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Pickup artists argue that "Game" is the solution to Elliot Rodger-style rampages. Here’s why they’re wrong.

From Elliot Rodger's Google+ Profile
From Elliot Rodger’s Google+ Profile

Pickup artists, classy fellows that they are, are using Elliot Rodger’s killing rampage as a marketing ploy. In the comments to one of Rodger’s videos on YouTube, a company called Strategic Dating Coach offered their solution to prevent similar shootings in the future: send disturbed young men who can’t get dates to one of their coaching sessions!

THIS is why we do what we do. TO PREVENT THIS SHIT!!! Could couldn't experience it because he didn't learn to attract women. He should have gone to our website and got our personal dating coaching or purchased one of our products. IF ANYONE NEEDS HELP, CONTACT US! Don’t do anything stupid.

While this response to Rodger’s mass killing is uniquely crass, the argument that “Game saves lives” is hardly new. To PUAs like Heartiste and Roosh Valizadeh it’s practically an article of faith.

In the wake of George Sodini’s murderous shooting spree in a Pennsylvania gym in 2009, Heartiste (then known as Roissy) wrote

If Sodini had learned game he would have been able to find another woman and gotten laid after his ex dumped him. He wouldn’t have spent the next 20 years steeped in bile and weighed down by his Sisyphian blue balls, dreaming of vengeance. Game could have saved the lives of the women Sodini killed.

The fact that Sodini had in fact imbibed in the alleged wisdom of pickup artistry, going so far as attending a pricey seminar from old-school pickup guru R. Don Steele, a self-proclaimed expert on dating young women, didn’t lead any in the pickup community to reconsider this position.

Nor has it this time. It is clear that Elliot Rodger was steeped in “red pill” thinking about women. And while he wasn’t himself a PUA, he was certainly aware of the basics of “Game.” Indeed, he subscribed to a number of PUA channels on YouTube and was a regular commenter on PUAhate, a sleazy forum devoted to criticizing “game,” not because it is manipulative and misogynistic but because it doesn’t work.

On the Roosh V forum earlier today, Roosh acknowledged that Rodger knew at least a little about “red pill” ideology – noting that Rodger referred to himself as an”alpha” – but still went ahead and argued that Game was the solution to massacres like this:

He is self-delusional and massively entitled, but exposing him to game may have saved lives.

In a followup comment, Roosh expressed his concerns for the real victims of this tragedy – Pickup artists:

I’m trying to think of ways our enemies will come after us because of this, but if anything, we’re the solution to this sort of murder rampage. This is the society that progressives wanted, where women are fully able to choose the top 10% of alpha males while shaming masculinity, leaving beta males with modest resources in the dust. Of course they will simply push a ban on guns, but this wholly neglects the cause. Seven people died because this guy couldn’t get laid … .

Other commenters were quick to agree. According to someone known as Moma,

Roosh has a very valid point. This will continue to replay over and over again. As human beings, our wiring is very basic yet primal. …

When have you last heard of a porn star shooting up a place? How many have emptied their balls in a hot lizard and then felt the urge to go and smoke 50 strangers?

According to Samseau, the problem wasn’t that Rodger hadn’t heard the Game Gospel; the problem was that he had rejected his salvation:

He knew about Game. If he had an account on PUAHATE then he knew about game. He was just a denialist. There was no helping this dude.

Roosh seconded this bit of wisdom, seeing it as clear evidence that “game denialism kills.”

Michelin, for his part, hoped that PUAs would be able to use the massacre as a publicity bonanza and a great “told you so” to all the haters.

One should write a mainstream article about this case. The argument that game could have saved lives can be an eye-opener and a smash in the face to haters of game.

Tuthmosis, the man best known for a Return of Kings post on the “5 Reasons to Date a Girl With An Eating Disorder,” reported his joy that PUAhate was getting bad press:

Seeing your enemies fall is a delicious treat you only get to taste a few times in your life. I’m savoring this delicacy with a cup of freshly brewed coffee. It’s a shame real people had to lose their lives, but I can’t help but think this will discredit a horrible website, PUAHate–and a way of thinking–that could have harmed even more men and innocent people. Beta losers will never go away, but this will wake up a few men and, more importantly, scare others.

