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Pickup artists argue that "Game" is the solution to Elliot Rodger-style rampages. Here’s why they’re wrong.

From Elliot Rodger's Google+ Profile
From Elliot Rodger’s Google+ Profile

Pickup artists, classy fellows that they are, are using Elliot Rodger’s killing rampage as a marketing ploy. In the comments to one of Rodger’s videos on YouTube, a company called Strategic Dating Coach offered their solution to prevent similar shootings in the future: send disturbed young men who can’t get dates to one of their coaching sessions!

THIS is why we do what we do. TO PREVENT THIS SHIT!!! Could couldn't experience it because he didn't learn to attract women. He should have gone to our website and got our personal dating coaching or purchased one of our products. IF ANYONE NEEDS HELP, CONTACT US! Don’t do anything stupid.

While this response to Rodger’s mass killing is uniquely crass, the argument that “Game saves lives” is hardly new. To PUAs like Heartiste and Roosh Valizadeh it’s practically an article of faith.

In the wake of George Sodini’s murderous shooting spree in a Pennsylvania gym in 2009, Heartiste (then known as Roissy) wrote

If Sodini had learned game he would have been able to find another woman and gotten laid after his ex dumped him. He wouldn’t have spent the next 20 years steeped in bile and weighed down by his Sisyphian blue balls, dreaming of vengeance. Game could have saved the lives of the women Sodini killed.

The fact that Sodini had in fact imbibed in the alleged wisdom of pickup artistry, going so far as attending a pricey seminar from old-school pickup guru R. Don Steele, a self-proclaimed expert on dating young women, didn’t lead any in the pickup community to reconsider this position.

Nor has it this time. It is clear that Elliot Rodger was steeped in “red pill” thinking about women. And while he wasn’t himself a PUA, he was certainly aware of the basics of “Game.” Indeed, he subscribed to a number of PUA channels on YouTube and was a regular commenter on PUAhate, a sleazy forum devoted to criticizing “game,” not because it is manipulative and misogynistic but because it doesn’t work.

On the Roosh V forum earlier today, Roosh acknowledged that Rodger knew at least a little about “red pill” ideology – noting that Rodger referred to himself as an”alpha” – but still went ahead and argued that Game was the solution to massacres like this:

He is self-delusional and massively entitled, but exposing him to game may have saved lives.

In a followup comment, Roosh expressed his concerns for the real victims of this tragedy – Pickup artists:

I’m trying to think of ways our enemies will come after us because of this, but if anything, we’re the solution to this sort of murder rampage. This is the society that progressives wanted, where women are fully able to choose the top 10% of alpha males while shaming masculinity, leaving beta males with modest resources in the dust. Of course they will simply push a ban on guns, but this wholly neglects the cause. Seven people died because this guy couldn’t get laid … .

Other commenters were quick to agree. According to someone known as Moma,

Roosh has a very valid point. This will continue to replay over and over again. As human beings, our wiring is very basic yet primal. …

When have you last heard of a porn star shooting up a place? How many have emptied their balls in a hot lizard and then felt the urge to go and smoke 50 strangers?

According to Samseau, the problem wasn’t that Rodger hadn’t heard the Game Gospel; the problem was that he had rejected his salvation:

He knew about Game. If he had an account on PUAHATE then he knew about game. He was just a denialist. There was no helping this dude.

Roosh seconded this bit of wisdom, seeing it as clear evidence that “game denialism kills.”

Michelin, for his part, hoped that PUAs would be able to use the massacre as a publicity bonanza and a great “told you so” to all the haters.

One should write a mainstream article about this case. The argument that game could have saved lives can be an eye-opener and a smash in the face to haters of game.

Tuthmosis, the man best known for a Return of Kings post on the “5 Reasons to Date a Girl With An Eating Disorder,” reported his joy that PUAhate was getting bad press:

Seeing your enemies fall is a delicious treat you only get to taste a few times in your life. I’m savoring this delicacy with a cup of freshly brewed coffee. It’s a shame real people had to lose their lives, but I can’t help but think this will discredit a horrible website, PUAHate–and a way of thinking–that could have harmed even more men and innocent people. Beta losers will never go away, but this will wake up a few men and, more importantly, scare others.

