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Pickup artists argue that "Game" is the solution to Elliot Rodger-style rampages. Here’s why they’re wrong.

From Elliot Rodger's Google+ Profile
From Elliot Rodger’s Google+ Profile

Pickup artists, classy fellows that they are, are using Elliot Rodger’s killing rampage as a marketing ploy. In the comments to one of Rodger’s videos on YouTube, a company called Strategic Dating Coach offered their solution to prevent similar shootings in the future: send disturbed young men who can’t get dates to one of their coaching sessions!

THIS is why we do what we do. TO PREVENT THIS SHIT!!! Could couldn't experience it because he didn't learn to attract women. He should have gone to our website and got our personal dating coaching or purchased one of our products. IF ANYONE NEEDS HELP, CONTACT US! Don’t do anything stupid.

While this response to Rodger’s mass killing is uniquely crass, the argument that “Game saves lives” is hardly new. To PUAs like Heartiste and Roosh Valizadeh it’s practically an article of faith.

In the wake of George Sodini’s murderous shooting spree in a Pennsylvania gym in 2009, Heartiste (then known as Roissy) wrote

If Sodini had learned game he would have been able to find another woman and gotten laid after his ex dumped him. He wouldn’t have spent the next 20 years steeped in bile and weighed down by his Sisyphian blue balls, dreaming of vengeance. Game could have saved the lives of the women Sodini killed.

The fact that Sodini had in fact imbibed in the alleged wisdom of pickup artistry, going so far as attending a pricey seminar from old-school pickup guru R. Don Steele, a self-proclaimed expert on dating young women, didn’t lead any in the pickup community to reconsider this position.

Nor has it this time. It is clear that Elliot Rodger was steeped in “red pill” thinking about women. And while he wasn’t himself a PUA, he was certainly aware of the basics of “Game.” Indeed, he subscribed to a number of PUA channels on YouTube and was a regular commenter on PUAhate, a sleazy forum devoted to criticizing “game,” not because it is manipulative and misogynistic but because it doesn’t work.

On the Roosh V forum earlier today, Roosh acknowledged that Rodger knew at least a little about “red pill” ideology – noting that Rodger referred to himself as an”alpha” – but still went ahead and argued that Game was the solution to massacres like this:

He is self-delusional and massively entitled, but exposing him to game may have saved lives.

In a followup comment, Roosh expressed his concerns for the real victims of this tragedy – Pickup artists:

I’m trying to think of ways our enemies will come after us because of this, but if anything, we’re the solution to this sort of murder rampage. This is the society that progressives wanted, where women are fully able to choose the top 10% of alpha males while shaming masculinity, leaving beta males with modest resources in the dust. Of course they will simply push a ban on guns, but this wholly neglects the cause. Seven people died because this guy couldn’t get laid … .

Other commenters were quick to agree. According to someone known as Moma,

Roosh has a very valid point. This will continue to replay over and over again. As human beings, our wiring is very basic yet primal. …

When have you last heard of a porn star shooting up a place? How many have emptied their balls in a hot lizard and then felt the urge to go and smoke 50 strangers?

According to Samseau, the problem wasn’t that Rodger hadn’t heard the Game Gospel; the problem was that he had rejected his salvation:

He knew about Game. If he had an account on PUAHATE then he knew about game. He was just a denialist. There was no helping this dude.

Roosh seconded this bit of wisdom, seeing it as clear evidence that “game denialism kills.”

Michelin, for his part, hoped that PUAs would be able to use the massacre as a publicity bonanza and a great “told you so” to all the haters.

One should write a mainstream article about this case. The argument that game could have saved lives can be an eye-opener and a smash in the face to haters of game.

Tuthmosis, the man best known for a Return of Kings post on the “5 Reasons to Date a Girl With An Eating Disorder,” reported his joy that PUAhate was getting bad press:

Seeing your enemies fall is a delicious treat you only get to taste a few times in your life. I’m savoring this delicacy with a cup of freshly brewed coffee. It’s a shame real people had to lose their lives, but I can’t help but think this will discredit a horrible website, PUAHate–and a way of thinking–that could have harmed even more men and innocent people. Beta losers will never go away, but this will wake up a few men and, more importantly, scare others.

