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Pickup artists argue that "Game" is the solution to Elliot Rodger-style rampages. Here’s why they’re wrong.

From Elliot Rodger's Google+ Profile
From Elliot Rodger’s Google+ Profile

Pickup artists, classy fellows that they are, are using Elliot Rodger’s killing rampage as a marketing ploy. In the comments to one of Rodger’s videos on YouTube, a company called Strategic Dating Coach offered their solution to prevent similar shootings in the future: send disturbed young men who can’t get dates to one of their coaching sessions!

THIS is why we do what we do. TO PREVENT THIS SHIT!!! Could couldn't experience it because he didn't learn to attract women. He should have gone to our website and got our personal dating coaching or purchased one of our products. IF ANYONE NEEDS HELP, CONTACT US! Don’t do anything stupid.

While this response to Rodger’s mass killing is uniquely crass, the argument that “Game saves lives” is hardly new. To PUAs like Heartiste and Roosh Valizadeh it’s practically an article of faith.

In the wake of George Sodini’s murderous shooting spree in a Pennsylvania gym in 2009, Heartiste (then known as Roissy) wrote

If Sodini had learned game he would have been able to find another woman and gotten laid after his ex dumped him. He wouldn’t have spent the next 20 years steeped in bile and weighed down by his Sisyphian blue balls, dreaming of vengeance. Game could have saved the lives of the women Sodini killed.

The fact that Sodini had in fact imbibed in the alleged wisdom of pickup artistry, going so far as attending a pricey seminar from old-school pickup guru R. Don Steele, a self-proclaimed expert on dating young women, didn’t lead any in the pickup community to reconsider this position.

Nor has it this time. It is clear that Elliot Rodger was steeped in “red pill” thinking about women. And while he wasn’t himself a PUA, he was certainly aware of the basics of “Game.” Indeed, he subscribed to a number of PUA channels on YouTube and was a regular commenter on PUAhate, a sleazy forum devoted to criticizing “game,” not because it is manipulative and misogynistic but because it doesn’t work.

On the Roosh V forum earlier today, Roosh acknowledged that Rodger knew at least a little about “red pill” ideology – noting that Rodger referred to himself as an”alpha” – but still went ahead and argued that Game was the solution to massacres like this:

He is self-delusional and massively entitled, but exposing him to game may have saved lives.

In a followup comment, Roosh expressed his concerns for the real victims of this tragedy – Pickup artists:

I’m trying to think of ways our enemies will come after us because of this, but if anything, we’re the solution to this sort of murder rampage. This is the society that progressives wanted, where women are fully able to choose the top 10% of alpha males while shaming masculinity, leaving beta males with modest resources in the dust. Of course they will simply push a ban on guns, but this wholly neglects the cause. Seven people died because this guy couldn’t get laid … .

Other commenters were quick to agree. According to someone known as Moma,

Roosh has a very valid point. This will continue to replay over and over again. As human beings, our wiring is very basic yet primal. …

When have you last heard of a porn star shooting up a place? How many have emptied their balls in a hot lizard and then felt the urge to go and smoke 50 strangers?

According to Samseau, the problem wasn’t that Rodger hadn’t heard the Game Gospel; the problem was that he had rejected his salvation:

He knew about Game. If he had an account on PUAHATE then he knew about game. He was just a denialist. There was no helping this dude.

Roosh seconded this bit of wisdom, seeing it as clear evidence that “game denialism kills.”

Michelin, for his part, hoped that PUAs would be able to use the massacre as a publicity bonanza and a great “told you so” to all the haters.

One should write a mainstream article about this case. The argument that game could have saved lives can be an eye-opener and a smash in the face to haters of game.

Tuthmosis, the man best known for a Return of Kings post on the “5 Reasons to Date a Girl With An Eating Disorder,” reported his joy that PUAhate was getting bad press:

Seeing your enemies fall is a delicious treat you only get to taste a few times in your life. I’m savoring this delicacy with a cup of freshly brewed coffee. It’s a shame real people had to lose their lives, but I can’t help but think this will discredit a horrible website, PUAHate–and a way of thinking–that could have harmed even more men and innocent people. Beta losers will never go away, but this will wake up a few men and, more importantly, scare others.

