourages men to pursue large numbers of women and numb them to the pain of rejection. It’s possible that a few of the conversational ploys invented by various PUAs may work better than having no conversational ploys at all. But there are no magic cheat codes to “getting with women.”

There is one more disturbing way in which “game” may increase “success” with women for unscrupulous men: many of the standard techniques of “game”– invading a woman’s personal space, touching her repeatedly, trying to “isolate” her from her friends – may serve as “tests” to find women who are less likely to resist violations of their boundaries. In this way, “game” may serve as a quite effective enabler of date rape. Indeed Roosh himself has admitted to raping a date too drunk to consent.

So how much of a solution is training a guy who is already filled with a toxic mixture of entitlement and self-loathing (yes, these strange bedfellows do often go together) in some techniques that might help him to tamp down his insecurities enough to manipulate some willing or not-so-willing women into bed?

You might have simply turned a mass killer into a serial rapist, or possibly a serial killer. Ted Bundy was quite the charmer. Somehow this didn’t make him a decent human being.

Even if “game” were the beneficient form of “self-improvement” that some of its proponents like to claim it is, teaching Rodger how to be a better dater would not make him a better person. Would having a girlfriend solve all his problems? Hardly. Relationships require patience and compromise and mutual respect, and Rodger seems to have had none of these qualities. Instead of directing his narcissistic rage at “girls” at large, he would likely have ended up abusing a string of girlfriends.

The problem wasn’t Rodger’s lack of “Game.” It was his lack of humanity.

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kittehserf
10 years ago

Poor little Erin, pretending to himself he doesn’t actually hate women, when it leaks out of him like sewerage from a broken pipe. If that’s being an ally, then thanks, we don’t need you.

Marie
10 years ago

@cloudiah

I believe you may have won the thread. Which means you need a statue, but a genuinely cool one!

aww, tahnks 😀 ::blushies::

@erin

I am very much an ally, Kitteh, I just don’t know all the lingo like you guys do. I am just a regular guy who would go nuts if he saw a guy trying to take advantage of a girl.

I’m sure you would, kiddo. I’m sure you would.

/sarcasm.

@Alex

its’ one here too but why would I sleepwhen I can laugh.

and I really needed a good laugh.

hippodameia8527
hippodameia8527
10 years ago

Yeah – I’m going to break out the popcorn soon, even though I have to work tomorrow.

Erin Williams
Erin Williams
10 years ago

Nah, I’m a guy telling you not to pay attention to assholes like Roosh in the way that you do. You see, Roosh feeds off your hysteruia and points at it as proof that he’s doing something right. Seriously, I would love to have a go at him like you wouldn’t believe, but I think you guys are way too reactive toi his shtick.

Alex
10 years ago

And yet you pretended to be a woman, which is disingenuous and insulting to trans* people.

sparky
sparky
10 years ago

Yeah, it’s now just cute animals time

Erin Williams
Erin Williams
10 years ago

Fuck off, Alex.

Marie
10 years ago

Got a hysteria complaint, it’s got to be pell.

Ally S
10 years ago

By the way whores. I am a guy, but I’m not an MRA. I’m actually really cool and fight misogyny all the time. Bye, love you.

wow

such convincing

activist

so sincerity

ally

much true

feminist

w0w

Marie
10 years ago

who posted that cute animal was it sparky it was very cute yay animal 😀

Alex
10 years ago

Are you suggesting you’re more of a threat to us than Roosh is, Pell?

hippodameia8527
hippodameia8527
10 years ago

Sounds like trolly’s self-image has taken a heavy battering here. Gee, that’s too bad.

Marie
10 years ago

@Ally

Gotta say, I love you doge memeing the troll 😀

cloudiah
10 years ago

Because calling us hysterical women and mansplaining to us demonstrates what an ally he is.

Reins are officially off. Sorry, David.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

The 100% effective, works every time Dudebro Trolling system has been proven accurate again.

Fade
10 years ago

on a serious note

Erin, *most* guys think that they would punch a rapists and stop them. Most guys are like “yeah let’s solve this situation with violence”.

but most guys (and some girls) wouldn’t recognize any rape that wasn’t a scary man in a bush, jumping out at a woman. They wouldn’t recognize coerciveness.they think that it makes them a good person to say “i’d respond to this situation with violence”, but it’s easy to say knowing you probably will never *see* that situation.

you wanna be an actual ally? Call people out when they spew slurs, rape apologia, misogyny. Tell men in your circle of friends that it’s not okay to act like anyone can be deserving of violence or rape. Most people will say they’d punch out a rapist, but most people wouldn’t express outrage at rape culture.

it’s like… i kind of can’t laugh at this b/c so many people act like this. like it’s a one-off event that is always obvious and you can just beat up the bad guy. it’s not.

sparky
sparky
10 years ago

Not even going to engage anymore.

piggy in a sweater

kittehserf
10 years ago

No, Erin, you’re not any sort of ally. Language does matter, and your instant turn to misogynist language says what you really think about women, as does your dismissal of women’s fears, and your refusal to see rape even when a rapist admits it.

Know something? The temper you’ve displayed here, the rage against any women disagreeing with you (and, oh shock, disagreeing in sweary language) means you’re not in the NAMALT category. You’re most definitely a man I would not trust with my safety, not as a passerby or in any other situation.

If you really do have the slightest real concern for women’s lives and safety, go and think about that. You’re not displaying anything that says “trustworthy man” let alone “ally” here.

Erin Williams
Erin Williams
10 years ago

By the way, I do speak seven languages and keep chickens.

hippodameia8527
hippodameia8527
10 years ago

Don’t worry! Any second minute hour day now Erin will GO HIS OWN WAY and WE’LL ALL BE SORRY!

Shiraz
Shiraz
10 years ago

Yeah. I said I’d lay off. But Jesus. How many times does the troll or whatever have to call us whores before it means something? He’s all, “I’m against misogyny — you whores!”
I mean, come on, how are we not supposed to be confused and/or turned off by that?

Marie
10 years ago

@erin

of course you do. But how many doctorates do you have?

cloudiah
10 years ago

i kind of can’t laugh at this b/c so many people act like this.

This is true because it is so fucking true.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

@ Kittehs

Yep. Like I said earlier, in red flag terms this dude is Vegas skyline levels of obvious.

Ally S
10 years ago

I am very much an ally

Not to us you aren’t. Especially when you are misogynistic, anti-sex-worker, dismissive towards women who fear violent men, and completely oblivious to your male privilege. You’re part of the fucking problem, AND UNTIL YOU REALIZE THAT YOU’RE NOT EVEN CLOSE TO BEING AN ALLY. Step back, listen, and fuck off.

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