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Pickup artists argue that "Game" is the solution to Elliot Rodger-style rampages. Here's why they're wrong.

From Elliot Rodger's Google+ Profile
From Elliot Rodger’s Google+ Profile

Pickup artists, classy fellows that they are, are using Elliot Rodger’s killing rampage as a marketing ploy. In the comments to one of Rodger’s videos on YouTube, a company called Strategic Dating Coach offered their solution to prevent similar shootings in the future: send disturbed young men who can’t get dates to one of their coaching sessions!

THIS is why we do what we do. TO PREVENT THIS SHIT!!! Could couldn't experience it because he didn't learn to attract women. He should have gone to our website and got our personal dating coaching or purchased one of our products. IF ANYONE NEEDS HELP, CONTACT US! Don’t do anything stupid.

While this response to Rodger’s mass killing is uniquely crass, the argument that “Game saves lives” is hardly new. To PUAs like Heartiste and Roosh Valizadeh it’s practically an article of faith.

In the wake of George Sodini’s murderous shooting spree in a Pennsylvania gym in 2009, Heartiste (then known as Roissy) wrote

If Sodini had learned game he would have been able to find another woman and gotten laid after his ex dumped him. He wouldn’t have spent the next 20 years steeped in bile and weighed down by his Sisyphian blue balls, dreaming of vengeance. Game could have saved the lives of the women Sodini killed.

The fact that Sodini had in fact imbibed in the alleged wisdom of pickup artistry, going so far as attending a pricey seminar from old-school pickup guru R. Don Steele, a self-proclaimed expert on dating young women, didn’t lead any in the pickup community to reconsider this position.

Nor has it this time. It is clear that Elliot Rodger was steeped in “red pill” thinking about women. And while he wasn’t himself a PUA, he was certainly aware of the basics of “Game.” Indeed, he subscribed to a number of PUA channels on YouTube and was a regular commenter on PUAhate, a sleazy forum devoted to criticizing “game,” not because it is manipulative and misogynistic but because it doesn’t work.

On the Roosh V forum earlier today, Roosh acknowledged that Rodger knew at least a little about “red pill” ideology – noting that Rodger referred to himself as an”alpha” – but still went ahead and argued that Game was the solution to massacres like this:

He is self-delusional and massively entitled, but exposing him to game may have saved lives.

In a followup comment, Roosh expressed his concerns for the real victims of this tragedy – Pickup artists:

I’m trying to think of ways our enemies will come after us because of this, but if anything, we’re the solution to this sort of murder rampage. This is the society that progressives wanted, where women are fully able to choose the top 10% of alpha males while shaming masculinity, leaving beta males with modest resources in the dust. Of course they will simply push a ban on guns, but this wholly neglects the cause. Seven people died because this guy couldn’t get laid … .

Other commenters were quick to agree. According to someone known as Moma,

Roosh has a very valid point. This will continue to replay over and over again. As human beings, our wiring is very basic yet primal. …

When have you last heard of a porn star shooting up a place? How many have emptied their balls in a hot lizard and then felt the urge to go and smoke 50 strangers?

According to Samseau, the problem wasn’t that Rodger hadn’t heard the Game Gospel; the problem was that he had rejected his salvation:

He knew about Game. If he had an account on PUAHATE then he knew about game. He was just a denialist. There was no helping this dude.

Roosh seconded this bit of wisdom, seeing it as clear evidence that “game denialism kills.”

Michelin, for his part, hoped that PUAs would be able to use the massacre as a publicity bonanza and a great “told you so” to all the haters.

One should write a mainstream article about this case. The argument that game could have saved lives can be an eye-opener and a smash in the face to haters of game.

Tuthmosis, the man best known for a Return of Kings post on the “5 Reasons to Date a Girl With An Eating Disorder,” reported his joy that PUAhate was getting bad press:

Seeing your enemies fall is a delicious treat you only get to taste a few times in your life. I’m savoring this delicacy with a cup of freshly brewed coffee. It’s a shame real people had to lose their lives, but I can’t help but think this will discredit a horrible website, PUAHate–and a way of thinking–that could have harmed even more men and innocent people. Beta losers will never go away, but this will wake up a few men and, more importantly, scare others.