Zelcorpion blamed “girls” and MGTOWers for giving Rodgers bad dating advice:

I bet a few girls told him that he only needs to be himself, be nice, be a gentleman, have a nice car, looks etc. – only to realize that it mattered shit. Instead of learning from the PUA-community he chose to listen to PUAhaters and some of the anti-female comments of the MGTOWs who themselves are often refusing to accept Game or even basic concepts like Alpha/Beta. I think that problem will become way worse, since hypergamy and promiscuity will only increase and most men will be left in the sexual wasteland.

But it took a relative newcomer to the forum by the handle of thedavidgt to raise the obvious logical objection to the Game-for-everybody solution to incel rage:

If every sexless beta in the world took it upon himself to learn game, approach girls, lift, dress well etc, would it not simply feed women’s egos and entitlement? So instead of occasionally getting awkwardly hit on by skinny fat, poor-dressed chumps, the average 7 would then be approached several times a day by extremely high value men. We’ll have a society of men working to improve themselves for women who will get lazier and lazier while at the same time demanding more and more.

In fact, the “Game saves lives” mantra is dead wrong, but not for this reason. First of all, there is no clear evidence that “game,” per se, works, except insofar as it encourages men to pursue large numbers of women and numb them to the pain of rejection. It’s possible that a few of the conversational ploys invented by various PUAs may work better than having no conversational ploys at all. But there are no magic cheat codes to “getting with women.”

There is one more disturbing way in which “game” may increase “success” with women for unscrupulous men: many of the standard techniques of “game”– invading a woman’s personal space, touching her repeatedly, trying to “isolate” her from her friends – may serve as “tests” to find women who are less likely to resist violations of their boundaries. In this way, “game” may serve as a quite effective enabler of date rape. Indeed Roosh himself has admitted to raping a date too drunk to consent.

So how much of a solution is training a guy who is already filled with a toxic mixture of entitlement and self-loathing (yes, these strange bedfellows do often go together) in some techniques that might help him to tamp down his insecurities enough to manipulate some willing or not-so-willing women into bed?

You might have simply turned a mass killer into a serial rapist, or possibly a serial killer. Ted Bundy was quite the charmer. Somehow this didn’t make him a decent human being.

Even if “game” were the beneficient form of “self-improvement” that some of its proponents like to claim it is, teaching Rodger how to be a better dater would not make him a better person. Would having a girlfriend solve all his problems? Hardly. Relationships require patience and compromise and mutual respect, and Rodger seems to have had none of these qualities. Instead of directing his narcissistic rage at “girls” at large, he would likely have ended up abusing a string of girlfriends.

The problem wasn’t Rodger’s lack of “Game.” It was his lack of humanity.

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brooked
10 years ago

Whoops, forgot to blockquote the passage from the article. Sorry.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

Part of the issue here (other than Sauron deciding to wank on at great length when even zie admits that zie isn’t sure why zie was doing that) is that a lot of psych terms have sort of bled into mainstream language, but the way the mainstream uses them doesn’t actually match up with what those terms really mean. The way Sauron was using “psychosis” is a great example – zie seems to have no idea what that word actually means to a psych professional/person with a psych educational background. What LBT was describing, that’s actually psychosis.

Shadow
Shadow
10 years ago

>Sorry you’re so triggered by all of this. //hugs//

I’ll disappoint everyone by coming back just for a second to say that I’m also sorry if I was triggering, and it absolutely was not my intent to stigmatize mental illness.

Flabbergasted! “I know you don’t want to hear from me anymore, but I’m still going to make you hear from me so that I can apologize for not respecting your earlier wishes.”

hellkell
hellkell
10 years ago

“And my apology will still be all about me!”

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

“Boundaries, they mean nothing to me.”

hellkell
hellkell
10 years ago

“Boundaries? Those are just for maps, right?”

misery
misery
10 years ago

@cassandrakitty

Do we really need another round of “I haven’t actually investigated this, but let me make assumptions about it anyway”? It is possible to subscribe to some benign channels and some awful ones at the same time.

God forbid I make a single post defending someone I personally know from association with a mass murderer. It’s more important to hate on pick up artists obviously. Please continue.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

Oh, you know all the people who run the PUA channels that the murderer subscribed to, which is what people were actually talking about? You should have said.