Zelcorpion blamed “girls” and MGTOWers for giving Rodgers bad dating advice:

I bet a few girls told him that he only needs to be himself, be nice, be a gentleman, have a nice car, looks etc. – only to realize that it mattered shit. Instead of learning from the PUA-community he chose to listen to PUAhaters and some of the anti-female comments of the MGTOWs who themselves are often refusing to accept Game or even basic concepts like Alpha/Beta. I think that problem will become way worse, since hypergamy and promiscuity will only increase and most men will be left in the sexual wasteland.

But it took a relative newcomer to the forum by the handle of thedavidgt to raise the obvious logical objection to the Game-for-everybody solution to incel rage:

If every sexless beta in the world took it upon himself to learn game, approach girls, lift, dress well etc, would it not simply feed women’s egos and entitlement? So instead of occasionally getting awkwardly hit on by skinny fat, poor-dressed chumps, the average 7 would then be approached several times a day by extremely high value men. We’ll have a society of men working to improve themselves for women who will get lazier and lazier while at the same time demanding more and more.

In fact, the “Game saves lives” mantra is dead wrong, but not for this reason. First of all, there is no clear evidence that “game,” per se, works, except insofar as it encourages men to pursue large numbers of women and numb them to the pain of rejection. It’s possible that a few of the conversational ploys invented by various PUAs may work better than having no conversational ploys at all. But there are no magic cheat codes to “getting with women.”

There is one more disturbing way in which “game” may increase “success” with women for unscrupulous men: many of the standard techniques of “game”– invading a woman’s personal space, touching her repeatedly, trying to “isolate” her from her friends – may serve as “tests” to find women who are less likely to resist violations of their boundaries. In this way, “game” may serve as a quite effective enabler of date rape. Indeed Roosh himself has admitted to raping a date too drunk to consent.

So how much of a solution is training a guy who is already filled with a toxic mixture of entitlement and self-loathing (yes, these strange bedfellows do often go together) in some techniques that might help him to tamp down his insecurities enough to manipulate some willing or not-so-willing women into bed?

You might have simply turned a mass killer into a serial rapist, or possibly a serial killer. Ted Bundy was quite the charmer. Somehow this didn’t make him a decent human being.

Even if “game” were the beneficient form of “self-improvement” that some of its proponents like to claim it is, teaching Rodger how to be a better dater would not make him a better person. Would having a girlfriend solve all his problems? Hardly. Relationships require patience and compromise and mutual respect, and Rodger seems to have had none of these qualities. Instead of directing his narcissistic rage at “girls” at large, he would likely have ended up abusing a string of girlfriends.

The problem wasn’t Rodger’s lack of “Game.” It was his lack of humanity.

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Kootiepatra
10 years ago

I’d say the main difference between Rodgers and every other MRA is that Rodgers decided he hated women badly enough to justify killing them.

hellkell
hellkell
10 years ago

I was just at Nordstrom Rack because I needed to take a misandry break and look at pretty shoes, when I heard a guy the aisle over ask the lady he was with if she’d heard about the shooting. He said, “They’re saying he had Asperger’s. That’s not how it works!”

Thank you, random dude in the shoe section for grasping what the vast majority of the internet can’t seem to.

Amnesia
Amnesia
10 years ago

@cassandrakitty and Marie

Relevant

Michelle C Young
10 years ago

@LBT – Thanks for the correction on your pronouns (they for the Raping Year). I’m a bit confused about your history, and wasn’t sure of the chronology of it all. Also, you are the only multiple personality of whom I am aware I know. It’s pretty new to me, but I’m trying to learn.

And I’m really sorry you went through all that. Kudos for hanging on and keeping on. You are quite inspiring to me. From what I’ve read, all of you have gone through so much, and you manage quite well. It seems you’re a better family inside the one body than the original family from which your host was born. (Am I saying that right?)

Heh, I’m sort of glad that you is both singular and plural, because addressing you directly is a bit more convenient. Or do you have a different preference on that score? Please let me know what you prefer.

