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Pickup artists argue that "Game" is the solution to Elliot Rodger-style rampages. Here’s why they’re wrong.

From Elliot Rodger's Google+ Profile
From Elliot Rodger’s Google+ Profile

Pickup artists, classy fellows that they are, are using Elliot Rodger’s killing rampage as a marketing ploy. In the comments to one of Rodger’s videos on YouTube, a company called Strategic Dating Coach offered their solution to prevent similar shootings in the future: send disturbed young men who can’t get dates to one of their coaching sessions!

THIS is why we do what we do. TO PREVENT THIS SHIT!!! Could couldn't experience it because he didn't learn to attract women. He should have gone to our website and got our personal dating coaching or purchased one of our products. IF ANYONE NEEDS HELP, CONTACT US! Don’t do anything stupid.

While this response to Rodger’s mass killing is uniquely crass, the argument that “Game saves lives” is hardly new. To PUAs like Heartiste and Roosh Valizadeh it’s practically an article of faith.

In the wake of George Sodini’s murderous shooting spree in a Pennsylvania gym in 2009, Heartiste (then known as Roissy) wrote

If Sodini had learned game he would have been able to find another woman and gotten laid after his ex dumped him. He wouldn’t have spent the next 20 years steeped in bile and weighed down by his Sisyphian blue balls, dreaming of vengeance. Game could have saved the lives of the women Sodini killed.

The fact that Sodini had in fact imbibed in the alleged wisdom of pickup artistry, going so far as attending a pricey seminar from old-school pickup guru R. Don Steele, a self-proclaimed expert on dating young women, didn’t lead any in the pickup community to reconsider this position.

Nor has it this time. It is clear that Elliot Rodger was steeped in “red pill” thinking about women. And while he wasn’t himself a PUA, he was certainly aware of the basics of “Game.” Indeed, he subscribed to a number of PUA channels on YouTube and was a regular commenter on PUAhate, a sleazy forum devoted to criticizing “game,” not because it is manipulative and misogynistic but because it doesn’t work.

On the Roosh V forum earlier today, Roosh acknowledged that Rodger knew at least a little about “red pill” ideology – noting that Rodger referred to himself as an”alpha” – but still went ahead and argued that Game was the solution to massacres like this:

He is self-delusional and massively entitled, but exposing him to game may have saved lives.

In a followup comment, Roosh expressed his concerns for the real victims of this tragedy – Pickup artists:

I’m trying to think of ways our enemies will come after us because of this, but if anything, we’re the solution to this sort of murder rampage. This is the society that progressives wanted, where women are fully able to choose the top 10% of alpha males while shaming masculinity, leaving beta males with modest resources in the dust. Of course they will simply push a ban on guns, but this wholly neglects the cause. Seven people died because this guy couldn’t get laid … .

Other commenters were quick to agree. According to someone known as Moma,

Roosh has a very valid point. This will continue to replay over and over again. As human beings, our wiring is very basic yet primal. …

When have you last heard of a porn star shooting up a place? How many have emptied their balls in a hot lizard and then felt the urge to go and smoke 50 strangers?

According to Samseau, the problem wasn’t that Rodger hadn’t heard the Game Gospel; the problem was that he had rejected his salvation:

He knew about Game. If he had an account on PUAHATE then he knew about game. He was just a denialist. There was no helping this dude.

Roosh seconded this bit of wisdom, seeing it as clear evidence that “game denialism kills.”

Michelin, for his part, hoped that PUAs would be able to use the massacre as a publicity bonanza and a great “told you so” to all the haters.

One should write a mainstream article about this case. The argument that game could have saved lives can be an eye-opener and a smash in the face to haters of game.

Tuthmosis, the man best known for a Return of Kings post on the “5 Reasons to Date a Girl With An Eating Disorder,” reported his joy that PUAhate was getting bad press:

Seeing your enemies fall is a delicious treat you only get to taste a few times in your life. I’m savoring this delicacy with a cup of freshly brewed coffee. It’s a shame real people had to lose their lives, but I can’t help but think this will discredit a horrible website, PUAHate–and a way of thinking–that could have harmed even more men and innocent people. Beta losers will never go away, but this will wake up a few men and, more importantly, scare others.