Zelcorpion blamed “girls” and MGTOWers for giving Rodgers bad dating advice:

I bet a few girls told him that he only needs to be himself, be nice, be a gentleman, have a nice car, looks etc. – only to realize that it mattered shit. Instead of learning from the PUA-community he chose to listen to PUAhaters and some of the anti-female comments of the MGTOWs who themselves are often refusing to accept Game or even basic concepts like Alpha/Beta. I think that problem will become way worse, since hypergamy and promiscuity will only increase and most men will be left in the sexual wasteland.

But it took a relative newcomer to the forum by the handle of thedavidgt to raise the obvious logical objection to the Game-for-everybody solution to incel rage:

If every sexless beta in the world took it upon himself to learn game, approach girls, lift, dress well etc, would it not simply feed women’s egos and entitlement? So instead of occasionally getting awkwardly hit on by skinny fat, poor-dressed chumps, the average 7 would then be approached several times a day by extremely high value men. We’ll have a society of men working to improve themselves for women who will get lazier and lazier while at the same time demanding more and more.

In fact, the “Game saves lives” mantra is dead wrong, but not for this reason. First of all, there is no clear evidence that “game,” per se, works, except insofar as it encourages men to pursue large numbers of women and numb them to the pain of rejection. It’s possible that a few of the conversational ploys invented by various PUAs may work better than having no conversational ploys at all. But there are no magic cheat codes to “getting with women.”

There is one more disturbing way in which “game” may increase “success” with women for unscrupulous men: many of the standard techniques of “game”– invading a woman’s personal space, touching her repeatedly, trying to “isolate” her from her friends – may serve as “tests” to find women who are less likely to resist violations of their boundaries. In this way, “game” may serve as a quite effective enabler of date rape. Indeed Roosh himself has admitted to raping a date too drunk to consent.

So how much of a solution is training a guy who is already filled with a toxic mixture of entitlement and self-loathing (yes, these strange bedfellows do often go together) in some techniques that might help him to tamp down his insecurities enough to manipulate some willing or not-so-willing women into bed?

You might have simply turned a mass killer into a serial rapist, or possibly a serial killer. Ted Bundy was quite the charmer. Somehow this didn’t make him a decent human being.

Even if “game” were the beneficient form of “self-improvement” that some of its proponents like to claim it is, teaching Rodger how to be a better dater would not make him a better person. Would having a girlfriend solve all his problems? Hardly. Relationships require patience and compromise and mutual respect, and Rodger seems to have had none of these qualities. Instead of directing his narcissistic rage at “girls” at large, he would likely have ended up abusing a string of girlfriends.

The problem wasn’t Rodger’s lack of “Game.” It was his lack of humanity.

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cloudiah
10 years ago

When did you decide I’m an awful person?

Pretty early on. Your calling people b*tches and wh*res and accusing pecunium of ideating the murder of his girlfriend merely confirms that my judgment was entirely correct.

Erin Williams
Erin Williams
10 years ago

I’m a bad speller Sue me.

Erin Williams
Erin Williams
10 years ago

He admitted himself just a few hours ago.

katz
10 years ago

I’m a bad speller Sue me.

…Intentional?

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

This conversation has rather resembled watching Erin write Mary Sue fanfiction about herself, tbh.

cloudiah
10 years ago

And the gendered insults just keep on coming!

sparky
sparky
10 years ago

katz: Yeah, I think so.

Erin Williams
Erin Williams
10 years ago

How fucking wild is it that you’re making all these assumptions about me, but you let a guy who ideates the murder of his girlfriend among the flock?

You did behave like whores and bitches, Claudiah.

