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Pickup artists argue that "Game" is the solution to Elliot Rodger-style rampages. Here’s why they’re wrong.

From Elliot Rodger's Google+ Profile
From Elliot Rodger’s Google+ Profile

Pickup artists, classy fellows that they are, are using Elliot Rodger’s killing rampage as a marketing ploy. In the comments to one of Rodger’s videos on YouTube, a company called Strategic Dating Coach offered their solution to prevent similar shootings in the future: send disturbed young men who can’t get dates to one of their coaching sessions!

THIS is why we do what we do. TO PREVENT THIS SHIT!!! Could couldn't experience it because he didn't learn to attract women. He should have gone to our website and got our personal dating coaching or purchased one of our products. IF ANYONE NEEDS HELP, CONTACT US! Don’t do anything stupid.

While this response to Rodger’s mass killing is uniquely crass, the argument that “Game saves lives” is hardly new. To PUAs like Heartiste and Roosh Valizadeh it’s practically an article of faith.

In the wake of George Sodini’s murderous shooting spree in a Pennsylvania gym in 2009, Heartiste (then known as Roissy) wrote

If Sodini had learned game he would have been able to find another woman and gotten laid after his ex dumped him. He wouldn’t have spent the next 20 years steeped in bile and weighed down by his Sisyphian blue balls, dreaming of vengeance. Game could have saved the lives of the women Sodini killed.

The fact that Sodini had in fact imbibed in the alleged wisdom of pickup artistry, going so far as attending a pricey seminar from old-school pickup guru R. Don Steele, a self-proclaimed expert on dating young women, didn’t lead any in the pickup community to reconsider this position.

Nor has it this time. It is clear that Elliot Rodger was steeped in “red pill” thinking about women. And while he wasn’t himself a PUA, he was certainly aware of the basics of “Game.” Indeed, he subscribed to a number of PUA channels on YouTube and was a regular commenter on PUAhate, a sleazy forum devoted to criticizing “game,” not because it is manipulative and misogynistic but because it doesn’t work.

On the Roosh V forum earlier today, Roosh acknowledged that Rodger knew at least a little about “red pill” ideology – noting that Rodger referred to himself as an”alpha” – but still went ahead and argued that Game was the solution to massacres like this:

He is self-delusional and massively entitled, but exposing him to game may have saved lives.

In a followup comment, Roosh expressed his concerns for the real victims of this tragedy – Pickup artists:

I’m trying to think of ways our enemies will come after us because of this, but if anything, we’re the solution to this sort of murder rampage. This is the society that progressives wanted, where women are fully able to choose the top 10% of alpha males while shaming masculinity, leaving beta males with modest resources in the dust. Of course they will simply push a ban on guns, but this wholly neglects the cause. Seven people died because this guy couldn’t get laid … .

Other commenters were quick to agree. According to someone known as Moma,

Roosh has a very valid point. This will continue to replay over and over again. As human beings, our wiring is very basic yet primal. …

When have you last heard of a porn star shooting up a place? How many have emptied their balls in a hot lizard and then felt the urge to go and smoke 50 strangers?

According to Samseau, the problem wasn’t that Rodger hadn’t heard the Game Gospel; the problem was that he had rejected his salvation:

He knew about Game. If he had an account on PUAHATE then he knew about game. He was just a denialist. There was no helping this dude.

Roosh seconded this bit of wisdom, seeing it as clear evidence that “game denialism kills.”

Michelin, for his part, hoped that PUAs would be able to use the massacre as a publicity bonanza and a great “told you so” to all the haters.

One should write a mainstream article about this case. The argument that game could have saved lives can be an eye-opener and a smash in the face to haters of game.

Tuthmosis, the man best known for a Return of Kings post on the “5 Reasons to Date a Girl With An Eating Disorder,” reported his joy that PUAhate was getting bad press:

Seeing your enemies fall is a delicious treat you only get to taste a few times in your life. I’m savoring this delicacy with a cup of freshly brewed coffee. It’s a shame real people had to lose their lives, but I can’t help but think this will discredit a horrible website, PUAHate–and a way of thinking–that could have harmed even more men and innocent people. Beta losers will never go away, but this will wake up a few men and, more importantly, scare others.

Zelcorpion blamed “girls” and MGTOWers for giving Rodgers bad dating advice:

I bet a few girls told him that he only needs to be himself, be nice, be a gentleman, have a nice car, looks etc. – only to realize that it mattered shit. Instead of learning from the PUA-community he chose to listen to PUAhaters and some of the anti-female comments of the MGTOWs who themselves are often refusing to accept Game or even basic concepts like Alpha/Beta. I think that problem will become way worse, since hypergamy and promiscuity will only increase and most men will be left in the sexual wasteland.

But it took a relative newcomer to the forum by the handle of thedavidgt to raise the obvious logical objection to the Game-for-everybody solution to incel rage:

If every sexless beta in the world took it upon himself to learn game, approach girls, lift, dress well etc, would it not simply feed women’s egos and entitlement? So instead of occasionally getting awkwardly hit on by skinny fat, poor-dressed chumps, the average 7 would then be approached several times a day by extremely high value men. We’ll have a society of men working to improve themselves for women who will get lazier and lazier while at the same time demanding more and more.

