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Pickup artists argue that "Game" is the solution to Elliot Rodger-style rampages. Here's why they're wrong.

From Elliot Rodger's Google+ Profile
From Elliot Rodger’s Google+ Profile

Pickup artists, classy fellows that they are, are using Elliot Rodger’s killing rampage as a marketing ploy. In the comments to one of Rodger’s videos on YouTube, a company called Strategic Dating Coach offered their solution to prevent similar shootings in the future: send disturbed young men who can’t get dates to one of their coaching sessions!

THIS is why we do what we do. TO PREVENT THIS SHIT!!! Could couldn't experience it because he didn't learn to attract women. He should have gone to our website and got our personal dating coaching or purchased one of our products. IF ANYONE NEEDS HELP, CONTACT US! Don’t do anything stupid.

While this response to Rodger’s mass killing is uniquely crass, the argument that “Game saves lives” is hardly new. To PUAs like Heartiste and Roosh Valizadeh it’s practically an article of faith.

In the wake of George Sodini’s murderous shooting spree in a Pennsylvania gym in 2009, Heartiste (then known as Roissy) wrote

If Sodini had learned game he would have been able to find another woman and gotten laid after his ex dumped him. He wouldn’t have spent the next 20 years steeped in bile and weighed down by his Sisyphian blue balls, dreaming of vengeance. Game could have saved the lives of the women Sodini killed.

The fact that Sodini had in fact imbibed in the alleged wisdom of pickup artistry, going so far as attending a pricey seminar from old-school pickup guru R. Don Steele, a self-proclaimed expert on dating young women, didn’t lead any in the pickup community to reconsider this position.

Nor has it this time. It is clear that Elliot Rodger was steeped in “red pill” thinking about women. And while he wasn’t himself a PUA, he was certainly aware of the basics of “Game.” Indeed, he subscribed to a number of PUA channels on YouTube and was a regular commenter on PUAhate, a sleazy forum devoted to criticizing “game,” not because it is manipulative and misogynistic but because it doesn’t work.

On the Roosh V forum earlier today, Roosh acknowledged that Rodger knew at least a little about “red pill” ideology – noting that Rodger referred to himself as an”alpha” – but still went ahead and argued that Game was the solution to massacres like this:

He is self-delusional and massively entitled, but exposing him to game may have saved lives.

In a followup comment, Roosh expressed his concerns for the real victims of this tragedy – Pickup artists:

I’m trying to think of ways our enemies will come after us because of this, but if anything, we’re the solution to this sort of murder rampage. This is the society that progressives wanted, where women are fully able to choose the top 10% of alpha males while shaming masculinity, leaving beta males with modest resources in the dust. Of course they will simply push a ban on guns, but this wholly neglects the cause. Seven people died because this guy couldn’t get laid … .

Other commenters were quick to agree. According to someone known as Moma,

Roosh has a very valid point. This will continue to replay over and over again. As human beings, our wiring is very basic yet primal. …

When have you last heard of a porn star shooting up a place? How many have emptied their balls in a hot lizard and then felt the urge to go and smoke 50 strangers?

According to Samseau, the problem wasn’t that Rodger hadn’t heard the Game Gospel; the problem was that he had rejected his salvation:

He knew about Game. If he had an account on PUAHATE then he knew about game. He was just a denialist. There was no helping this dude.

Roosh seconded this bit of wisdom, seeing it as clear evidence that “game denialism kills.”

Michelin, for his part, hoped that PUAs would be able to use the massacre as a publicity bonanza and a great “told you so” to all the haters.

One should write a mainstream article about this case. The argument that game could have saved lives can be an eye-opener and a smash in the face to haters of game.

Tuthmosis, the man best known for a Return of Kings post on the “5 Reasons to Date a Girl With An Eating Disorder,” reported his joy that PUAhate was getting bad press:

Seeing your enemies fall is a delicious treat you only get to taste a few times in your life. I’m savoring this delicacy with a cup of freshly brewed coffee. It’s a shame real people had to lose their lives, but I can’t help but think this will discredit a horrible website, PUAHate–and a way of thinking–that could have harmed even more men and innocent people. Beta losers will never go away, but this will wake up a few men and, more importantly, scare others.

