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Pickup artists argue that "Game" is the solution to Elliot Rodger-style rampages. Here's why they're wrong.

From Elliot Rodger's Google+ Profile
From Elliot Rodger’s Google+ Profile

Pickup artists, classy fellows that they are, are using Elliot Rodger’s killing rampage as a marketing ploy. In the comments to one of Rodger’s videos on YouTube, a company called Strategic Dating Coach offered their solution to prevent similar shootings in the future: send disturbed young men who can’t get dates to one of their coaching sessions!

THIS is why we do what we do. TO PREVENT THIS SHIT!!! Could couldn't experience it because he didn't learn to attract women. He should have gone to our website and got our personal dating coaching or purchased one of our products. IF ANYONE NEEDS HELP, CONTACT US! Don’t do anything stupid.

While this response to Rodger’s mass killing is uniquely crass, the argument that “Game saves lives” is hardly new. To PUAs like Heartiste and Roosh Valizadeh it’s practically an article of faith.

In the wake of George Sodini’s murderous shooting spree in a Pennsylvania gym in 2009, Heartiste (then known as Roissy) wrote

If Sodini had learned game he would have been able to find another woman and gotten laid after his ex dumped him. He wouldn’t have spent the next 20 years steeped in bile and weighed down by his Sisyphian blue balls, dreaming of vengeance. Game could have saved the lives of the women Sodini killed.

The fact that Sodini had in fact imbibed in the alleged wisdom of pickup artistry, going so far as attending a pricey seminar from old-school pickup guru R. Don Steele, a self-proclaimed expert on dating young women, didn’t lead any in the pickup community to reconsider this position.

Nor has it this time. It is clear that Elliot Rodger was steeped in “red pill” thinking about women. And while he wasn’t himself a PUA, he was certainly aware of the basics of “Game.” Indeed, he subscribed to a number of PUA channels on YouTube and was a regular commenter on PUAhate, a sleazy forum devoted to criticizing “game,” not because it is manipulative and misogynistic but because it doesn’t work.

On the Roosh V forum earlier today, Roosh acknowledged that Rodger knew at least a little about “red pill” ideology – noting that Rodger referred to himself as an”alpha” – but still went ahead and argued that Game was the solution to massacres like this:

He is self-delusional and massively entitled, but exposing him to game may have saved lives.

In a followup comment, Roosh expressed his concerns for the real victims of this tragedy – Pickup artists:

I’m trying to think of ways our enemies will come after us because of this, but if anything, we’re the solution to this sort of murder rampage. This is the society that progressives wanted, where women are fully able to choose the top 10% of alpha males while shaming masculinity, leaving beta males with modest resources in the dust. Of course they will simply push a ban on guns, but this wholly neglects the cause. Seven people died because this guy couldn’t get laid … .

Other commenters were quick to agree. According to someone known as Moma,

Roosh has a very valid point. This will continue to replay over and over again. As human beings, our wiring is very basic yet primal. …

When have you last heard of a porn star shooting up a place? How many have emptied their balls in a hot lizard and then felt the urge to go and smoke 50 strangers?

According to Samseau, the problem wasn’t that Rodger hadn’t heard the Game Gospel; the problem was that he had rejected his salvation:

He knew about Game. If he had an account on PUAHATE then he knew about game. He was just a denialist. There was no helping this dude.

Roosh seconded this bit of wisdom, seeing it as clear evidence that “game denialism kills.”

Michelin, for his part, hoped that PUAs would be able to use the massacre as a publicity bonanza and a great “told you so” to all the haters.

One should write a mainstream article about this case. The argument that game could have saved lives can be an eye-opener and a smash in the face to haters of game.

Tuthmosis, the man best known for a Return of Kings post on the “5 Reasons to Date a Girl With An Eating Disorder,” reported his joy that PUAhate was getting bad press:

Seeing your enemies fall is a delicious treat you only get to taste a few times in your life. I’m savoring this delicacy with a cup of freshly brewed coffee. It’s a shame real people had to lose their lives, but I can’t help but think this will discredit a horrible website, PUAHate–and a way of thinking–that could have harmed even more men and innocent people. Beta losers will never go away, but this will wake up a few men and, more importantly, scare others.

Zelcorpion blamed “girls” and MGTOWers for giving Rodgers bad dating advice:

I bet a few girls told him that he only needs to be himself, be nice, be a gentleman, have a nice car, looks etc. – only to realize that it mattered shit. Instead of learning from the PUA-community he chose to listen to PUAhaters and some of the anti-female comments of the MGTOWs who themselves are often refusing to accept Game or even basic concepts like Alpha/Beta. I think that problem will become way worse, since hypergamy and promiscuity will only increase and most men will be left in the sexual wasteland.