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

@Erin

Once again, the Queen Feminist, in her natural habitat, demonstrates how it’s okay to call other women gendered slurs if you don’t like them.

cloudiah
10 years ago

A person admitting he once had a violent thought, but didn’t act on it because he knew it was wrong is actually a much better person than someone who doesn’t have the self control to start tossing out bigoted insults because people were mean to hir. Hate to break it to you, Erin, but pecunium is a vastly better human being than you are.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

BTW I tried to start a poll about which returnee Erin is earlier, but my comments weren’t posting. Want to start one now? So far we have at least 4 votes for Pell. Mr Al is of course always in the running, but MEZ was banned fairly recently too, so it could be her.

kittehserf
10 years ago

Oh yes, the “party line” claim. Seen that from whiney trolls before. Recently, too – Retha, anyone?

contrapangloss
10 years ago

Wow. What did my dogs’ mothers ever do to you?

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

@Cassandar

MEZ is a possibility, but I’ll still hold Pell. Granted, I almost always vote Pell, even if I think it’s not, so that doesn’t say much.

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

*cassandra, sorry.

Erin Williams
Erin Williams
10 years ago

“But I have no familiarity with Rusyn, and would be surprised if anyone else here did either.”

But you assume I’m lying because you are ignorant about the ethnic group I belong to.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

Yeah, if I have a choice between someone with a fuse 2 millimeters long who calls women bitches and whores or Pecunium in terms of who I’d trust to have my back, I’ll take Pecunium for 500, Bob.

pecunium
10 years ago

Erin: It is possible to learn a languge and not be able to read it, Pecunium. Or should I say, guy who ideates the murder of his girlfriend?

Say anything you like. If it were some deep dark secret; something I thought too horrible to share with people I’d have kept it to myself.

Pro-tip, things people make public statements about, to show that somethings are common (e.g. having violent thoughts about someone who is abusing you), and some things aren’t (e.g. killing women because they don’t come up and say, “you are so dreamy, will you be my boyfriend) isn’t going to hurt the target of your ire.

As to not being able to read a language one can speak.. yep. I know. I can’t read Hangul, even though the language is one I can make polite noises, and order food in. But I never claimed to be fluent in it.

I certainly, were I trying to be all impressive about how much smarter I am than the people I am railing against, wouldn’t say, “bring it on” when I was unable to actually compete.

That is what hubris gets you. You made a challenge. When it was met, you quit the field, with a weak-sauce excuse. Did you think people who speak Russian are so rare? Or was it just that you were ignorant of the ability to type in other keyboards?

Either way, you showed your ass, and I spanked it.

cloudiah
10 years ago

Erin reminds me of all abusers who blame their victims for their own behavior. No sense of responsibility for hir own actions at all. Face it, Erin, you went straight for the bigoted insults because you’re a bigot. You’re just mad at us for calling you out on it.

sparky
sparky
10 years ago

You did behave like whores and bitches, Claudiah.

Disagreeing with Erin the Superfeminist is exactly like sex work.

Erin the Superfeminist thinks being a sex worker is some kind of insult.

Erin the Superfeminist thinks sexually shaming women is the way to go.

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

@Erin

People assume you’re lying because you speak SEVEN LANGUAGES and brought it in to the conversation for no reason but to seemingly show how smart you were.

Shiraz
Shiraz
10 years ago

Erin, why pose as a female feminist at all?

You’re a sexist dudebro.

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

@sparky

Disagreeing with Erin the Superfeminist is exactly like sex work.

Erin the Superfeminist thinks being a sex worker is some kind of insult.

Erin the Superfeminist thinks sexually shaming women is the way to go.

Yeah, feminist is all about shaming women, Erin would know.

hellkell
hellkell
10 years ago

Erin’s soooo tough. She sounds just like mr. al to me.

Fuck off Erin. Sorry you got your ass handed to you the first time you were here, maybe someday you’ll get smart.

sparky
sparky
10 years ago

My votes on Pell, too.

I wasn’t here when Pell originally debuted, but reading through the old entries and stuff, Erin sounds a lot like Pell’s grandiosity.

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