In fact, the “Game saves lives” mantra is dead wrong, but not for this reason. First of all, there is no clear evidence that “game,” per se, works, except insofar as it encourages men to pursue large numbers of women and numb them to the pain of rejection. It’s possible that a few of the conversational ploys invented by various PUAs may work better than having no conversational ploys at all. But there are no magic cheat codes to “getting with women.”

There is one more disturbing way in which “game” may increase “success” with women for unscrupulous men: many of the standard techniques of “game”– invading a woman’s personal space, touching her repeatedly, trying to “isolate” her from her friends – may serve as “tests” to find women who are less likely to resist violations of their boundaries. In this way, “game” may serve as a quite effective enabler of date rape. Indeed Roosh himself has admitted to raping a date too drunk to consent.

So how much of a solution is training a guy who is already filled with a toxic mixture of entitlement and self-loathing (yes, these strange bedfellows do often go together) in some techniques that might help him to tamp down his insecurities enough to manipulate some willing or not-so-willing women into bed?

You might have simply turned a mass killer into a serial rapist, or possibly a serial killer. Ted Bundy was quite the charmer. Somehow this didn’t make him a decent human being.

Even if “game” were the beneficient form of “self-improvement” that some of its proponents like to claim it is, teaching Rodger how to be a better dater would not make him a better person. Would having a girlfriend solve all his problems? Hardly. Relationships require patience and compromise and mutual respect, and Rodger seems to have had none of these qualities. Instead of directing his narcissistic rage at “girls” at large, he would likely have ended up abusing a string of girlfriends.

The problem wasn’t Rodger’s lack of “Game.” It was his lack of humanity.

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contrapangloss
10 years ago

Fade: I love the Sith advice.

sparky
sparky
10 years ago

Here it is. racnad on violence against women:

That said, these stories don’t describe if the rejections were clear and unambiguous, or “soft” which on their face imply the possibility of romance in the future.

Therefore these links don’t have enough information to conclude if safety concerns justify women giving rejecting men with ambiguous white lies rather than clear messages.

From this thread

katz
10 years ago

“Before the Internet, there were NO self-help books written for men feeling ignored by women.

See, this is a good example of why it’s a bad idea to make sweeping negative statements. Because any book about dating for men published before the 90s now proves you wrong.”

Well, the books you mentioned were not in any of the bookstores I shopped at. Have you read these books and do they contain advice useful for the modern era?

You didn’t say “I couldn’t find any self-help books at the bookstores I went to that were written for men feeling ignored by women and contained advice useful for the modern era.” You said “there were NO self-help books written for men feeling ignored by women.”

Although your failure to make a distinction between “any books whatsoever” and “books specifically relevant to me” says a lot about you.

Stevie
Stevie
10 years ago

sparky

I’m awestruck by you, and rancid is a stomach turningly perfect example of giving someone enough rope to hang himself…

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

Hey, Johnny, I realize that this point will probably sail right over your self-centered little head, but women don’t fear misogynists because they threaten our belief system, we fear them because they threaten us. Sometimes, like the young man we’re all discussing here, with guns. It must be nice to be in a position where that’s not something you have to take into consideration, but that’s not the position that the women who you’re trying to guilt-trip into cuddling misogynists as if they were wounded little baby birds are in. It’s like asking us to go cuddle a shark.

Tracy
Tracy
10 years ago

That said, these stories don’t describe if the rejections were clear and unambiguous, or “soft” which on their face imply the possibility of romance in the future.

Therefore these links don’t have enough information to conclude if safety concerns justify women giving rejecting men with ambiguous white lies rather than clear messages.

Oh bloody hell.

PROTIP: take people at their fucking word. If they say no, ‘soft’ or otherwise, hear ‘no’ and move on.

And yep, my safety concerns totally justify ‘ambiguous white lies’, because if I think me saying a clear ‘no’ to someone will put me in danger, I’m opting for safety thanks. I only need to have been dragged down an alleyway once by a guy I said no to (I got away, and cops got him) to make that a general rule of thumb. K? Great.

Note: I do not have a problem saying clear ‘no’, but it took some practice. Understand that sometimes, a person is giving you a soft ‘no’ because they are trying not to hurt your feelings; it is considerate to reciprocate by accepting their ‘soft no’ for what it is, and not doing anything that may in turn make them uncomfortable or intimidated.

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

@katz

You didn’t say “I couldn’t find any self-help books at the bookstores I went to that were written for men feeling ignored by women and contained advice useful for the modern era.” You said “there were NO self-help books written for men feeling ignored by women.”

If rancid’s logic is ‘can’t find in bookstore = doesn’t exist’ then I know runaways vol 8* doesn’t exist, cuz I can’t ever find it in bookstores. XD

*comic I read that has more than 8 vols.

Stevie
Stevie
10 years ago

And now my brain has taken hold of Iron John and a Sith Lord encountering each other in a bar, and won’t let go…

Erin Williams
Erin Williams
10 years ago

Stevie: “At what point did we plumb the depths of ‘if you refuse to have sex with me I’ll have to rape someone and it’s all your fault’?”

