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Pickup artists argue that "Game" is the solution to Elliot Rodger-style rampages. Here’s why they’re wrong.

From Elliot Rodger's Google+ Profile
From Elliot Rodger’s Google+ Profile

Pickup artists, classy fellows that they are, are using Elliot Rodger’s killing rampage as a marketing ploy. In the comments to one of Rodger’s videos on YouTube, a company called Strategic Dating Coach offered their solution to prevent similar shootings in the future: send disturbed young men who can’t get dates to one of their coaching sessions!

THIS is why we do what we do. TO PREVENT THIS SHIT!!! Could couldn't experience it because he didn't learn to attract women. He should have gone to our website and got our personal dating coaching or purchased one of our products. IF ANYONE NEEDS HELP, CONTACT US! Don’t do anything stupid.

While this response to Rodger’s mass killing is uniquely crass, the argument that “Game saves lives” is hardly new. To PUAs like Heartiste and Roosh Valizadeh it’s practically an article of faith.

In the wake of George Sodini’s murderous shooting spree in a Pennsylvania gym in 2009, Heartiste (then known as Roissy) wrote

If Sodini had learned game he would have been able to find another woman and gotten laid after his ex dumped him. He wouldn’t have spent the next 20 years steeped in bile and weighed down by his Sisyphian blue balls, dreaming of vengeance. Game could have saved the lives of the women Sodini killed.

The fact that Sodini had in fact imbibed in the alleged wisdom of pickup artistry, going so far as attending a pricey seminar from old-school pickup guru R. Don Steele, a self-proclaimed expert on dating young women, didn’t lead any in the pickup community to reconsider this position.

Nor has it this time. It is clear that Elliot Rodger was steeped in “red pill” thinking about women. And while he wasn’t himself a PUA, he was certainly aware of the basics of “Game.” Indeed, he subscribed to a number of PUA channels on YouTube and was a regular commenter on PUAhate, a sleazy forum devoted to criticizing “game,” not because it is manipulative and misogynistic but because it doesn’t work.

On the Roosh V forum earlier today, Roosh acknowledged that Rodger knew at least a little about “red pill” ideology – noting that Rodger referred to himself as an”alpha” – but still went ahead and argued that Game was the solution to massacres like this:

He is self-delusional and massively entitled, but exposing him to game may have saved lives.

In a followup comment, Roosh expressed his concerns for the real victims of this tragedy – Pickup artists:

I’m trying to think of ways our enemies will come after us because of this, but if anything, we’re the solution to this sort of murder rampage. This is the society that progressives wanted, where women are fully able to choose the top 10% of alpha males while shaming masculinity, leaving beta males with modest resources in the dust. Of course they will simply push a ban on guns, but this wholly neglects the cause. Seven people died because this guy couldn’t get laid … .

Other commenters were quick to agree. According to someone known as Moma,

Roosh has a very valid point. This will continue to replay over and over again. As human beings, our wiring is very basic yet primal. …

When have you last heard of a porn star shooting up a place? How many have emptied their balls in a hot lizard and then felt the urge to go and smoke 50 strangers?

According to Samseau, the problem wasn’t that Rodger hadn’t heard the Game Gospel; the problem was that he had rejected his salvation:

He knew about Game. If he had an account on PUAHATE then he knew about game. He was just a denialist. There was no helping this dude.

Roosh seconded this bit of wisdom, seeing it as clear evidence that “game denialism kills.”

Michelin, for his part, hoped that PUAs would be able to use the massacre as a publicity bonanza and a great “told you so” to all the haters.

One should write a mainstream article about this case. The argument that game could have saved lives can be an eye-opener and a smash in the face to haters of game.

Tuthmosis, the man best known for a Return of Kings post on the “5 Reasons to Date a Girl With An Eating Disorder,” reported his joy that PUAhate was getting bad press:

Seeing your enemies fall is a delicious treat you only get to taste a few times in your life. I’m savoring this delicacy with a cup of freshly brewed coffee. It’s a shame real people had to lose their lives, but I can’t help but think this will discredit a horrible website, PUAHate–and a way of thinking–that could have harmed even more men and innocent people. Beta losers will never go away, but this will wake up a few men and, more importantly, scare others.

