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Pickup artists argue that "Game" is the solution to Elliot Rodger-style rampages. Here’s why they’re wrong.

From Elliot Rodger's Google+ Profile
From Elliot Rodger’s Google+ Profile

Pickup artists, classy fellows that they are, are using Elliot Rodger’s killing rampage as a marketing ploy. In the comments to one of Rodger’s videos on YouTube, a company called Strategic Dating Coach offered their solution to prevent similar shootings in the future: send disturbed young men who can’t get dates to one of their coaching sessions!

THIS is why we do what we do. TO PREVENT THIS SHIT!!! Could couldn't experience it because he didn't learn to attract women. He should have gone to our website and got our personal dating coaching or purchased one of our products. IF ANYONE NEEDS HELP, CONTACT US! Don’t do anything stupid.

While this response to Rodger’s mass killing is uniquely crass, the argument that “Game saves lives” is hardly new. To PUAs like Heartiste and Roosh Valizadeh it’s practically an article of faith.

In the wake of George Sodini’s murderous shooting spree in a Pennsylvania gym in 2009, Heartiste (then known as Roissy) wrote

If Sodini had learned game he would have been able to find another woman and gotten laid after his ex dumped him. He wouldn’t have spent the next 20 years steeped in bile and weighed down by his Sisyphian blue balls, dreaming of vengeance. Game could have saved the lives of the women Sodini killed.

The fact that Sodini had in fact imbibed in the alleged wisdom of pickup artistry, going so far as attending a pricey seminar from old-school pickup guru R. Don Steele, a self-proclaimed expert on dating young women, didn’t lead any in the pickup community to reconsider this position.

Nor has it this time. It is clear that Elliot Rodger was steeped in “red pill” thinking about women. And while he wasn’t himself a PUA, he was certainly aware of the basics of “Game.” Indeed, he subscribed to a number of PUA channels on YouTube and was a regular commenter on PUAhate, a sleazy forum devoted to criticizing “game,” not because it is manipulative and misogynistic but because it doesn’t work.

On the Roosh V forum earlier today, Roosh acknowledged that Rodger knew at least a little about “red pill” ideology – noting that Rodger referred to himself as an”alpha” – but still went ahead and argued that Game was the solution to massacres like this:

He is self-delusional and massively entitled, but exposing him to game may have saved lives.

In a followup comment, Roosh expressed his concerns for the real victims of this tragedy – Pickup artists:

I’m trying to think of ways our enemies will come after us because of this, but if anything, we’re the solution to this sort of murder rampage. This is the society that progressives wanted, where women are fully able to choose the top 10% of alpha males while shaming masculinity, leaving beta males with modest resources in the dust. Of course they will simply push a ban on guns, but this wholly neglects the cause. Seven people died because this guy couldn’t get laid … .

Other commenters were quick to agree. According to someone known as Moma,

Roosh has a very valid point. This will continue to replay over and over again. As human beings, our wiring is very basic yet primal. …

When have you last heard of a porn star shooting up a place? How many have emptied their balls in a hot lizard and then felt the urge to go and smoke 50 strangers?

According to Samseau, the problem wasn’t that Rodger hadn’t heard the Game Gospel; the problem was that he had rejected his salvation:

He knew about Game. If he had an account on PUAHATE then he knew about game. He was just a denialist. There was no helping this dude.

Roosh seconded this bit of wisdom, seeing it as clear evidence that “game denialism kills.”

Michelin, for his part, hoped that PUAs would be able to use the massacre as a publicity bonanza and a great “told you so” to all the haters.

One should write a mainstream article about this case. The argument that game could have saved lives can be an eye-opener and a smash in the face to haters of game.

Tuthmosis, the man best known for a Return of Kings post on the “5 Reasons to Date a Girl With An Eating Disorder,” reported his joy that PUAhate was getting bad press:

Seeing your enemies fall is a delicious treat you only get to taste a few times in your life. I’m savoring this delicacy with a cup of freshly brewed coffee. It’s a shame real people had to lose their lives, but I can’t help but think this will discredit a horrible website, PUAHate–and a way of thinking–that could have harmed even more men and innocent people. Beta losers will never go away, but this will wake up a few men and, more importantly, scare others.

