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Pickup artists argue that "Game" is the solution to Elliot Rodger-style rampages. Here's why they're wrong.

From Elliot Rodger's Google+ Profile
From Elliot Rodger’s Google+ Profile

Pickup artists, classy fellows that they are, are using Elliot Rodger’s killing rampage as a marketing ploy. In the comments to one of Rodger’s videos on YouTube, a company called Strategic Dating Coach offered their solution to prevent similar shootings in the future: send disturbed young men who can’t get dates to one of their coaching sessions!

THIS is why we do what we do. TO PREVENT THIS SHIT!!! Could couldn't experience it because he didn't learn to attract women. He should have gone to our website and got our personal dating coaching or purchased one of our products. IF ANYONE NEEDS HELP, CONTACT US! Don’t do anything stupid.

While this response to Rodger’s mass killing is uniquely crass, the argument that “Game saves lives” is hardly new. To PUAs like Heartiste and Roosh Valizadeh it’s practically an article of faith.

In the wake of George Sodini’s murderous shooting spree in a Pennsylvania gym in 2009, Heartiste (then known as Roissy) wrote

If Sodini had learned game he would have been able to find another woman and gotten laid after his ex dumped him. He wouldn’t have spent the next 20 years steeped in bile and weighed down by his Sisyphian blue balls, dreaming of vengeance. Game could have saved the lives of the women Sodini killed.

The fact that Sodini had in fact imbibed in the alleged wisdom of pickup artistry, going so far as attending a pricey seminar from old-school pickup guru R. Don Steele, a self-proclaimed expert on dating young women, didn’t lead any in the pickup community to reconsider this position.

Nor has it this time. It is clear that Elliot Rodger was steeped in “red pill” thinking about women. And while he wasn’t himself a PUA, he was certainly aware of the basics of “Game.” Indeed, he subscribed to a number of PUA channels on YouTube and was a regular commenter on PUAhate, a sleazy forum devoted to criticizing “game,” not because it is manipulative and misogynistic but because it doesn’t work.

On the Roosh V forum earlier today, Roosh acknowledged that Rodger knew at least a little about “red pill” ideology – noting that Rodger referred to himself as an”alpha” – but still went ahead and argued that Game was the solution to massacres like this:

He is self-delusional and massively entitled, but exposing him to game may have saved lives.

In a followup comment, Roosh expressed his concerns for the real victims of this tragedy – Pickup artists:

I’m trying to think of ways our enemies will come after us because of this, but if anything, we’re the solution to this sort of murder rampage. This is the society that progressives wanted, where women are fully able to choose the top 10% of alpha males while shaming masculinity, leaving beta males with modest resources in the dust. Of course they will simply push a ban on guns, but this wholly neglects the cause. Seven people died because this guy couldn’t get laid … .

Other commenters were quick to agree. According to someone known as Moma,

Roosh has a very valid point. This will continue to replay over and over again. As human beings, our wiring is very basic yet primal. …

When have you last heard of a porn star shooting up a place? How many have emptied their balls in a hot lizard and then felt the urge to go and smoke 50 strangers?

According to Samseau, the problem wasn’t that Rodger hadn’t heard the Game Gospel; the problem was that he had rejected his salvation:

He knew about Game. If he had an account on PUAHATE then he knew about game. He was just a denialist. There was no helping this dude.

Roosh seconded this bit of wisdom, seeing it as clear evidence that “game denialism kills.”

Michelin, for his part, hoped that PUAs would be able to use the massacre as a publicity bonanza and a great “told you so” to all the haters.

One should write a mainstream article about this case. The argument that game could have saved lives can be an eye-opener and a smash in the face to haters of game.

Tuthmosis, the man best known for a Return of Kings post on the “5 Reasons to Date a Girl With An Eating Disorder,” reported his joy that PUAhate was getting bad press:

Seeing your enemies fall is a delicious treat you only get to taste a few times in your life. I’m savoring this delicacy with a cup of freshly brewed coffee. It’s a shame real people had to lose their lives, but I can’t help but think this will discredit a horrible website, PUAHate–and a way of thinking–that could have harmed even more men and innocent people. Beta losers will never go away, but this will wake up a few men and, more importantly, scare others.

