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Pickup artists argue that "Game" is the solution to Elliot Rodger-style rampages. Here's why they're wrong.

From Elliot Rodger's Google+ Profile
From Elliot Rodger’s Google+ Profile

Pickup artists, classy fellows that they are, are using Elliot Rodger’s killing rampage as a marketing ploy. In the comments to one of Rodger’s videos on YouTube, a company called Strategic Dating Coach offered their solution to prevent similar shootings in the future: send disturbed young men who can’t get dates to one of their coaching sessions!

THIS is why we do what we do. TO PREVENT THIS SHIT!!! Could couldn't experience it because he didn't learn to attract women. He should have gone to our website and got our personal dating coaching or purchased one of our products. IF ANYONE NEEDS HELP, CONTACT US! Don’t do anything stupid.

While this response to Rodger’s mass killing is uniquely crass, the argument that “Game saves lives” is hardly new. To PUAs like Heartiste and Roosh Valizadeh it’s practically an article of faith.

In the wake of George Sodini’s murderous shooting spree in a Pennsylvania gym in 2009, Heartiste (then known as Roissy) wrote

If Sodini had learned game he would have been able to find another woman and gotten laid after his ex dumped him. He wouldn’t have spent the next 20 years steeped in bile and weighed down by his Sisyphian blue balls, dreaming of vengeance. Game could have saved the lives of the women Sodini killed.

The fact that Sodini had in fact imbibed in the alleged wisdom of pickup artistry, going so far as attending a pricey seminar from old-school pickup guru R. Don Steele, a self-proclaimed expert on dating young women, didn’t lead any in the pickup community to reconsider this position.

Nor has it this time. It is clear that Elliot Rodger was steeped in “red pill” thinking about women. And while he wasn’t himself a PUA, he was certainly aware of the basics of “Game.” Indeed, he subscribed to a number of PUA channels on YouTube and was a regular commenter on PUAhate, a sleazy forum devoted to criticizing “game,” not because it is manipulative and misogynistic but because it doesn’t work.

On the Roosh V forum earlier today, Roosh acknowledged that Rodger knew at least a little about “red pill” ideology – noting that Rodger referred to himself as an”alpha” – but still went ahead and argued that Game was the solution to massacres like this:

He is self-delusional and massively entitled, but exposing him to game may have saved lives.

In a followup comment, Roosh expressed his concerns for the real victims of this tragedy – Pickup artists:

I’m trying to think of ways our enemies will come after us because of this, but if anything, we’re the solution to this sort of murder rampage. This is the society that progressives wanted, where women are fully able to choose the top 10% of alpha males while shaming masculinity, leaving beta males with modest resources in the dust. Of course they will simply push a ban on guns, but this wholly neglects the cause. Seven people died because this guy couldn’t get laid … .

Other commenters were quick to agree. According to someone known as Moma,

Roosh has a very valid point. This will continue to replay over and over again. As human beings, our wiring is very basic yet primal. …

When have you last heard of a porn star shooting up a place? How many have emptied their balls in a hot lizard and then felt the urge to go and smoke 50 strangers?

According to Samseau, the problem wasn’t that Rodger hadn’t heard the Game Gospel; the problem was that he had rejected his salvation:

He knew about Game. If he had an account on PUAHATE then he knew about game. He was just a denialist. There was no helping this dude.

Roosh seconded this bit of wisdom, seeing it as clear evidence that “game denialism kills.”

Michelin, for his part, hoped that PUAs would be able to use the massacre as a publicity bonanza and a great “told you so” to all the haters.

One should write a mainstream article about this case. The argument that game could have saved lives can be an eye-opener and a smash in the face to haters of game.

Tuthmosis, the man best known for a Return of Kings post on the “5 Reasons to Date a Girl With An Eating Disorder,” reported his joy that PUAhate was getting bad press:

Seeing your enemies fall is a delicious treat you only get to taste a few times in your life. I’m savoring this delicacy with a cup of freshly brewed coffee. It’s a shame real people had to lose their lives, but I can’t help but think this will discredit a horrible website, PUAHate–and a way of thinking–that could have harmed even more men and innocent people. Beta losers will never go away, but this will wake up a few men and, more importantly, scare others.

Zelcorpion blamed “girls” and MGTOWers for giving Rodgers bad dating advice:

I bet a few girls told him that he only needs to be himself, be nice, be a gentleman, have a nice car, looks etc. – only to realize that it mattered shit. Instead of learning from the PUA-community he chose to listen to PUAhaters and some of the anti-female comments of the MGTOWs who themselves are often refusing to accept Game or even basic concepts like Alpha/Beta. I think that problem will become way worse, since hypergamy and promiscuity will only increase and most men will be left in the sexual wasteland.