But it took a relative newcomer to the forum by the handle of thedavidgt to raise the obvious logical objection to the Game-for-everybody solution to incel rage:

If every sexless beta in the world took it upon himself to learn game, approach girls, lift, dress well etc, would it not simply feed women’s egos and entitlement? So instead of occasionally getting awkwardly hit on by skinny fat, poor-dressed chumps, the average 7 would then be approached several times a day by extremely high value men. We’ll have a society of men working to improve themselves for women who will get lazier and lazier while at the same time demanding more and more.

In fact, the “Game saves lives” mantra is dead wrong, but not for this reason. First of all, there is no clear evidence that “game,” per se, works, except insofar as it encourages men to pursue large numbers of women and numb them to the pain of rejection. It’s possible that a few of the conversational ploys invented by various PUAs may work better than having no conversational ploys at all. But there are no magic cheat codes to “getting with women.”

There is one more disturbing way in which “game” may increase “success” with women for unscrupulous men: many of the standard techniques of “game”– invading a woman’s personal space, touching her repeatedly, trying to “isolate” her from her friends – may serve as “tests” to find women who are less likely to resist violations of their boundaries. In this way, “game” may serve as a quite effective enabler of date rape. Indeed Roosh himself has admitted to raping a date too drunk to consent.

So how much of a solution is training a guy who is already filled with a toxic mixture of entitlement and self-loathing (yes, these strange bedfellows do often go together) in some techniques that might help him to tamp down his insecurities enough to manipulate some willing or not-so-willing women into bed?

You might have simply turned a mass killer into a serial rapist, or possibly a serial killer. Ted Bundy was quite the charmer. Somehow this didn’t make him a decent human being.

Even if “game” were the beneficient form of “self-improvement” that some of its proponents like to claim it is, teaching Rodger how to be a better dater would not make him a better person. Would having a girlfriend solve all his problems? Hardly. Relationships require patience and compromise and mutual respect, and Rodger seems to have had none of these qualities. Instead of directing his narcissistic rage at “girls” at large, he would likely have ended up abusing a string of girlfriends.

The problem wasn’t Rodger’s lack of “Game.” It was his lack of humanity.

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LBT
LBT
10 years ago

My god, Fade! I just realized! It’s not that things like misogyny or all those other isms are entrenched in our culture… it’s just that all the people expressing those things are mentally ill!

Truly, racists suffer from Racist Delusions! Homophobes suffer from Homophobic Delusions!

All this time, we thought they were oppressors, when really, they’re just all mentally ill! As a matter of fact, we’re oppressing THEM by suggesting that they might be oppressive! It’s ableist to suggest that someone suffering from oppressive delusions is actually choosing to oppress!

IT ALL BECOMES CLEAR NOW.

LBT
LBT
10 years ago

RE: cassandrakitty

On another note, dudes who seem to see their cocks as some sort of Super Soaker toy, but with added humiliation and degradation powers? Not very attractive.

Faux!emma would disagree with you.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

Faux!emma is welcome to Mr Bazooka. I’m guessing that there isn’t exactly a line forming outside his door.

Lea
Lea
10 years ago

Yeah, because it’s so out of touch with reality when well-off white dudes think the world owes them everything.

THIS^

mildlymagnificent
mildlymagnificent
10 years ago

I guess you aren’t familiar with the way abusers and rapists speak. “Look what you made me do” is a common refrain.

QFfuknT.

Those of us who’ve lived with abusive partners are all too familiar with that crap. And that’s all it is, crap. And the tedious ranting or maundering on after seeing other people happy, that’s also a common routine – “I could be happy like that if only you/ my parents/ the world at large would … ”

For those unfamiliar with this shit, think of the racist types who rave on at length about seeing those wrong coloured people enjoying themselves in some way. They can always find something, anything, wrong with what looks like contented relaxation just because it’s the wrong people enjoying themselves. And you can hear the voice winding up with tension and getting more and more agitated as the person deliberately chooses. their. own. words. to increase their own agitation and aggravation. They can literally talk themselves into a near-frothing rage over absolutely nothing.

And abusive men can do exactly the same thing. They can do it with imagined wrongs by their own partner. They can do it for any woman they see anywhere. They can do it with whole groups of women in exactly that talk yourself into a rage manner that racists do. (Of course, this young man had the added extra of incorporating racism into his misogyny, but that hardly makes him unusual or special in any way.)

Ally S
10 years ago

@beegee

Rodgers was diagnosed as being on the autism spectrum, but that doesn’t explain shit – unlike the disabilist media would like us to believe.

