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Pickup artists argue that "Game" is the solution to Elliot Rodger-style rampages. Here’s why they’re wrong.

From Elliot Rodger's Google+ Profile
From Elliot Rodger’s Google+ Profile

Pickup artists, classy fellows that they are, are using Elliot Rodger’s killing rampage as a marketing ploy. In the comments to one of Rodger’s videos on YouTube, a company called Strategic Dating Coach offered their solution to prevent similar shootings in the future: send disturbed young men who can’t get dates to one of their coaching sessions!

THIS is why we do what we do. TO PREVENT THIS SHIT!!! Could couldn't experience it because he didn't learn to attract women. He should have gone to our website and got our personal dating coaching or purchased one of our products. IF ANYONE NEEDS HELP, CONTACT US! Don’t do anything stupid.

While this response to Rodger’s mass killing is uniquely crass, the argument that “Game saves lives” is hardly new. To PUAs like Heartiste and Roosh Valizadeh it’s practically an article of faith.

In the wake of George Sodini’s murderous shooting spree in a Pennsylvania gym in 2009, Heartiste (then known as Roissy) wrote

If Sodini had learned game he would have been able to find another woman and gotten laid after his ex dumped him. He wouldn’t have spent the next 20 years steeped in bile and weighed down by his Sisyphian blue balls, dreaming of vengeance. Game could have saved the lives of the women Sodini killed.

The fact that Sodini had in fact imbibed in the alleged wisdom of pickup artistry, going so far as attending a pricey seminar from old-school pickup guru R. Don Steele, a self-proclaimed expert on dating young women, didn’t lead any in the pickup community to reconsider this position.

Nor has it this time. It is clear that Elliot Rodger was steeped in “red pill” thinking about women. And while he wasn’t himself a PUA, he was certainly aware of the basics of “Game.” Indeed, he subscribed to a number of PUA channels on YouTube and was a regular commenter on PUAhate, a sleazy forum devoted to criticizing “game,” not because it is manipulative and misogynistic but because it doesn’t work.

On the Roosh V forum earlier today, Roosh acknowledged that Rodger knew at least a little about “red pill” ideology – noting that Rodger referred to himself as an”alpha” – but still went ahead and argued that Game was the solution to massacres like this:

He is self-delusional and massively entitled, but exposing him to game may have saved lives.

In a followup comment, Roosh expressed his concerns for the real victims of this tragedy – Pickup artists:

I’m trying to think of ways our enemies will come after us because of this, but if anything, we’re the solution to this sort of murder rampage. This is the society that progressives wanted, where women are fully able to choose the top 10% of alpha males while shaming masculinity, leaving beta males with modest resources in the dust. Of course they will simply push a ban on guns, but this wholly neglects the cause. Seven people died because this guy couldn’t get laid … .

Other commenters were quick to agree. According to someone known as Moma,

Roosh has a very valid point. This will continue to replay over and over again. As human beings, our wiring is very basic yet primal. …

When have you last heard of a porn star shooting up a place? How many have emptied their balls in a hot lizard and then felt the urge to go and smoke 50 strangers?

According to Samseau, the problem wasn’t that Rodger hadn’t heard the Game Gospel; the problem was that he had rejected his salvation:

He knew about Game. If he had an account on PUAHATE then he knew about game. He was just a denialist. There was no helping this dude.

Roosh seconded this bit of wisdom, seeing it as clear evidence that “game denialism kills.”

Michelin, for his part, hoped that PUAs would be able to use the massacre as a publicity bonanza and a great “told you so” to all the haters.

One should write a mainstream article about this case. The argument that game could have saved lives can be an eye-opener and a smash in the face to haters of game.

Tuthmosis, the man best known for a Return of Kings post on the “5 Reasons to Date a Girl With An Eating Disorder,” reported his joy that PUAhate was getting bad press:

Seeing your enemies fall is a delicious treat you only get to taste a few times in your life. I’m savoring this delicacy with a cup of freshly brewed coffee. It’s a shame real people had to lose their lives, but I can’t help but think this will discredit a horrible website, PUAHate–and a way of thinking–that could have harmed even more men and innocent people. Beta losers will never go away, but this will wake up a few men and, more importantly, scare others.