But it took a relative newcomer to the forum by the handle of thedavidgt to raise the obvious logical objection to the Game-for-everybody solution to incel rage:

If every sexless beta in the world took it upon himself to learn game, approach girls, lift, dress well etc, would it not simply feed women’s egos and entitlement? So instead of occasionally getting awkwardly hit on by skinny fat, poor-dressed chumps, the average 7 would then be approached several times a day by extremely high value men. We’ll have a society of men working to improve themselves for women who will get lazier and lazier while at the same time demanding more and more.

In fact, the “Game saves lives” mantra is dead wrong, but not for this reason. First of all, there is no clear evidence that “game,” per se, works, except insofar as it encourages men to pursue large numbers of women and numb them to the pain of rejection. It’s possible that a few of the conversational ploys invented by various PUAs may work better than having no conversational ploys at all. But there are no magic cheat codes to “getting with women.”

There is one more disturbing way in which “game” may increase “success” with women for unscrupulous men: many of the standard techniques of “game”– invading a woman’s personal space, touching her repeatedly, trying to “isolate” her from her friends – may serve as “tests” to find women who are less likely to resist violations of their boundaries. In this way, “game” may serve as a quite effective enabler of date rape. Indeed Roosh himself has admitted to raping a date too drunk to consent.

So how much of a solution is training a guy who is already filled with a toxic mixture of entitlement and self-loathing (yes, these strange bedfellows do often go together) in some techniques that might help him to tamp down his insecurities enough to manipulate some willing or not-so-willing women into bed?

You might have simply turned a mass killer into a serial rapist, or possibly a serial killer. Ted Bundy was quite the charmer. Somehow this didn’t make him a decent human being.

Even if “game” were the beneficient form of “self-improvement” that some of its proponents like to claim it is, teaching Rodger how to be a better dater would not make him a better person. Would having a girlfriend solve all his problems? Hardly. Relationships require patience and compromise and mutual respect, and Rodger seems to have had none of these qualities. Instead of directing his narcissistic rage at “girls” at large, he would likely have ended up abusing a string of girlfriends.

The problem wasn’t Rodger’s lack of “Game.” It was his lack of humanity.

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saurabh
saurabh
10 years ago

I’ve been reading all of your responses to my comments, and rather than attempt to clarify, which I think will just piss everyone off, I’m just going to bow out and apologize. It wasn’t my intent to offend people, and it wasn’t my intent to excuse misogyny. I’m not actually sure what my intent was any more, and I seem to have just made everyone mad, so clearly it was counterproductive, whatever it was. So, I apologize, and I really regret that this was the way I chose to introduce myself to this community.

beegee
beegee
10 years ago

@Ally

No prob, I wasn’t offended myself, I’m not autistic, I was just confused. 🙂

Marie
10 years ago

I don’t know. I see that saurabh tried to apologize.

I’m not buying it, and am so not ready to accept it.

Fade
Fade
10 years ago

@Marie

it’s b/c they said “i’m sorry you’re angry”, not “i’m sorry i was stigmatizing mental illness unfairly”.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

Maybe this will be the first ever recorded instance in which someone says they’re going to step out of a conversation and then actually does so.

beegee
beegee
10 years ago

@Marie

Sorry, maybe I’m misusing the term?

Here’s the definition from psychcentral;
“A paranoid delusion is the fixed, false belief that one is being harmed or persecuted by a particular person or group of people. Paranoid delusions are known technically as a “persecutory delusion.”It involves the person’s belief that he or she is being conspired against, cheated, spied on, followed, poisoned or drugged, maliciously maligned, harassed, or obstructed in the pursuit of long-term goals.Small slights may be exaggerated and become the focus of a delusional system with a person suffers from a paranoid delusion.The focus of the delusion is often on some injustice that must be remedied by legal action. The affected person may engage in repeated attempts to obtain satisfaction by appeal to the courts and other government agencies.Individuals with paranoid delusions are often resentful and angry, and may even resort to violence against those they believe are hurting them or a loved one.”

I pretty sure that there can be such a thing as a wide spread delusion, and that you don’t have to be “crazy” to have one. Am I misusing the term?

Marie
10 years ago

@Beegee

Idk I’m not very educated on this.

And sorry for jumping on you. I’m just still so ‘set off’ from Saurabh, it’s like even non-ableist things are rubbing me the wrong way.

beegee
beegee
10 years ago

“Crazy” being used tongue-in-cheek here. I should clarify that was /sarcasm

titianblue
titianblue
10 years ago
beegee
beegee
10 years ago

@Marie,

I don’t feel jump on at all. I like a good discussion; sometimes I’m wrong. 🙂

Sorry you’re so triggered by all of this. //hugs//

Marie
10 years ago

@beegee

hugs eagerly accepted. Right now I’m trying to calm down with video games.

I just hope Saurabh doesn’t com eback.

saurabh
saurabh
10 years ago

>Sorry you’re so triggered by all of this. //hugs//

I’ll disappoint everyone by coming back just for a second to say that I’m also sorry if I was triggering, and it absolutely was not my intent to stigmatize mental illness.