Zelcorpion blamed “girls” and MGTOWers for giving Rodgers bad dating advice:

I bet a few girls told him that he only needs to be himself, be nice, be a gentleman, have a nice car, looks etc. – only to realize that it mattered shit. Instead of learning from the PUA-community he chose to listen to PUAhaters and some of the anti-female comments of the MGTOWs who themselves are often refusing to accept Game or even basic concepts like Alpha/Beta. I think that problem will become way worse, since hypergamy and promiscuity will only increase and most men will be left in the sexual wasteland.

But it took a relative newcomer to the forum by the handle of thedavidgt to raise the obvious logical objection to the Game-for-everybody solution to incel rage:

If every sexless beta in the world took it upon himself to learn game, approach girls, lift, dress well etc, would it not simply feed women’s egos and entitlement? So instead of occasionally getting awkwardly hit on by skinny fat, poor-dressed chumps, the average 7 would then be approached several times a day by extremely high value men. We’ll have a society of men working to improve themselves for women who will get lazier and lazier while at the same time demanding more and more.

In fact, the “Game saves lives” mantra is dead wrong, but not for this reason. First of all, there is no clear evidence that “game,” per se, works, except insofar as it encourages men to pursue large numbers of women and numb them to the pain of rejection. It’s possible that a few of the conversational ploys invented by various PUAs may work better than having no conversational ploys at all. But there are no magic cheat codes to “getting with women.”

There is one more disturbing way in which “game” may increase “success” with women for unscrupulous men: many of the standard techniques of “game”– invading a woman’s personal space, touching her repeatedly, trying to “isolate” her from her friends – may serve as “tests” to find women who are less likely to resist violations of their boundaries. In this way, “game” may serve as a quite effective enabler of date rape. Indeed Roosh himself has admitted to raping a date too drunk to consent.

So how much of a solution is training a guy who is already filled with a toxic mixture of entitlement and self-loathing (yes, these strange bedfellows do often go together) in some techniques that might help him to tamp down his insecurities enough to manipulate some willing or not-so-willing women into bed?

You might have simply turned a mass killer into a serial rapist, or possibly a serial killer. Ted Bundy was quite the charmer. Somehow this didn’t make him a decent human being.

Even if “game” were the beneficient form of “self-improvement” that some of its proponents like to claim it is, teaching Rodger how to be a better dater would not make him a better person. Would having a girlfriend solve all his problems? Hardly. Relationships require patience and compromise and mutual respect, and Rodger seems to have had none of these qualities. Instead of directing his narcissistic rage at “girls” at large, he would likely have ended up abusing a string of girlfriends.

The problem wasn’t Rodger’s lack of “Game.” It was his lack of humanity.

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kittehserf
10 years ago

Michelle, this one’s for an elephant, but with the right material, would it work for a mammoth?

http://cdnpix.com/show/imgs/2bf4aeffdd402bf31564ff4613b50aa6.jpg

kittehserf
10 years ago

LOL I’m imagining Revenge Rogaine, for regrowing hair in defiance of nitwits who want someone to shave.

Michelle C Young
10 years ago

Clydesdale ankles and Hobbit toes? That actually sounds nice, when you describe it like that.

But with all the issues, yeah, you probably don’t want to go out in the sun, without any support. That could be painful.

dustedeste
dustedeste
10 years ago

Ah, it’s fine about my family, really! I live on the other side of the continent from them now, and in a different country, so I rarely see them but on Skype these days. As long as I don’t mention my leg hair to them there, I’m pretty safe from them commenting on it, haha. Though my mom and sister will whine about me painting my nails to dark on occasion, or my nails being too long, but whatever, I can just turn them off, now. Ooops! Skype dropped the call! Oh no, internet problems! Too bad!

As far as leg exfoliation goes: I use a mix of coconut or olive oil infused with lemon peel, sugar, and lemon juice as an exfoliating scrub. I also use this on my face and arms, but I don’t know that I would recommend that (especially the face), unless you almost never have trouble with oily skin (I’ve literally never had a breakout in my life, just for perspective on how I slather my face in oil every few days and with no resulting problems).

Michelle C Young
10 years ago

Yeah, if I can get that printed to a bigger scale, and get some furry cloth, I could probably make it work. It’s worth a try, at least.

