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Pickup artists argue that "Game" is the solution to Elliot Rodger-style rampages. Here's why they're wrong.

From Elliot Rodger's Google+ Profile
From Elliot Rodger’s Google+ Profile

Pickup artists, classy fellows that they are, are using Elliot Rodger’s killing rampage as a marketing ploy. In the comments to one of Rodger’s videos on YouTube, a company called Strategic Dating Coach offered their solution to prevent similar shootings in the future: send disturbed young men who can’t get dates to one of their coaching sessions!

THIS is why we do what we do. TO PREVENT THIS SHIT!!! Could couldn't experience it because he didn't learn to attract women. He should have gone to our website and got our personal dating coaching or purchased one of our products. IF ANYONE NEEDS HELP, CONTACT US! Don’t do anything stupid.

While this response to Rodger’s mass killing is uniquely crass, the argument that “Game saves lives” is hardly new. To PUAs like Heartiste and Roosh Valizadeh it’s practically an article of faith.

In the wake of George Sodini’s murderous shooting spree in a Pennsylvania gym in 2009, Heartiste (then known as Roissy) wrote

If Sodini had learned game he would have been able to find another woman and gotten laid after his ex dumped him. He wouldn’t have spent the next 20 years steeped in bile and weighed down by his Sisyphian blue balls, dreaming of vengeance. Game could have saved the lives of the women Sodini killed.

The fact that Sodini had in fact imbibed in the alleged wisdom of pickup artistry, going so far as attending a pricey seminar from old-school pickup guru R. Don Steele, a self-proclaimed expert on dating young women, didn’t lead any in the pickup community to reconsider this position.

Nor has it this time. It is clear that Elliot Rodger was steeped in “red pill” thinking about women. And while he wasn’t himself a PUA, he was certainly aware of the basics of “Game.” Indeed, he subscribed to a number of PUA channels on YouTube and was a regular commenter on PUAhate, a sleazy forum devoted to criticizing “game,” not because it is manipulative and misogynistic but because it doesn’t work.

On the Roosh V forum earlier today, Roosh acknowledged that Rodger knew at least a little about “red pill” ideology – noting that Rodger referred to himself as an”alpha” – but still went ahead and argued that Game was the solution to massacres like this:

He is self-delusional and massively entitled, but exposing him to game may have saved lives.

In a followup comment, Roosh expressed his concerns for the real victims of this tragedy – Pickup artists:

I’m trying to think of ways our enemies will come after us because of this, but if anything, we’re the solution to this sort of murder rampage. This is the society that progressives wanted, where women are fully able to choose the top 10% of alpha males while shaming masculinity, leaving beta males with modest resources in the dust. Of course they will simply push a ban on guns, but this wholly neglects the cause. Seven people died because this guy couldn’t get laid … .

Other commenters were quick to agree. According to someone known as Moma,

Roosh has a very valid point. This will continue to replay over and over again. As human beings, our wiring is very basic yet primal. …

When have you last heard of a porn star shooting up a place? How many have emptied their balls in a hot lizard and then felt the urge to go and smoke 50 strangers?

According to Samseau, the problem wasn’t that Rodger hadn’t heard the Game Gospel; the problem was that he had rejected his salvation:

He knew about Game. If he had an account on PUAHATE then he knew about game. He was just a denialist. There was no helping this dude.

Roosh seconded this bit of wisdom, seeing it as clear evidence that “game denialism kills.”

Michelin, for his part, hoped that PUAs would be able to use the massacre as a publicity bonanza and a great “told you so” to all the haters.

One should write a mainstream article about this case. The argument that game could have saved lives can be an eye-opener and a smash in the face to haters of game.

Tuthmosis, the man best known for a Return of Kings post on the “5 Reasons to Date a Girl With An Eating Disorder,” reported his joy that PUAhate was getting bad press:

Seeing your enemies fall is a delicious treat you only get to taste a few times in your life. I’m savoring this delicacy with a cup of freshly brewed coffee. It’s a shame real people had to lose their lives, but I can’t help but think this will discredit a horrible website, PUAHate–and a way of thinking–that could have harmed even more men and innocent people. Beta losers will never go away, but this will wake up a few men and, more importantly, scare others.

Zelcorpion blamed “girls” and MGTOWers for giving Rodgers bad dating advice:

I bet a few girls told him that he only needs to be himself, be nice, be a gentleman, have a nice car, looks etc. – only to realize that it mattered shit. Instead of learning from the PUA-community he chose to listen to PUAhaters and some of the anti-female comments of the MGTOWs who themselves are often refusing to accept Game or even basic concepts like Alpha/Beta. I think that problem will become way worse, since hypergamy and promiscuity will only increase and most men will be left in the sexual wasteland.