Zelcorpion blamed “girls” and MGTOWers for giving Rodgers bad dating advice:

I bet a few girls told him that he only needs to be himself, be nice, be a gentleman, have a nice car, looks etc. – only to realize that it mattered shit. Instead of learning from the PUA-community he chose to listen to PUAhaters and some of the anti-female comments of the MGTOWs who themselves are often refusing to accept Game or even basic concepts like Alpha/Beta. I think that problem will become way worse, since hypergamy and promiscuity will only increase and most men will be left in the sexual wasteland.

But it took a relative newcomer to the forum by the handle of thedavidgt to raise the obvious logical objection to the Game-for-everybody solution to incel rage:

If every sexless beta in the world took it upon himself to learn game, approach girls, lift, dress well etc, would it not simply feed women’s egos and entitlement? So instead of occasionally getting awkwardly hit on by skinny fat, poor-dressed chumps, the average 7 would then be approached several times a day by extremely high value men. We’ll have a society of men working to improve themselves for women who will get lazier and lazier while at the same time demanding more and more.

In fact, the “Game saves lives” mantra is dead wrong, but not for this reason. First of all, there is no clear evidence that “game,” per se, works, except insofar as it encourages men to pursue large numbers of women and numb them to the pain of rejection. It’s possible that a few of the conversational ploys invented by various PUAs may work better than having no conversational ploys at all. But there are no magic cheat codes to “getting with women.”

There is one more disturbing way in which “game” may increase “success” with women for unscrupulous men: many of the standard techniques of “game”– invading a woman’s personal space, touching her repeatedly, trying to “isolate” her from her friends – may serve as “tests” to find women who are less likely to resist violations of their boundaries. In this way, “game” may serve as a quite effective enabler of date rape. Indeed Roosh himself has admitted to raping a date too drunk to consent.

So how much of a solution is training a guy who is already filled with a toxic mixture of entitlement and self-loathing (yes, these strange bedfellows do often go together) in some techniques that might help him to tamp down his insecurities enough to manipulate some willing or not-so-willing women into bed?

You might have simply turned a mass killer into a serial rapist, or possibly a serial killer. Ted Bundy was quite the charmer. Somehow this didn’t make him a decent human being.

Even if “game” were the beneficient form of “self-improvement” that some of its proponents like to claim it is, teaching Rodger how to be a better dater would not make him a better person. Would having a girlfriend solve all his problems? Hardly. Relationships require patience and compromise and mutual respect, and Rodger seems to have had none of these qualities. Instead of directing his narcissistic rage at “girls” at large, he would likely have ended up abusing a string of girlfriends.

The problem wasn’t Rodger’s lack of “Game.” It was his lack of humanity.

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neuroticbeagle
10 years ago

@Cassandra

Dudebros trolls would tell you ‘no’ except that is also not a concept they understand. ;(

Erin Williams
Erin Williams
10 years ago

You ever heard of Tucker Max? Tucker Max was this guy who made up a persona that was three times as bad as Roosh’s. He went on a radio show where they dissected his stories, they found out he was full of shit and Tucker max has zero credibility now.

Look, I know I hate that he thinks it’s cool to have sex with drunk girls who don’t give their consent, but by making a big deal out of his fake stories you’re just helping him increase his cred with the dorks who adore him. Roosh has a history of making wild claims only to profit from the attention.

contrapangloss
contrapangloss
10 years ago

Erin. As sparky said, Hyenas are not hermaphrodites. There are no known mammalian hermaphrodites.

No.

No, no, no.

No, no.

No.

Although, I’ll admit I’ve always liked hyenas. Anyone else here read Emperor Mage by Tamora Pierce? Them hyenas are the bestest.

Although, I wouldn’t mind having a pet dinosaur skeleton, either.

weirwoodtreehugger
10 years ago

If a Erin wants to compare us to misanry fauna, he should try ants. Queens mate with several males and jack their soerm, keeping it in their abdomens for several use for future pregnancies. The winged ant males live only to mate and are torn apart while doing so. The other males are workers and live for their queen.

Also, ants are total communists.

kittehserf
10 years ago

@neuroticbeagle, that’s a great quote.

neuroticbeagle
10 years ago

*except that no…

neuroticbeagle
10 years ago

Thank you kittehs. I also found this which amused me and seems apropos to this thread:

http://media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/736x/d2/57/e5/d257e53ba554b672fdb5dfdaf4fa411d.jpg

weirwoodtreehugger
10 years ago

Stupid phone commenting. I meant female ants keep sperm for several years for future use.

kittehserf
10 years ago

Roosh has a history of making wild claims only to profit from the attention.