Zelcorpion blamed “girls” and MGTOWers for giving Rodgers bad dating advice:

I bet a few girls told him that he only needs to be himself, be nice, be a gentleman, have a nice car, looks etc. – only to realize that it mattered shit. Instead of learning from the PUA-community he chose to listen to PUAhaters and some of the anti-female comments of the MGTOWs who themselves are often refusing to accept Game or even basic concepts like Alpha/Beta. I think that problem will become way worse, since hypergamy and promiscuity will only increase and most men will be left in the sexual wasteland.

But it took a relative newcomer to the forum by the handle of thedavidgt to raise the obvious logical objection to the Game-for-everybody solution to incel rage:

If every sexless beta in the world took it upon himself to learn game, approach girls, lift, dress well etc, would it not simply feed women’s egos and entitlement? So instead of occasionally getting awkwardly hit on by skinny fat, poor-dressed chumps, the average 7 would then be approached several times a day by extremely high value men. We’ll have a society of men working to improve themselves for women who will get lazier and lazier while at the same time demanding more and more.

In fact, the “Game saves lives” mantra is dead wrong, but not for this reason. First of all, there is no clear evidence that “game,” per se, works, except insofar as it encourages men to pursue large numbers of women and numb them to the pain of rejection. It’s possible that a few of the conversational ploys invented by various PUAs may work better than having no conversational ploys at all. But there are no magic cheat codes to “getting with women.”

There is one more disturbing way in which “game” may increase “success” with women for unscrupulous men: many of the standard techniques of “game”– invading a woman’s personal space, touching her repeatedly, trying to “isolate” her from her friends – may serve as “tests” to find women who are less likely to resist violations of their boundaries. In this way, “game” may serve as a quite effective enabler of date rape. Indeed Roosh himself has admitted to raping a date too drunk to consent.

So how much of a solution is training a guy who is already filled with a toxic mixture of entitlement and self-loathing (yes, these strange bedfellows do often go together) in some techniques that might help him to tamp down his insecurities enough to manipulate some willing or not-so-willing women into bed?

You might have simply turned a mass killer into a serial rapist, or possibly a serial killer. Ted Bundy was quite the charmer. Somehow this didn’t make him a decent human being.

Even if “game” were the beneficient form of “self-improvement” that some of its proponents like to claim it is, teaching Rodger how to be a better dater would not make him a better person. Would having a girlfriend solve all his problems? Hardly. Relationships require patience and compromise and mutual respect, and Rodger seems to have had none of these qualities. Instead of directing his narcissistic rage at “girls” at large, he would likely have ended up abusing a string of girlfriends.

The problem wasn’t Rodger’s lack of “Game.” It was his lack of humanity.

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contrapangloss
10 years ago

It’s actually the Carpathian Mountains.

I’d prefer if we stuck to mocking the Great Feminist Deeds of avoiding dealing with misogyny and using sexist slurs instead of mocking a group of people and a mountain chain who have the misfortune of being associated with The Great Feminist.

sparky
sparky
10 years ago

Erin, how the hell are we supposed to predict which men won’t shoot us when we don’t put out and which men will?

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

BTW, anyone else see it as a huge red flag when someone goes from blah blah standard conversation to screeching insults and then back to acting like nothing happened in the space of a few comments? It’s one of those classic “watch out for this person” tells, ime.

Tracy
Tracy
10 years ago

@Erin, protip: you’re hammering Pecunium about something that doesn’t bother him (or anyone else). This is inefficient trolling, in any language. Please start over.

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

@contrapangloss

I’d prefer if we stuck to mocking the Great Feminist Deeds of avoiding dealing with misogyny and using sexist slurs instead of mocking a group of people and a mountain chain who have the misfortune of being associated with The Great Feminist.

I’m cool with that 🙂

Fade
10 years ago

@cassandra

it’s definitely creepy (the raginig misogyny, switch back to nothing happened)

to all

I am done w/ my tablet so i can finally type! yay!

Erin Williams
Erin Williams
10 years ago

“Right… he’s not a threat. He doesn’t pose a danger to Stevie’s daughter. She need not be concerned.