Zelcorpion blamed “girls” and MGTOWers for giving Rodgers bad dating advice:

I bet a few girls told him that he only needs to be himself, be nice, be a gentleman, have a nice car, looks etc. – only to realize that it mattered shit. Instead of learning from the PUA-community he chose to listen to PUAhaters and some of the anti-female comments of the MGTOWs who themselves are often refusing to accept Game or even basic concepts like Alpha/Beta. I think that problem will become way worse, since hypergamy and promiscuity will only increase and most men will be left in the sexual wasteland.

But it took a relative newcomer to the forum by the handle of thedavidgt to raise the obvious logical objection to the Game-for-everybody solution to incel rage:

If every sexless beta in the world took it upon himself to learn game, approach girls, lift, dress well etc, would it not simply feed women’s egos and entitlement? So instead of occasionally getting awkwardly hit on by skinny fat, poor-dressed chumps, the average 7 would then be approached several times a day by extremely high value men. We’ll have a society of men working to improve themselves for women who will get lazier and lazier while at the same time demanding more and more.

In fact, the “Game saves lives” mantra is dead wrong, but not for this reason. First of all, there is no clear evidence that “game,” per se, works, except insofar as it encourages men to pursue large numbers of women and numb them to the pain of rejection. It’s possible that a few of the conversational ploys invented by various PUAs may work better than having no conversational ploys at all. But there are no magic cheat codes to “getting with women.”

There is one more disturbing way in which “game” may increase “success” with women for unscrupulous men: many of the standard techniques of “game”– invading a woman’s personal space, touching her repeatedly, trying to “isolate” her from her friends – may serve as “tests” to find women who are less likely to resist violations of their boundaries. In this way, “game” may serve as a quite effective enabler of date rape. Indeed Roosh himself has admitted to raping a date too drunk to consent.

So how much of a solution is training a guy who is already filled with a toxic mixture of entitlement and self-loathing (yes, these strange bedfellows do often go together) in some techniques that might help him to tamp down his insecurities enough to manipulate some willing or not-so-willing women into bed?

You might have simply turned a mass killer into a serial rapist, or possibly a serial killer. Ted Bundy was quite the charmer. Somehow this didn’t make him a decent human being.

Even if “game” were the beneficient form of “self-improvement” that some of its proponents like to claim it is, teaching Rodger how to be a better dater would not make him a better person. Would having a girlfriend solve all his problems? Hardly. Relationships require patience and compromise and mutual respect, and Rodger seems to have had none of these qualities. Instead of directing his narcissistic rage at “girls” at large, he would likely have ended up abusing a string of girlfriends.

The problem wasn’t Rodger’s lack of “Game.” It was his lack of humanity.

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kittehserf
10 years ago

Eee, look, Pecunium’s writing in SPANISH! 😛

katz
10 years ago

The only evidence we have about Erin indicates zie’s an internet troll with a low melting point

I dub her Gallium.

Erin Williams
Erin Williams
10 years ago

Nope, that was only after I was told to fuck off various times and told essentially “I hope you don’t get raped” by Cassandra. And all because I comitted the crime of trying to allay Stevie’s worries. Look back at the moment when this skirmish started and you’ll see how I was railroaded.

kittehserf
10 years ago

If you can’t tell me the eigenvalues of this set of differential equations in this salmon population by hand then you are unworthy!

I had an image of salmon doing complicated maths then. But they’d have to do it by fin. Or all in the head, like the camels on Discworld.

katz
10 years ago

It’s not like I read his blog as if I were a phorensic investigator

Maybe you should have mastered English before moving on to other languages.

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

@contrapangloss

But, judging intelligence by one skillset is rather silly.

that’s okay, Erin also has like, five doctorates or something. AND LIVES DIRECTLY ON THE BEACH!

If you can’t tell me the eigenvalues of this set of differential equations in this salmon population by hand then you are unworthy! Bask in my glory! Bask! How dare you have contrary opinions!? I thought I told you your fears were silly, and I am the supreme god-emporer of the Daleks most intelligent person on this forum!