Also, I can’t email, so I don’t know how to make a request/sponsor a story, but if I can give a writing prompt – Sorceress in a cage. Seems apropos. Don’t feel like you have to, because I don’t want to put payment information in public, and I can’t get my email to work right, just now, so bleh. Even my phone won’t take messages. It’s weird.

My “IT guy,” is doing finals in high school, so I don’t know when I’ll be able to get my tech fixed. I want my nephew to do well in school more than I want to email or update my website.

racnad
racnad
10 years ago

WWTH:

“It is irrelevant whether or not Rodger’s happened to have a diagnosed mental illness. Why is that? Because correlation does not equal causation. This is just very basic logic here.”

By that logic then just because Rodger’s visited MRA/PUA websites does not mean those websites are at fault.

I find it interesting how these kinds of tragedies trigger people into a blame game to scapegoat whatever pet cause they have.

Anti-gun people blame the fact Rogers was able to get a gun. Pro-gun people say that the victims should have had guns so they could shoot back. He was apparently a fan of WoW and Game of Thrones, so some will say it’s violence in the media. The Church of Scientology will blame the psychiatric medications he took, PUAs say he should have taken their “How to pick up girls” class, incels blame girls for rejecting him (though I understand his manifesto says he never actually approached girls), and here they blame the MRA/PUA sites.

There’s one person at fault here, and his name is Elliot Rodger. Take away any one of the so-called “causes” I mentioned, and he would have still been a danger to himself and others.

cloudiah
10 years ago

I went to brunch with my friend today, and I kind of had to school him on the whole mental illness/Asperger’s thing. But he’s not an asshole, so he took it pretty well.

Also heard from an old family friend that her son (who I didn’t realize went to UCSB) was on a street less than a block from Rodgers while he was shooting.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

Being serious for a moment, nothing sums up how completely devoid of any trace of ethics PUAs are quite like the fact there was someone celebrating the fact that those kids died because it might teach a website that he doesn’t like a lesson. Because clearly his stupid little blog war is more important than people’s lives.

Think about that while you’re off in a sulk, Ken.

hellkell
hellkell
10 years ago

Shut up, Rancid.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

Ew, Rancid decided to poop all over this thread too. Here, have a red panda painting with its paws as brain bleach.

Marie
10 years ago

@racnad

There’s one person at fault here, and his name is Elliot Rodger. Take away any one of the so-called “causes” I mentioned, and he would have still been a danger to himself and others.

Yeah, racnad, it’s just a coincidence, that the misogynistic guy who hung around misogynistic sites and left a misogynistic video and a misogynistic ‘manifest’ happened to shoot seven women.

But hey I bet misogyny wasn’t the actually cause, was it?

weirwoodtreehugger
10 years ago

Ffs Rancid. I never said PUA sites were directly to blame. Rodgers was a virulent misogynist and this crap just added fuel to the fire and validated his shit views.

Misogyny is to blame.

Now please fuck away.

Consider that a hard no.

hellkell
hellkell
10 years ago

Yeah, we’re just scapegoating for our pet causes. You know, the one where women shouldn’t have to fear being killed because some entitled fuckwit can’t laid.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

And here is another red panda trying to figure out how to get a…cookie? Off of a pane of glass.

Michelle C Young
10 years ago

For some reason, this reminds me of my dear friend, LM. She amazes me. LM used to be a cop, and she came across her fair share of people with mental illnesses. She was quite good at dealing with them. In fact, other cops would call on her to come deal with them, because she was that good.

When the cops were called for a disruption of the peace, involving someone who was mentally ill, it normally went down violently. Not with LM.

While other cops were struggling to get the people into handcuffs and down to the precinct to deal with them, and maybe get them committed, LM would talk to the people, and agree with them. “Yep, you’re totally right about that. Hey, have you considered…” She would cheerfully enter into their delusions, and somehow convince them that they WANTED to go to the precinct and talk to someone, and possibly even check themselves into a very nice, safe place. She didn’t need handcuffs. She had her understanding, and the people would trustingly, cheerfully, confidently follow her anywhere, secure in the knowledge that she was going to help them get whatever it was they needed. We’re talking about people in full psychotic breaks here, who were freaking out other police officers, because they were so different. Non-normative equaled scary, as far as they were concerned.