But it took a relative newcomer to the forum by the handle of thedavidgt to raise the obvious logical objection to the Game-for-everybody solution to incel rage:

If every sexless beta in the world took it upon himself to learn game, approach girls, lift, dress well etc, would it not simply feed women’s egos and entitlement? So instead of occasionally getting awkwardly hit on by skinny fat, poor-dressed chumps, the average 7 would then be approached several times a day by extremely high value men. We’ll have a society of men working to improve themselves for women who will get lazier and lazier while at the same time demanding more and more.

In fact, the “Game saves lives” mantra is dead wrong, but not for this reason. First of all, there is no clear evidence that “game,” per se, works, except insofar as it encourages men to pursue large numbers of women and numb them to the pain of rejection. It’s possible that a few of the conversational ploys invented by various PUAs may work better than having no conversational ploys at all. But there are no magic cheat codes to “getting with women.”

There is one more disturbing way in which “game” may increase “success” with women for unscrupulous men: many of the standard techniques of “game”– invading a woman’s personal space, touching her repeatedly, trying to “isolate” her from her friends – may serve as “tests” to find women who are less likely to resist violations of their boundaries. In this way, “game” may serve as a quite effective enabler of date rape. Indeed Roosh himself has admitted to raping a date too drunk to consent.

So how much of a solution is training a guy who is already filled with a toxic mixture of entitlement and self-loathing (yes, these strange bedfellows do often go together) in some techniques that might help him to tamp down his insecurities enough to manipulate some willing or not-so-willing women into bed?

You might have simply turned a mass killer into a serial rapist, or possibly a serial killer. Ted Bundy was quite the charmer. Somehow this didn’t make him a decent human being.

Even if “game” were the beneficient form of “self-improvement” that some of its proponents like to claim it is, teaching Rodger how to be a better dater would not make him a better person. Would having a girlfriend solve all his problems? Hardly. Relationships require patience and compromise and mutual respect, and Rodger seems to have had none of these qualities. Instead of directing his narcissistic rage at “girls” at large, he would likely have ended up abusing a string of girlfriends.

The problem wasn’t Rodger’s lack of “Game.” It was his lack of humanity.

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titianblue
titianblue
10 years ago

@Kim

Are bats common where you are North American/European people?

Definitely got bats here (rural England) – there’s a lovely moment in the summer evening when the swifts and martins disappear and the bats appear. I like bats. 🙂

titianblue
titianblue
10 years ago

@Marie, I love the attack chickens

*makes note to go out & buy little helmets for my own hens*

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

@congrapangloss and titanblue

aww thanks :3

dustedeste
dustedeste
10 years ago

@Marie:

Truly a fitting monument. Is it a little speaker inside, with a motion detector, that spits out the “Not All Men!” every time a person or chicken is in range? Does it switch to shouting “LATER, WH*RES!” when a Mammotheer walks by? Does it say these things in SEVEN LANGUAGES, while dating several 36 DDDDDDDD MODELS, and being located DIRECTLY ON THE BEACH? Inquiring minds need to know!

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

@dustedeste

I’m tempted to go with those ones, but what I was thinking when I drew it was the chicken spirits woke his statue up so he can say it XD

dustedeste
dustedeste
10 years ago

@Marie:

Ooooh, chicken witchcraft! I like it! Did they have to dance naked in the moonlight? Did they need assistance from the female whore penguins for their unholy deed?

Stevie
Stevie
10 years ago

Marie

That’s wonderful! I particularly like the chickens, so don’t diss yourself; I suspect Erin’s knowledge of them is on a par with his linguistic skills, so it really works as a ‘what chickens would look like if you’d only ever seen them dead and wrapped in cling film’ reference.

I have shamelessly copied it onto my iPad for those inevitable moments when some nitwit starts out with ‘But not all men have only seen chickens dead and wrapped in cling film’ …

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

@dustedeste

Ooooh, chicken witchcraft! I like it! Did they have to dance naked in the moonlight? Did they need assistance from the female whore penguins for their unholy deed?/blockquote>

XD Now I feel shamed I didn’t draw them with penguins. It’d be so cute :3

@stevie

hehe thanks. What I meant by not knowing how to draw chickens though was that I haven’t done any chicken anatomy, like I learned for horses and humans. So each chicken was just circle head + circle body. Which is good if you have to draw a lot of them!

katz
10 years ago

Marie, your statue is brilliant! Put it up on DA so I can add it to our group!

grumpycatisagirl
grumpycatisagirl
10 years ago

Marie, this whole “Erin” episode was honestly making me feel so much worse about everything but your statue has vastly improved my mood. The chickens are the piece de resistance for me.

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

@katz

Thanks :3 I guess I’ll put in on DA.

@grumpycatisagirl

Glad it improved your mood, though sorry to hear Erin was making you feel worse.

dustedeste
dustedeste
10 years ago

Can I still ask bra questions, even though the troll is gone?