In short, we can afford to ignore him.”

No, she was terrified at the thought of her daughter living in a world where a great deal of men think like Roosh. I merely told her that Roosh and his ilk represent a minority of men and to not worry so much. Seriously, find where the fuck I even implied that Roosh should be given a pass.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

Today I defeated misogyny by calling my neighbor’s kid a whore when she was playing ball in the back yard. Tomorrow I will defeat misogyny by ignoring the dude who’s sexually harassing girls at the bus stop. Don’t mock me, I am Best Feminist.

weirwoodtreehugger
10 years ago

Wow. I missed an impressive troll meltdown.

Fuck off Erin.

No one buys for a minute you were trying to comfort anyone.

Fade
10 years ago

erin if you were allegedly just here to help assure Stevie why are you here godknowshowmany hours later screaming misogynistic slurs at us?

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

@Erin

when you implied we should ignore Roosh because he was ‘probably lying’ and we were just boosting his book sales.

Shiraz
Shiraz
10 years ago

We’re chickens now? Awesome. Not sexist at all.

Um, “Erin,” you’re not one of these secret predators who wants womens’ guard down so he can attempt to get away with, um, things, are you? Why else would you care if people keep an eye on MRAs and PUAs? Are you in fact, attempting PR control in the aftermath of the Rodger killing spree? Worried that more people will turn a critical towards the movements?
If so, you should be worried. David has a thread up for newbies, and there’s a bunch of new people who say they never heard of PUAs or MRAs until now, and how enlightening this web site has been.

sparky
sparky
10 years ago

cassandrakitty:

Yeah, how the hell did we suddenly go from “b*tches and wh*res” to “I love my chickens?”

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

BTW, hi Fade! Seeing people have a second-hand conversation with you via your charming interpreter was kind of weird.

Erin Williams
Erin Williams
10 years ago

Don’t dream about killing anyone, prick.

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

@Fade

erin if you were allegedly just here to help assure Stevie why are you here godknowshowmany hours later screaming misogynistic slurs at us?

Because someone said something phrased meanly at her, and now she just can’t leave, dammit! Not until we admit she’s the alpha feminist!

To show submission, make sure to roll on your belly and expose your neck.

that’s going on my statue, btw.

Shiraz
Shiraz
10 years ago

Sorry, “…turn a critical eye towards the movements…”

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

@erin

Don’t dream about killing anyone, prick.

YOU CANT TELL ME WHAT TO DO, MOM!

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

@ sparky

Seriously, if you ever see anyone acting like this IRL? Giant blinking red neon flag with smaller blinky flags all over it. Like “approaching Vegas via car” levels of red flag obviousness.

Tracy
Tracy
10 years ago

@Erin again, you’re poking at the wrong things with your little troll stick. Inefficient trolling. You will lose points. A little more effort, please.

sparky
sparky
10 years ago

No, she was terrified at the thought of her daughter living in a world where a great deal of men think like Roosh. I merely told her that Roosh and his ilk represent a minority of men and to not worry so much. Seriously, find where the fuck I even implied that Roosh should be given a pass.

Erin, how the hell can we tell which of the men think like Roosh and which of them don’t, at first glance, so we know to never ever go near those men?

Do they wear signs?

hippodameia8527
hippodameia8527
10 years ago

Goddess almighty, this thread’s had a lot of trolls.

Shiraz
Shiraz
10 years ago

Erin, read my post above. That’s your aim, isn’t it?

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

@Sparky

Erin, how the hell can we tell which of the men think like Roosh and which of them don’t, at first glance, so we know to never ever go near those men?

Do they wear signs?

Erin can tell. Because she’s just. that. feminist-y.

kittehserf
10 years ago

Has anyone else noticed Erin’s dismissal of Roosh as doing no harm and ” just having sex with prostitutes”, right alongside the repeated shrieks of WHORE! at commenters?

Am I the only one getting the vibe that Erin doesn’t actually give a shit about sex workers or their safety? Because of course no sex worker Roosh goes near could possibly be in danger of being raped. Because whores, well, they deserve it, don’t they?

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