Zelcorpion blamed “girls” and MGTOWers for giving Rodgers bad dating advice:

I bet a few girls told him that he only needs to be himself, be nice, be a gentleman, have a nice car, looks etc. – only to realize that it mattered shit. Instead of learning from the PUA-community he chose to listen to PUAhaters and some of the anti-female comments of the MGTOWs who themselves are often refusing to accept Game or even basic concepts like Alpha/Beta. I think that problem will become way worse, since hypergamy and promiscuity will only increase and most men will be left in the sexual wasteland.

But it took a relative newcomer to the forum by the handle of thedavidgt to raise the obvious logical objection to the Game-for-everybody solution to incel rage:

If every sexless beta in the world took it upon himself to learn game, approach girls, lift, dress well etc, would it not simply feed women’s egos and entitlement? So instead of occasionally getting awkwardly hit on by skinny fat, poor-dressed chumps, the average 7 would then be approached several times a day by extremely high value men. We’ll have a society of men working to improve themselves for women who will get lazier and lazier while at the same time demanding more and more.

In fact, the “Game saves lives” mantra is dead wrong, but not for this reason. First of all, there is no clear evidence that “game,” per se, works, except insofar as it encourages men to pursue large numbers of women and numb them to the pain of rejection. It’s possible that a few of the conversational ploys invented by various PUAs may work better than having no conversational ploys at all. But there are no magic cheat codes to “getting with women.”

There is one more disturbing way in which “game” may increase “success” with women for unscrupulous men: many of the standard techniques of “game”– invading a woman’s personal space, touching her repeatedly, trying to “isolate” her from her friends – may serve as “tests” to find women who are less likely to resist violations of their boundaries. In this way, “game” may serve as a quite effective enabler of date rape. Indeed Roosh himself has admitted to raping a date too drunk to consent.

So how much of a solution is training a guy who is already filled with a toxic mixture of entitlement and self-loathing (yes, these strange bedfellows do often go together) in some techniques that might help him to tamp down his insecurities enough to manipulate some willing or not-so-willing women into bed?

You might have simply turned a mass killer into a serial rapist, or possibly a serial killer. Ted Bundy was quite the charmer. Somehow this didn’t make him a decent human being.

Even if “game” were the beneficient form of “self-improvement” that some of its proponents like to claim it is, teaching Rodger how to be a better dater would not make him a better person. Would having a girlfriend solve all his problems? Hardly. Relationships require patience and compromise and mutual respect, and Rodger seems to have had none of these qualities. Instead of directing his narcissistic rage at “girls” at large, he would likely have ended up abusing a string of girlfriends.

The problem wasn’t Rodger’s lack of “Game.” It was his lack of humanity.

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pecunium
10 years ago

racnad: You’re not building any bridges by making your feelings the most important thing and dismissing the pain of others.

really… you are the dude who says, “women shouldn’t be cautious around men whom they find creepy just because some women were killed for rejecting an advance; they should totes put my feelings first”.

Hypocrite.

pecunium
10 years ago

Erin: You believe Roosh? Roosh is more full of shit than them all. Do you seriously think girls in places like Poland are letting such an ugly bastard get close to them?

I think that when he says he fucked someone who was too drunk to say no, that he probably did it.

It’s what the courts call, “an admission against interest”.

Now, if you want to believe that someone who says he did that is “harmless” that’s your fucking problem. Go ahead, spend time with him in a bar, if you feel safe.

But to say people who don’t feel that’s a good idea are deluded fools… is gonna get some pushback.

Yeah, continue letting a fucking idiot like Roosh scare you when there are more serious cases to worry about

Like the “harmless internet shit talker” who just went out to kill a lot of women?

Even in your primary argument you blow it:

As much as I despise the men who visit these sites, I know that most of them don’t have what it takes to go through with half the shit

Most.. not none… most. So about those M&Ms… you gonna eat a whole lot of them, or not?

cloudiah
10 years ago

Erin, do you speak those 7 languages while living directly ON THE BEACH?

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

Fuck you, Cassandra. Keep fighting those internet tigers like Roosh. While you blow smoke up his ass you’re increasing his book sales. Didn’t know that, did you?

Gosh, Cassandra, I never knew you commenting on one internet site here had such an affect on the market, did you?

@Erin

But how many doctorates do you have?

sparky
sparky
10 years ago

Well, I posted before refreshing and missed Erin’s melt-down:

I called Cassandra a whore due to her comment about my sense of security biting me in the ass. That was uncalled for and you know it.

Why yes we do, Erin. Calling anyone a wh*re is completely uncalled for.
Why did you do it?

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

@cloudiah

Erin, do you speak those 7 languages while living directly ON THE BEACH?