LBT
LBT
10 years ago

*rolls eyes* I have a phobia of needles. Does that mean I get to kill whoever I want and have it blamed on my phobias?

Seriously, people seem to have a really hard time understanding that mentally ill people can be complete assholes REGARDLESS of being mentally ill. Even if dude IS mentally ill, the two things are not necessarily related. Correlation is not causation, people!

Lea
Lea
10 years ago

Unfortunately for them, I’m pretty fucking done with coddling the feelings of abusive men.

Also, THIS^

cloudiah
10 years ago

@drst, Good point. The “But he was mentally ill” is a kind of magical thinking that some neurotypical people do.

Marie
10 years ago

@wewereemergencies

. No-one ever said “but maybe Muslim suicide bombers are mentally ill!” No, the conversation about mental illness is about divorcing yourself from Rodgers, detracting from the actual issue, and, because they can’t be racist, shitting on another oppressed group!

uh yea. cuz every time (in america) brown people kill someone it’s gang violence, or terrorism, or whatever they want to call it. The mostly white media doesn’t need to divorce themselves from them because they already are brown :/

@saurabh

This sounds like someone suffering from severe delusions.

okay, maybe I’m a meanie meanie pants, but can we fucking ask to ban saurabh? I came here to get away from ableist shitheads, and this little fuck is ruining all that.

@titanblue

Just piss off for a while and practice some empathy.

I would like to extend that pissing off to be permanant.

@saurabh

I’ll admit I haven’t read a lot of the incel/PUAHate stuff, so if this is the case I’m not aware of it. But I certainly don’t think that’s true for PUAs in general.

oh, so you havne’t read much but you still want to assume. Fuck you.

@Zolnier

It’s funny, when someone with a history of vicious anti-semitism shoots up a synagogue, nobody tries to claim that the perpetrator didn’t do it because they hate Jewish people.

I swear we just had this conversation. Kansas City shooting (IIRC). Someone did shoot Jewish people and some people did try to claim it wasn’t anti-semitism. Lets not do this,okay?

@Emilygoddess

Aebars, wow, thanks for the fat-shaming and uncensored slurs.

I missed the fat shaming + slurs, but I”ll consider not seeing it a good thing.

….posting again even though I’m not caught up cuz I’m ranting a lot. Sorry guys.

Fade
Fade
10 years ago

@cassandra

When people tell you about themselves, believe them. This dude told the world that he hated women so much that he wanted to kill them, and yet just look at everyone trying to find alternate explanations for why he did exactly what he said he was going to do.

QFT

weirwoodtreehugger
10 years ago

Marie,

Saurabh,

Yet again with the ableism. Stop internet diagnosing OK?

Oh, zie’s done it before?

Not that I know of. Zie was just one of a long parade of people blaming mental illness.

cloudiah
10 years ago

Also, I guess a lot of people just don’t want to face that there are people who hate women enough (particularly the idea that women exist as autonomous beings) to want to commit violence against us. I mean, I kind of don’t want to face that either, but I accept that it is a thing in this world.

Lea
Lea
10 years ago

This ONLY happens when we have a white straight male committing terrorism, of course

YES!
Thank you Mammotheers. You speak the truth.

AbsintheDexterous
10 years ago

I think that people are clinging to “psychotic” because he mentioned in the manifesto that he was prescribed anti-psychotics. Apparently, they missed the part about how he never got it filled because after some research, decided that it was wrong medication and he wasn’t going to take it.

Which doesn’t prove anything about mental illness. He came right out and said he hated women, blamed them for everything wrong with the world. And then shot people for it. It’s plain as day, right there, black and white, his own words.

beegee
beegee
10 years ago

Hmmmm, looks like my link didn’t post. Here you go.

@Ally
Is autism really considered a “mental illness”?

Bazooka penis lizard kid is really creepy. Semen van burn and temporarily blind when it gets in the eyes. He’s enjoying hurting women with the product of his sexual act. How much do you want to bet kid is a rapist/a rapist in the making?

Fade
Fade
10 years ago

@LBT

My god, Fade! I just realized! It’s not that things like misogyny or all those other isms are entrenched in our culture… it’s just that all the people expressing those things are mentally ill!

oppression and privilege don’t exist! it’s all mental illness! yay now we never have to think critically again!!!!

/this was a sarcastic response to what i assumed was your sarcastic response if something got lost in translation, i’m sorry

Marie
10 years ago

@weirdwoodtreehugger

Not that I know of. Zie was just one of a long parade of people blaming mental illness.

Ah. I guess I just assumed wrong.

Fade
Fade
10 years ago

@Ally
Is autism really considered a “mental illness”?

