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Pickup artists argue that "Game" is the solution to Elliot Rodger-style rampages. Here’s why they’re wrong.

From Elliot Rodger's Google+ Profile
From Elliot Rodger’s Google+ Profile

Pickup artists, classy fellows that they are, are using Elliot Rodger’s killing rampage as a marketing ploy. In the comments to one of Rodger’s videos on YouTube, a company called Strategic Dating Coach offered their solution to prevent similar shootings in the future: send disturbed young men who can’t get dates to one of their coaching sessions!

THIS is why we do what we do. TO PREVENT THIS SHIT!!! Could couldn't experience it because he didn't learn to attract women. He should have gone to our website and got our personal dating coaching or purchased one of our products. IF ANYONE NEEDS HELP, CONTACT US! Don’t do anything stupid.

While this response to Rodger’s mass killing is uniquely crass, the argument that “Game saves lives” is hardly new. To PUAs like Heartiste and Roosh Valizadeh it’s practically an article of faith.

In the wake of George Sodini’s murderous shooting spree in a Pennsylvania gym in 2009, Heartiste (then known as Roissy) wrote

If Sodini had learned game he would have been able to find another woman and gotten laid after his ex dumped him. He wouldn’t have spent the next 20 years steeped in bile and weighed down by his Sisyphian blue balls, dreaming of vengeance. Game could have saved the lives of the women Sodini killed.

The fact that Sodini had in fact imbibed in the alleged wisdom of pickup artistry, going so far as attending a pricey seminar from old-school pickup guru R. Don Steele, a self-proclaimed expert on dating young women, didn’t lead any in the pickup community to reconsider this position.

Nor has it this time. It is clear that Elliot Rodger was steeped in “red pill” thinking about women. And while he wasn’t himself a PUA, he was certainly aware of the basics of “Game.” Indeed, he subscribed to a number of PUA channels on YouTube and was a regular commenter on PUAhate, a sleazy forum devoted to criticizing “game,” not because it is manipulative and misogynistic but because it doesn’t work.

On the Roosh V forum earlier today, Roosh acknowledged that Rodger knew at least a little about “red pill” ideology – noting that Rodger referred to himself as an”alpha” – but still went ahead and argued that Game was the solution to massacres like this:

He is self-delusional and massively entitled, but exposing him to game may have saved lives.

In a followup comment, Roosh expressed his concerns for the real victims of this tragedy – Pickup artists:

I’m trying to think of ways our enemies will come after us because of this, but if anything, we’re the solution to this sort of murder rampage. This is the society that progressives wanted, where women are fully able to choose the top 10% of alpha males while shaming masculinity, leaving beta males with modest resources in the dust. Of course they will simply push a ban on guns, but this wholly neglects the cause. Seven people died because this guy couldn’t get laid … .

Other commenters were quick to agree. According to someone known as Moma,

Roosh has a very valid point. This will continue to replay over and over again. As human beings, our wiring is very basic yet primal. …

When have you last heard of a porn star shooting up a place? How many have emptied their balls in a hot lizard and then felt the urge to go and smoke 50 strangers?

According to Samseau, the problem wasn’t that Rodger hadn’t heard the Game Gospel; the problem was that he had rejected his salvation:

He knew about Game. If he had an account on PUAHATE then he knew about game. He was just a denialist. There was no helping this dude.

Roosh seconded this bit of wisdom, seeing it as clear evidence that “game denialism kills.”

Michelin, for his part, hoped that PUAs would be able to use the massacre as a publicity bonanza and a great “told you so” to all the haters.

One should write a mainstream article about this case. The argument that game could have saved lives can be an eye-opener and a smash in the face to haters of game.

Tuthmosis, the man best known for a Return of Kings post on the “5 Reasons to Date a Girl With An Eating Disorder,” reported his joy that PUAhate was getting bad press:

Seeing your enemies fall is a delicious treat you only get to taste a few times in your life. I’m savoring this delicacy with a cup of freshly brewed coffee. It’s a shame real people had to lose their lives, but I can’t help but think this will discredit a horrible website, PUAHate–and a way of thinking–that could have harmed even more men and innocent people. Beta losers will never go away, but this will wake up a few men and, more importantly, scare others.

Zelcorpion blamed “girls” and MGTOWers for giving Rodgers bad dating advice:

I bet a few girls told him that he only needs to be himself, be nice, be a gentleman, have a nice car, looks etc. – only to realize that it mattered shit. Instead of learning from the PUA-community he chose to listen to PUAhaters and some of the anti-female comments of the MGTOWs who themselves are often refusing to accept Game or even basic concepts like Alpha/Beta. I think that problem will become way worse, since hypergamy and promiscuity will only increase and most men will be left in the sexual wasteland.