Zelcorpion blamed “girls” and MGTOWers for giving Rodgers bad dating advice:

I bet a few girls told him that he only needs to be himself, be nice, be a gentleman, have a nice car, looks etc. – only to realize that it mattered shit. Instead of learning from the PUA-community he chose to listen to PUAhaters and some of the anti-female comments of the MGTOWs who themselves are often refusing to accept Game or even basic concepts like Alpha/Beta. I think that problem will become way worse, since hypergamy and promiscuity will only increase and most men will be left in the sexual wasteland.

But it took a relative newcomer to the forum by the handle of thedavidgt to raise the obvious logical objection to the Game-for-everybody solution to incel rage:

If every sexless beta in the world took it upon himself to learn game, approach girls, lift, dress well etc, would it not simply feed women’s egos and entitlement? So instead of occasionally getting awkwardly hit on by skinny fat, poor-dressed chumps, the average 7 would then be approached several times a day by extremely high value men. We’ll have a society of men working to improve themselves for women who will get lazier and lazier while at the same time demanding more and more.

In fact, the “Game saves lives” mantra is dead wrong, but not for this reason. First of all, there is no clear evidence that “game,” per se, works, except insofar as it encourages men to pursue large numbers of women and numb them to the pain of rejection. It’s possible that a few of the conversational ploys invented by various PUAs may work better than having no conversational ploys at all. But there are no magic cheat codes to “getting with women.”

There is one more disturbing way in which “game” may increase “success” with women for unscrupulous men: many of the standard techniques of “game”– invading a woman’s personal space, touching her repeatedly, trying to “isolate” her from her friends – may serve as “tests” to find women who are less likely to resist violations of their boundaries. In this way, “game” may serve as a quite effective enabler of date rape. Indeed Roosh himself has admitted to raping a date too drunk to consent.

So how much of a solution is training a guy who is already filled with a toxic mixture of entitlement and self-loathing (yes, these strange bedfellows do often go together) in some techniques that might help him to tamp down his insecurities enough to manipulate some willing or not-so-willing women into bed?

You might have simply turned a mass killer into a serial rapist, or possibly a serial killer. Ted Bundy was quite the charmer. Somehow this didn’t make him a decent human being.

Even if “game” were the beneficient form of “self-improvement” that some of its proponents like to claim it is, teaching Rodger how to be a better dater would not make him a better person. Would having a girlfriend solve all his problems? Hardly. Relationships require patience and compromise and mutual respect, and Rodger seems to have had none of these qualities. Instead of directing his narcissistic rage at “girls” at large, he would likely have ended up abusing a string of girlfriends.

The problem wasn’t Rodger’s lack of “Game.” It was his lack of humanity.

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cupisnique
cupisnique
10 years ago

If you aren’t thinking of coming back, why haven’t you left?

kittehserf
10 years ago

Color me unsurprised that Erin’s Real Important Activism was attacking people online.

::snicker:: yeah, those unimportant lightweight online dudes he’s so dismissive of.

Erin’s doing a great job of not taking any notice of anything women say that doesn’t fit his worldview, isn’t he? He’s the dude, he has all the answers, he’s the big hero who’d totally kick those nasty men who attack women … except when the women are whores and bitches who disagree with Erin.

Why would I be unsurprised if Erin’s temper was expressed with fists as well as spittle-flecked screaming afk?

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

@Erin

I’m not really even thinking about coming back here. You guys are no different than the shit slingers on any MRA site. You are very good at generalizing and jumping to conclusions just like they are.

sixth times the charm?

@katz

I was like you. I wasn’t afraid of bras once. Then I took an underwire to the knee.

…You may be wearing it wrong.

XD hahah.

@cassandra

Also, anyone remember which troll it was before who kept calling me Cass? That’s whose sock this is.

No I odn’t will you tell us? 😀

flounce fail

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

@ Marie

I don’t think there is any way to fix it tbh. Wider wires = more support, but unfortunately also pokey bits on someone as short as me. I just have to remember never to wear it if I’m going to do anything sporty.

Erin Williams
Erin Williams
10 years ago

cupisnique, how many times does she have to be told that I wasn’t being dismissive? Fuck, it’s not my fault that she jumped to all kinds of comnclusions.

Cass, I’m not that troll.