IIRC lots of autistic people don’t consider it a mental illness. but it is stigmatized the way some mental illnesses are. If you don’t know what’s a mental illness and what’s just a result of differing neurology then you can divide things into neurotypical (not mentally ill, with what people think of as the “regular” neurology) and neurodivergent (mentally ill and/or w/ a cognitive/mental disability or a differing neurology)

Lea
Lea
10 years ago

IT ALL BECOMES CLEAR NOW.

Yup, so clear. *nods emphatically*

Ally S
10 years ago

I’m sorry, I didn’t intend to label autism as a mental illness – I only brought it up because it was relevant to the question of whether he was diagnoses with any particular mental condition that could be used to sweep the problem of misogyny and entitlement under the rug.

beegee
beegee
10 years ago

@Saurabh

I can see where you’re coming from, but you’re wrong. The fear and hatred of ALL women (misogyny) is, in itself, a paranoid delusion. You don’t need to be mentally ill yourself to hold delusions when your delusions are supported/taught by society at large.

Marie
10 years ago

@beegee

The fear and hatred of ALL women (misogyny) is, in itself, a paranoid delusion

I’m like 90% sure that’s not actually what ‘paranoid delusion’ means. -_- maybe I’m wrong.

I just . gha.

can’t deal with this atm.

Shadow
Shadow
10 years ago

@LBT

So yeah, dude’s behavior? NOTHING like the psychosis I’m used to.

My focus was on the social side of psychology, so I definitely didn’t concentrate enough on illnesses to consider myself even close to an expert, but if memory serves right his behaviour can definitely fit the pattern of a psychotic break. However, as has been pointed out by you and everyone else, it also definitely fits the pattern for a hateful misogynist just as easily. Even if he was diagnosed with a psychosis, we don’t know what exactly that entailed. For example, my aunt suffers from paranoid type schizophrenia. She has delusions of being monitored and does things like insisting that the phones be unplugged before they go to bed, and that the internet modem be turned off by sunset. She also has a bit of a distrust of Black people. That racism is completely divorced of her illness, and attempting to handwave it away because of her schizophrenia is pure bullshit, because even though it could have been connected, it actually isn’t. Just because something CAN be linked to someone’s mental illness, it doesn’t mean that it IS. I know I’m preaching to the choir when it comes to you, but I just wanted to put it out there in writing to hopefully help stem off some of the inevitable ableism from non-regulars.

Furthermore, different meds get used for different things, under different labels. Some anti-psychotics are also used as anti-seizure medication. I was perscribed a benzo for post-surgical dizziness. I was perscribed an anti-depressant with the double feature of fighting off my eating disorder, since it promoted weight gain and appetite enhancement. Soooo yeah, it’s not always as simple as, “you’re psychotic, so I will give you this anti-psychotic med.” Plus sometimes the meds don’t work.

All too true. I just didn’t want to mention those kinds of subtleties because nothing about saurabh’s posts made me think that their take away from that would be “Oh, maybe we don’t have enough information” instead of “Oh, he was probably on the wrong meds so he went on a killing spree”. It’s moments like this when I wish there was an area to discuss things with just the proven community, and then I remember what a clusterfuck that caused.

weirwoodtreehugger
10 years ago

Sauron or whatever your name is,

Understandably, a lot of people here are not inclined to coddle you and hold your hand and walk you through how wrong you are in a way you deem rational and intelligent.

I will attempt to do it right now, but if you come back and don’t get it, don’t expect me to be somewhat nice again. This goes for anyone else that happens to read this who is tempted to make a post blaming mental illness.

It is irrelevant whether or not Rodger’s happened to have a diagnosed mental illness. Why is that? Because correlation does not equal causation. This is just very basic logic here.

Being violent/hateful and being mentally ill are two separate things that can exist in the same person.

Being kind/loving and being mentally ill are two separate things that can exist in the same person.

In fact, the majority of people with mental illnesses do not commit violent crimes so I’d wager that the latter are more common.

Actually, mentally ill people are more likely to be the victims of a violent crime than the perpetrators. Yet, there are occasions when someone in the midst of a psychotic break commit a violent act. It’s relatively rare though and it isn’t what happened in Rodger’s case.

As I said in my previous comment, people who do something violent in the midst of a psychotic break do not what they are doing and don’t know they are committing a legal or moral wrong. They also do not premeditate.

The very fact that Rodger’s planned his crimes and posted a video describing his intent, hoping to achieve notoriety 100% rules out the notion that these murders were the result of a psychotic break. He knew what he was doing and he had control of it.

You have not succeeded in establishing causation between this crime and mental illness.

You have not succeeded in establishing causation between mental illness and violent crime in general.

Correlation isn’t causation.

Correlation isn’t causation.

Correlation isn’t causation.

Got it?

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