Me and fade both want you to know that that was beautiful :’)

@kittehs

Eee, look, Pecunium’s writing in SPANISH! 😛

You’ve got both me and fade dying of laughter here XD

@Erin

Look back at the moment when this skirmish started and you’ll see how I was railroaded.

We railroad all our trolls here. Trufax.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

Not what happened, Erin, though I guess given how unpleasant you are it’s not surprising you’d assume the same of others. That aside, you realize that if your first instinct when you feel railroaded is to start calling people bitches and whores that tells us a lot about you, right?

katz
10 years ago

If you can’t tell me the eigenvalues of this set of differential equations in this salmon population by hand then you are unworthy!

Another sad story in the Atlantic.

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

Also, shorter Erin:

Any conversation people aren’t polite to you is like being railroaded into calling everyone b*tches and wh*res.

kittehserf
10 years ago

Oh yes, you tried to soothe Stevie’s realistic fears for her daughter with the same old NAMALT line. Yeah, that shows such awareness of the misogynistic culture we live in and what we’ve actually been talking about, in the wake of a misogynist’s mass murder.

I hope you are Pell. I’d hate to think you were a real person and that willfully stupid.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

Wait, now my comments are showing up again? If so, cool. Erin, when I said that I hoped your false sense of security didn’t bite you in the ass that was actually genuine. I don’t want anyone getting hurt by these guys, even if they’re as awful a person as you’ve turned out to be.

Erin Williams
Erin Williams
10 years ago

I can’t read Russian. I merely speak Rusyn because my grandmother is a Carpatho-Rusyn and she spoke it at home all the time.

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

@Erin

Fade wants to see Cassandra’s allegedly horrible comment to you

pecunium
10 years ago

Erin: How does Cassandra hoping my sense of secuirty doesn’t bite me in the ass move things along?

Well… if the aim is to mock misogynists, it’s doing a bang-up job.

Since you aren’t doing fuck-all to make women safer/misogynists less secure, it sure doesn’t hurt that cause either.

So, all in all, I’d say cassandra did more in that comment than (based on your performance here) all of your efforts combined.

I’m only belittling your strategy on how to fight these bastards. You have made all these assumptions about me without even giving me a chance to state my case.

You’ve had all the time you wanted to state a different case than you have.

That the case you did state is such arrant bullshit, and excuses the bastards who attack women… that’s all on you.

grumpycatisagirl
10 years ago

Wow, this thread is moving fast. My last comment was ninja’ed all over the place.

kittehserf
10 years ago

We railroad all our trolls here. Trufax.

Can we use steam engines for that? Pretty please?

You’ve got both me and fade dying of laughter here XD

My work here is done!

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

@Cassandra

Wait, now my comments are showing up again? If so, cool. Erin, when I said that I hoped your false sense of security didn’t bite you in the ass that was actually genuine. I don’t want anyone getting hurt by these guys, even if they’re as awful a person as you’ve turned out to be.

So Erin just immediatly assumed the worst 😛

@ERin

Of course you can’t read russyn. Can you read any of the other SEVEN LANGUAGES YOU SPEAK besides english and spanish?

Erin Williams
Erin Williams
10 years ago

Really? That’s not how it sounded to me. When did you decide I’m an awful person?

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

Though I personally think speaking over one language is kinda cool, but I don’t speak seven languages, live directly on the beach, and hold the prestigious title of inventor of the UNIX.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

BTW, hi again, everyone who isn’t Erin! For some reason none of my comments were going through for a while.

Now that they are, I would like to know what whatever I said that Erin found upsetting has to do with having sex with people in exchange for money, which is what the word (gendered slur) “whore” actually means.

The way people react when they lose their cool says a lot about them. We’ve just seen your true self, Erin, and it wasn’t pretty.

pecunium
10 years ago

I can’t read Russian. I merely speak Rusyn

How… convenient.

At least you didn’t try to use an online translator. 1/2 marks for at least that much awareness of your limitations.

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

@Erin

Really? That’s not how it sounded to me. When did you decide I’m an awful person?

uh, lets see, when you dismissed stevie’s fears, NAMALT’d and started calling everyone b*tches and wh*res.

kittehserf
10 years ago

LANGUAGES ON THE BEACH!

A new film starring Dr Lawyer Montgomery Pell

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

@kittehs

I’d watch

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

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