I saw a lot of the sports bras that were being recommended last night, and it reminded me that I’m in the market for one of those as well. Does anyone know of a high-impact, bounce-negating sports bra that goes past DDD sizing? Because, while not a model, I’m literally a 36 DDDDDDDD, if we’re measuring in repeated D’s. (I cracked up the first time I saw that pulled out, btw, precisely because I’m pretty sure there aren’t any models out there wearing the same size bra as me. I could be wrong! But them’s my hunch.)

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

@dustedeste

of course! bra questions are always on topic! 😀

I have no idea good sports bras. But what is 36DDDDDDDD in other sizes, like a J or an I? I can’t keep track of all thoses Ds.

dustedeste
dustedeste
10 years ago

Haha, yeah, sorry; it’s a K. I’ve yet to see anything actually labelled with that many Ds, but then again, my experience has been that if a brand labels bras with multiples of D, it probably doesn’t make anything past a DDDD.

lurkerina
10 years ago

Freya and Wacoal make above-D sized sports bras. I have the Wacoal one, like this: http://www.wacoal-america.com/sport-underwire-bra-wacoal-855170-p.html but in black. It does work very well. There is almost zero jiggling. However, because I have a very short torso, I do have the underwire in the armpit thing some times. I’ve found the underwire sports bras work a million times better than the normal ones.

Yeah… Before the internet, I could never find a bra in my size.

Myoo
Myoo
10 years ago

Whew, I finally caught up with this thread, what a complete ass that “Erin” was.

Also, that statue is great, Marie.

dustedeste
dustedeste
10 years ago

@lurkerina:

Thanks for the rec, but Wacoal only makes one bra in a 36 K, as far as I can tell, and it is not a sports bra. Alas D:

I feel you on the weird-size thing, though; I live in a major major city, and I know of only one store that carries my size. And internet bra shopping is almost as frustrating, since you never know if it’ll fit, and then the return policies are a pain because apparently no one in North America makes large bras so you’re having them shipped from Poland or wherever? I’m at the point where I’m debating just trying to find someone to make me some custom bras, and damn the cost… I just want to be comfy, not flopping all over, and able to wear a bra that isn’t “full-coverage” because hey, I would like to be able to wear low-cut tops; otherwise, what’s the point of hauling around all this damn weight? 😛

grumpycatisagirl
grumpycatisagirl
10 years ago

This article is heartening to me because it’s a man who really is an ally explaining exactly what’s wrong with the “not all men” thing. http://www.slate.com/blogs/bad_astronomy/2014/05/27/not_all_men_how_discussing_women_s_issues_gets_derailed.html

Unimaginative
Unimaginative
10 years ago

I bought a sports bra at a boutique (er, bra-tique) a few years ago that really helped. It’s too big for me now, but I can still read the label and it’s an Enell, and they have a website: http://www.enell.com/enell-sport

Kept everything in place very well, and NO WIRES. It looked kind of comical on me, though, like a Xena breastplate.

Assembled in Mexico from USA-made materials, which might make it easier for USers to get.

Unimaginative
Unimaginative
10 years ago

And I’m a 38I(eye) or M, depending on the company.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

@ dustydeste
This is the best one other than the one I posted earlier that I know of, and it only goes up to an H cup.I thought Curvy Kate might have made one in bigger cup sizes but now I can’t find it.

http://www.herroom.com/Freya-AA4892-Active-Underwire-Molded-Spacer-Sports-Bra.shtml?utm_source=adv&utm_medium=search&promocode=Fre001032814&device=c&network=g&matchtype=&utm_campaign=pla

kittehserf
10 years ago

Marie, your statue is great! ::applauds::

Krysten
Krysten
10 years ago

I have to admit I’d never really heard of PUA’s before today, but everything about this chilled me to the bone.

lurkerina
10 years ago

@dustydeste
hmmm. Yeah, the few brands that go up to H, often don’t go past it. I’m lucky that I’m a G right now, but the only store I’ve been able to try bras on in is Nordstroms. Then I write down the brands and styles (or more commonly brand and style) and buy them online.

I’ve never bought them from Poland. Most of the sites I buy from are UK. Which still means I never ship anything back, even if it doesn’t fit, cause return shipping is so damn expensive. I hear ya on the low cut tops though!

@unimaginative, I have heard of those, but haven’t tried it. I have a Freya ‘sports’ swimsuit that has the built in soft bra that is supposed to hold the girls down. It doesn’t. Hardly at all. So until I’m proven wrong, I’m sticking with underwires in my sports bra.

Tracy
Tracy
10 years ago

The best thing to come out of this thread, for me, was Leonora Carrington. Thank you Katz! Hadn’t heard of her before.