Now, when there was someone who was violent, that was a whole different matter. She would take them down and take them in. She didn’t care if they were violent because of rage, revenge, or because little green men told them to cut up anyone wearing purple. She just took them down and off the street.

Violence and mental illness did have to be considered together then, and it doesn’t need to now.

I wish more people could get that. I wish we had more people in positions of power and authority who have LM’s understanding and compassion. LBT, I’ll bet she would have been able to understand you about the bed wanting to eat you. She’s just that good. I wish you had access to someone like that to help you when you needed it most.

She’s a rarity, and I love her.

Stevie
Stevie
10 years ago

Ken L

It may help if you consider the possibility that women have very considerable experience of guys explaining things to them when it is self evident that the guys haven’t a clue what they are going on about. It may be even more helpful if you engage with the possibility that your posts suggest that you haven’t a clue what you are going on about, and that the more you endeavour to explain things the more your cluelessness becomes apparent.

I do feel that you really, really need to do some basic reading on logic, and I commend to you the concept of the excluded middle; this appears to be the source of your confusion on the whole ‘violence is the inevitable result of misogyny’ thesis. There is no logical inconsistency between that thesis and the fact that not all members of a misogynistic culture are mass murderers; you are simply making yourself look silly by claiming otherwise.

Also, one of the more pervasive myths of a misogynistic culture is that women don’t do logic; we do. Again, a man trying to lecture women on logic when it is blindingly obvious that the man in question does not possess even the most elementary knowledge of logic is, unsurprisingly, going to result in that man looking exceedingly silly.

Alex
10 years ago

Fuck, this thread was exhausting. What was that, five trolls? Thankfully, two of them only made one comment, but seriously. Even if you only read the posts here, one would think to read the comments before making your own comment, at the very least, just to gauge the space you’re in. And for those who are fairly regular and already know how people here feel about ableism and armchair diagnoses, just don’t fucking do it! It’s not actually that hard!

sparky
sparky
10 years ago

By that logic then just because Rodger’s visited MRA/PUA websites does not mean those websites are at fault.

He did more than just visit the sites, you fuckwit; he wrote a long, rambling manifesto about how he hates women because (young, thin, blond, white) women won’t sleep with them, and how he’s going to punish them for it. He left a video that says the same exact thing.

Rodger was a misogynist who parroted the same fucking misogynism that PUA’s/MRA’s do. He bought into the ideology.

Now go away, no one wants to talk to you.

Michelle C Young
10 years ago

@Nonservium

Blue pill, red pill – we would all be happier and safer without them.

Right! Everyone knows that green gel-caps are the way to go.

Alex
10 years ago

Should have refreshed. Make that six trolls.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

Did you not read our clear no’s on the other thread, racnad? We did a nice, sweet, delicately feminine one to, just for you. So now you’ve had multiple no’s presented in a variety of formats. Why are you not accepting any of them?

titianblue
titianblue
10 years ago

So Racnad, is your nym a portmanteau of “racist” and “gonad” or is that just a coincidence?

hellkell
hellkell
10 years ago

Rancid says he’ll accept a clear no, but he’s lying. I’m not sure how much clearer we could be, short of finding out where he lives and hiring a skywriter to say FUCK OFF, XOXO WHTM.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

I’d try glove puppets if I thought it would do any good.

hellkell
hellkell
10 years ago

I’m about ready to bust out MS Paint and revive Stick Figure Theater for him.

Lea
Lea
10 years ago

Rancid and Ken L, Go the fuck away.
Go pretend this man killed for reasons other than the ones he explicitly stated, because questioning your own privilege makes it hurt in your thinky place someplace else. We should not have to deal with your stupidity and your clueless entitled douchebaggery. Mansplain away violence toward women on any of the hundreds of sites where you can get away with that. Not here.

You need to leave and not come back.

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