Marie
10 years ago

@saurabh

Good god, just fuck off. You dug your whole way to deep.

hellkell
hellkell
10 years ago

Maybe this will be the first ever recorded instance in which someone says they’re going to step out of a conversation and then actually does so.

Good thing I didn’t hold my breath, because they just couldn’t resist coming back.

I’m hearing “hot lizard” to the tune of Foreigner’s “Hot Blooded” in my head.

Integral
Integral
10 years ago

Also, I guess a lot of people just don’t want to face that there are people who hate women enough (particularly the idea that women exist as autonomous beings) to want to commit violence against us.

Unfortunately I think misogyny is like an elephant in the room that most men and some women carefully avert their eyes from and pretend doesn’t exist because it guards a huge amount of advantages and social status they wouldn’t otherwise have. If someone says “How can you not see that enormous elephant right there?” they start screaming and pointing elsewhere to try to distract everyone.

Marie
10 years ago

@hellkell

I’m a hot lizard! check it and see
I need some shade now, it’s a 100 degrees!
Got to find a rock, to get some relief
I’m a hot lizard! Hot lizard

hellkell
hellkell
10 years ago

Marie: Exactly! LOL

Fade
Fade
10 years ago

@integral

that invisible elephant in the room reminded me of this quote + commentary .. and the temptation to reduce violent events like this down to isolated incidences or mental illness…

misery
misery
10 years ago

About his subscription to “multiple PUA channels on Youtube”, I don’t really know anything about them, and never watched any of the videos, but one of them is “Squatting Casanova” whom I happen to have talked to on occasion and as far as I know he is harmless if annoying. So it might be a red herring to focus on the PUA channels and consider them a source of his hate.

Marie
10 years ago

@misery

??? SOrry I don’t understand you?

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

Do we really need another round of “I haven’t actually investigated this, but let me make assumptions about it anyway”? It is possible to subscribe to some benign channels and some awful ones at the same time.

NonServiam
10 years ago

Mnemosyne – sorry hun, thought it meant something else. I’ve heard people use if for just a different kind if fuckery here (like Red Pill but they want to be even more special snowflake-y than Neo. I don’t really get it but it becomes something like “I’m above even considering women blah”). I had a lot of bad news this weekend so my head is a bit fuddled.

hellkell
hellkell
10 years ago

So it might be a red herring to focus on the PUA channels and consider them a source of his hate.

No, it’s not.

brooked
brooked
10 years ago

@Kim

So, my understanding of narcissism is that it’s not a mental illness. Just a way of describing a set of behaviours that show extreme self-centeredness and entitlement. So saying he sounds like a malignant narcissist isn’t diagnosing him – just saying in different words that he was a nasty, entitled little shit. Does that sound right?

That’s about right.

http://jaapl.org/content/38/1/87.full
The “Pseudocommando” Mass Murderer: Part I, The Psychology of Revenge and Obliteration

“The pseudocommando is a type of mass murderer who kills in public during the daytime, plans his offense well in advance, and comes prepared with a powerful arsenal of weapons. He has no escape planned and expects to be killed during the incident. Research suggests that the pseudocommando is driven by strong feelings of anger and resentment, flowing from beliefs about being persecuted or grossly mistreated. He views himself as carrying out a highly personal agenda of payback. Some mass murderers take special steps to send a final communication to the public or news media; these communications, to date, have received little detailed analysis. An offender’s use of language may reveal important data about his state of mind, motivation, and psychopathology. Part I of this article reviews the research on the pseudocommando, as well as the psychology of revenge, with special attention to revenge fantasies. It is argued that revenge fantasies become the last refuge for the pseudocommando’s mortally wounded self-esteem and ultimately enable him to commit mass murder-suicide.
… For mass murderers in general, the literature does not reflect a strong link with serious mental illness. Rather, retrospective analyses of cases suggest that, while mass murderers may have illnesses such as depression, it is rare for them to have psychosis.”

Rodger had issues, but people don’t write coherently at length and calmly discuss their reasons for murdering people if they’re having a psychotic break. He explained who he wanted to kill, the local hot blonde girls and the men who undeservedly possess them, and then went out and killed them. Like Marc Lepine, Rodger’s toxic misogyny fueled his violent rage and people are dancing around that when they call him a “madmen”.

Here’s the second part if the article.
The “Pseudocommando” Mass Murderer: Part II, The Language of Revenge
http://www.jaapl.org/content/38/2/263.full

sparky
sparky
10 years ago

Cheese and crackers.

saurabh:

I’m not actually sure what my intent was any more

Then the thing to do would be to shut up and listen.

Does Roosh and his merry band of creepy scum really truly believe that sexual frustration leads men to kill? Wasn’t “blue balls” discredited a long time ago?

These are probably just rhetorical questions because I know they are that awful, but it’s just, shit, people died and they’re frantically twisting and turning to fit it into a narrative that makes it women’s fault.

The disgust I’m feeling right now, ugh.

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