Can’t. berathe. laughing too hard. XD

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

Roosh seems a bit greasy to be a tiger. Tigers usually like water.

Ally S
10 years ago

Erin, I just posted proof that Roosh is a rapist. He admitted to raping a woman. Is he still a “lightweight” to you?

Shiraz
Shiraz
10 years ago

I missed your question above Cassandra, sorry. The Runaways is about a group of kids, mostly girls, who discover their parents are super villains who control the west coast underworld. They essentially decide to runaway and vow never to trust adults again –while comming into their own powers/abilities, that ironically come from their parents. It’s the snark and humour that’s so appealing in the series. Can’t say more without spoilers.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

Official sock-guessing pool starts here. Do I have a Pell? A Mr Al? Place your votes right here.

cloudiah
10 years ago

Erin can speak 7 languages, has 70 PhDs, and can bench press 700 lbs.

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

@Ally

Erin, I just posted proof that Roosh is a rapist. He admitted to raping a woman. Is he still a “lightweight” to you?

Erin already ignore it under the grounds that he was ‘probably lying’.

though I guess you did post link. But I doubt Erin will respond :/

cloudiah
10 years ago

How many Nobel Prizes do you have Erin?

brooked
brooked
10 years ago

@Marie

I assumed that you meant Erin, just want to be sure. It getting a little woolly with all the troops that are flying at WHTM post-tragedy.

@Erin

If you find yourself saying ” I called [insert woman’s name] a whore because…”, you’re doing feminism wrong.

kittehserf
10 years ago

Erin, do you speak those 7 languages while living directly ON THE BEACH?

BWAHAHAHAHAHA!

Gosh, Cassandra, I never knew you commenting on one internet site here had such an affect on the market, did you?

Whoa! Does this mean if I write a book and comment about it here, I’ll get book sales? Why didn’t anyone tell me book marketing was this easy?

But how many doctorates do you have?

700. Got ’em all in spare time between teaching at Princeton and Harvard.

brooked
brooked
10 years ago

*trolls, not troops

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

@kittehs

Whoa! Does this mean if I write a book and comment about it here, I’ll get book sales? Why didn’t anyone tell me book marketing was this easy?

Nooooo! I was hoarding that secret to make me famous! XD

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

@brooked

yeah you were totally fine my brain just spaced and repeated your name instead of actually putting in erin’s XD

kittehserf
10 years ago

BTW I’ve emailed the Dark Lord about this one, too.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

I called Cassandra a whore due to her comment about my sense of security biting me in the ass. That was uncalled for and you know it.

This has what to do with offering sex in exchange for money, exactly?

Bitch please. Clique, click, whatever. I speak seven languages, how many do you speak?

Pell sighting in progress.

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

@kittehs

But she was so funny XD Oh well I guess nothing lasts forever. And I can’t always be around to pick up after her.

pecunium
10 years ago

Erin: Bitch please. Clique, click, whatever. I speak seven languages, how many do you speak?

Ooh… I am so impressed. This has what relevance to your failure to make clear points in English? (btw, I speak four to a level where I can converse, and another two or three to the level of solving minor problems. I can do polite noises, get to a toilet, call a cop, order food, explain that I need help in five or six others… I also speak three or four dialects of english (one of which is archaic) and can manage the speciased jargon of machining, medicine, the Army [with a small subset of the idiosyncratic politesse of the US Marine Corps, and the conventions of the British Army], woodworking, cookery, christian theology (primarily catholic), a moderate amount of Talmudic reasoning, metalwork, spinning, evolutionary biology, and some other stuff which escapes my taxonimical tendencies at the moment: not that this has any real bearing on the conversation; but I have actually demonstrated most of those to people. All you have done is brag about it, with nary a single example to support the claim).

cloudiah
10 years ago

I’m going to mention katz’s novel here too, since that will apparently increase her eventual book sales. It’s a very good read so far!

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

*not that I’m the only one poking her, it’s jsut the usual promise :I Promise to pick up after troll and ect. I think. It’s been a while

Erin Williams
Erin Williams
10 years ago

I think that when he says he fucked someone who was too drunk to say no, that he probably did it.”

He wishes he did. He builds his cred among his fanboys by pretending he’s this swashbuckler who fucks a woman in every port. The truth is he strikes out everywhere he goes and he only sleeps with prostitutes. But you wouldn’t know any of that because you concentrate on his lies.

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