Zelcorpion blamed “girls” and MGTOWers for giving Rodgers bad dating advice:

I bet a few girls told him that he only needs to be himself, be nice, be a gentleman, have a nice car, looks etc. – only to realize that it mattered shit. Instead of learning from the PUA-community he chose to listen to PUAhaters and some of the anti-female comments of the MGTOWs who themselves are often refusing to accept Game or even basic concepts like Alpha/Beta. I think that problem will become way worse, since hypergamy and promiscuity will only increase and most men will be left in the sexual wasteland.

But it took a relative newcomer to the forum by the handle of thedavidgt to raise the obvious logical objection to the Game-for-everybody solution to incel rage:

If every sexless beta in the world took it upon himself to learn game, approach girls, lift, dress well etc, would it not simply feed women’s egos and entitlement? So instead of occasionally getting awkwardly hit on by skinny fat, poor-dressed chumps, the average 7 would then be approached several times a day by extremely high value men. We’ll have a society of men working to improve themselves for women who will get lazier and lazier while at the same time demanding more and more.

In fact, the “Game saves lives” mantra is dead wrong, but not for this reason. First of all, there is no clear evidence that “game,” per se, works, except insofar as it encourages men to pursue large numbers of women and numb them to the pain of rejection. It’s possible that a few of the conversational ploys invented by various PUAs may work better than having no conversational ploys at all. But there are no magic cheat codes to “getting with women.”

There is one more disturbing way in which “game” may increase “success” with women for unscrupulous men: many of the standard techniques of “game”– invading a woman’s personal space, touching her repeatedly, trying to “isolate” her from her friends – may serve as “tests” to find women who are less likely to resist violations of their boundaries. In this way, “game” may serve as a quite effective enabler of date rape. Indeed Roosh himself has admitted to raping a date too drunk to consent.

So how much of a solution is training a guy who is already filled with a toxic mixture of entitlement and self-loathing (yes, these strange bedfellows do often go together) in some techniques that might help him to tamp down his insecurities enough to manipulate some willing or not-so-willing women into bed?

You might have simply turned a mass killer into a serial rapist, or possibly a serial killer. Ted Bundy was quite the charmer. Somehow this didn’t make him a decent human being.

Even if “game” were the beneficient form of “self-improvement” that some of its proponents like to claim it is, teaching Rodger how to be a better dater would not make him a better person. Would having a girlfriend solve all his problems? Hardly. Relationships require patience and compromise and mutual respect, and Rodger seems to have had none of these qualities. Instead of directing his narcissistic rage at “girls” at large, he would likely have ended up abusing a string of girlfriends.

The problem wasn’t Rodger’s lack of “Game.” It was his lack of humanity.

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katz
10 years ago

Besides, you guys keep responding with your passive aggressive stupidity.

“I can’t leave! You guys are still talking!”

Erin Williams
Erin Williams
10 years ago

You’re like a robot, Kitteh. Next you’ll accuse me of god knows what dumb shit you have in your mind.

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

@Erin

Ha, cupisinique was a condescending tit and she got called out for it.

um no she wasn’t condescending. Unless I missed a post…

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

I kind of hope those were meant to be jackals, because if they were good job, socialist stamp of approval bestowed.

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

@Erin

You’re like a robot, Kitteh. Next you’ll accuse me of god knows what dumb shit you have in your mind.

Wow such creativity. At least make a guess!

Erin Williams
Erin Williams
10 years ago

Yup.

cupisnique
cupisnique
10 years ago

By “toe the party line” do you mean, not say misogynist things? That seems like a good line to toe to me.

I’m really too lazy at this point to go back and re-read the original comment, I think you really need to let it go, though. She was not wishing you harm, so I don’t even know what you’re feigning to be upset about. You misinterpreted her comment, and you’re angry that we didn’t react in the way you deemed appropriate to the situation by properly chastising her for something only you seemed to have had an issue with?

wewereemergencies
wewereemergencies
10 years ago

Complete derail, but given Erin’s density I don’t think anyone will object…Katz, is your avatar a lion/porcupine hybrid? Because it’s awesome, but has been confusing me for ages.

cupisnique
cupisnique
10 years ago

Ha, cupisinique was a condescending tit and she got called out for it.

lolwut?

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

Just found one of my dream jobs.