Then, I just have to rig up some sort of decorative saddle, with quotation marks on the sides.

dustedeste
dustedeste
10 years ago

Ooooh, if you knitted the elephant pattern with brown yarn, the kind that has longer hairs sticking off it! Aaah, it would be so cute and shaggy! <3

Michelle C Young
10 years ago

@dustedeste – Good for the Skype thing.

Your nails? Really?

That scrub sounds delightful. I’ll have to try that as a body-scrub.

For my face, I’ll wash it, and rinse it, and while the skin is still wet, I put on lemon juice, then I put on my favorite lotion and go to sleep. In the morning, I rinse with cool water and a washcloth, to give just enough exfoliation. I love the way it makes my skin feel!

I’ve tried lots of things, but that works for my own skin. YMMV

kittehserf
10 years ago

There are lots of knitted mammoths on the net, from what I just saw. So many toy mammoths of whatever sort are soooo cute!
Soft Toy Mammoth search result

My favourite

http://offsite2.seriousshops.com/53/10/1020/1020_main_400x400.jpg

Michelle C Young
10 years ago

@dustedeste – Yes, brown eyelash yarn would look nice. However, my experience with that yarn is that I dare not make a mistake, because ripping it out is a pain in the neck, and sometimes impossible.

However, my experience with that yarn is also that it is absolutely delightful to pet and caress that fur.

Hmmm, now I’m torn.

Michelle C Young
10 years ago

@kittehserf – OMG! That’s perfect! Do you have a pattern for that? I love that picture.

Michelle C Young
10 years ago

I just realized it’s almost 11, and I have left my laundry in the machine for nearly twelve hours.

Guess it’s time to get off now.

But thanks for the uplifting conversation, people!

Kim
Kim
10 years ago

I love having leg hair (and feeling it waft in the breeze!)

Whereas I find that sensation really odd, but like the feel of breeze on smooth legs. 🙂 Even though I much prefer smooth legs and arms on myself, I am also lazy and shave rarely nowadays. No one has ever commented that I recall – even when I am in a bikini. (I have fairly unobtrusive body hair though, so maybe no one has actually noticed). Except my boyfriend who has made it clear that no matter what I do or don’t do to myself I would not be able to put him off. 🙂

brooked
10 years ago

Let me tell you, to empathize a bit with this psycho, feeling totally rejected by the opposite sex HURTS. Like, a deep down physical pain that stabs you day in and day out.

I don’t want to defend PUA sites as a whole because from what little I’ve seen there is a lot of misogynist garbage on some of them, but not all are that way. But like it or not they are the ONLY people offering help to young men who feel ignored by women.

NotBuddist and Rcnad’s unfailing concern for men exactly like themselves reminds how ironic it is that TeRPers, PUAs and the MRAs call women “solipsistic”. That rhetorical feat requires more projection than all the movie theaters in the world combined.

@David
Seriously, the first time anyone in the Manoshere suggests that women are as human as they are and/or expresses an ounce of sympathy for any women, please make a post commemorating the moment. I want to know exactly when I should die from shock.

kittehserf
10 years ago

Michelle, I don’t know if there’s a pattern or it’s a toy to buy, but I’ll have a dig round – catch you later, sleep well! 🙂

PS you can call me kittehs, if you like.

Kim
Kim
10 years ago

I could make a stuff mammoth toy pattern, but how to make it a blockquote mammoth?

contrapangloss
contrapangloss
10 years ago

My take: I’d never as my future partner to shave, anywhere.

If they want to shave, for themselves, we’re good. But, I don’t want them to shave for me.

I don’t want my significant other to feel like something that horribly tedious is something they have to do, out of love. Love shouldn’t be tedious.

brooked
10 years ago

I just had a epiphany about killing people. What if most people who want to seriously harm or kill people are deterred by the fear of getting caught, being condemned as a criminal and thrown in jail? Can I patent my trailblazing new theory?

Kim
Kim
10 years ago

Oh, felt badges would also be cool. You can make them in the style of merit badges like this –>comment image?1361387415

Or more general like this –> https://www.etsy.com/au/listing/102775825/felt-badge-felt-pin-kids-badge-fox-pin

dustedeste
dustedeste
10 years ago

@Kim:

Yeah, the wafting was really weird when I first started experiencing it, but it really grew on me!