Zelcorpion blamed “girls” and MGTOWers for giving Rodgers bad dating advice:

I bet a few girls told him that he only needs to be himself, be nice, be a gentleman, have a nice car, looks etc. – only to realize that it mattered shit. Instead of learning from the PUA-community he chose to listen to PUAhaters and some of the anti-female comments of the MGTOWs who themselves are often refusing to accept Game or even basic concepts like Alpha/Beta. I think that problem will become way worse, since hypergamy and promiscuity will only increase and most men will be left in the sexual wasteland.

But it took a relative newcomer to the forum by the handle of thedavidgt to raise the obvious logical objection to the Game-for-everybody solution to incel rage:

If every sexless beta in the world took it upon himself to learn game, approach girls, lift, dress well etc, would it not simply feed women’s egos and entitlement? So instead of occasionally getting awkwardly hit on by skinny fat, poor-dressed chumps, the average 7 would then be approached several times a day by extremely high value men. We’ll have a society of men working to improve themselves for women who will get lazier and lazier while at the same time demanding more and more.

In fact, the “Game saves lives” mantra is dead wrong, but not for this reason. First of all, there is no clear evidence that “game,” per se, works, except insofar as it encourages men to pursue large numbers of women and numb them to the pain of rejection. It’s possible that a few of the conversational ploys invented by various PUAs may work better than having no conversational ploys at all. But there are no magic cheat codes to “getting with women.”

There is one more disturbing way in which “game” may increase “success” with women for unscrupulous men: many of the standard techniques of “game”– invading a woman’s personal space, touching her repeatedly, trying to “isolate” her from her friends – may serve as “tests” to find women who are less likely to resist violations of their boundaries. In this way, “game” may serve as a quite effective enabler of date rape. Indeed Roosh himself has admitted to raping a date too drunk to consent.

So how much of a solution is training a guy who is already filled with a toxic mixture of entitlement and self-loathing (yes, these strange bedfellows do often go together) in some techniques that might help him to tamp down his insecurities enough to manipulate some willing or not-so-willing women into bed?

You might have simply turned a mass killer into a serial rapist, or possibly a serial killer. Ted Bundy was quite the charmer. Somehow this didn’t make him a decent human being.

Even if “game” were the beneficient form of “self-improvement” that some of its proponents like to claim it is, teaching Rodger how to be a better dater would not make him a better person. Would having a girlfriend solve all his problems? Hardly. Relationships require patience and compromise and mutual respect, and Rodger seems to have had none of these qualities. Instead of directing his narcissistic rage at “girls” at large, he would likely have ended up abusing a string of girlfriends.

The problem wasn’t Rodger’s lack of “Game.” It was his lack of humanity.

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cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

There’s also the fact that when some of the more outward bound guys go home and log onto the internet, they start talking to the hardcore MRA/PUA true believers, who reinforce their anger and sense of entitlement and cheer them on in their desire to take revenge on women for perceived slights. This stuff isn’t happening in some sort of hermetically sealed vacuum, unfortunately. It has social consequences, which we’re seeing the in responses to this murder spree right now.

katz
10 years ago

HOW CAN WE BE EXAGGERATING THE THREAT OF PEOPLE WHO ACTUALLY GO OUT AND MURDER A BUNCH OF PEOPLE AAAAAAAAAUGH

Erin Williams
Erin Williams
10 years ago

Kitteh, I simply said we don’t live in a world where most men feel they should shoot a woman for not putting out. You don’t think this shit scares me too?

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

@ katz

Want to borrow my cushion? It’s useful when that “must bang head on desk in frustration” feeling sets in.

cloudiah
10 years ago

Most White Rights bigots only post online, but they give aid and cover to the ones who leave their houses and kill POC like that guy who shot up the Sikh temple. One armed bigot can do a lot of damage.

I mean, come on, this isn’t a difficult concept.

Erin Williams
Erin Williams
10 years ago

Oh, just like Elliot Rodger, you mean? Or Thomas Ball? Or George Sodini? Or (pre internet) Marc Lepine? Or any of the others encouraged and coddled by the abuse advocates of the MRM?

No, I’m talking about Roosh V, Paul Elam, Matt Forney, Roissy and any number of internet tough guys who a) are too afraid to approach women and b0 would shit their pants if they ever did.

cloudiah
10 years ago

I’m sitting on the floor rather than at a desk, and I just head-floored. Good thing there’s carpet here.

cloudiah
10 years ago

Erin, stop. You’re going to give katz, cassandrakitty, and I concussions, cushions/carpeting notwithstanding.

kittehserf
10 years ago

Then what the fuck are you on about? You’ve got nothing to offer but NAMALT, in a thread about a mass murderer. Fuckin duh, you’re talking to a bunch of women who are mostly in, or have been in, hetero relationships. All you’re doing is derailing from a thread about a mass murderer.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

There was one PUA who shot a woman (anyone remember his name?). Even the most ardent keyboard warrior does have to go outside sometimes, and unfortunately not all of them are too scared to interact with women.