Erin Williams
Erin Williams
10 years ago

Yes you did. Just like Cass and her horrible comment, you pieces of shit are willing to overlook the same type of horrible behavior you accuse MRAs of engaging in. In fact, nothing is dirty or underhanded as long as it’s you doing it.

dustedeste
dustedeste
10 years ago

Okay, you keep fucking asking this:

Kittehserf, how come you and your fellow attack dogs didn’t call out Cassandra for that horrible comment she made? How can you have the moral high ground when you sit by while one of youre own tells someone else they hope they don’t get raped?

There is this thing, in groups of people, where, when they’ve known a member for a bit, that person is granted the benefit of the doubt in situations where their words or actions could be interpreted in multiple ways. Cassandra, by virtue of being a commenter with a lengthy history of acting in good faith, and in good standing with the group, is granted this benefit of the doubt, which was further shown to be the correct assumption when she clarified to you that she was not being sarcastic in the comment you are referring to, and that she truly does not hope that you get raped or otherwise harmed by your assumption that all men in public can be assumed to not be dangerous whatsoever.

You, on the other hand, are an enormous raging asshole with a side order of cacarella a spruzzo, and are new to this particular social group, so you get no benefit of the doubt here, and frankly, with the way you behave, never will.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

Climbing frame for red pandas. Sign me up, please.

Erin Williams
Erin Williams
10 years ago

If you’re too lazy to go back and read comments, then mind your own business.

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

@Erin

Yes you did. Just like Cass and her horrible comment, you pieces of shit are willing to overlook the same type of horrible behavior you accuse MRAs of engaging in. In fact, nothing is dirty or underhanded as long as it’s you doing it.

Care to link to any of the comments you’re talking about.

kittehserf
10 years ago

Oh, I don’t need to make up anything, kid. You’re providing all the material necessary. All this flailing because your ego’s feeling bruised, oh noes.

Tell me, is this the only way you get any attention from women at all?

cupisnique
cupisnique
10 years ago

I’ve noticed that Erin is the only one that seems to fixate on the gender of people here and assumed we would also do the same. “condescending tit” is pretty damn offensive (and let’s be real a gendered slur), especially when I have barely said anything to you.

dustedeste
dustedeste
10 years ago

If you’re too lazy to go back and read comments, then mind your own business.

Christ on a cracker, do us all a favor and take your own damn advice on that one.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

Look, dude, no matter how much you comment stalk me I’m never going to be your BFF. Give it up.

On a cuter note

neuroticbeagle
10 years ago

I’m doing work and I have this browser open. Besides, you guys keep responding with your passive aggressive stupidity.

So why do you keep hitting the refresh button? You are not going to get the last word in, if that’s what you’re thinking.

cupisnique
cupisnique
10 years ago

If you’re too lazy to go back and read comments, then mind your own business.

Wow such reading comprehension there, buddy. I said re-read. I just spent over an hour slogging through this longwinded meltdown of yours, so I have read every single comment tyvm.

Erin Williams
Erin Williams
10 years ago

Dustedeste, spare that wall of text. That piece of shit told another human being that they hoped they didn’t get raped and no one even flinched. Then I find out that one of the old school guys on here ideated killing his girlfriend and he ‘s still here. I tell someone that the world is not populated by guys who are willing to shoot women who don’t put out and I get accused of being dismissive of rape and all kinds of other nasty shit. Fuck off, with that benefit of the doubt, bullshit. That’s clique shit and you all behave like little mean girls.

katz
10 years ago

Complete derail, but given Erin’s density I don’t think anyone will object…Katz, is your avatar a lion/porcupine hybrid? Because it’s awesome, but has been confusing me for ages.

It is Chimera of Arezzo. Art derails are best derails!

Erin Williams
Erin Williams
10 years ago

Long winded melt down? Buddy, I’m working on my computer and I am just writing here to stave off boredom.

kittehserf
10 years ago

LOL “mind your own business” on an open thread. Protip, kid, this isn’t a private conversation.

Yeah, we totally do the same kind of thing MRAs do … and trollboy thinks I’m being melodramatic in comparing them.

Let’s see – we swear at trolls. We parse their rants and see the misogyny in them. Sometimes we even give them genuine advice. When that fails, we tell ’em to go walk on legos or pat cacti.

MRAs – rape threats, death threats, fantasies about destroying all women’s autonomy, doxxing, stalking, manifestos about murdering women and blowing up courthouses, actual murder … yup, totally the same thing.

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