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

@cassandra

aw. I’ve got a bar with wire. But I haven’t had a nice sports bra in a while. I only had money for one that fit.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

Wait, is this some sort of riddle? How is it possible to come back to a place you never left?

cupisnique
cupisnique
10 years ago

Hey, I’m 19 and I know how not to be a misogynist

Nah that wasn’t an excuse for his misogyny at all. Just saying I TA a lot of first year courses so I interact with a lot of young students that come in thinking they already know so much about a topic they haven’t even learned yet. And Erin’s “I’m totally an ally” schtick while being completely misogynist and getting everything wrong is reminding me of that.

Of course, it could also be just a ploy to get us to back off for fear of scaring away our “allies”, who knows.

katz
10 years ago

More Carrington artwork, if anyone’s interested. She is not the most well-known but for my money she is the best of the surrealists. Seriously, fuck Dali. Plus her life was basically Casablanca meets One Flew Over the Cuckoo’s Nest.

Erin Williams
Erin Williams
10 years ago

I’m doing work and I have this browser open. Besides, you guys keep responding with your passive aggressive stupidity.

kittehserf
10 years ago

I’m not really even thinking about coming back here. You guys are no different than the shit slingers on any MRA site. You are very good at generalizing and jumping to conclusions just like they are.

Oh yes, because we so want to take away men’s voting rights, remove their right to work, force them into marriage or any other kind of sexual slavery against their will, deny them healthcare, make sure rape isn’t a crime, or force them into concentration camps and watch them starve.

Yeah, we’re totes like MRAs.

Jackass.

I can’t remember which troll called cassandrakitty Cass. They’re all blurring.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

Are those meant to be jackals in the Wall Street painting?

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

@cupisnique

nah I didn’t think it was an excuse. I guess sometimes I feel weird when people use the age thing like they do that cuz they’re young and don’t know much andstill think they know everything. THough sometimes they do so sometimes it is true. I’m just rambling now.

Erin Williams
Erin Williams
10 years ago

Kittehserf, how come you and your fellow attack dogs didn’t call out Cassandra for that horrible comment she made? How can you have the moral high ground when you sit by while one of youre own tells someone else they hope they don’t get raped?

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

@Erin

You may be doing work in the other tab, but I”m playing video games in it, so who’s having more fun 😛

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

@Erin

How can you have the moral high ground when you sit by while one of youre own tells someone else they hope they don’t get raped?

are you trying to be this dense, or is it a natural talent.

Fifteen gazillionth time: She was being sincere about hoping you didn’t get raped. FFS>

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

I’m watching YouTube videos in my other tab…

cupisnique
cupisnique
10 years ago

@ Marie

Yeah it also bothers me when people excuse the behaviour of younger people because “oh they just don’t know any better” And it is usually young, white, heterosexual men that get this pass. There really isn’t an excuse for being shitty, because being ignorant of other perspectives is just privilege and I wish they would get called out for it more because then they’d actually be forced to examine that privilege.

dustedeste
dustedeste
10 years ago

I’ve been having trouble with underwires recently; my bras all fit right, except I think maybe my boobs are slightly higher on my chest than average, perhaps? I generally have to tailor my bras by shortening the shoulder straps (even slid down to their shortest position, they’re generally too long for me and slide off my shoulders), but then the underwires poke into my armpits. I’m not sure what to do about it at this point; bras are already hard to find and expensive in my size (36K, and I’m in Canada).

Erin Williams
Erin Williams
10 years ago

There you go again with your melodrama, Kitteh. I merely said you are just as good as they are at being complete dicks to people who don’t toe the party line and you come up with all this crap.

katz
10 years ago

Are those meant to be jackals in the Wall Street painting?

I don’t know, but they do look rather like jackals.

kittehserf
10 years ago

Oh, so we keep responding, so you have to hang around where you’re not wanted?

More abuser’s talk. “Look what you’re making me do!”

kittehserf
10 years ago

Nope, not melodrama, sonny. Pointing out what a fuckwit you are is all it takes.

Erin Williams
Erin Williams
10 years ago

Ha, cupisinique was a condescending tit and she got called out for it.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

I think the underwires poking into armpits thing may be inevitable with bigger cup sizes. I wish there was a better answer that solved the problem, but suspect that there isn’t and it’s just something we’re going to have to live with.

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