But it took a relative newcomer to the forum by the handle of thedavidgt to raise the obvious logical objection to the Game-for-everybody solution to incel rage:

If every sexless beta in the world took it upon himself to learn game, approach girls, lift, dress well etc, would it not simply feed women’s egos and entitlement? So instead of occasionally getting awkwardly hit on by skinny fat, poor-dressed chumps, the average 7 would then be approached several times a day by extremely high value men. We’ll have a society of men working to improve themselves for women who will get lazier and lazier while at the same time demanding more and more.

In fact, the “Game saves lives” mantra is dead wrong, but not for this reason. First of all, there is no clear evidence that “game,” per se, works, except insofar as it encourages men to pursue large numbers of women and numb them to the pain of rejection. It’s possible that a few of the conversational ploys invented by various PUAs may work better than having no conversational ploys at all. But there are no magic cheat codes to “getting with women.”

There is one more disturbing way in which “game” may increase “success” with women for unscrupulous men: many of the standard techniques of “game”– invading a woman’s personal space, touching her repeatedly, trying to “isolate” her from her friends – may serve as “tests” to find women who are less likely to resist violations of their boundaries. In this way, “game” may serve as a quite effective enabler of date rape. Indeed Roosh himself has admitted to raping a date too drunk to consent.

So how much of a solution is training a guy who is already filled with a toxic mixture of entitlement and self-loathing (yes, these strange bedfellows do often go together) in some techniques that might help him to tamp down his insecurities enough to manipulate some willing or not-so-willing women into bed?

You might have simply turned a mass killer into a serial rapist, or possibly a serial killer. Ted Bundy was quite the charmer. Somehow this didn’t make him a decent human being.

Even if “game” were the beneficient form of “self-improvement” that some of its proponents like to claim it is, teaching Rodger how to be a better dater would not make him a better person. Would having a girlfriend solve all his problems? Hardly. Relationships require patience and compromise and mutual respect, and Rodger seems to have had none of these qualities. Instead of directing his narcissistic rage at “girls” at large, he would likely have ended up abusing a string of girlfriends.

The problem wasn’t Rodger’s lack of “Game.” It was his lack of humanity.

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kittehserf
10 years ago

I’m thinking of using elaborating as a euphemism now. 😉

weirwoodtreehugger
weirwoodtreehugger
10 years ago

I got too creeped out and had to nope away for a little while, but did anyone else see the implied threat in Ronnie’s post? It seemed like he was implying that we should be grateful to PUAs for *only* trying to manipulate and coerce women into sex because the only other option is for men to rape and murder us. It felt like a do what we want or you’ll be sorry statement. If we complain about PUAs and turn them away, we’ll leave them no choice but to turn to rape or murder.

Maybe I’m being oversensitive because this whole thing has me upset, but that’s how the post read to me.

Shiraz
Shiraz
10 years ago

“…They are worse than feminists…”

Um, hello? We’re the good guys.

OK, goodnight, everyone.

brooked
10 years ago

@Cassandrakitty

(Blinks)

Well, you can’t say that their theories aren’t elaborate.

This comment genuinely cheered me up after slogging through all the Roger aftermath. It’s the healing power of snark!

kittehserf
10 years ago

Yeah, Ronnie’s post was basically that rape by coercion is the default, the good thing we should be grateful for, or teh poor menz will be forced to use even more physically violent rape, or murder us.

And men like him wonder why women avoid them.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

This doesn’t mean that I have to wear my underpants on the outside like a superhero, right?

Shiraz
Shiraz
10 years ago

No, weirwoodtreehugger. Ronnie’s very effing confused — and misguided. In short, be afraid, be very afraid.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

Misogyny has always been a protection racket. Do what we say or we’ll hurt you.

kittehserf
10 years ago

This doesn’t mean that I have to wear my underpants on the outside like a superhero, right?

Well, it depends … are they underpants worth showing off?

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

You have seen my shoes and my bras, right?

(Um, that sounds kind of bad. You know what I mean, dammit.)

kittehserf
10 years ago

LOL yes!

Robert
Robert
10 years ago

Ronnie, “The Screwfly Solution” by James Tiptree, Jr.* was a work of fiction, not a how-to manual.

*a/k/a Alice Sheldon.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

Aw, little Ronnie is all upset now. I think he needs some ice cream.

David, did you know that we’re all here on your blog because our parents had sex? Wise words from Ronnie, there. I know that when my parents were getting busy they were definitely thinking about the internet that would some day exist, with blogs on it.

(In other news, both my parents are Al Gore.)

Shadow
Shadow
10 years ago

@cassandra

I knew you were awesome, but I never realised you were a biological miracle. Your Al Gores must be really proud!

A. Nuran
A. Nuran
10 years ago

“Fuck me or I’ll kill you” – the battle cry of the MRA
In the real world we call this rape and terrorism

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

My Al Gores bring all the PUA trolls to the yard, apparently. He’s so hilariously pouty! Did you see the last comment?