We have not, Stevie. You have to remember that these guys are a teeny, tiny minority who have zero influence on regular men.

sparky
sparky
10 years ago

Stevie: Thanks, I’m blushing :). racnad first showed up spewing nonsense in that thread.

Erin Williams: Yes, gee, thank you for that “not all men.” ‘Cause that’s not a derail or anything like that.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

You know what’s also creepy, Ronnie? The way you seem to be fixating on my comments specifically. Why am I getting the starting honors?

As to the rest of your sad little attempt at self-justification, nope, women don’t find men creepy because they’re not hot enough. Let’s take you as an example – I have no idea what you look like, you could be rather handsome for all I know, but you’re most definitely being a bit creepy, and your behavior would justify women’s not wanting to be around you. Even if you looked like Brad Pitt in Thelma and Louise this would still be the case. As to the reframing thing, I know it must hurt to realize that everyone here has better rhetorical skills than you do, but pouting about it won’t help.

PS – Try to stop being creepy, OK? It’s not doing your arguments any favors

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

@erin

We have not, Stevie. You have to remember that these guys are a teeny, tiny minority who have zero influence on regular men.

Not ALL men!

Ally S
10 years ago

We have not, Stevie. You have to remember that these guys are a teeny, tiny minority who have zero influence on regular men.

Funny how a lot of “regular men” happen to sympathize with him. You’re part of the problem if all you care about is emphasizing the rarity of extreme male aggression.

katz
10 years ago

If rancid’s logic is ‘can’t find in bookstore = doesn’t exist’ then I know runaways vol 8* doesn’t exist, cuz I can’t ever find it in bookstores. XD

Meh, if you ask me, it should have stopped at the end of the first arc. Not that I don’t like Victor Mancha, but it just seemed like a story with a natural endpoint.

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

@katz

noooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo

I disagree 😛

Did you stay long enough to see Xavin? Cuz I loved xir 😀

weirwoodtreehugger
10 years ago

Ffs Rancid is back yet again?

We gave you examples in the other thread of men assaulting or killing women who rejected them. This thread is about a man who went on a killing spree because women hurt his fee fees.

That’s not enough for you? Stop comparing not getting a date to harassment.

katz
10 years ago

I don’t think I did. What volume did zie show up in?

kittehserf
10 years ago

I may be behind but I’ve just emailed the Dark Lord about Ronnie’s “Shiraz is raping me” line. That’s banhammer territory in my book.

Kim
Kim
10 years ago

It’s like asking us to go cuddle a shark.

NASALT!

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

Well, the books you mentioned were not in any of the bookstores I shopped at. Have you read these books and do they contain advice useful for the modern era?

You’re all responsible for the limited selection at the bookstore Rancid used to shop at, ladies. Even those of you who probably weren’t born yet at the time. Think about what you’ve done.

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

@katz

Xie actually showed up in vol 4. But Karolina left with xir. Both came back near the end of vol 6, and Xavin’s in 7. Remember the Skrull that came in halfway through vol 4? That was xir.

pecunium
10 years ago

I don’t recall the line in the Bible where someone asks Jesus a question and he responds “Fuck off you piece of shit and go away!”

Let me help you out: Mark 7: 21-26

Then Jesus went thence, and departed into the coasts of Tyre and Sidon. And, behold, a woman of Canaan came out of the same coasts, and cried unto him, saying, Have mercy on me, O Lord, thou Son of David; my daughter is grievously vexed with a devil. But he answered her not a word. And his disciples came and besought him, saying, Send her away; for she crieth after us. But he answered and said, I am not sent but unto the lost sheep of the house of Israel. Then came she and worshipped him, saying, Lord, help me. But he answered and said, It is not meet to take the children’s bread, and to cast it to dogs.

Hope that helped.

BTW… that whole, “we don’t know how they rejected them, so we don’t know of there is any reason for women to be afraid”… Three women shot at for saying the wouldn’t have sex with a dude

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

@katz

I miss-remembered. Xavin appears in vol 5. Oops!

Stevie
Stevie
10 years ago

Erin Williams

I’m sorry, because I wish I could believe it, but I do not believe that this is a teeny, tiny minority who have no influence on regular men. Regrettably their size and influence is very obvious indeed in the sheer number of people who crowd the MRA forums and the PUA sites, crowing over mass murder because women have got what’s coming to them, and of course those bitches deserved it.

Facebook doesn’t have a problem with Elliot Rodgers having a page dedicated to him as an American hero, notwithstanding the fact that he’s a mass murderer; Facebook is not exactly some remote outcrop of a little village: it’s main lined into US culture, and it sees nothing wrong with the dreadful trampling on the graves of those who were murdered, nor the hospital beds of those who managed to survive.

I appreciate that life would be easier if we could persuade ourselves that this is just one bad person, but it’s delusional; anyone removing their rose tinted spectacles can see it perfectly clearly.

sparky
sparky
10 years ago

rancid apparently also wants us to read and do book reports so he can figure out if these books are worth his time.

Instead of, y’know, just reading the books himself. Or looking at book reviews.

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