(Your know, interact with by shooting? I can’t believe that this conversation is happening in this of all threads.)

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

Gunwitch, I think? Something like that?

kittehserf
10 years ago

No, I’m talking about Roosh V, Paul Elam, Matt Forney, Roissy and any number of internet tough guys who a) are too afraid to approach women and b0 would shit their pants if they ever did.

You fucking idiot. Roosh is a self confessed rapist. Elam has been married more than once. Roissy is almost certainly a rapist too.

You seriously think those scum aren’t a danger to women? What does it take, a murder confession?

weirwoodtreehugger
10 years ago

Rancid is married? I must have missed that amongst all his teal deers.

cloudiah
10 years ago

Oh dog, gunwitch. I forgot about that one. I think you’re right.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

Also, again, we know that Roosh is a rapist because he told us so. These men are not all harmless due to having their asses glued to their computer chairs.

I mean, I’ve met PUAs. I’ve had them slime up to me in bars. Some of them really are out there in meatspace, looking for potential victims.

cloudiah
10 years ago

PAUL ELAM CONVINCES MEN NEVER TO CONVICT RAPISTS, EVEN WHEN THEY’RE CLEARLY GUILTY, AND WRITES LURID FANTASIES IN WHICH HE LOVINGLY DETAILS BEATING AND RAPING WOMEN. HE’S SUCCESSFUL ENOUGH AT IT THAT MEN WHO LIKE THAT SORT OF THING PAY HIS LIVING EXPENSES.

But yeah, other than that he’s harmless.

kittehserf
10 years ago

I’m really thinking Erin needs to piss off forever. That, or the banhammer.

Erin Williams
Erin Williams
10 years ago

Cassandra:”There’s also the fact that when some of the more outward bound guys go home and log onto the internet, they start talking to the hardcore MRA/PUA true believers, who reinforce their anger and sense of entitlement and cheer them on in their desire to take revenge on women for perceived slights. This stuff isn’t happening in some sort of hermetically sealed vacuum, unfortunately. It has social consequences, which we’re seeing the in responses to this murder spree right now.”

As much as I despise the men who visit these sites, I know that most of them don’t have what it takes to go through with half the shit their internet personas suggest. You guys are welcome to be scared all you want, but I simply don’t give a crap about them. Does this mean I will stop exposing them and calling them out on all the horrible shit they stand for? Absolutely not. I simply am not going to allow them to scare me the way they have scared you.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

I think it’s magical thinking again, honestly. Tell yourself that these guys are an internet-only problem and that makes them a lot less scary. Unfortunately it’s not true.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

Oh great, now she’s moved on to the “you’re all cowards, whereas I’m awesome” part of the show. Guess what, Erin? I’m done being nice to you. You’re trying to shore up your own sense of safety by dancing on the graves of the people who just got shot, and that makes you a horrible person. Now fuck off.

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

@erin

Wow, you guys are being mean for no reason at all.

May I guide your most delicate eyes up to the tagline under the website header?

Because they’re shut ins who are more afraid of girls than we are of them. They’re just a bunch of shit talkers on the internet, for fuck’s sake.

‘they’re just a bunch of shit talkers on the internet’ not the most encouraging thing to say when one of them literally just killed a bunch of people.

But hey, Erin said they were just shit talkers, so I must be imagining it.

@katz

I think I’m Gert with a side order of more Gert.

I haven’t thought of what runaway I’d be like, but I’ll take Molly’s awesome taste in hats 😀

@erin

No, I’m talking about Roosh V, Paul Elam, Matt Forney, Roissy and any number of internet tough guys who a) are too afraid to approach women and b0 would shit their pants if they ever did.

Roosh is a self-admitted rapists, so not exactly proving your point there on the harmless scale.

cloudiah
10 years ago

Oh right, the problem is that we’re all just big cowards, unlike brave Erin. Fuck off, Erin.

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

@cassandra

Guess what, Erin? I’m done being nice to you.

BUt you were already being mean. Pointing out Erin is ‘not all mening’ is mean. Don’t you know, Erin told us :p

cloudiah
10 years ago

Ninja’d by cassandrakitty.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

Oh, I can be a lot meaner than this if necessary.

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