Kim
Kim
10 years ago

is NATURAL the new ON THE BEACH?

Shadow
Shadow
10 years ago

@Cassandra

I just read it after you mentioned it. I am a heterosexual male that is disinterested in relationships and solely relies on random hookups!! Flay me with your feminist whips mammotheers!! Flay me good!!!

@Kim

Natural is the old ON THE BEACH!!! Don’t you know that all our trolls hook up with NATURAL 36 DDDDDDDD MODELS who are impressed by tbeir natural alphaness. Also, OT, but I seem to recall you saying you lived in the Gold Coast, in which case you have ALL MY ENVY!!! And I would switch places with you through my computer screen if I could.

Also, am I the only one that keeps having to open a new window in order to post to this thread?

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

I want to know if they teach the art of capslock emphasis in PUA school. GREAT GUYS all seem to do it when they want us to know how NATURAL they are.

titianblue
titianblue
10 years ago

And Racnad, as well as a sense of humour, has a more than passing acquaintance with PUA sites. Although not with self-help books for men, apparently.

It’s funny, I went onto Amazon and search for “self help” in books and got a ton of books not aimed specifically at women. Also “self help relationships”. Also “self help dating”. Curiously, the first PUA book only turned up on the first page of that final search. It was 13th though.

So yes, books are on the internet. And no, PUA sites aren’t the “ONLY” place young men can go for help.

Leah
Leah
10 years ago

I can’t believe Roosh V and others game douches would use this tragedy to promote their stupid books and pick uo techniquies. God, these people disgust me.

kittehserf
10 years ago

Roosh, aka “You don’t have to be a murderer! Buy my book and you can be a rapist instead!”

Nick Kavanagh
10 years ago

In reply to Michelle’s post several pages back about being desirable to chubby chasers (a term I don’t particularly care for), and how the men who like the thin, blonde barbie shame men who like a thicker woman, you are one hundred percent right. I realized in my second year of puberty or so, that I was attracted to bigger women. I’ve dated big, small, in between. I’ve dated these women because I was interested in them, not just their physical being. The difference being, when I dated a thin girl, a (PUA) 7, I got admiring glances from other men. When I was dating a sturdy woman (my ex-wife, for example), I was generally judged as a beta, and got smirks from men like Roosh. The mantle of being a “Chubby Chaser” is not an easy one to take on in High School, but I’ve thought every woman I’ve dated was beautiful. So when men made/make fun of me (my friends don’t), it rolls off my back now. I KNOW I’m with the prettiest girl in the room.

AM
AM
10 years ago

So, Pecunium the mansplainer admits to daydreaming about murdering his ex, but still the clique just loves him. I’m getting shades of Schwizer here.

johnny
johnny
10 years ago

Tuthmosis’ reaction just proves that PUAhate correctly exposed him, otherwise why else would he view PUAhate as “his enemy”. Nobody ever heard of the guy a year ago, but after he was exposed he denied it repeatedly, but his behavior changed dramatically. This just confirms my suspicion that they correctly exposed him. Would you call someone your enemy if they thought you were some random dude on the internet? Hardly.

BTW, I have inside info about PUAhate. It’s not down. It’s just that the owner is not gonna pay bandwidth for all these Lucky Lous coming from the Daily Mail. Smart move. I wouldn’t want to pay for idiot Daily Mail readers clicking on my site either. It’ll be back up soon.

Every future school shooter will post somewhere on the internet. Most websites will ban anyone who repeatedly posts opinions they don’t like, and so they go and post where there’s a more open attitude towards saying whatever you please: 4chan, bodybuilding.com and puahate. Elliot was generally treated with ridicule on PUAhate and his last post involved telling everyone to fuck off because they didn’t agree he was as good looking as he thought he was. The guy came to these websites with his views already in place. He just wanted confirmation, and on some he got it, and some he didn’t.

Blaming websites is stupid. The police interviewed Elliot Rodger and let him go. that’s where the blame begins. If we can spot his creepiness, why couldn’t the police? Who gave him the guns, etc.

There were no websites around when Valerie Solanas, a radical feminist attempted to murder Andy Warhol. Her manifesto – “Society Cutting up Men” was written before the first web page existed. However there was a rich feminist culture. Do you blame feminism? Of course not. She was diagnosed a paranoid schizo. That was the cause.

Hatred and lack of humanity is not confined to misogynistic forums. It pours out of this blog too, but behind a mask of moral superiority. Having humanity isn’t just caring for innocent people, it’s caring for sick people, angry people, deranged people. If you pick and chose who you show your humanity towards then you’re not all that different from these hate filled people. Anyone can come up with reasons to hate someone. It’s a lot harder to look for the humanity in the people you hate, and I don’t really see much of that in these blog comments.

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