Then why aren’t you on RoK pointing that out, instead of adding to the misogyny stew by screaming abuse at women here?

Why assume that he’s not a rapist when the whole PUA schtick is about how to rape and get away with it?

kittehserf
10 years ago

neuroticbeagle, that is PERFECT!

XD

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

Yeah, that switching back to totes reasonable persona after being in screeching ragemonkey mode on a dime, like nothing happened thing? Dude, we have seen your real face, and you can’t make us unsee it. Also, again, red flag.

contrapangloss
contrapangloss
10 years ago

Oh , yeah. I forgot to add:

Erin. Go away. Please. You want to discredit Roosh? Go do it. Prove that he isn’t what he says he is, if you can.

Quit telling us to ignore the sign that says ‘rockslide area’ because everyone knows that DOT sign people are just lying idiots.

Until proven otherwise, I’m assuming that anyone who proudly displays themselves as a misogynist scum-bag is likely to be a misogynist scum-bag.

Please, go away.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

I still think this isn’t Erin’s first time at the rodeo, btw. If it is, though, as I keep saying, going from zero to bitches and whores that quickly? Here, have the whole bucket of red flags, they’re all yours. We’ve run out.

contrapangloss
contrapangloss
10 years ago

Oh, the worker ants are generally all female. Excess boy ants are destroyed. Larvae are selectively fed to produce mostly female workers.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

What about bees? There’s a queen, and female workers who’re taking men’s jobs.

Erin Williams
Erin Williams
10 years ago

But if someone’s made up story about raping a drunk girl gets upvotes and kudos from people, what does that say about those people? Why aren’t you trying to correct those people, instead of here trying to shame posters who think that sort of thing is disgusting?”

I do try to correct those people, but it gets me nowhere. That’s why I would rather tear him down for his lies than try to engage his fanboys. You know the guy who wrote that article about dating women with eating disorders? I helped bring that fucker down. Now people know who he is and he hasn’t written an article in ages.

dustedeste
dustedeste
10 years ago

Holy shit, finally caught up! I conferred with my husband (who is fluent in Italian and English, can do business in Spanish, and is reasonably conversant in French; I’m only fluent in English, with a very small smattering of Italian, Japanese, and Spanish), and I’d like to address this old gem from a few pages ago – namely the second and third words therein:

Allez, Andiamo, Vai, Gitmek, yty.

We’re don’t recall any of those being used in Spanish (though we will take advisement from people who aren’t Erin on the matter), but vai and andiamo are both words in Italian. HOWEVER, andiamo, at least, basically means “let us go,” and is not something one would use to refer to oneself in the singular.

At any rate, I’d like to say to Erin: Vai via, putanella <3

Erin Williams
Erin Williams
10 years ago

I was banned from ROK like two minutes into my first foray in there.

I wasn’t trying to tell people to ignore him, god damn it, I was trying to ease Stevies mind. Fuck, why do you keep coming back to that shit after I’ve explained it a dozen times?

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

You know the guy who wrote that article about dating women with eating disorders? I helped bring that fucker down. Now people know who he is and he hasn’t written an article in ages.

I, for one, am glad Erin has finally provided his feminist deed, so I can continue my sculpture.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

Wait, I thought you were going to draw the attack chickens? Or are they part of the sculpture?

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

@Erin

I wasn’t trying to tell people to ignore him, god damn it, I was trying to ease Stevies mind. Fuck, why do you keep coming back to that shit after I’ve explained it a dozen times?

We here your explanation. It doesn’t change what you actually did (excusing misogyny, acting condescending, calling everyone gendered slurs). You’re intro reeked of ‘not all men’. nad it just makes it worse you were a man who said it.

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

@cassandra

they’re part of the sculpture, obviously. It’s very complicated/

Erin Williams
Erin Williams
10 years ago

I used vai in it’s portuguese form. I also didn’t lie about my background. I am an auto didact as well. Taught myself four languages at ten years old merely by watching tv and learning how to conjugate the verbs.

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

Or maybe they are stone chicken guardians.

Guarding the statue. Watching. Forever awake, to continue into death what Erin did in life.

And when two women are talking about a bad experince with a man.

The rooster opens it’s eyes, cocka dooodle doos, and call the others to life.

They begin their clucking.

“NOT ALL MEN”

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

BTW, I really do want an answer to the bra question. Can we maybe try that and see if it makes Mr Red Flag go away? It seems like there’s no banhammer pending, so that’s the only way I can think of to get rid of him.

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