(Not sorry, not sorry at all for that.)

dustedeste
dustedeste
10 years ago

@Michelle:

My family is big into policing gender roles (my sister and I were once grounded for a month for dressing our younger brother up in a dress and makeup and doing his hair up in clipsat his request), and part of that is just policing all women ever. So yeah, if my nails aren’t what they consider aesthetically pleasing, they view it as their duty to chastise me. Also to constantly give me diet advice that I didn’t ask for.

Obvs my family is not the healthiest environment, and I have a lot of issues with them, and I am glad to be able to hold them at arms’ length without them thinking I’m doing it deliberately. But I don’t really want to spend all night bemoaning my relations, so I’m going to stop talking about them now, and instead exclaim about how ridiculously delicious the sugar scrub smells, especially when made with coconut oil. Like, really, really, so good, you don’t even know! And your skin feels all soft and nice and comfy after using it. It’s also nice on feet and elbows if they get dried out and knarly-feeling.

kittehserf
10 years ago

Kim – would the Blockquote Mammoth be trampling words, or chewing them up, maybe?

melissaangelik
10 years ago

There are new videos on his channel barely a day old. This can’t be the guy or it’s fake.

Ronnie Libra
10 years ago

So the idea is, in the author’s opinion, Men should either become frustrated killers OR they should become Rapists. So basically, in your opinion, the entire species of males that like women should be wiped off the face of the earth OR they should just not ever desire women or want sex. I know I’m elaborating on your attitude (maybe) but what do you suggest? Do we just BAR men from ever attempting to improve their lives when it comes to their abilities to meet and attract women? Just because you bastardize and corrupt the actual concepts and meanings of what a “dating” or “pickup” community teaches, or you cherry pick the worst of the worst from some nitwit from a Blind leading the Blind site like Seddit (reddit seduction), and just because you feel so much fear and hate in yourself for others, that you project that onto others, assuming that everyone wanting to improve their ability to meet women are malevolent (think like you do), that NO ONE would EVER want to do so out of LOVE for women and wanting to share their lives with them MORE…. So basically men are, according to you, wanna-be rapists, or they are frustrated psychopaths that could go off on a rampage any second?

Males that want women but are not lucky in the “attractiveness” sense should just deal with it, because if they try to change their lot in life and improve themselves they are misogynist and part of a rape culture. By no means are they just men who love women and would like to improve their ability to meet, attract and interact with them.

Males who do not or can not get better with women are basically creepy, murderer types who at any moment could go on a killing spree.

So, basically, in your opinion – pretty much all men are evil. If they try to get women, they are evil. If they can’t get women, they are evil. If the do get women, well I’m sure those guys are evil too.

This idiot killer was part of PUAHATE – He was AGAINST the movement of men trying to improve themselves. He didn’t believe it worked. He was an angry victim. Instead of trying to improve himself he just hated the people who did try to improve themselves. In a way, he and the author of this blog are absolutely the same. They hate people who are trying to improve their dating lives. They both hate these individuals for the same reason – because they want to have more women in their lives. One hates out of jealousy and envy, the other out of fear and ignorance with a combination of “holier than thou” oppression of those who would DARE try to become more successful in their dating lives. Which is better?

pecunium
10 years ago

Let me tell you, to empathize a bit with this psycho, feeling totally rejected by the opposite sex HURTS. Like, a deep down physical pain that stabs you day in and day out.

And this is some sort of reason to excuse any aspect of his response to it?

I’ve been rejected. I’ve had women treat me shabbily. I’ve even had homicidal ideations (she was treating me really badly, and I was in both an emotional, and finacially, vulnerable situation. I couldn’t get away. It was bad). But you know what… I knew they weren’t rational responses. Killing her wouldn’t fix the problem. The fantasies I was having weren’t going to make life better.

Killing her would have been wrong. She wasn’t posing a physical threat to me. Yes, I wanted to be away from her. No, I wasn’t able to get away from her. But I knew that the ideas I had weren’t good ideas (and it wasn’t until much later that I could see them for the sort of psychic coping mechanism they were).

But what I didn’t have was an actual seething ball of hate. Absent special circumstances (e.g self-defense) their isn’t any reason to kill someone.

So what sort of empathy is there? Esp. since his idea of rejection is that women he didn’t know didn’t come up and say, “fuck me senseless, you Alpha-Stud!”.

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