(Anyone want to help me find my eyeballs?)

hellkell
hellkell
10 years ago

Oh, do get off the cross and shut up. There’s no shortage of places you can defend PUAs, but why you would want to defend them, I have no idea.

hellkell
hellkell
10 years ago

cassandra: Sorry, my eyeball locators have rolled off their own selves.

Marie
10 years ago

Wait, is Misery trying to defend PUAs? I’m confused, though maybe I’m trying to give benefit of doubt too hard.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

What we need is a trained eyeball-locating kitten, in keeping with the overall blog theme.

Ledasmom
Ledasmom
10 years ago

Whenever I hear “pickup artist” I try to remember the xkcd with this caption:
“The world seems like a happier place if you think “pickup artist” is like “pickup basketball player”.
May I express my appreciation for the commenters here? It is such a relief to be here, where people don’t make excuses for mass-murderers.

hellkell
hellkell
10 years ago

Biscuit would find them, but we’d ave to spend a long time teaching him to retrieve instead of batting them around the living room.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

Mine has decided to hang out under the bed when she’s not following me around like a duckling recently, no idea why. I don’t think she’d make a very good retrieval kitten.

weirwoodtreehugger
10 years ago

A non misogynist PUA sounds kind of a unicorn to me, but since I’m not familiar with Squatting Casanova I’ll allow for the teensy possibility it truly is harmless. I am extremely skeptical though.

That said, he subscribed to lots of PUA channels and he used language he seemed to have picked up from PUA so how is it a red herring?

Considering all the horrific misogynistic statements he made, I am not buying it when anyone is willing to examine every other possible motive when the obvious one is sitting right out in front of us. Occam’s razor anyone?

weirwoodtreehugger
10 years ago

Sadly, Dracarys would probably eat the eyeballs instead of fetching them. Darrow would just sit and stare at them.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

That’s what I was saying, btw. Even if the murderer subscribed to a channel that wasn’t full of misogyny, that doesn’t mean that the other stuff he was watching and reading couldn’t have contributed to the murders. He was a man, not a demon, and there’s a lot of different stuff on YouTube – having one OK thing on his subscription list doesn’t cancel out all the not-OK stuff.

Ledasmom
Ledasmom
10 years ago

Imagine trying to direct a cat to bring you back your eyeballs, while you’re seeing through the eyeballs that are, at that point, in the cat’s mouth. “Either, Fluffy my dear, you are behind the sofa leg, or I am staring into your vocal cords.”
(Yes, I know Eyeballs Do Not Work That Way. Nevertheless.)

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

“No, don’t chew on that, please. Your toy mouse is the other, less gelatinous thing over there, the one that I don’t need you to give me back.”

Ken L.
10 years ago

@treehugger

It’s temping to use Occam’s Razor here but it’s not enough. something sets guys like Rodgers and the other misogynistic killers apart.I mean we know there are tens of thousands of misogynist and that’s bad enough. however not everyone of them kills. Misogyny is a huge part of the crime but not the only part, there is another maybe unknowable part to all this. in my view.

as for eyeball finding cats, I think i want a animal with less point teeth and claws. Maybe a eyeball turtle,

Ledasmom
Ledasmom
10 years ago

“Will one of you shake the cat-food container already? Fluffy’s under the bed with the eyeballs and I can’t do the left-right thing before coffee.”

Shadow
Shadow
10 years ago

That’s what I was saying, btw. Even if the murderer subscribed to a channel that wasn’t full of misogyny, that doesn’t mean that the other stuff he was watching and reading couldn’t have contributed to the murders. He was a man, not a demon, and there’s a lot of different stuff on YouTube – having one OK thing on his subscription list doesn’t cancel out all the not-OK stuff.

Which really shouldn’t need to be said since misery, as a regular, is fully aware that just because their acquaintance is not someone who dishes out misogynistic advice, doesn’t invalidate the fact that the vast majority of PUA is vitriolic misogyny and that it requires a shitload of unearned benefit of the doubt to assume otherwise without proof.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

@ Shadow

Yup.

brooked
10 years ago

Humanity hits a low point thanks to Fox News.

Fox News ‘expert’ suggests ‘homosexual impulses’ triggered Calif. mass shooting

http://www.rawstory.com/rs/2014/05/25/fox-news-expert-suggests-homosexual-impulses-triggered-calif-mass-shooting/

I give up. Awful people have officially won the internet.

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